New faces, come say hello....

[Vanir]

So, erm... I'm kinda new to this...

Ok, so prepare for a load of cheesiness, some cliches and the odd "awww"...

I am a 27 y/o man and... Ok, I've just written and redrafted what I'm about to say ~20 times in my head in the space of ~30 seconds. *deep breath*

My girlfriend and I are very independent but very close. Over the last year she has made some more liberally minded friends (one of which finds it hilarious that he's "taken it in the ass more times than [his] girlfriend") and I have really noticed a kind of sexual awakening in her: An acceptance of her kink. A kink I want to satisfy - not out of fear of not fulfilling it - but because I want to complete her (I did warn you about the cheesy shit so you can wipe that look off your face ).

*Cliche incoming* I just read the Sunstone comic series. I really connected with it. The internal monologues and thought processes fascinate me. Maybe explains why I chose Psychology as my degree. I love teasing - playing little games - keeping her guessing - watching her get playfully frustrated. I think this is the seed of BDSM. I have to ask her... How do I ask her?

We have dabbled with restriction (handcuffs and silk wraps) some drunken breath play (which in hindsight was fucking stupidly dangerous) and "do what you want with me" is a common quote from her. This is all amazing, and we both thoroughly enjoyed them, but these experiences are still routed in reality. What fascinates me is what Satanists would refer to as the intellectual decompression chamber - A complete suspension of our intellectual, logical, conscious selves and the uninhibited expression of another part of ourselves. I think I'm worried that I won't be able to let go, or that she won't want to let go...

I have butterflies in my stomach. I have not felt like this for a long time. I just needed to tell someone. Thanks for reading my attempt at organising my stream of consciousness into some sort of structure... Please help? (Pleading for help... very un-dom of me, I know...).

Ok, so after re-reading this the obvious answer is to talk to her about it. I guess what I'm asking for is an insight. If you are a dom how did you suggest this? If you are a sub how would you have wanted this suggested to you? In the meantime I will continue reading, studying... plotting.

 

[Vanir]

Ok So I Asked Her And She Said Yes What The Fuck Do I Do Now!?

 

[Owlcity3]

New faces

Hi, I'm new here.
Here to hear stories and to seek help among the many different point of views. It slowly walked across my mind that I'm into BDSM and I'm just wanting to see if that's true or not. So this is a form of research. In past relationships When I look back on it now.. There were flags but at the time I didn't know what it was. Again I'm new here. Be gentle with me

 

[SassyKatz71]

Ok So I Asked Her And She Said Yes What The Fuck Do I Do Now!?

Learn... Research everything about it. The correct way to conduct yourself. With so many levels you will find the ones right for you both. Take your time and don't rush into it to fast. When your ready,explore the chosen area. Stay away from the dangerous stuff

 

[Owlcity3]

I wouldn't say that I'm a noob. But I'm def new to the topic when discussing with other people about it. I'm married. And I've been i.e. Pilsner say unhappy but not whole. For a while even before my marriage. After reading a few books a couple years ago I've grown attached. I thought it was just a good read but recently I've been thinking. This feels like me, this is how I am.. I've been thinking I might be a Dom. I've always been unyielding. I try to bend for the other persons needs. But I've always been. Idk I feel like I want more. I'm not asking for hook ups. I'm asking for help. To see if I really am. How would I know.

 

[MisterCro]

Greetings,

I'm 27 years old and off and on since I was 16, I've been an online dom. I started out pretty intense, managing to scare a 37yr old woman(I still get a laugh out of that, I mean, it was via text and on gaia online of all places.) but I've learned over time and I have a good grasp of the type of dom I am.

But it's via a very recent(past week in fact) online experience(after a very long 'off' period) that has me wanting to take the online to real life and that I want to delve into things I never considered because of a presumption(I know. shame on me!). I know the entire dynamic changes when online vs real life and that make's me pretty much new again in the scheme of things(not to mention giving me a case of 'first time' excitement) and that's why I am here today.

I look forward to learning from veterans and new people alike,

Glad I found this place and thank you.

 

[Subcat]

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[neshaM]

Hello

I am new here, i was lurking a little bit before signing in. I am a lot into ropes, blindfold, spanking. I am also very dominant, and i had a couple of relationsihps with submissive girls, but never found "the one" who would be able to keep up. I will enjoy talking with you very mutch.

 

[sexuallydeprive]

Hello!

I'm new here 23 f I'm just checking everything out. I'm very curious and I am interesting in trying anything once. I just want to check out what everyone posts. I have no idea what BDSM is all about so here I am!

 

[rafea118]

Hey, I'm Rafe, twenty two year old transguy.
I just started reading the stories on Literotica and found the forums interesting. I'm having a sexual awakening of sorts since I've begun my transition. A pleasure meeting you guys.

xx

 

[hotangel3x]

Hi I'm Ashley. I'm 19 years old. I love reading stories on lit.I'm from London.

 

[Wash12]

I'm a 19 year old transmale. I've read stories on lit for the past few years now and finally decided to make an account on here. That's when I stumbled upon the forums and I've met some awesome people so far. If we ever talk just know I'm a little shy and awkward so sorry if it's a slow start. I prefer for someone else to take control that way we get to avoid my clumsy self haha. I love meeting new people so don't be afraid to send me a pm

 

[Latex_Pet]

'ello there, govna'! Top o' the mornin' to ya'!

Ahem. Right, not my accent. 18 year old male here, looking to become a lifelong latex pet! Fetishes include but are not limited to: bondage, spanking, rimming, pegging, chastity, breathplay, hanging, latex, rubber, leather, pvc, plastic, bagging, deepthroating, multiple penetration, sounding, C&BT, cosplay, transformation (mental if we're speaking IRL), public use, gang banging, cum-bathing if at all possible, pseudo-rape (drugged but with consent beforehand, unfamiliar situation afterward), temperature play, encasement, pet play, large insertions, felching, snowballing, hair pulling, general S&M, humiliation, public bondage, objectification, voyeurism, positional asphyxia, nasal penetration, aural (ears!) penetration, orgasm denial, orgasm control, forced orgasms, endless orgasms, anal orgasms, dirty talk, nipple clamps, aaaaand food play!

If there's something not on here, it's because I simply haven't thought of it! I probably enjoy it nonetheless.

My only no-go's are anything leaving permanent injury (cutting, maiming, excessive harm, etc.), or toilet play (scat, urine, snot (I know that isn't toilet but still, gross man), etc.).

Phew! In any case, hello!

 

[neumaleman]

New and want to share

I have been into some of the more deviant behaviors for what now seems forever. My interests were first piqued back when you had to visit that rare bookstore that carried an "X-rated" section. They usually featured a lot of glossy mags and rag newspapers that had some advertising for Pro Doms. My first fetish interest was bare bottom spanking. Having never experienced such a thing, I was enthralled at the prospect of lying naked, or pants dropped to my ankles, and having an older, demanding woman force me to submit. I never got to that "older woman dom", but over the years have found many women more than willing to apply a wooden spoon, paddle, or cane to my naked behind. It seems that the depravity of S/m and BDSM was slowly penetrating my soul. I wanted to try nipple clamps, found the joy of wearing a butt plug, having my balls pulled tight by a weighted parachute. And I think the most enjoyable part, the one thing that made any of these actions bearable, was (and still is) being able to cover my face with the scent of the offending lady's lower and oh so private body parts. Face sitting and servicing a woman front and rear for however long she required was always my end game. Trust me, I enjoyed all the pain inflicted in the interim, but my ultimate reward was always the taste of her most private parts. I am truly submissive; I have never had a desire to spank a woman's butt, or force her to perform oral on me, or any of the other things some men crave. To each his (or her) own in that respect. So this is my intro and I look forward to posting some of my true experiences and perhaps some that are still unrealized fantasies. Enjoy!

 

[Miss_Lucie]

Hey,

So I'm a 27 year old BBW, residing in not so sunny Wales at the moment. I'm very much in to BDSM. I enjoy the fine line between pain and pleasure, "passing over control", breath play, spanking...etc. Oh I'm a sub by the way (forgot to mention that before!)

I lived in Australia for a while, where I did the cam girl thing...it was fun, but since moving back to the UK it's been pretty hard to do that. So, maybe add voyeurism and exhibitionism to my list! Anyway, looking to chat, make new friends, find new kinks...I try to message back to people, but between working and uni and just life, I don't always reply straight away.

Wishing you all a fantastic 2016

 

[TheStarlet]

Hello! I'm Estelle. I'm a working writer of non-erotic things with an interest in very erotic things. I have recently found myself to be deeply submissive, much to my surprise. Kinks, turn-ons, hidden depths are all very intriguing to me. I find the stories here on Lit to be fascinating, but it's really the forums that I love most. So lurid and delicious.

 

[jonnysimple]

Well hello there (yup... that sounded creepy)

I just realized that I've never posted an intro here, so now's better than never.

My name is Jonny Simple (yeah right), and I'm a nice guy, tall, slim, good looking, younger than my age... sorry... this isn't a dating site for Pete's sake! Who is Pete anyhow?

My life has been spent enjoying various forms of kink and fetish, from bondage to pvc fashion, to breath-play, etc. I'm a pianist, composer, photographer, love to cook, and software developer. No, I don't like to cook software developers. I enjoy having sexual experiences with girls/women, from roll play, to simple bondage, to more advanced scenarios that span multiple days. I have written about my experiences on this site, as well as my Tumblr account: http://jonnysimple.tumblr.com

I find this site quite stimulating (ahem) because its members are more intellectually inclined than other "kink" sites. I have made several friends who are now quite close to me from this site.

 

[Conkatarn]

Hi! I'm new to the sight, and was looking for some advice. I'm getting ready to enter my first bdsm relationship, as a dom. I was curious to see if any other more experienced dominants had any advice to lend an up and comer.

 

[celticsboy623]

Hi im a newcomer to the bdsm life style and specifically this forum (tbh first forum at all in my life) i posted in the how to section about me being new with my gf and stuff so if anyone is willing to help me out and answer that'd be great!

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[scorpio1121]

I have been a member of Lit since 2007 but was just a reader of the stories. I have just recently moved over to the "interactive" side of the site. I have had some mis steps but am learning. A word of advise to first timers. Stay in the shadows and get to know what rooms you want to interact in. Then add your two cents once in a while and develop your relationships. I didnt do it quite like that and it cost a little.

About me.. Im 45 and am happy and healthy. I was married some years ago but that ended when I found out that she didnt exactly believe in monogamy and Im not a sharer. I am however getting married to a wonderful woman that puts up with me and I love her and her girls completely. I refer to her as my wife because after 8 years, raising her kids and starting a business together, I think we have that settled.

I am not looking for Lit to be a hook-up for me. I enjoy the "adult" side of it and always will. I like the sexual side of life and love to flirt and tell stories about what dirty little things come into my head. I would never step out on my wife, I have no reason to. I will talk, flirt, exchange stories and pictures/videos but will never meet someone no matter how tempting, and some are tempting. Im not into very much kink. So im not going to be your daddy, tie you up, spank you or anything like that, so dont ask please.

I hope to make some friends and find a few playmates to make some of those dull days go by faster. If someone wants to send me a note and ask something about me I have no problem at all with that. Im a deeply honest person and have no time for fake or misrepresentation.

Well I hope that is a decent introduction,

Michael

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Blue]

I like that about the Internet, but its EXCELLENT advice to suggest reading and taking measure of what suits you first. How you play it then is up to you. Many just fit right in, others jump in but stick to being them selves and stand out a bit ( I don't mind sticking out a bit and not being most acceptable or coolest but I do like to be ...comfortable with how I post, which can be annoying)

I'm definitely the jump in type.
I read 3 stories on this site, made an account immediately and here I am.
I imagine I'll stick out by just being bad at maintaining a topic.

Future me is looking at this right now and is having flashbacks of all the stupid things they said which got them socially extradited.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

If you are not into kink, Scorpio, I'm wondering why you are introducing yourself here in the BDSM thread?

Not that you aren't welcome I'm just curious if you realize that you basically just walked into a candy shop and said... I don't really like candy

 

[scorpio1121]

If you are not into kink, Scorpio, I'm wondering why you are introducing yourself here in the BDSM thread?

Not that you aren't welcome I'm just curious if you realize that you basically just walked into a candy shop and said... I don't really like candy

Until you posted that i didnt realize where I ended up. I saw it as a new post and didnt realize the forum that it was. Now I understand why so many people posted about BDSM and Dom/Sum relations. I was getting used to running into a lot of people that were into or interested in that life style so I didnt think much of it past "there are more than I thought"... Well, Guess i stumbled into the wrong bar, and I will stumble out.. Cheers and the next round is on me!