New faces, come say hello....

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Hello, my name is Samantha, I'm 36 years old, Single and live in Florida.

I'm pretty to everything. I first discovered I was a sub a few years ago, but it was quite scary for me because I was new to the entire idea. I've spoken to a few Doms in the past, I've clicked with some of them, while others just gave me a red flag, where I didn't feel comfortable or safe with them. The one thing I've been learning about myself and this sort of lifestyle is being open with your needs, open communication, honesty ((what I value the most)) and what your looking for. I respect people who are honest and talk to me about what their looking for.

Trust is very important. I usually will follow their lead once I'm totally comfortable and trust that person. Unfortunately, I met a lot of Fake Dom's on here who are only looking for a one night type of thing, someone they can cyber with or roleplay with. I much rather experience the real thing, over cybering or roleplaying. Than I came across Dom's who are not even interested in who I am at all, right away they demand I'm their sub, within a matter of minutes. I've gotten disappointed in the past, I still have not given up hope though.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Hello, my name is Samantha, I'm 36 years old, Single and live in Florida.

I'm pretty to everything. I first discovered I was a sub a few years ago, but it was quite scary for me because I was new to the entire idea. I've spoken to a few Doms in the past, I've clicked with some of them, while others just gave me a red flag, where I didn't feel comfortable or safe with them. The one thing I've been learning about myself and this sort of lifestyle is being open with your needs, open communication, honesty ((what I value the most)) and what your looking for. I respect people who are honest and talk to me about what their looking for.

Trust is very important. I usually will follow their lead once I'm totally comfortable and trust that person. Unfortunately, I met a lot of Fake Dom's on here who are only looking for a one night type of thing, someone they can cyber with or roleplay with. I much rather experience the real thing, over cybering or roleplaying. Than I came across Dom's who are not even interested in who I am at all, right away they demand I'm their sub, within a matter of minutes. I've gotten disappointed in the past, I still have not given up hope though.

In a “real” BDSM relationship the top understands that this arrangement is an exchange in trust. And no one one gives up their trust easily, that is understanble.

I am sure you’ll find the right partner. Perhaps you are looking too hard? A regular relationship that allows for weekend play can be very satisfying.

 

[Threadbare42]

Hello, my name is Samantha, I'm 36 years old, Single and live in Florida.

I'm pretty to everything. I first discovered I was a sub a few years ago, but it was quite scary for me because I was new to the entire idea. I've spoken to a few Doms in the past, I've clicked with some of them, while others just gave me a red flag, where I didn't feel comfortable or safe with them. The one thing I've been learning about myself and this sort of lifestyle is being open with your needs, open communication, honesty ((what I value the most)) and what your looking for. I respect people who are honest and talk to me about what their looking for.

Trust is very important. I usually will follow their lead once I'm totally comfortable and trust that person. Unfortunately, I met a lot of Fake Dom's on here who are only looking for a one night type of thing, someone they can cyber with or roleplay with. I much rather experience the real thing, over cybering or roleplaying. Than I came across Dom's who are not even interested in who I am at all, right away they demand I'm their sub, within a matter of minutes. I've gotten disappointed in the past, I still have not given up hope though.

Trust is everything. By the sounds of it you have a sensible head on and the right attitude, good luck!

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

Thank you both! Yes, trust is very important. I can't trust someone right away, it takes me awhile to trust someone. Especially if I'm going to be their sub, they need to understand that I can't just do things with a snap of a finger. Anytime I get a red flag, I usually end up avoiding that person and moving on.

 

[fl_openminded]

Sub but not a slave

Male from Boca, Florida: After a lot of self diagnosing and little help from friend I realized I am the sub in both personal & sexual relationships. Each day life teaches us something and I am still learning what I like and do not like. Saying hi and hoping to talk learn more about the lifestyle from either doms or other subs. I accept all messages as long as you are not rude

 

[Vitriolhack]

Male from Boca, Florida: After a lot of self diagnosing and little help from friend I realized I am the sub in both personal & sexual relationships. Each day life teaches us something and I am still learning what I like and do not like. Saying hi and hoping to talk learn more about the lifestyle from either doms or other subs. I accept all messages as long as you are not rude

Welcome, accepting oneself for who they are is part of the growing up we all need to do at some point In our life.

Enjoy it, and do tell us about it.

 

[VivianVixen]

I'm new to these posts having only recently found this site. The lurking is great but I'd like to know more about D/ s as I'm feel quite drawn into it, especially after doing more reading. The pictures have also broadened my horizons of what gets me and what's possible. I'm open to chat but I may be slow in responding.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I'm new to these posts having only recently found this site. The lurking is great but I'd like to know more about D/ s as I'm feel quite drawn into it, especially after doing more reading. The pictures have also broadened my horizons of what gets me and what's possible. I'm open to chat but I may be slow in responding.

Welcome to Lit. I, for one am glad you are here.

 

[dacoach44]

Welcome you..........

I'm new to these posts having only recently found this site. The lurking is great but I'd like to know more about D/ s as I'm feel quite drawn into it, especially after doing more reading. The pictures have also broadened my horizons of what gets me and what's possible. I'm open to chat but I may be slow in responding.

Anyone can get off here, and usually damn quick.




https://i.imgur.com/eNzV4mQ.jpg

 

[dady00000077777777]

Married, happily....But as cliche as it sounds....I dream of having my own sexy, Christian Grey....*sigh*......

aha .. i sure can help u in that

 

[AndrewHorn]

Hi

Hi, i am a guy who wants to write some stories about his sexual fantasies, i had the idea discussing some fantasies with my girlfriend and now i want to articulate them and put them into words, i am what some may define Bi-Courious and i have domination, humiliation and foot fetishes. I hope i will be able to make great stories for everybody.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I'm new to these posts having only recently found this site. The lurking is great but I'd like to know more about D/ s as I'm feel quite drawn into it, especially after doing more reading. The pictures have also broadened my horizons of what gets me and what's possible. I'm open to chat but I may be slow in responding.

Welcome to the site. You will find a lot like minded literary types here.

 

[Tara_Brown]

Hey There, I'm New

Hey there, I have been reading stories for sometime and just joined. I am very interested in being submissive, but have no clue where to start. Must admit, I am a bit scared. Sacred, well of the whole thing. But I have a deep yearning desire to try it. I am 44 yrs. old. I have been married for 17 years and my husband just isn't into it. I think I want to be submissive because I dominate all aspects of my life, and family and it is exhausting. Anyway, would like to know safe places where I can explore.

Thanks

 

[DVS]

Hey there, I have been reading stories for sometime and just joined. I am very interested in being submissive, but have no clue where to start. Must admit, I am a bit scared. Sacred, well of the whole thing. But I have a deep yearning desire to try it. I am 44 yrs. old. I have been married for 17 years and my husband just isn't into it. I think I want to be submissive because I dominate all aspects of my life, and family and it is exhausting. Anyway, would like to know safe places where I can explore.

Thanks

Since this is just a thread to introduce yourself, I won't go into much detail. You should start a thread in the BDSM Talk forum about this subject. We have a library that has links to threads where people ask the same question that you can read, and there is always the munch group thing to look into. It's a dinner or lunch that kink groups in your area have to welcome new or prospective members.

it's kind of a meet and greet deal. It's held at a local restaurant and there is no talk of sex or anything. You meet people and get to know them and they get to know you. Usually, there is a member that takes charge of introducing you to people, so you aren't just a wall flower. Anyway, start a thread and get ideas from members. You can Google "munch groups near *****" where the ***** is where you place your city. If you live in a large city, there should be several BDSM groups to choose from.

Also, beware of lurkers who will PM you saying they can help you with your journey. You will probably get several PMs like that. You might stop some of that, if you mention in the thread that you want all conversations to be in the thread and not PMs. Sadly, it won't stop all of them, because there are just idiots out there who feel they are the best you can get. Usually, those types are the worst to get hooked up with.

Welcome to Lit. I hope your journey is enjoyable as well as exciting. Play safe and don't take risks with strangers.

 

[Vitriolhack]

@Tara, as usual you should meet electronic friends with the same guard you would regular people on the street.

You may find people in your area that do share the same interest.

I am concerned however, that your sub desires are being used to hide marital issues. Those won’t go away even if you do find partners that are willing to Dom you in a manner satisfying to the both of you.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

Check out the chat. You may like it also.

 

[Tara_Brown]

Thanks

Thank you both for the insight and information. Much appreciated.

 

[Time2write]

Newbie, just retired learning this site!

Just fiddling around with learning site!

 

[TheBrat42]

Hell all. So this may be a new account but I have been for years. I didn’t want my old posts and life to follow me into my new life. I am, as my user name suggests, a sub and more of a brat. I am hoping to use this to communicate on the boards and learn more about my tendencies. My boyfriend introduced me to the more of the BDSM lifestyle and I have taken to it well. But, I like to learn and I am still finding what I like. I look forward to learning and speaking with everyone!

 

[Knoturnal]

@Tara, as usual you should meet electronic friends with the same guard you would regular people on the street.

You may find people in your area that do share the same interest.

I am concerned however, that your sub desires are being used to hide marital issues. Those won’t go away even if you do find partners that are willing to Dom you in a manner satisfying to the both of you.

Hope you find what you are looking for.

Check out the chat. You may like it also.

I find this thread and post hits home somewhat. Men are always pointed at and said to be Fake Doms but I wonder sometimes with women being unsatisfied watching 50 shades and reading stories or something simular but not willing to venture out away from their homes because of their husband or children and the money things that tye us all together, Which is understandable......why would they think being a sub is going to change all of that? Those problems will still exist as long as we let them and I know how hard it is to change those things.
You find that a lot with women who love the more rough sex and experimenting but are not into and even resent any serviceable traits that some submissives’s have toward men in general and they look on them as just being someone to service them.

Sorry to those that might not understand but I feel it needs to be said.

 

[UKguySW]

Englishman in NC

Hi all - Englishman now living in North Carolina, not posted in a LONG time so thought I would come back

 

[dacoach44]

Hi Lam.......

Hello everyone! I've been a writer on Lit for a little while now, but I'm brand-new to the forum side of things. Shyness prevents me from posting on too many threads to start, but that may change as I grow more comfortable.
I'm 27, male, sub-leaning switch living in the USA. My interests both in and out of BDSM tend toward the unconventional, I've found, but don't let that stop you from saying hello!

sub leaning bi switch? U will fit in fine here.......subscribe to a few threads, and ask for daily emails when a thread gets an add. There arent many conventions here; and most of us have manners.

 

[dacoach44]

Well Lam.......

Thank you! I've already been starting to feel more comfortable with posting Although, I would like to clarify I am not bi, just in case anyone might end up thinking otherwise.

We dont care, LMAO.

 

[OutlandishOtter]

Hello everyone! I just posted my first story on Literotica and figured I would give the forums a try as well. I've been in a BDSM based relationship as a sub for five to six months, write BDSM based erotica, and I'm happy to be here!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Hello everyone! I just posted my first story on Literotica and figured I would give the forums a try as well. I've been in a BDSM based relationship as a sub for five to six months, write BDSM based erotica, and I'm happy to be here!

Welcome to the site.

You may want to add I your signature a link to your stories it will make them easier to find for your readers.

I’ll read it.

Enjoy the site.

V.

 

[tallandtrainable]

Somewhat new here

Hi all,

I'm an older guy who is discovering his submissive side very late. Just looking to make friends, learn and possibly make a deeper connection at some point.