New faces, come say hello....

[jsez]

Welcome to lit chat. I hope you find what you are looking for. Let us know if your publications.

V.

Thank you! Oops- I thought I had a signature in there with a link to my first posting

Hopefully it's fixed now, and you can find some goodies here below

 

[Sundevil10]

Hello from the land of sunshine!

Hi All!
I’m Jazzy! Finally joined this site, though I’ve enjoyed it for quite some time. I live in the US, have experienced BDSM and enjoy the role of sub in the bedroom very much. Reading stories is what opened my eyes to what I really wanted...I had no idea!
Thanks for sharing and writing, your thoughts arouse the mind (and body) and open doors that some never knew existed. I’m forever grateful.

 

[Catshadow]

Hi I'm new/old I haven't been on in quite some time. So long in fact I had to create a new profile. I use to go by Katseye but I'm lost my password and email for that profile.

I am in a committed BDSM relationship. I am a submissive with a wonderful dom/husband who encouraged me to find someone to talk to. We do not have a strong community in our area, so we are making our own way. So I may ask what seem like very basic questions. My husband and I have been only in the lifestyle for about a year now.

I've always enjoyed the power play aspect, but have to say it was the S/M that saved my marriage.

 

[thesaint79]

Hello, 40 M here, I am new to the group. Love being dominant, and also do dominant roleplay here or in real life. Trying to navigate the waters here... though I must say, have conversed with some great folks.

 

[pervylite]

New here!

Hey I'm a 35y/o women, Really new to these ideas. I'm shy and nervous and I'm married and my hubby is very conservative sort and not really into these things. I'd really like to make some friends here and let go of my inhibitions. Thank you.

 

[thesaint79]

Welcome

Hey I'm a 35y/o women, Really new to these ideas. I'm shy and nervous and I'm married and my hubby is very conservative sort and not really into these things. I'd really like to make some friends here and let go of my inhibitions. Thank you.

Welcom Pervylite

 

[Kay_Evans100]

New to BDSM

Hi,

I am a 44 year old, single mum and now lesbian

my girlfriend over the last couple of years has got me into a bit of BDSM which I do enjoy. I have incorporated some of the experiences I have had with her into my stories on here. I have also included some of the pictures she has taken of me.

I hope that is enough of an introduction as a new face

 

[Vitriolhack]

Hi,

I am a 44 year old, single mum and now lesbian

my girlfriend over the last couple of years has got me into a bit of BDSM which I do enjoy. I have incorporated some of the experiences I have had with her into my stories on here. I have also included some of the pictures she has taken of me.

I hope that is enough of an introduction as a new face

Clearly, you are not a beginner at this.

Play safe.

 

[Crownvic]

Hey I'm a 35y/o women, Really new to these ideas. I'm shy and nervous and I'm married and my hubby is very conservative sort and not really into these things. I'd really like to make some friends here and let go of my inhibitions. Thank you.

Like to be your friend..

 

[Goldenfool87]

Hello everyone, I am a 33 year old guy. I found literotica looking for good erotic stories, and like so many I soon found this forum. I have been entertaining submissive thoughts for a while, fueled by a few very good stories I have read on here and some of the pictures and gifs that are shared on the forum. I decided to make an account to interact a little more with the people on here. Hope to see you guys around!

love,

The Fool

 

[Kay_Evans100]

.....

 

[Kay_Evans100]

Clearly, you are not a beginner at this.

Play safe.

My gf has been giving me a detailed induction !!!

 

[ae1114]

Submissive new to the site

Hi everyone,

I am a submissive new to the site - I have an online Dom and I love Him. He allows me to chat to Doms and fellow subs.

Anyone interested to share more on themselves please send me a message.

Ae1114

 

[hheni1978]

Hi Everyone,

I am new to the forum, but have been a literotica reader since quite some time.
I am Henrietta, 42, single, submissive, lesbian. I am open for chat with like-minded Dominant Women.

Stay safe and have a great day!

 

[t_platz4]

male submissive

I've been on lit for awhile now, but quietly. Mid 40s, straight and fairly kinky. I've played quite a bit online and always willing to chat most especially with dominant, creative women.

 

[ashkitten]

Hello! I've wandered in and out as a reader over the years. Joined again because I've suddenly got a lot of time at home because of quarantine.

Queer sub in my 30s. Looking forward to whiling away the time here!

 

[Yessir2020]

Hi everyone!

New here - trying to figure out the ropes and reading posts.

I love that there is a place everyone can share their interests.

I’m a 29 year old, bbw submissive with an interest in many things

 

[alexia34]

Hello, I’ve been lurking around for a few months now but thought I should finally say Hi!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Hello! I've wandered in and out as a reader over the years. Joined again because I've suddenly got a lot of time at home because of quarantine.

Queer sub in my 30s. Looking forward to whiling away the time here!

Welcome back,

Would love to find a “quarantine steady” partner!

 

[Daniel_Hart]

and old face, newly returned

Hi Lit

It has been years, but in the light of the current moment I thought I would stop by and remember better times.

Ciao

Daniel

 

[EnchanteDream]

Hello Lit,

I am new here. Decided to join this place last night. Believe this sort of place will distract me to what's going on in our world right now. I am into BDSM and love the softer aspects of it. Gentle Dom's, but also strict in ways. I'm aware of some of my limits and never fully explored a D/s relationship before. I've done some research online though and learning more over time. Just hoping I can meet some new friends on here and talk to everyone. So you know... I am very very bashful and never experienced this type of thing before. So please be gentle with me, haha! It has started to interest me as I've gotten older. You just seem to notice more things about yourself overtime, especially when you get older. Anyone is more than Welcome to message me, speak to me and hope we end up becoming lovely friends. If you'd like to know more about me, just send me a pm!

~Enchanted Dream

 

[DVS]

Hello Lit,

I am new here. Decided to join this place last night. Believe this sort of place will distract me to what's going on in our world right now. I am into BDSM and love the softer aspects of it. Gentle Dom's, but also strict in ways. I'm aware of some of my limits and never fully explored a D/s relationship before. I've done some research online though and learning more over time. Just hoping I can meet some new friends on here and talk to everyone. So you know... I am very very bashful and never experienced this type of thing before. So please be gentle with me, haha! It has started to interest me as I've gotten older. You just seem to notice more things about yourself overtime, especially when you get older. Anyone is more than Welcome to message me, speak to me and hope we end up becoming lovely friends. If you'd like to know more about me, just send me a pm!

~Enchanted Dream

First, welcome to Lit. Your situation isn't new. It's true, that sometimes we start to look for more, as we get older. Everything tends to become normal and not as exciting as before. We want more excitement.

Also, people who have stressful and high power jobs tend to prefer submissive sexual roles. Not everybody is that way, but many are. For whatever reason, everybody likes to venture into the dark and unknown of the sexual world, sometimes.

But, even if we do, it's very important to stay safe and only do this with people we trust. That trust is a very big word, in the BDSM area. Many things are done that force one partner to rely on the other partner to follow set guidelines and look out for safety concerns.

The submissive partner is sometimes tied up or otherwise not able to do much about it, if something were to happen, so the dominant partner should always be on the watch for it and willing to stop what he enjoys doing, to take care of the safety situation. Selfish players are not trustworthy and it can end up getting someone hurt.

You should read some stories, maybe watch some videos and find out just what it is that you enjoy participating in. The more you understand your desires, the more you can negotiate or even demand what another partner does or doesn't do.

You will eventually want to set up limits, both soft and hard. Soft limits are things you've never done, but if someone were to suggest it, depending on your frame of mind at the time, you might want to try it. But, the situation must be to your liking or it's still a limit.

Hard limits are things you would NEVER do, EVER. Playing with animals, kids, urine and poop are a few of the most common. You could have many more that you don't want to ever try, no matter how someone tries to talk you into it. If someone tries to get you to break your hard limits, drop the SOB as soon as possible. That's a gross breech of trust. All limits are to be strictly followed, or else.

Also, you'll want to think about a safe word system. The stop light method is the simplest. If a dom or top asks if you are OK, and you say green, that means continue with what's going on. If you say yellow, it means continue, but maybe slow it down a bit. If you ever say red, it means you want whatever is happening to stop RIGHT NOW with no delay.

You can say these words at any time, not just when you are asked. These colors usually don't interfere with sexual play too much when actually answering a question with "yes, I'm OK, but maybe slow down a bit" might ruin the mood.

Another thing...you suggested people to message you and get to know you. that's fine but you should also know that women tend to get those unwanted messages from "so called" doms who say they can solve all of your sexual problems. All you have to do is let them take care of you.

The difficult part is not all of these guys are a problem, but a fair share of them are. It's just a fact of life, I guess. Men don't seem to get these messages, but I think you can talk to other women here and they could tell you some interesting stories.

Always know that the submissive is in charge. It's difficult to understand that, but the dom is only able to do things you allow them to do. Your limits dictate all of that. That's why they are so important and why trust is so important. You are giving that person a set window in which to do things and not do things. It might seem like they are in charge, but they are only in charge of things you allow them to be in charge of. Strange, isn't it. But, don't forget it.

Have fun, read the stories here and get on web sites and watch videos you think you might be interested in. Like I said, the more you know about your own interests, the more you will know about BDSM in general and will be able to explain your desires to a partner.

 

[ThatLuckyGuy]

I'm not new, new, but having taken a few weeks 'find my feet' I've just discovered this thread. So, hello!

I'm not a dom or a sub, but there are aspects of the lifetsyle and the preferences and desires that go along with it that intrigue me. So, I'm making my way through the posts with interest.

 

[DVS]

I'm not new, new, but having taken a few weeks 'find my feet' I've just discovered this thread. So, hello!

I'm not a dom or a sub, but there are aspects of the lifetsyle and the preferences and desires that go along with it that intrigue me. So, I'm making my way through the posts with interest.

First, welcome to Lit. I hope you find your time here to be worth your while and a benefit to your search, whatever that might be. The main Talk Forum is for serious questions or conversations about BDSM, S/m, B/d, etc. If you have a question, or maybe you need info about something, that's where you post.

The cafe is where we socialize. It's for the humorous posts, the cute photos, the random threads and the interesting conversations about most anything. There is a sticky at the top of each Forum that explains the few rules we have and also some info about how to go about things, like the library.

You say you aren't a dom or a sub. i'm sure, if you are attracted to this kind of place, you have some aspects of one or the other in you. In this type of sexual thing, we have labels. Labels stick you in one category or another, depending on how you feel about BDSM in general.

The trouble with labels is everybody assumes that label means you have to follow everything that label has under it's explanation. Take a dom label. It says you must enjoy being in charge, you must like to dominate, you must prefer this or that and everything else. The sub label is pretty much the opposite.

Well, you don't have to be a "dom" or a "sub" in totality. You can start with one of those, but then you can pick and chose of the traits in each and decide for yourself what you want to be. Say you like to spank women. That would lead one to assume you are a dom.

But maybe that's all you like to do. Everything else in that dom category isn't your thing. That's fine. You still might have dominant traits, but don't want to get too far into it, to actually call yourself a dom. A top might be more in line for you. It's mostly the same as a dom, but with less of a desire to control someone else's life...or to be dominant all of the time.

A top would be more of a person who enjoys playing in the bedroom and doesn't necessarily care to carry that dominance into the real world. Some who are like that still tend to call themselves doms, though.

You might also be a switch. A switch doesn't consider themselves either a dom or a sub, but can play either role, depending on who they are with. Actually, a switch usually prefers either the dom role or the submissive role more, but they can effectively play either, when some people couldn't do that.
Me, for instance. I'm a dom, or more likely a top. I could never be a sub. it's just not in me. See how labels are confusing?

But, we need labels as a place to start. If you ever meet up with someone, they might want to know more about you...especially on a site like this. It's kind of like being a republican, a democrat or an independent. They want to know how to relate to you. Sure, you can tell them you don't know, and that's fine. But, for your benefit, you might want to find out which side you really land on.

So, do some research, maybe read some stories and find a good web site that has videos to watch. Find out what you like and don't like. Don't assume that to be a dom, or a top, that you have to fit into all of those fancy traits to call yourself one. Pick and choose what you want of those traits and go with that.

What we like to use, in discussions is PYL or pyl. PYL means pick your label. This is for someone who doesn't want to stick him or herself any real category. The capital letters means you really lean to being a dominant and the lower case letters means you lean towards being more submissive. You can also relate to others with this same system. This is just something we use as a generalization, because labels can often be confining.

Oh, and take my advice. Don't get into any political discussions. They can only lead to ugly endings. Trust me on that.

 

[ThatLuckyGuy]

Thanks for the welcome, and the advice, DVS.

However, I don't do labels, at all, in any area of my life. I'm more than happy to chat, answer questions, and get to know others. But I find labels limiting and see no reason to subscribe to one to make it easier for others to categorise me. Each to their own.