oral persuasion...

[pocketwatch]

Hi everyone, hoping for a bit of advice...

I've been with my lovely man for 6 years now, we were both virgins when we got together and have enjoyed experimenting. He's generally pretty open and willing to experiment, but I keep meeting a brick wall whenever we talk about oral sex...

I am fairly happy to go down on him, and like I say, our sex life is fine otherwise, but I'm really curious about oral, particularly as a lot of my women friends swear it's the only way they get off at all. I don't seem to have that problem, but would still be interested.

We've talked about it a few times before, and he's said he's not comfortable with it, but I think it's because he's nervous about the whole thing (taste, not knowing what to do etc.)

I was wondering if anyone else has ever had this problem, and whether I should try to persuade him to go there (if so, how?!) or whether I should just accept that it's not going to happen and move on.

There's so much in the press (and on this site!) about cunnilingus that I feel I'm missing out on something...

help!

 

[rthnck]

How many licks does it take to get to the center?

It's hard for me to relate as this is a favorite activity of mine and it's even harder to fathom if he is as open to other experimentation as you imply.

That being said, I can only suggest that you find out exactly what makes him uncomfortable (taste, smell, performance anxiety, etc.). If it's a hygiene phobia then see if you can persuade him to take a shower with you or you can take a shower by yourself immediately before hitting the sheets and then let him sample your clean-as-a-whistle wares.

If it's some other mental block, it's a lot harder to overcome.

Don't know if you watch videos together but you could always sample a couple of videos on pornotube, xtube, yuvutu or youporn. There is plenty of action for him to see what he's missing or you can buy one. There are some execellent teaching dvd's/videos if he's concerned about performance.

If it's a performance anxiety and you're comfortable with showing him what you like, then masturbate for him and show him what feels good to you and ask for his tongue to replace your fingers. I'm excited just typing these sentences

So to summarize:

1. Communicate
2. See if that can lead to innovative solutions that will at least open him up to trying it (shower, videos/dvds, show and tell)
3. But lastly, if you get this far and he tries and he still doesn't like it (hard to imagine) then you are sincerely out of luck. If you get this far and he likes it then you get to teach him how to rock your world tongue-wise. The goal is to get him to try it.

And lastly, if you work it out you are honor bound to report back on the results