Oral sex arrangement for Women?

[Edwarlife]

This has been a big fantasy of mine for years. Something about the imbalance intrigues me. Also, I like having my face in pussy, licking it, smelling it, and eating for an hour or so.

To me it is a complete sexual experience.

I've had a few instances of this already in real life. One involved going out for dinner, then going to a hotel and me eating her out, getting nothing in return. Another instance involved me with a virgin; that one occurred 5 or 6 times before I moved away.

When it comes to a long term kind of arrangement, it becomes less certain. Could I do without getting blowjobs and regular sex? I don't know. But I do know that I could make them less common. If half or a little more than half of the sex was cunnilingus, I would probably like that.

I currently have an ad up on the personals section seeking a cunnilingus-centered FWB.

 

[eroticspank]

I think it would be useful to untangle 1) Do women, under the right circumstances , like getting oral, 2) Generally what are the right circumstances, which I suspect will vary wildly and 3) Does removing the obligation to reciprocate make the circumstances better or worse for women, which again varies.

It was implied by the OP that relieving women of the obligation to reciprocate might make the proposition more appealing, but the thread indicates that isn't true for some women (we have no reasonable sampling to even begin suggesting a trend).

You make a good point. I do feel like some women don't necessarily find removing the obligation of reciprocating makes the arrangement more appealing. In fact it may be the opposite.

However, a big factor is socialization...at least in my opinion. I have had several women send me PMs saying it is just VERY HARD to sit back and just let the event be all about them and their pleasure. They feel too selfish. They want to give back not just because it feels good, because they feel bad if they don't. They end up shaming themselves---mostly in their head because of society?---that they are selfish.

That is why I started this thread, because of our differences and how we look at things, women and men.

As far as the arrangement goes, I know some women who could not do it at all, others that could do it for years, and some that could do it only for 1 day. We are all different. Still, I find it a very sexy thing, in this moment I honor this woman in the pleasures of her body, by working to bring her full satisfaction and contentment, I ask her to just let go and not think about me, just be... and enjoy herself. My enjoyment is hers, as she climbs in arousal so do I, when she eventually lets go in physical and possibly emotional release SO DO I, but it is my mind and soul mostly. Good energy fills me.

ES

 

[georgerb]

I could be interested in this type of arrangement, at least willing to try. I've never been with a man who genuinely seemed to enjoy giving oral, so it would be a nice change.

I don't believe you have to get everything out of one sexual relationship. I think I could get the rest of my sexual satisfaction elsewhere if needed.

Drop a line if you like...your inbox is full again. Just south of you in NC....

 

[eroticspank]

This has been a big fantasy of mine for years. Something about the imbalance intrigues me. Also, I like having my face in pussy, licking it, smelling it, and eating for an hour or so.

To me it is a complete sexual experience.

When it comes to a long term kind of arrangement, it becomes less certain. Could I do without getting blowjobs and regular sex? I don't know. But I do know that I could make them less common. If half or a little more than half of the sex was cunnilingus, I would probably like that.

I really think the FWB or a short term relationship as the best fit for this scenario. The woman is a friend, she likes getting oral and you like giving. Full blown sex seems out of the question since she is just a friend or acquaintance and it means no emotional ties.

ES

 

[brightsmile]

I wonder how many women out there would be into an Oral Sex arrangement?

The Arrangement: You are given oral sex until you are satisfied and you provide nothing in return to the guy.

First you get to know the guy a bit online. Eventually you meet and he takes you out for drinks and dinner. IF you feel comfortable, you go home with him or to his hotel room or yours and receive oral until you are satisfied. IF you like him, you see him again and it becomes a regular thing like a FWB.

What do you think ladies? Could you do something like that? Does it help that you do nothing to him in keeping your distance emotionally? If he was very good could you resist the temptation to want more than just oral?

This has been a fantasy of mine for years and I have always wanted to try it. IF you feel uncomfortable talking about it here, feel free to PM me.

Thanks
ES

I never thought about an arrangement like this but it could work with the right person.

 

[IsItBad]

I wonder how many women out there would be into an Oral Sex arrangement?

The Arrangement: You are given oral sex until you are satisfied and you provide nothing in return to the guy.

First you get to know the guy a bit online. Eventually you meet and he takes you out for drinks and dinner. IF you feel comfortable, you go home with him or to his hotel room or yours and receive oral until you are satisfied. IF you like him, you see him again and it becomes a regular thing like a FWB.

What do you think ladies? Could you do something like that? Does it help that you do nothing to him in keeping your distance emotionally? If he was very good could you resist the temptation to want more than just oral?

This has been a fantasy of mine for years and I have always wanted to try it. IF you feel uncomfortable talking about it here, feel free to PM me.

Thanks
ES

i was in a one way arrangement as you suggested for several months......at first it seemed like a near perfect scenario.....but as time went on i wanted it to be reciprocal.......i definitely enjoyed doing my end.....but more and more when it was done and i was on my way i just felt? short changed i guess.....

 

[KimGordon67]

My first thought was 'but would there be kissing?' I fucking love kissing, and would miss it if it wasn't there.

I don't know if I could do this if it was the ONLY thing ... maybe if I was seeing someone else that I had all the sex with, and we/I had a third person who was just for this? Or maybe if it was turn about - one time it was just him going down on me, the next time just me going down on him.

My next question is 'are they allowed to make themselves cum' ... I could be OK with that.

My last relationship, we'd often have a LOT of sex without him cumming at all - not intentionally, he just wasn't someone to came easily, and was more the case as he got older. Even when he did cum, it was usually him doing it himself. He didn't care, and eventually neither did I, although it took a while for me to be OK with it.
I guess my point there is that that DNA can be overridden. However, part of that was that he fucking LOVED the sex we were having, including the blow jobs - he loved how it felt, he loved thinking about it, he loved it all.

 

[MrRetro]

My first thought was 'but would there be kissing?' I fucking love kissing, and would miss it if it wasn't there.

I don't know if I could do this if it was the ONLY thing ... maybe if I was seeing someone else that I had all the sex with, and we/I had a third person who was just for this? Or maybe if it was turn about - one time it was just him going down on me, the next time just me going down on him.

My next question is 'are they allowed to make themselves cum' ... I could be OK with that.

My last relationship, we'd often have a LOT of sex without him cumming at all - not intentionally, he just wasn't someone to came easily, and was more the case as he got older. Even when he did cum, it was usually him doing it himself. He didn't care, and eventually neither did I, although it took a while for me to be OK with it.
I guess my point there is that that DNA can be overridden. However, part of that was that he fucking LOVED the sex we were having, including the blow jobs - he loved how it felt, he loved thinking about it, he loved it all.

Who doesn’t love kissing..?!

I’m not I’d want too many rules around such an arrangement.. For me, I enjoy the idea that we both have an understanding that meets shall involve lots of cunnillingus and lots of pleasure, for both parties.. I like to go down on a woman, a lot..! But I want a woman to enjoy herself and be under no pressure to do anything she doesn’t desire, or to perform in a certain way.. I guess this is why this sort of arrangement appeals and arouses me so much..

 

[MrRetro]

My first thought was 'but would there be kissing?' I fucking love kissing, and would miss it if it wasn't there.

I don't know if I could do this if it was the ONLY thing ... maybe if I was seeing someone else that I had all the sex with, and we/I had a third person who was just for this? Or maybe if it was turn about - one time it was just him going down on me, the next time just me going down on him.

My next question is 'are they allowed to make themselves cum' ... I could be OK with that.

My last relationship, we'd often have a LOT of sex without him cumming at all - not intentionally, he just wasn't someone to came easily, and was more the case as he got older. Even when he did cum, it was usually him doing it himself. He didn't care, and eventually neither did I, although it took a while for me to be OK with it.
I guess my point there is that that DNA can be overridden. However, part of that was that he fucking LOVED the sex we were having, including the blow jobs - he loved how it felt, he loved thinking about it, he loved it all.

I like the concept of a woman having a lover for sex and a lover for cunnilingus though, that is sublime..

 

[Cronton]

It's happened to me a few times, where I gave a woman oral for the sheer pleasure of it. One time was with a friend who was visiting, we drank wine and binge watched some series on TV - all the time she was on the other side of the sofa and she had her feet on my lap, so naturally I started massaging them. A few hours later I was still massaging and stroking her feet and calves and one thing just led to another and a few minutes later my face was between her legs and she was moaning.

It didn't change the friendship but it didn't happen again. She just fell asleep on the sofa and I went to bed - we never mentioned it over breakfast the next morning but as soon as she left I re-lived it in my head while pleasuring myself.

Another time was another friend I was speaking to on the phone who had hurt her back lifting shopping from her car... I said - almost jokingly - I could come over and massage her. To my surprise she said ok. She was lying in her panties while I massaged her lower back with oil and 30 minutes later she was making slight noises that she getting turned on and so I tested a boundary by massaging her legs and then her ass. She said "take them off" ... so that was it. She did nothing in return and that was fine with me - the pleasure was hearing her pleasure.

The other situation was when I was in college and a girlfriend at the time didn't want to have sex but she was happy for me to give her oral. She would give me a handjob after she was done. That continued for about a year - maybe more. This was where I developed my love for giving oral and getting addicted to hearing a woman orgasm through my actions.

I have fantasised about a relationship with a woman who would come to me for oral then leave. During the day, her lunchbreak from work or calling in on her way home. I want to get that message from her that says "are you in, I really need to come and see you". That would be a perfect arrangement for me.

 

[Drinkmein]

I would love this...but no one ever lives near my corner of SW Mo

 

[Mtnmike]

I would love this...but no one ever lives near my corner of SW Mo

I feel ya, no ladies in Wnc seem too want it either.

 

[brightsmile]

I could easily do this for a woman (oral sex), if I find her attractive to me.

Could I also add the option for breast sucklin or help induce lactation?

Perhaps I would even give a good massage too while I am at it.

No, I need nothing in return.

Wow! This would be my perfect man.

 

[eroticspank]

Who doesn’t love kissing..?!

I’m not I’d want too many rules around such an arrangement.. For me, I enjoy the idea that we both have an understanding that meets shall involve lots of cunnillingus and lots of pleasure, for both parties.. I like to go down on a woman, a lot..! But I want a woman to enjoy herself and be under no pressure to do anything she doesn’t desire, or to perform in a certain way.. I guess this is why this sort of arrangement appeals and arouses me so much..

As usual, we are on the same page again. I completely agree. In fact an arrangement can be anything the two people decide it to be. It is very similar to a FWB situation. I just want the woman not to feel obligated or under pressure....as mentioned above....to do anything in return. In that way she can completely relax, enjoy herself and just concentrate on her own pleasure. This is a big turn on for me too.

I really find this an interesting discussion because in some cases, especially for women, it is really hard not to do anything in return. Thoughts enter your mind wondering what does he really want? What do I need to do to him after he is done? Then as some women mentioned earlier, it is a big turn on to please the man, and after receiving a nice oral orgasm, that gets them even more in the mood to please him.

Women in general are very giving, it is in their nature, so that can make it hard to do a one way arrangement like I originally described. I can see how it might work in a College setting, or maybe on a vacation like a cruise, but not really with someone you see daily. (At least that is my perception.)

Another thought is intimacy. When a woman has an orgasm it can be a very intimate moment. Some women find it hard to share something like that with a stranger or someone they barely know. If it is a friend it is much easier I am told, but then they want to reciprocate.

Whatever the reasons it is fun to talk about.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

i was in a one way arrangement as you suggested for several months......at first it seemed like a near perfect scenario.....but as time went on i wanted it to be reciprocal.......i definitely enjoyed doing my end.....but more and more when it was done and i was on my way i just felt? short changed i guess.....

So you gave a woman oral sex with nothing in return for several months? And then you felt like you wanted more?

My first thought is why not ask for more? It should be easy if you already had an arrangement and talked about things. Sometimes you fall into a situation were you end up giving a woman oral with no reciprocal and it ends up being a regular thing. I think read a few of those scenarios above. There is really no arrangement a head of time and it is not as easy to ask for more. But I would ask if I felt I needed more.

For me there is something about the woman's orgasm that makes it enough for me and I can walk away. The stronger the orgasm she has the more satisfied that I am. I don't walk away with a hard on or feel very horny. I am mildly turned on and it puts me in a good mood knowing the woman is satisfied.

ES

 

[Guns444]

This is an extremely exciting and interesting topic. I personally LOVE eating pussy, I want to do this everytime the wife and I get intimate and I think about eating pussy daily. Unfortunately wife isn't the most sexually person and on top of that very self conscious and rarely lets me go down there.
So the thought of having a woman who just wants her pussy eaten and doesn't need to reciprocate would be ok by me, there is nothing more existing and erotic to me then eating pussy, the scent, taste hearing her moan and feeling her motions, it is by far my favorite sexual activity.

 

[30bandits]

I would love this...but no one ever lives near my corner of SW Mo

I like to travel....

 

[SassySheDevil]

You make a good point. I do feel like some women don't necessarily find removing the obligation of reciprocating makes the arrangement more appealing. In fact it may be the opposite.

However, a big factor is socialization...at least in my opinion. I have had several women send me PMs saying it is just VERY HARD to sit back and just let the event be all about them and their pleasure. They feel too selfish. They want to give back not just because it feels good, because they feel bad if they don't. They end up shaming themselves---mostly in their head because of society?---that they are selfish.

That is why I started this thread, because of our differences and how we look at things, women and men.

As far as the arrangement goes, I know some women who could not do it at all, others that could do it for years, and some that could do it only for 1 day. We are all different. Still, I find it a very sexy thing, in this moment I honor this woman in the pleasures of her body, by working to bring her full satisfaction and contentment, I ask her to just let go and not think about me, just be... and enjoy herself. My enjoyment is hers, as she climbs in arousal so do I, when she eventually lets go in physical and possibly emotional release SO DO I, but it is my mind and soul mostly. Good energy fills me.

ES

This would be true for me. VERY hard to let it just be all about myself. I'm a giver. Pleaser. Giving is part of what makes any sexual experience, half my fun, if not more.

 

[masterofnymphoslut]

I wonder how many women out there would be into an Oral Sex arrangement?

The Arrangement: You are given oral sex until you are satisfied and you provide nothing in return to the guy.

First you get to know the guy a bit online. Eventually you meet and he takes you out for drinks and dinner. IF you feel comfortable, you go home with him or to his hotel room or yours and receive oral until you are satisfied. IF you like him, you see him again and it becomes a regular thing like a FWB.

What do you think ladies? Could you do something like that? Does it help that you do nothing to him in keeping your distance emotionally? If he was very good could you resist the temptation to want more than just oral?

This has been a fantasy of mine for years and I have always wanted to try it. IF you feel uncomfortable talking about it here, feel free to PM me.

Thanks
ES

I've had the pleasure of playing with a number of ladies over the years. Most of them enjoyed giving oral pleasure as much as receiving it. I did have one that I went down on for over an hour, not allowing her to reciprocate. I just wanted to give her that pleasure. The next time we met she was an even more eager lover. The best sex is when each person is more concerned with the other's pleasure instead of their own. I love going down on a woman and feeling her cum and tasting her juices.

 

[Cleanupman61]

Well, in my situation, is not quite the same... I have ED, always have had a hard time cumming from oral anyways, so there is no need of giving me anything in return...

Actually, I have reprogrammed my mind, to get excited and get pleasure mentally by giving oral to a woman, with nothing in return. I have looked for, and longed for a situation like ya'll are talking about. I would even love to provide oral to a woman, after she has been pleasured by another guy from regular sex, but it's like trying to find a unicorn. I have had the pleasure of maybe two? Both of them loved it, and never acted like it bothered them to not do anything for me...

So if any of you ladies are in middle Georgia, and need some oral loving, I am here, awaiting you

 

[Nwestin75]

Interesting, would love this arrangement but idk if any guy willing where I'm from lol

That sounds wonderful to me. If only we lived closer!

 

[eroticspank]

Well, in my situation, is not quite the same... I have ED, always have had a hard time cumming from oral anyways, so there is no need of giving me anything in return...

Actually, I have reprogrammed my mind, to get excited and get pleasure mentally by giving oral to a woman, with nothing in return. I have looked for, and longed for a situation like ya'll are talking about. I would even love to provide oral to a woman, after she has been pleasured by another guy from regular sex, but it's like trying to find a unicorn. I have had the pleasure of maybe two? Both of them loved it, and never acted like it bothered them to not do anything for me...

So if any of you ladies are in middle Georgia, and need some oral loving, I am here, awaiting you

I can certainly see how this arrangement would work if the guy had ED or another situation that prevented him from getting pleasure in return. Still part of the turn on for me is the fact that I could fuck her or get oral pleasure from her but I chose not to. I put her needs above mine in that instant and just concentrate on her. I see it as a loving thing to do even if it is to a stranger or someone you just met. Similar to giving someone a nice massage with nothing in return.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

This would be true for me. VERY hard to let it just be all about myself. I'm a giver. Pleaser. Giving is part of what makes any sexual experience, half my fun, if not more.

I get it. Imagine being in a relationship when you are both like this? I was and I had to tie my gf up when I was giving her oral because she could not keep her hands off me. She wanted to please me at the same time I was pleasing her. Sure it worked sometimes but when I just wanted to concentrate on her she was tied up. Then I would let her take care of me.

ES

 

[MrRetro]

I find myself regularly thinking about this still..

 

[crazyangel7]

I like the concept of a woman having a lover for sex and a lover for cunnilingus though, that is sublime..

Sounds like an excellent idea