Oral sex arrangement for Women?

[Mtnmike]

I must be the rare woman with this in her DNA because I'd love to receive this kind of NSA pleasure. IF he's my type I find attractive and he knows what he's doing. Not interested in reciprocating unless there's been chemistry building up for a bit of time. I don't want a relationship at this point, I work a lot and frankly want to do whatever the hell I want in my free time. And it'd be awesome if the right guy could make me cum 3-4 times orally, then either I bounce or he does, soon after.

Wow, if only we were closer to each other.

 

[Cleanupman61]

I must be the rare woman with this in her DNA because I'd love to receive this kind of NSA pleasure. IF he's my type I find attractive and he knows what he's doing. Not interested in reciprocating unless there's been chemistry building up for a bit of time. I don't want a relationship at this point, I work a lot and frankly want to do whatever the hell I want in my free time. And it'd be awesome if the right guy could make me cum 3-4 times orally, then either I bounce or he does, soon after.

You are the kind of woman I wish I could find...actually lately, one of my fantasies is to find 4 or 5 women that live on my road, and service them all when they want it, on a regular basis...exactly as you said, after they cum as many times as they want, I go back home with nothing wanted for myself.

 

[LibraStud]

she enjoys me

This subject is simple for me.

One of my rules for women I meet is that she enjoys giving me daily BJ's if possible.

The other rule is that she enjoys me going down on her and pleasuring her to orgasms.

Simple.

 

[eroticspank]

This subject is simple for me.

One of my rules for women I meet is that she enjoys giving me daily BJ's if possible.

The other rule is that she enjoys me going down on her and pleasuring her to orgasms.

Simple.

You certainly like oral sex and I imagine you are good at it. What is not so simple is giving a woman oral with getting nothing in return. That kind of relationship is not so easy to find or do, in my opinion.

ES

 

[Cream_me]

I must be the rare woman with this in her DNA because I'd love to receive this kind of NSA pleasure. IF he's my type I find attractive and he knows what he's doing. Not interested in reciprocating unless there's been chemistry building up for a bit of time. I don't want a relationship at this point, I work a lot and frankly want to do whatever the hell I want in my free time. And it'd be awesome if the right guy could make me cum 3-4 times orally, then either I bounce or he does, soon after.

I completely agree with you. If it got him off, who am I to question or deny his preferences?

The trust aspect only real comes into play with someone I want to have an actual relationship with. Then there's all the self consciousness and wondering whether he really wants to or if he's just trying to please me, which also introduces the compulsion to reciprocate.

This situation is totally different. He wants it. I want it. It's a transaction like enjoying a meal from a chef who loves to cook.

Now, if only I was at liberty to enjoy such a transaction.

 

[Lamia03]

You are the kind of woman I wish I could find...actually lately, one of my fantasies is to find 4 or 5 women that live on my road, and service them all when they want it, on a regular basis...exactly as you said, after they cum as many times as they want, I go back home with nothing wanted for myself.

You Sir are benevolent and wish I lived down your road.

 

[saustin5432]

It's weird that this popped up to the top recently. I've often wondered if there were women that were into this...or if there were women out there that would look for paid providers, because I'm positive there are a lot of men who are paying for oral. My experience is that it is few and far between. I'm not exactly young anymore, but have always had interesting and varied relationships with men and women. Only once did I have a "relationship" where this occurred.

It started off as a random date. Saw her a few times and we were a little toasted and talking openly about sex. I mentioned that I had a lifelong panty fetish and that I get super aroused wearing, smelling and masturbating with women's underwear. Again...we were pretty drunk at this point, but she asked me if she gave me her panties would I masturbate for her. I took her up on the offer and performed while she watched and occasionally teased herself under her dress. When I finished she asked if I wanted to have sex but I offered to go down instead. After she finished, we just didn't go beyond that. We saw each other probably 6 months and a vast majority of our dates went down the same way, however we did end up doing other things over the life of the relationship.

So I guess not exactly the OP's arrangement, but as close as I've ever experienced.

 

[eroticspank]

It's weird that this popped up to the top recently. I've often wondered if there were women that were into this...or if there were women out there that would look for paid providers, because I'm positive there are a lot of men who are paying for oral. My experience is that it is few and far between. I'm not exactly young anymore, but have always had interesting and varied relationships with men and women. Only once did I have a "relationship" where this occurred.

It started off as a random date. Saw her a few times and we were a little toasted and talking openly about sex. I mentioned that I had a lifelong panty fetish and that I get super aroused wearing, smelling and masturbating with women's underwear. Again...we were pretty drunk at this point, but she asked me if she gave me her panties would I masturbate for her. I took her up on the offer and performed while she watched and occasionally teased herself under her dress. When I finished she asked if I wanted to have sex but I offered to go down instead. After she finished, we just didn't go beyond that. We saw each other probably 6 months and a vast majority of our dates went down the same way, however we did end up doing other things over the life of the relationship.

So I guess not exactly the OP's arrangement, but as close as I've ever experienced.

Thanks for the post, a nice read. Sure it is pretty close to the arrangement of this thread. Was she a dominant woman?

ES

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I have a friend from here we meet in person or over Skype and I suck him off. He sucks and,plays with my breasts. Nothing else in return. Some day will want more. But right now his hot semen is enough.

 

[KimGordon67]

I had this happen just recently ... I don't think it'll be the way things continue (if they do continue), but I met this guy online, we had a drink and got on, and while chatting about sex, he mentioned that going down on women is his 'things'. I was like 'yeah, all guys *say* that, but then it turns out blow jobs and/or fucking are what you end doing most of the time' in my head.
But then when we finally managed to get together, and were obviously heading in the direction of getting naked, he literally said 'I'm not going to fuck you today', and then went down on me with some enthusiasm.
I did get my mouth around his cock for a little while, but he didn't cum ... and then he left.

 

[eroticspank]

I have a friend from here we meet in person or over Skype and I suck him off. He sucks and,plays with my breasts. Nothing else in return. Some day will want more. But right now his hot semen is enough.

Thanks for your post. This thread is about a woman receiving oral from a man and her doing nothing for him in return in some sort of regular arrangement. However, it is ironic that you mention the reverse because that happened to me and it is the reason for my fantasy of the original oral arrangement.

I dated a woman for about a year. She would give me BJs but would not let me return the favor. She would not let me fuck her, or even play with her breasts. Sometimes when she was giving me a BJ, I was allowed to play with her nipples and breasts, but that was it. I am not sure why she chose to not have sex with me or even let me go down on her. I don't remember any conversations we had about it. But I do know she really enjoyed giving BJs and was very good at it.

So your comment about hot semen above may be one reason she liked giving BJs, the taste. I know that is one main reason that I enjoy cunnilingus, the taste of the woman...especially at orgasm. I wonder how you are able to do the above without wanting more? Is it about keeping your distance emotionally?

ES

 

[KimGordon67]

I've always loved going down on a woman. For me, the main thing is that I like to give a woman a good orgasm this way before having sex. I'll admit to the fact that most of the time, women I've had sex with don't orgasm just from the sex. Usually, a woman will cum while riding me, but I've rarely fucked a woman to orgasm while on top.

I don't know if that's anatomy or skill or stamina or what, but I do know I can give good orgasms giving oral, so I always want to do that first. I'm a guy, I'm going almost always going to cum, but I think it's unfair if I get to and she doesn't.

I've never had an oral-only relationship like this thread is talking about, but I'd be willing to try it. Or at least an "oral for her mostly" relationship

I'm one of those lucky women who'll cum pretty easily, and repeatedly ... someone has to be really lacking in skill for nothing to happen for me, and I can only think of one instance of that in recent years.

I've also found with older guys (i.e. in my general age range), cumming seems to stop being so important and/or just doesn't happen so much. It worried me a bit when I first encountered it, because obviously the first thing you think is 'I'm doing something wrong', but now I get it a bit more ... and it does tend to result in the guys doing a lot more, for a longer time. Which is not awful for me.

 

[bi11ionaire]

I know this is an old thread from way back in 2020.

That said, where are all the wonderful women who want a wanton man to work hard and worship them willingly?

 

[LTMMC]

some remarks on your original question, eroticspank

It seems to me, you introduced a very interesting question, and the discussion here on it brought out some very divergent ways of thinking about orgasms.

First of all I want to take issue with your contention, ES, that attending to the clit of a woman, and sensing her translating the movement of your tongue into an orgasm of hers, is a selfless act on your part. IMHO, it is anything but.

First because you are given a chance of watching – from a very intimate position – how her body reacts to you. When I sense a woman orgasming with me like this, it feels almost as if I had the orgasm myself. And second, if you like, you can tell yourself that it was you who brought about her orgasm, and that enforces your own erotic self-esteem.

I can see why you like an arrangement like this; I would love it as well. Because what I miss most of all in my sexless marriage is the lack of opportunity to affect an orgasm in my wife. Even when I know it is not my tongue alone, which makes one happen.

Next, “benefit #3” from most women I claim, will be some kind of reciprocation from her. In the direction of pleasuring you also. Moonflasher was the first woman to tell you this in her response, and some other women confirmed that.

So the way I see this, the most likely type of woman to accept your offer ticks like Weekend Lover. Not much caring about the man who masturbates her clit with his tongue. Merely wanting to get off with as little complication as possible.

That is the reason I believe, why far more men would love the opposite arrangement: receiving a casual blow job or hand job from a woman. Women enjoying this know for sure that they and nobody else caused the man shooting off his load. Because a man’s orgasm is not nearly as complicated as that of a woman. And he is not giving away any intimate secrets, when he cums in her mouth.

So unfortunately, the way I see it, a “normal” woman with natural feelings toward sex, will not go for your offer, because allowing a man to make her cum with his tongue, is akin to agreeing to have sex with you. And a normal woman won’t do that with just any stranger. Unless the “getting to know each other before” via mails, results in her liking you a lot.

Good luck to you on your project OO (oral only).

 

[brightsmile]

As much I think I would want a non-reciprocal oral sex arrangement, I know it would not be possible. In order for me to have trust and to lay back and enjoy oral, I would need to be in a long term committed relationship.

Friends with benefits would not work because I would be thinking about where he’s been, sexually diseases, etc. So, if you’re in a relationship, you will be doing (hopefully) other sexual acts. I wouldn’t mind having a night or two of just having oral performed on me with nothing in return but I don’t see that continuing in the long-term realistically.

 

[Mb0754mm]

Had something close to this happen to me.
I was 37 married, next door another couple both 33
Elaine the wife told me one day in private me and her could have an oral arrangement.
Just oral sex. No intercourse.
At first it was great.. I would pleasure her orally, she would please me orally.
Quick and easy.. till that one day!
She was laying on top of me and guided me into her body. We started fucking.
Turns out I wasn’t exclusive to her, her husband caught her and divorced her.
Scared the hell out of me

 

[Nemarle]

How to help you understand women.

Often a man will wonder why a woman seems to RJECT pure pleasure. He offers oral sex and claims he will not expect anything in return. We know he does expect something, even if he does not realize it himself. If you have ever wondered why women don't seem "more oriented toward sexual pleasure", consider this.
Make your offer to a gay guy- he will maybe be VERY interested. and you will realize that you REJECT sexual pleasure exactly the way women usually do and for a very similar reason: it will not be enjoyable when the other person is not someone you want to share pleasure with. DUH.
Double, DUH, but it took me a long time to figure that out.

 

[bi11ionaire]

Often a man will wonder why a woman seems to RJECT pure pleasure. He offers oral sex and claims he will not expect anything in return. We know he does expect something, even if he does not realize it himself. If you have ever wondered why women don't seem "more oriented toward sexual pleasure", consider this.
Make your offer to a gay guy- he will maybe be VERY interested. and you will realize that you REJECT sexual pleasure exactly the way women usually do and for a very similar reason: it will not be enjoyable when the other person is not someone you want to share pleasure with. DUH.
Double, DUH, but it took me a long time to figure that out.

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[eroticspank]

It seems to me, you introduced a very interesting question, and the discussion here on it brought out some very divergent ways of thinking about orgasms.

First of all I want to take issue with your contention, ES, that attending to the clit of a woman, and sensing her translating the movement of your tongue into an orgasm of hers, is a selfless act on your part. IMHO, it is anything but.

First because you are given a chance of watching – from a very intimate position – how her body reacts to you. When I sense a woman orgasming with me like this, it feels almost as if I had the orgasm myself. And second, if you like, you can tell yourself that it was you who brought about her orgasm, and that enforces your own erotic self-esteem.

I can see why you like an arrangement like this; I would love it as well. Because what I miss most of all in my sexless marriage is the lack of opportunity to affect an orgasm in my wife. Even when I know it is not my tongue alone, which makes one happen.

Next, “benefit #3” from most women I claim, will be some kind of reciprocation from her. In the direction of pleasuring you also. Moonflasher was the first woman to tell you this in her response, and some other women confirmed that.

So the way I see this, the most likely type of woman to accept your offer ticks like Weekend Lover. Not much caring about the man who masturbates her clit with his tongue. Merely wanting to get off with as little complication as possible.

That is the reason I believe, why far more men would love the opposite arrangement: receiving a casual blow job or hand job from a woman. Women enjoying this know for sure that they and nobody else caused the man shooting off his load. Because a man’s orgasm is not nearly as complicated as that of a woman. And he is not giving away any intimate secrets, when he cums in her mouth.

So unfortunately, the way I see it, a “normal” woman with natural feelings toward sex, will not go for your offer, because allowing a man to make her cum with his tongue, is akin to agreeing to have sex with you. And a normal woman won’t do that with just any stranger. Unless the “getting to know each other before” via mails, results in her liking you a lot.

Good luck to you on your project OO (oral only).

Interesting comments especially calling this discussion a "project". I like all the comments because everyone seems to have a different perspective on things.

I agree that for most women to open up their legs to a stranger they need to get to know the person. That is why this arrangement might work with a coworker, someone you know at college etc. In my case, I had a family friend who I knew for years--we grew up together---that became an FWB. We did not do an oral sex arrangement but if I had done it probably would have been with someone like her.

I like this thread because it is not just a simple situation. I don't think the act of cunnilingus itself is unselfish but there may be certain things done during the act that can be unselfish. As someone giving oral pleasure, there are a lot of things that I get out of it, all of them good, even the sore neck.

Woman's orgasm. In my opinion, the woman is not made to orgasm by my tongue or anything I do specifically. It is about relaxing and letting her sexual energy flow. At some point, she lets go and decides to release, but that is up to her. I am just happy to be in the room to assist.

I do believe there are some women that like this arrangement because of the role reversal. I say this because I have talked to a few. One lady told me liked the idea because sometimes when she is on the road she likes an orgasm but doesn't want intercourse or kissing. It takes about an hour, she is satisfied and the guy is gone. This same woman told me she wished there were more massage places with happy endings for women.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

As much I think I would want a non-reciprocal oral sex arrangement, I know it would not be possible. In order for me to have trust and to lay back and enjoy oral, I would need to be in a long term committed relationship.

Friends with benefits would not work because I would be thinking about where he’s been, sexually diseases, etc. So, if you’re in a relationship, you will be doing (hopefully) other sexual acts. I wouldn’t mind having a night or two of just having oral performed on me with nothing in return but I don’t see that continuing in the long-term realistically.

A lot of women feel this way, so thanks for sharing.

FWB to me means someone who has been a friend for a long time, at least a few years, so you know each other and where you have been assuming you talk.

There are many concerns and fears. One lady mentioned a guy with poor oral hygiene. That would be bad. Hopefully, with a FWB, it is someone you know who brushes regularly!!!!

ES

 

[DirtyOldMan64]

Agree wholeheartedly

As an older man, this kind of arrangement greatly interests me. I've even made the offer to two women in the past (one a neighbor, the other a friend) after they expressed their sexual frustrations in conversation with me while being between relationships. Unfortunately both turned me down because of our familiarity. Both of them felt it would "make things weird.

But it's not something you can just offer to a stranger

 

[Gabriel1664]

Yes

Yes I have had lovers who had a need and desire, even to the exclusion of other forms of sex, to be eaten. And a lover who enjoys being eaten -- is much to be pleasured and taken care of.

G

 

[dabamafan]

If you insist

For me it will always be a two way street....Me pleasing him excites me

I am fairly certain most men would not pass this exchange up. Excellent profile pic btw.......I would beg, shamelessly

 

[StarGazer58]

I love giving a woman oral so I would love to have a situation like this. Would be fun but really hard to find a willing recipient.

 

[FierceMaiden]

I think a lot of women would love this. I know I would.

I've fantasized about my boss kneeling below my desk and giving me oral for ages - maybe while I am on a long conference call.