Oral Sex..

[DuckLover]

... She will RARELY blow me (once every 3 months, max), and she hasn't let me come in her mouth for over 5 years now. I love to recieve as much as I love to give, and this really pisses me off. I've talked with her about this many times (yes, not near/during sex, no, not in an accusatory manner), but she doesn't care enough about the fact that it bothers me enough to try to do anything about it.

I'd be very careful about infering her feelings-- "she doesn't care enough..." It's very easy to misinterpret feelings. Especially given your next comment, I'm not convinved that she doesn't care. The two of you may want to strongly consider a session or two of couples counseling to clear up some of these issues.

She tells me that cum and pre-cum is gross, and that giving head makes her want to puke after a minute or two. I don't want her to do something that makes her feel sick, but it would be nice if she would at least try.

It sounds like she HAS tried, and those tries are how she determined that (pre-)cum is nauseating for her. That reaction isn't really a personal choice, and I don't think it is something you can reasonably hold against her.

I think you are at a great advantage in that your wife has identified for you a concrete reason she doesn't give head. Now the two of you can work on finding ways to get around the aspect she finds objectionable.

Since it sounds like the (pre-)cum is the problem, there is a fairly simple potential solution-- condoms. Granted, fellatio with a condom isn't quite as good as without, but it's bound to be better than none at all. Definitely be sure to use an unlubricated condom, and you may even want to start with the flavored kind. I've found that the mint kind are most preferable to women.


Good luck!

 

[Lake4321]

Another 2 cents

If you really want him to eat you out, have you tried/suggested a 69 session? Certainly erotic and "gives" to both of you at the same time. Also, if he has less interest in going down on you after cumming by a blowjob, change the order of events so you both win.

Will you kiss him after he eats you out? If you don't/won't that may be sending a signal to him as well.

Just a few thoughts....

 

[NaughtyKelly]

I love giving and receiving oral!

 

[lancewannabe]

Both ways

I prefer to give oral than receive. Does that make me a bad husband? I LOVE eating pussy. I could have it morning, noon and night (and all the time in between).

Unfortunately, my s/o won't let me unless she's freshly out of the shower, and then she only allows me to eat her until she's good and warmed up. Once she's there she demands that I fuck her immediately. She gets so very sensitive once she cums that I nearly get a black eye from her pushing my face away from her.

She claims to like giving head, but hasn't really spent much time there. I seem to take forever to cum with her mouth on my cock, and her jaw gets tired.

Any suggestions for her to make things better for the both of us?

 

[SweetErika]

Re: Both ways

She claims to like giving head, but hasn't really spent much time there. I seem to take forever to cum with her mouth on my cock, and her jaw gets tired.

Any suggestions for her to make things better for the both of us?

Ask her to coordinate a well lubed hand with her mouth when she starts to get tired. She can lick and suck the head (or a little more) while she uses her hand too. Adding the balls and/or anal stimulation in the mix also helps frequently.

As for her receiving, I'm with her on the freshly bathed part. I think I developed a complex from society's jokes and comments, despite all of the reassurance from partners over the years.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Re: Re: Both ways

.....snip.......As for her receiving, I'm with her on the freshly bathed part. I think I developed a complex from society's jokes and comments, despite all of the reassurance from partners over the years.

amen sister

 

[lancewannabe]

Thanks!

Thank you both for your input. I'll make sure to get her input on what she would like to do to "finish" the job.

I know she likes sucking my rod, but that jaw thing is a deterrent.

69 is not an option cause she says she gets too distracted to spend sufficient attention to her task at hand (and lips). We have tried it before, but to not much suck-sess.

In the mean time I fantasize about eating pussy about every 10 minutes throughout the day. That's where Lit cums into play in my life. Really a great release of those pent up frustrations.

 

[Lynxie]

In our relationship, the oral ratio is somewhere around 60/40. I tend to give blowjobs a bit more than he goes down on me - but I think that's only because I like to keep him happy when I've got my period.

 

[LingerieandLace]

In our relationship, the oral ratio is somewhere around 60/40. I tend to give blowjobs a bit more than he goes down on me - but I think that's only because I like to keep him happy when I've got my period.

You sound like a very fair person !

 

[shele]

Re: Another 2 cents

If you really want him to eat you out, have you tried/suggested a 69 session? Certainly erotic and "gives" to both of you at the same time. Also, if he has less interest in going down on you after cumming by a blowjob, change the order of events so you both win.

Will you kiss him after he eats you out? If you don't/won't that may be sending a signal to him as well.

Just a few thoughts....

Hey Lake....

Yes we do 69 maybe a couple times a month...though like lancewannabe's wife I tend to get diistracted and lost in my own pleasure..though I do try hard to concentrate..and always finish him off after I am done....

Suggesting he goes down on me first just turns into a stupid battle od wills....you do me first..no you do me first..so I have 86'd this approach...

and yes of course I will kiss him after he eats me out..like to taste myself on his lips..no problem with that at all...

Thanks for your 2 cents...

-shele

 

[Jaded1]

Well, I am very oral do to the fact I do enjoy taste of a woman. However, I have found recently that I have giving far more than I recieve in return in any sexual activity... So I have learned to hold out! You want some, you give some...

 

[Lake4321]

hey shele

I'd say stick w/ the 69, but slow down and concentrate on the receiving a bit more. That is a good way to get him in the groove of craving the sweet taste of your quim while still pleasing him. A win-win! Then when you two finish, kiss him passionately and tell him how much you love the taste of your pussy on his lips. Again, another good reason for him to go down on you. The positive reinforcement always works best. Good luck.

 

[sugardaddy]

99 to 1

My current SO hates sucking dick. Had a previous BF hold her down and make her swallow and suck. So, i don;t get them. No biggie. I love eatting her snatch out. (Her words). Would love to have more BJ's but all in all it is no big deal.

 

[djay1000]

I believe the best way to get a woman to give you a blow job is to manuver to the 69 position..but make sure you have her hot first

 

[miniskirtman69]

I have a girlfriend who's uninterested in sex. But of course I am.

I like to go to a bar during happy hour and find a hot girl in a little skirt. And after talking for a while, I'll say something like "how'd you like to have an orgasm." And of course she's at least interested in hearing what I am thinking.

And I offer to go down on her. Under the table. Right there. No reciprocation needed. Some do it. And they always meet me again.

I'm a local favorite and proud of it.

 

[djay1000]

what would be the return rate?
meaning how many give you a blow job...and where?

 

[Celtia]

It's likely 20:1 in his favour--but that's because I'll give him a blow job at least twice a day! I love it.

He DOES reciprocate in SOME way--using my vibe on me, hands and fingers, licking or fucking (it's nice that he stays hard after finishing, and can do that, AND have a second orgasm as well).

Lately it's been more, but now he has a cold, and can't breathe...so no oral for me 'til that's gone. damn.

 

[sxylegs]

I have a girlfriend who's uninterested in sex. But of course I am.

I like to go to a bar during happy hour and find a hot girl in a little skirt. And after talking for a while, I'll say something like "how'd you like to have an orgasm." And of course she's at least interested in hearing what I am thinking.

And I offer to go down on her. Under the table. Right there. No reciprocation needed. Some do it. And they always meet me again.

I'm a local favorite and proud of it.

Too bad you are so far away.....that is one of my fantasies.....to be eaten under a table with a lot of people around......
Got my juices flowing just thinking about it.....

thanks

 

[Guest]

Too bad you are so far away.....that is one of my fantasies.....to be eaten under a table with a lot of people around......
Got my juices flowing just thinking about it.....

thanks

Now that sounds exciting.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I have a girlfriend who's uninterested in sex. But of course I am.

I like to go to a bar during happy hour and find a hot girl in a little skirt. And after talking for a while, I'll say something like "how'd you like to have an orgasm." And of course she's at least interested in hearing what I am thinking.

And I offer to go down on her. Under the table. Right there. No reciprocation needed. Some do it. And they always meet me again.

I'm a local favorite and proud of it.

Why isn't I've never met the likes of you at the bar!?!?!? lol

 

[Guest]

Why isn't I've never met the likes of you at the bar!?!?!? lol

That's because all the guys are under the tables and all the ladies are wearing smiles. Lol.

 

[miniskirtman69]

Anyone who wants to meet me at a bar, give me a time and place. I'm very much into this.

 

[sxylegs]

Anyone who wants to meet me at a bar, give me a time and place. I'm very much into this.

Oh wow......my mind is racing....

To be fair.....where is halfway between pittsburg and Indy....LOL

 

[miniskirtman69]

Well, Indianapolis is about 6 hours from here. Columbus, Ohio or thereabouts.

I'd do it. Are you game?

Imagine ... drive 3-4 hours .... in a short skirt knowing that when that time elapses, you'll be close to orgasming.

How can you possibly resist that?

 

[vargas111]

Well, I am very oral do to the fact I do enjoy taste of a woman. However, I have found recently that I have giving far more than I recieve in return in any sexual activity... So I have learned to hold out! You want some, you give some...

What a jerk. Eating a pussy is its own reward. My wife wold never let me.

I think far more men wold likke to give oral sex than there are women who will allow it!