Oral Sex..

[shele]

Hi guys and gals..

I love to give my SO blow jobs...and he would like them everyday..but he doesn't reciprocate nearly as often as he would like me to go down on him....he does from time to time and its a amazing, he can even make me gush (is that pc lol) but the amount of times he does go down on me without intercourse involved are few and far between and when he does go down on me I always return the favor immediately....because of this it makes me not to want to go down on him..even though I love to...and I don't mind blowing him and then even later in the day he ate me out..just would like the percentage a little more 50/50 rather than 90/10. If I felt like I was getting about as much as I was giving I would be more than happy to blow him 24/7.

My question for the ladies is...how often do you go down on your guy, just blow job not leading to intercourse, just oral.. compared to how often he goes down on you...just spontaneously..walks up to you spreads your legs and digs in?

And guys...you can answer too...how often does she do it to you compared to how often you do it to her?

I wish I knew how to do a poll..uggghhh

-shele

 

[SweetErika]

Our experiences are split about 90/10 in his favor, but I don't have any kind of problem with that because I enjoy it and he gives to me in other ways. Plus, I insist on being freshly showered before he does it, so it's really my choice not to receive more. When it comes down to it, I give because I enjoy GIVING and making others feel good, not because I expect a favor in return. IMO, my gifts, like my love, are unconditional.

Have you shared your feelings about this with your SO Shele?

 

[shele]

Our experiences are split about 90/10 in his favor, but I don't have any kind of problem with that because I enjoy it and he gives to me in other ways. Plus, I insist on being freshly showered before he does it, so it's really my choice not to receive more. When it comes down to it, I give because I enjoy GIVING and making others feel good, not because I expect a favor in return. IMO, my gifts, like my love, are unconditional.

Have you shared your feelings about this with your SO Shele?

maybe haven't shared to the point where he knows I am serious about it..maybe more in a joking way....and yes I know communication is the key...

And yes I give as a gift..but sometime it would be nice to get it back in return...I end up blowing him and then I am dripping wet and it becomes the last thing on his mind...I have a very high sex drive and he knows that..I have a drawer full of toys that he hates and won't use on me...so I end up using on myself after and I don't feel I should always have to defer back to my toys for satisfation. Sometimes I feel like I am getting the raw end of the deal here.

Also just trying to find out if this is something normal that happens to everyone..and if I am just being whiney? lol

-shele

 

[waterboy52]

40/60

I eat my wife's pussy at EVERY opportunity. She loves to give me head, but I will gladly eat her without reciprocation any time.

 

[degrease]

i always like to give and receive, as wonderful as her takin me in her mouth is(greatest thing in world) my ego wont allow me to not make her cum with my tongue before any bump and grind ensues

 

[Willing and Unsure]

I've been in this situation before, on several occasions. The quickest way to get things to turn around if he's not listening to you: stop giving. Simple as that.

The first guy I ever slept with always had it be about him. He wouldnt give me oral because "it wouldnt do anything for him." I loved to give blow jobs (still do) and that happened on very rare occasion, if at all. We even stopped having sex over it. It was a bit ridiculous to me that we were supposed to be enjoying each other and I was still ending up playing with myself after all was said and done. That's just not right. It's a two way street. And to me, if he's only willing to go one way, then so am I.... the opposite way he's going.

I do agree with you, communication is key. Let him know that you want some satisfaction from him. Talk to him, in a non-joking manner and at a point in time where you aren't in the moment type of thing (basically fully clothed watching tv or something like that). Suggest maybe throwing in some other things, like letting him play with you wiht the toys, or even go for a 69 position. There's tons of options if he's got some problem with giving you oral.

 

[sharpchick]

I wouldn't take a man for a lover if he didn't give oral as good as he got it.

 

[SweetErika]

maybe haven't shared to the point where he knows I am serious about it..maybe more in a joking way....and yes I know communication is the key...

And yes I give as a gift..but sometime it would be nice to get it back in return...I end up blowing him and then I am dripping wet and it becomes the last thing on his mind...I have a very high sex drive and he knows that..I have a drawer full of toys that he hates and won't use on me...so I end up using on myself after and I don't feel I should always have to defer back to my toys for satisfation. Sometimes I feel like I am getting the raw end of the deal here.

Also just trying to find out if this is something normal that happens to everyone..and if I am just being whiney? lol

-shele

Nope, that doesn't sound whiney at all. Sounds like a very one-sided and unfair deal. I vote for having a serious discussion about this, and if he still decides not to give oral or use the toys, consider giving him the heave-ho.

 

[blue112]

seriously never withhold sex because your not getting any yourself, communication is key because if you withhold the play all that happens is a wall goes up and getting through that wall becomes either staying together or not so trust me, i lost the girl because she didnt communicate and the wall became too great for us to get around.

make him understand how shitty it is and unfair and unloving etc

good luck

 

[manofsteel52]

She usually won't let me. I'd gladly lick her any time, any place. She just gets so into it, she always wants to have intercourse too...

 

[Bicycle]

I'd have to say that its about 4:1 for giving/receiving for me.

Or more like 30:1 if you count it being done to completion. That's something my wife doesn't like to do. Pity too since I really like giving and receiving.

(grin) Now a good session of 69 is a lot of fun if you just want to tease each other. Its no good for getting anywhere (at least for me) but I love the feeling of being sucked while I'm busily licking away...

 

[Glistening Girl]

Mine is about 70/30 my favor. I also have it very good in that he never stops until I tell him too. I would do him more but like I tell him he has to put it in my mouth first.

Our favorite postion is to do a 69. That way your both winning at the same time.




I also think shele your getting a bad deal and should have it out with him. Its not acceptable treatment of you.

 

[ExplicitAngel]

 

[DuckLover]

We're probably 80/20

...but not for lack of interest on my part. Our biggest issue is that as much as I LOVE to eat pussy, it really doesn't do much for her. In fact, she has said that it can even put her OUT of the mood. I've never had complaints about technique before, and my gf and I have talked about ways to be better for each other in bed. It appears that she just isn't very aroused by oral sex.

 

[BirdsWife]

I understand some people's opinions that you should be giving him blow jobs because you want to, not so he will go down on you. But if giving him blow jobs gets you all hot and bothered, then he leaves you on your own to take care of yourself, that is just plain selfish on his part.

-- He doesn't want to eat you.
-- He won't use your toys on you to help you get off after you have satisfied him.
-- He posts personal ads and sets up dates with other women behind your back.

This guy is a self-centered jerk who only cares about himself. I'd dump him and find a guy who cares as much about my feelings and pleasure as I do his.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

maybe haven't shared to the point where he knows I am serious about it..maybe more in a joking way....and yes I know communication is the key...

And yes I give as a gift..but sometime it would be nice to get it back in return...I end up blowing him and then I am dripping wet and it becomes the last thing on his mind...I have a very high sex drive and he knows that..I have a drawer full of toys that he hates and won't use on me...so I end up using on myself after and I don't feel I should always have to defer back to my toys for satisfation. Sometimes I feel like I am getting the raw end of the deal here.

Also just trying to find out if this is something normal that happens to everyone..and if I am just being whiney? lol

-shele

Not "whiney" at all IMHO. I love how wet sucking me gets my SO. And then it doesn't take much to bring her, which I love to do, with tongue, fingers, or toys. And I would actually love to watch her use her toys on herself a little more often.
Have you discussed with him? Or considered having get you off before you bring him (funny how some guys drive goes way down after cumming).

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I wouldn't take a man for a lover if he didn't give oral as good as he got it.

"Preselecting" ... I like that!!

 

[TiltedHalo2805]

I don't have a steady boyfriend, so the sex isn't always the same. Total, I'd probably say that it's 30:1, with me giving more. I guess I'm just used to not recieving, but it still bothers me that it's so rare. I have a few fuck buddies, and only one of them likes giving, and he's the one that I only see 2 times a year .

 

[Spenser41]

Ok

Here are my thoughts.
NEVER NEVER withhold as a way of CONTROLING someone.
That is just imature and non-productive. If you really want to get things going in a better direction, TALK TO HIM.
Of course don't do it while you are going to have sex or during sex, but take the time to discuss it when you are like having dinner or taking a drive. You said you were joking with him about it. Well, as Dr Phil says.. GUYS JUST DON'T GET IT. Don't expect us to pick up on hints or small suggestions. Communicate to us what you want and need. The best thing to do is compliment on the things he does for you and how great he is at his love making.
Let him know how the little things matter to you. As you are telling him this, you are letting him know what he is doing right. But then tell him there are somethings you would like for him to help you with. Tell him how much you enjoy it when he eats you. Tell him how good he is and tell him how much you enjoy it and how you wish he would do it more. Most men want to please the woman they are with, and if they hear that they are doing something right, that it is working for them in their favor, then they will keep it up. Now about the toys... why some guys have problems with those is just silly. They are not replacements for him nor does he have to feel he has to be compared to them.
Women can climax in many different ways. The climax is different from using toys and vibes to breast stim, intercourse, oral and anal. Just as it is different for him with masterbation, oral and intercourse. So tell him how you enjoy all of those things and how hot it makes you to use those toys and that when he uses them, like a dildo inside you while he eats you, would send you to the moon and back, should only encourage him to want to please you in that way.
Now I know some guys are all about getting and not giving, but if he really truely loves you, he will want to meet your needs. But stop the hinting and the suggestions here and there...
JUST TELL THE DUDE. And for the love of your relationship... DO NOT withhold. That is not love, that is blackmail and ransome and intimacy should never be done that way. And I can tell you, for men and women who their mates have done that too them to get them to perform the way they want them do, is not love but it is all about control. The best tool for what you want is communication.

 

[grayin]

I provide oral as much as she wants. She usually wants to know when 1st, because she wants to be clean first. I don't mind either way.
We have about several toys and we get them out often. I go shopping sometimes and bring home a new one for a surprise. I use them for her 1st explosions and them I get in the game later with or in addition to the toys.

Grayin

 

[ABN_Ranger]

I love oral, giving and recieving. I love going down on my wife. I honestly don't care if she reciprocates, just as long as I get to lick her.

J

 

[TirelessTongue]

Oral Sex ?

I'll say it time and time again that I love going down on a woman. I get to satisfy all my senses at once and it feels better for me to give than receive in some cases.

Thank you....... I'm sure I've said it before, but I just wanted to whore a post.

 

[ReadyOne]

As long as I can get positive feedback that the woman is enjoying it, I can and will keep eating away for a very long time. Or until pins me down and climbs on....

 

[LadyAndrivete]

My question for the ladies is...how often do you go down on your guy, just blow job not leading to intercourse, just oral.. compared to how often he goes down on you...just spontaneously..walks up to you spreads your legs and digs in?

I go down at least once a day, perhaps twice... but that's only because well... oral fetish and everything. lol My SO gives me oral at least once every day or sometimes once every two days.

My suggestions: ALWAYS be prepared. Be sure to mind your hygeine in keeping everything trimmed, shaven, (waxed if you're me), and smelling pleasant. Some guys luv the femininity of the au natural vaginal scent... however some guys aren't. I personally spritz at least twice a day with afterbath sprays, however far enough away so that only the mist is applied and not the actual perfume itself. Perfume taste... ew.

My secret weapon: Going for a fresh Brazilian bikini wax and not telling my SO... wear sweat pants and sit cozily on the couch and put his hand down there... he'll get a good kick and wants to dive right in tongue and all.

 

[shele]

Hey everyone..

Thanks for your replies and input..seems like there are some men out there that not only love to go down on their women but actually do on a regular basis..the way it should be..as well as them going down on you on a regular basis..

I don't believe its an issue of being ready...I am very aware of being clean and wash a couple times a day and am always clean shaven..and I know he likes to go down onm e cuz he gets rock hard the second he does, I think its just laziness...and a bit of immaturity maybe? I don't know..just trying to find out if this is the norm or not....

thanks again you guys are great..

-shele