Orgasm Denial

[chris2c4u]

Sometimes making the sub cum is pleasurable for the Domme. Especially when it is on her terms or when she decides. The pleasure the sub feels is overshadowed by the fact the orgasm came at an inopportune time, he was not ready for it, he had no control over it, etc. So it is not always a given that orgasm equals pleasure for the sub. And as mentioned earlier there are different types of orgasms as well, like assgasms, prostate orgasms, some which do not involve ejaculation.

I know a Domme who sometimes makes her "sub sissy" ejaculate hands free from pegging when the sub is specifically told NOT to, it leads to a lot of humiliation and punishment. It is not pleasurable for the sub, but a big turn on for the Domme to get the sissy to lose control like that. This is just one example.

Denial can be used as a tool for humiliation.



ES

Good points, humiliation and control, surely central to orgasm denial.

 

[__little_one]

I don't know a woman who wears chastity belts. I agree with bone, that they all look very uncomfortable, especially for cleaning after toilet. Have seen pics of pierced pussies. May be this could be an alternative.

yup, the hygiene aspect put me off long term use of belts- you lucky boys! I can't think of anything nicer than being locked up all safe and sound apart from playtime, with a very palpable reminder of what I'm missing.

 

[__little_one]

I find this topic fascinating, as someone who rarely he an orgasm I think it must be wonderful to actually know that you are being denied. I just don't expect an orgasm so can't really be denied

That's what I'd have thought but... I have to take tablets which dull the urge, but when I suddenly wasn't allowed to touch/be touched or cum I went craaazy horny and affectionate. Maybe it's just my 'forbidden fruit' personality though.

 

[eroticspank]

For me the turn on is not orgasm denial but orgasm control.

She controls when I cum and it is usually after she has cum several times. Part of her control of me does include edging and prolonged teasing. But she also delights in making me cum, seeing my reaction, listening to my moans, and watching my spurts. Sometimes she makes me cum very fast, sometimes slow, sometimes in unique ways I never expect. But it is always under her control. I am denied control over my own orgasms.

ES

I find this topic fascinating, as someone who rarely he an orgasm I think it must be wonderful to actually know that you are being denied. I just don't expect an orgasm so can't really be denied

@KittiGoddess that is a good point. You could take it a step further and say if you have never had an orgasm, especially a good one, orgasm denial means nothing to you. I suppose you could fantasize what it would be like and when you get close to what you think is it, it could be frustrating.

However, as I mentioned above, for me it is more about orgasm control and that is part of denial. I see the Dom/Domme eventually bringing about orgasm for the sub, but only when the Dom/Domme decides. Denial and Edging usually leads to an intense orgasm. That is important because that keeps the sub mentally chained to the Dom/Domme. This results in no need for any chastity devices. Sure, like wearing a collar, they are very symbolic and functional; but if no matter how much you masturbate you can't recreate that same intense feeling you end of going back to that Dom/Domme anyway. You crave the rush of being controlled, played with, and directed.

ES

 

[__little_one]

I'm getting far too into this idea

Just stumbled onto this video of a pretty girl teasing a guy. She seems to understand how to get him very close to cumming.

https://de.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5afa2b90c21b2

mmmm, Isn't he a good boy! You know I've never really been comfortable dominating sexually before, but the loving sensuality of all this is making me want to find a willing boy to tease till he can't bear being any other way. In fact I've had one partner who love to be edged for hours, and I realise now I'd been milking him all bar he'd choke his balls if he sussed in time. He made such delicious noises

My favourite so far https://www.youporn.com/watch/12540529/ruined-orgasms/]

 

[sweettalk4u]

It’s amazing when used to train a submissive and to keep them that way. A simple form of it can be done in reverse by not allowing the person to cum during play until you tell them to. You keep making it a longer time until it’s easy for them to become trained to cum only on your command. It can be extended by having them edge often while watching or thinking about something of your choosing

 

[sweettalk4u]

You are so correct and so very good. Having them do that themselves during the day works too if you trust them not to cum. And the wetness is a constant reminder

 

[sweettalk4u]

And to make them even wetter put them on pygeum bark. It increases the flow

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

It’s amazing when used to train a submissive and to keep them that way. A simple form of it can be done in reverse by not allowing the person to cum during play until you tell them to. You keep making it a longer time until it’s easy for them to become trained to cum only on your command. It can be extended by having them edge often while watching or thinking about something of your choosing

When I was younger my friends would jerk off to pictures of nude women. After some time they showed me pictures of nude men and said I should masturbate to those pictures. As time passed I got so I wanted to see more and more pictures of naked men and did not care if I got hard or not. They got what they had planned and I got to have what they taught me to desire. Later on they told me they knew I would be a good cock sucker some day. At first it was very humiliating but I realize I wanted that. Even the girls in our gang would control my orgasm before the pictures. They would get me to masturbate then started tolling me to stop when I was close to cumming. Having a girl encourage you to pull it out and jack off only to have her tell you to put that thing away when you are just about to cum teaches you your place in life. And yet I loved that part too.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Sounds like you were taught well! Going to have to edge after reading that!

 

[sweettalk4u]

You had some good teachers and you learned well.

 

[newhere2learn]

mmmm, Isn't he a good boy! You know I've never really been comfortable dominating sexually before, but the loving sensuality of all this is making me want to find a willing boy to tease till he can't bear being any other way. In fact I've had one partner who love to be edged for hours, and I realise now I'd been milking him all bar he'd choke his balls if he sussed in time. He made such delicious noises

My favourite so far https://www.youporn.com/watch/12540529/ruined-orgasms/]

Had a petite fwb years ago who.could.make me dance like those videos

 

[newhere2learn]

It’s amazing when used to train a submissive and to keep them that way. A simple form of it can be done in reverse by not allowing the person to cum during play until you tell them to. You keep making it a longer time until it’s easy for them to become trained to cum only on your command. It can be extended by having them edge often while watching or thinking about something of your choosing

As a submissive I enjoy both parts of this. When either the dominant fwb I've mentioned prior, she'd make me wait hours to cum, I'd be leaking and begging. This had multiple benefits for her as she was very active solo, so took a huge amount of stimulation to orgasm. She'd got so used to her own touch, that anyone else had their work cut out.

Additionally, she was very forthright IRL so continued this into sex. A case of, "you don't cum if I aren't even close"

Finally, she also knew that the best way to get me to do anything to please her, was if I was hard, blue balls and leaking.

I was twice her weight, and nigh on 2ft taller than her. Yet she controller me with a finger on my cock head and nothing else.

 

[sweettalk4u]

That's what dominants like, to keep our full attention 24/7 and what better way than to put us on the edge of orgasm and keep us there?

 

[newhere2learn]

That's what dominants like, to keep our full attention 24/7 and what better way than to put us on the edge of orgasm and keep us there?

Carrot or stick at the end of the day


Cause us to focus while on edge, driven crazy with lust and a desire to please.... Or by threat of pain/no orgasm.

 

[sweettalk4u]

Carrot or stick at the end of the day


Cause us to focus while on edge, driven crazy with lust and a desire to please.... Or by threat of pain/no orgasm.[/QUOTE

Helping us to learn better and do tasks correctly the first time

 

[newhere2learn]

Carrot or stick at the end of the day


Cause us to focus while on edge, driven crazy with lust and a desire to please.... Or by threat of pain/no orgasm.[/QUOTE

Helping us to learn better and do tasks correctly the first time

Very much so. Caged today, at work. All I can think about is making mistress happy

 

[lilmissdarling]

I like being denied, makes me feel desperate and needy. But i dont think I could ever participate in a long term denial

 

[eroticspank]

Carrot or stick at the end of the day


Cause us to focus while on edge, driven crazy with lust and a desire to please.... Or by threat of pain/no orgasm.[/QUOTE

Helping us to learn better and do tasks correctly the first time

I know everyone is different but I don't get motivated by this Carrot and Stick approach. I can certainly see how some do. I find myself always motivated to please my woman, yes even as a sub. I don't have to be caged, denied orgasm, or promised a reward. I feel really bad if I am not pleasing her and her words of encouragement as well as look of satisfaction on her face are what make me happy.

However, I when I am trying to endure pain, like making it through a certain number of spanks, flogging, or canning, a reward does help for me to endure it for her.....even though I would do it anyway because it is something that pleases her.

I have seen the "theme" of most men are useless after orgasm which I think is one reason "orgasm denial" is employed. I don't agree. I think I feel the same for my woman before and after an orgasm---though if she edged for a while, teased me, etc, I may be out of breath or even exhausted for a bit. I still want to please her and am very motivated to do so.

ES

 

[LizVegas79]

I enjoy dishing it out as much as being repeatedly denied myself

 

[sub2femdom]

A lot of us are sadists.

Most people think immediately about physical pain when they hear that, but it's not just physical. My sub liked being spanked with various objects, including a full blown indiana-jones style whip. I couldn't understand why she liked it so much, until we started switching, and she learned that I liked being humiliated, caged, played denial games, etc..

She figured I was a sadist too. How so? Emotional sadism. Her deal was physical sadism. Neither of us could explain well the why we liked it, but we each had our form of sadism all the same.

I figure some of the stuff like femdom pegging, orgasm denial, and the like is simply a form of sadism that crosses both the physical and mental realms (at least for men), I can't really speak for women on this.

I've also noticed very few women seem to be into female chastity. Never understood why...

 

[Stevew0073]

I think orgasm control is one thing I couldn’t live without. I strive to keep a lady happy and she controls me. When she denies me release I try harder to please.

 

[petes478]

That's what I'd have thought but... I have to take tablets which dull the urge, but when I suddenly wasn't allowed to touch/be touched or cum I went craaazy horny and affectionate. Maybe it's just my 'forbidden fruit' personality though.

I spank ladies over my knee. Turning white alabaster bare bottom flesh to red stinging crimson shade. Erotic to spank enthusiastic submissive pussy and ass, married or single, eighteen and older.

 

[Younginlondon]

Been away

Been away for a while.

Would love to find someone who likes to tease, edge and play.. wouldnt we all though!

 

[alysiak]

Orgasm Denial Is So Sweet

A lot of us are sadists.

Most people think immediately about physical pain when they hear that, but it's not just physical. My sub liked being spanked with various objects, including a full blown indiana-jones style whip. I couldn't understand why she liked it so much, until we started switching, and she learned that I liked being humiliated, caged, played denial games, etc..

She figured I was a sadist too. How so? Emotional sadism. Her deal was physical sadism. Neither of us could explain well the why we liked it, but we each had our form of sadism all the same.

I figure some of the stuff like femdom pegging, orgasm denial, and the like is simply a form of sadism that crosses both the physical and mental realms (at least for men), I can't really speak for women on this.

I've also noticed very few women seem to be into female chastity. Never understood why...

I have practiced and very much enjoy orgasm control, both by having another person control when I may have sexual release and self-imposed denial. The constant ache to have an orgasm, when you have been celibate for a lengthy period of time, is so gratifying. Your mind is consumed by thoughts of sex, you are desperate to be alone so you can "edge" yourself and you find yourself unconsciously touching the intimate areas of your body.

I agree that it is mentally and emotionally a form of sadism. You are denying your body something it desperately craves and is intensely pleasurable. As the days become weeks without climaxing, my self esteem soars because I have the strength to keep myself celibate. Before long just being able to sexually stimulate myself becomes so gratifying, even though I continue to suppress my orgasms.