slickdan41
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It can be absolute torture if you have someone that knows where your limits are and insists on pushing them - but the better the payoff too
Orgasm Denial
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It can be absolute torture if you have someone that knows where your limits are and insists on pushing them - but the better the payoff too
cyndi_lucy
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No you are not the only one that likes orgasm denial. It is a very popular fetish
ydahecnot
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The craziest orgasm denial I endured was when this girl I was seeing brought her girlfriend in. So both of us were kept horny. She would have us fuck one stroke at a time and pull out when one of use got close.
Helll-o!
After a few months of no sex because of a death in the family we finally had some playtime. I made her cum several times and then I got the slowest, softest hand job that drove me crazy. She told me she loves how I admire her and touch her when I am horny. This morning she is still asleep with a smile on her face.
It is going to be a while before I get to cum. I love this!
It is going to be a while before I get to cum. I love this!
personally, i love it. it's one of my deepest kinks. being used for my partner's pleasure is one of my ultimate turn ons, and the more desperate i get, the more i'm willing to do or offer of myself. i'm less inhibited, more willing to debase myself. i love the feeling of being so utterly and completely focused on my partner.
i've only been able to do it a little bit in the past even though i love it. i try but don't have enough self control to do it on my own. but maybe someday..
I feel the same way! I have been trying to create the feeling and deny myself pleasure but it's not the same. I love being controlled and told what to do. It's hard to get that same feeling from myself.
Orgasm denial is the best, my top kink as well.
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The craziest orgasm denial I endured was when this girl I was seeing brought her girlfriend in. So both of us were kept horny. She would have us fuck one stroke at a time and pull out when one of use got close.
That's so hot.
Nearest I've had was a little elfin fwb. She played solo A LOT so took ages to cum.
As such, we'd spend hours mutually pleasing each other.
She'd do things like only touch my cock for the duration of the ads in a film. Then have me please her for the next section of the film.
Or, put sports on TV, and I only got cock attention if a point was scored.
I'd be hard, leaking and on edge for hours.
Just stumbled onto this video of a pretty girl teasing a guy. She seems to understand how to get him very close to cumming.
https://de.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5afa2b90c21b2
https://de.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5afa2b90c21b2
shootingstar_95
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edging
More then anything I love for my partner to edge me ......giving me a morning call telling me that i can touch myself but i cannot cum. What makes this best is when you finally do cum the intensity of the orgasm makes it worth the wait.
I also enjoy teasing and edging my partner ..... having him watch me as I undress myself and play with my self until he begs me to touch and play with him. Or even while we are out to dinner letting my hand slowly crawl up his leg teasing and playing with him until he cant take it anymore !
More then anything I love for my partner to edge me ......giving me a morning call telling me that i can touch myself but i cannot cum. What makes this best is when you finally do cum the intensity of the orgasm makes it worth the wait.
I also enjoy teasing and edging my partner ..... having him watch me as I undress myself and play with my self until he begs me to touch and play with him. Or even while we are out to dinner letting my hand slowly crawl up his leg teasing and playing with him until he cant take it anymore !
The_GloriousBitch
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Never done this before but I'm curious as you're. Want to do that for a long time, and no you're not alone in this.
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PrettyLilPussy
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Also this...
newhere2learn
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More then anything I love for my partner to edge me ......giving me a morning call telling me that i can touch myself but i cannot cum. What makes this best is when you finally do cum the intensity of the orgasm makes it worth the wait.
I also enjoy teasing and edging my partner ..... having him watch me as I undress myself and play with my self until he begs me to touch and play with him. Or even while we are out to dinner letting my hand slowly crawl up his leg teasing and playing with him until he cant take it anymore !
I miss having a partner who respects me enough to do such things, more than you can imagine
Dreamer110
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Just can't get the wife to do this. Loses control.
RopeBunny69
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Orgasm denial is the best.
Getting all worked up, begging for permission? Yes. Please.
When I'm really deep into sub space, I don't even care If permission is granted. I just want to keep playing.
Getting all worked up, begging for permission? Yes. Please.
When I'm really deep into sub space, I don't even care If permission is granted. I just want to keep playing.
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PrettyLilPussy
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Ok... im asking...
Explain the "ruined orgasm" to me??
Explain the "ruined orgasm" to me??
eroticspank
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As you start to orgasm she stops the stimulation and the orgasm is a dud. You feel some pleasure but not even close to what you would feel if she did not stop. You ejaculate, feel a little bit of pleasure but that is it, no full orgasm.
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This whole orgasm denial thread is a fun discussion. There are so many aspects to "orgasm denial" in my opinion and everyone seems to have a different idea about what it is.
In my mind, most guys like "edging" which means bringing the guy close to orgasm several times and stopping. The eventual buildup of tension results in a very intense orgasm once the woman finally decides to let it happen.
To a degree I understand men who are interested in "ruined" orgasms because at least they are getting an orgasm and the control/torture by the woman on the man is a big turn on.
Orgasm denial is what is hard for me to grasp. I can't see tied, teased, and tormented with the goal being no orgasm. IF she cums instead of me at the time I would have normally cum, I can see how that is a turn on. But what is the turn on of never being allowed to cum? For those of you who like orgasm denial what is the main turn on for you?
I met a woman years ago who liked doing orgasm denial mainly because it meant she would be pleased and cum first. It was a way of keeping her main focused on her until she was ready to attend to him. This makes a lot of sense to me. Anyone else have thoughts on this?
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Not letting someone have one at all just seems mean. Lol
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PrettyLilPussy
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Thanks for the answer!
I couldn't do that to someone but im glad i know what it is.
chris2c4u
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Isn't it about control? Getting the right people together with the right feelings about this and the physical becomes rather more intellectual than normal, simply in that it involves some discussion and exchange perhaps more verbally than usual? It is if course lined to dom / sub behaviour, isn't it?
pplwatching
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I'll take a swing at this ...
Orgasm denial (in my experience as the receiver) is a very intense way to savor an intense sexual connection to my wife, and an addictive kind of arousal. Sex is amazingly intimate and arousal makes my thoughts hyper focused on my wife, her pleasure, and the sublime joy of being so intimately connected to her. Throughout our marriage along with the heart racing bliss and the thrill of the afterglow when I have had an orgasm during sex, I have often lamented the sudden loss of sexual tension along with the sudden lack of focus on each other. We would spoon and enjoy the glow, but it was noticeably different than the moments leading up to orgasm.
On a couple of occasions our lovemaking was interrupted by the kids needing something, and one occasion it happened when I was very close to orgasm. I tore myself away from the moment to take care of whatever the "problem" was, and she fell asleep before I got back. As I lay there next to her Jonesing for release, the feeling of her body against mine as I spooned her was amazing. Looking at her naked sleeping body I realized how powerful it was to feel that unresolved need to cum, but also how my feelings for her were different at that moment. Lust and a need to cum made me, for lack of a better word, literally feel my love for her in the moment. I masturbated to take care of myself and missed that feeling when I was done.
Since then I've done it enough times to think about what I like. The unresolved sexual tension is just exquisite and can last for hours as I come down from that sexual high. Spooning, caressing her body, the roughness of her pubic hair under my fingers, and even pillow talk are very sensual and connected when I want desperately to be back inside of her. I'll sometimes spend the next day lost in daydreams of having my face between her legs.
My wife isn't into orgasm denial. It took her a while to wrap her head around the fact that I had developed this kink, but she has warmed up to it. We cum together (or at least both cum) most of the time, but occasionally she gets into it and will tell me I'm not going to cum. It's pretty thrilling to hear that. When she knows I'm close she will push me out of her before either masturbating herself to finish or having me go back down on her. It's a rush for me, and the next time we find time for sex is pretty intense because I'm usually all the more horny.
I've spent quite a bit of time lurking around orgasm denial discussion boards, and it more or less always seems to be the case that T&D is usually introduced into the relationship by the person who wants their orgasm denied. There are some really awesome stories of the other half lovingly learning to indulge. There's a lot of fantasies of guys (usually) dreaming about finding that cruel mistress who will indulge their kink and I've come across a few posters where it goes the other way, with denying orgasm being a cruel thrill. But, in general, it seems to be a part of very healthy and loving relationships. There are a fair number of blogs about female led relationships with orgasm denial, but in my observation the person on the receiving is usually the one enthusiastically writing about the experience.
I'm sure like anything else there are people who get off on denying orgasm, and people who enjoy being on the receiving end of that, but in general (in my opinion) this kink seems to be about the receiver, how intense it is to be so close and so desperate, and how it makes us feel about the person we love.
Edited to add that almost all OD pron is designed to sell the fantasy (like most porn). The fact that it sells shows there is a market for it, including the degrading comments and all of the trappings that seem to go along with that genre of pron. It's obviously a fantasy for a lot of guys (usually) if the market is any indication, but in general most OD discussion is about committed partners just trying to get each other off. I personally don't care for the verbal abuse, even in fun, but to each his or her own.
Edited again to add that left to my own devices I don't have the willpower to stop when I get close to cumming. My wife getting involved and pushing me further than I can go by myself is wonderful.
Orgasm denial (in my experience as the receiver) is a very intense way to savor an intense sexual connection to my wife, and an addictive kind of arousal. Sex is amazingly intimate and arousal makes my thoughts hyper focused on my wife, her pleasure, and the sublime joy of being so intimately connected to her. Throughout our marriage along with the heart racing bliss and the thrill of the afterglow when I have had an orgasm during sex, I have often lamented the sudden loss of sexual tension along with the sudden lack of focus on each other. We would spoon and enjoy the glow, but it was noticeably different than the moments leading up to orgasm.
On a couple of occasions our lovemaking was interrupted by the kids needing something, and one occasion it happened when I was very close to orgasm. I tore myself away from the moment to take care of whatever the "problem" was, and she fell asleep before I got back. As I lay there next to her Jonesing for release, the feeling of her body against mine as I spooned her was amazing. Looking at her naked sleeping body I realized how powerful it was to feel that unresolved need to cum, but also how my feelings for her were different at that moment. Lust and a need to cum made me, for lack of a better word, literally feel my love for her in the moment. I masturbated to take care of myself and missed that feeling when I was done.
Since then I've done it enough times to think about what I like. The unresolved sexual tension is just exquisite and can last for hours as I come down from that sexual high. Spooning, caressing her body, the roughness of her pubic hair under my fingers, and even pillow talk are very sensual and connected when I want desperately to be back inside of her. I'll sometimes spend the next day lost in daydreams of having my face between her legs.
My wife isn't into orgasm denial. It took her a while to wrap her head around the fact that I had developed this kink, but she has warmed up to it. We cum together (or at least both cum) most of the time, but occasionally she gets into it and will tell me I'm not going to cum. It's pretty thrilling to hear that. When she knows I'm close she will push me out of her before either masturbating herself to finish or having me go back down on her. It's a rush for me, and the next time we find time for sex is pretty intense because I'm usually all the more horny.
I've spent quite a bit of time lurking around orgasm denial discussion boards, and it more or less always seems to be the case that T&D is usually introduced into the relationship by the person who wants their orgasm denied. There are some really awesome stories of the other half lovingly learning to indulge. There's a lot of fantasies of guys (usually) dreaming about finding that cruel mistress who will indulge their kink and I've come across a few posters where it goes the other way, with denying orgasm being a cruel thrill. But, in general, it seems to be a part of very healthy and loving relationships. There are a fair number of blogs about female led relationships with orgasm denial, but in my observation the person on the receiving is usually the one enthusiastically writing about the experience.
I'm sure like anything else there are people who get off on denying orgasm, and people who enjoy being on the receiving end of that, but in general (in my opinion) this kink seems to be about the receiver, how intense it is to be so close and so desperate, and how it makes us feel about the person we love.
Edited to add that almost all OD pron is designed to sell the fantasy (like most porn). The fact that it sells shows there is a market for it, including the degrading comments and all of the trappings that seem to go along with that genre of pron. It's obviously a fantasy for a lot of guys (usually) if the market is any indication, but in general most OD discussion is about committed partners just trying to get each other off. I personally don't care for the verbal abuse, even in fun, but to each his or her own.
Edited again to add that left to my own devices I don't have the willpower to stop when I get close to cumming. My wife getting involved and pushing me further than I can go by myself is wonderful.
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PrettyLilPussy
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That was amazing and insightful. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
That was amazing and insightful. Thank you so much for sharing!!!
