Orgasms?

[Miss_Puss]

now ive had a search and couldnt spot my exact question


i find it really easy to orgasm clitorally, and have orgasmed through penetration alone a couple of times during my sexually active 5 years...

strangely enough the times i have have been totally bizarre, not in love particularly with one of the guys, and he didnt have a huge cock, and other time, i was normal and it came as a total surprise with a long term partner.

can anyone give me any tips?

it seems to be coming then never really gets anywhere? i've tried every position i can think of, put a pillow under my ass, my boyfriend is quite big enough... it feels amazing but just doesnt ever happen without my clit being stimulated... i know this is quite common, but in all honesty, im jealous!!

how DO you girls do it?

 

[RavenousRae]

I would love to know that as well, I've never had an orgasm through sex, it's only happened through oral sex and manually of course!

 

[Miss_Puss]

I would love to know that as well, I've never had an orgasm through sex, it's only happened through oral sex and manually of course!

but i can have one if my clits played with while having sex... are you the same??

 

[Jesteress]

Not totally sure if this is what you are asking about but here goes...

Its pretty hard to get that kind of orgasm through penetration along, if that is what you are saying. I know when I do, its because I have had a lot of clit stimulation and then I kind just kinda squeeze his cock and get there (without touching my clit which makes it faster). Its the whole clenching of the muscles thing for me.

For G-spot, in my experience it takes alot to get there..but boy oh boy when she gets there watch ou, everything is super sensitive and for me I get to just keep going and going....like that little Energizer bunny!

Hope that helps...

 

[Munachi]

actually, i had been wondering the same thing... i have never come through penetration, and while i like it, and often prefer it over oral, it keeps me from coming, actually - like, even if someone goes down on me but inserts a finger at the same time, i won't come... though it still feels very nice...

 

[h_i_s]

Orgasm via penetration only works for me with a combination of stimulation to the clit and squeezing the vaginal muscles tight. The easiest ways i have ever found for the combination to exist:

1)missionary, female on top, thighs straddling his, gripping his shoulders, pelvis tilted upward a bit while grinding (gotta get the right rythm though) his pelvis, vaginal muscles gripping his cock and releasing

2)missionary, male on top, thighs and hips between her's, gripping his ass and holding his pelvis to her's, her pelvis tilted upward a bit while grinding (gotta get the right rythm though) his pelvis, vaginal muscles gripping his cock and releasing

What works for one does not always work for ALL. Best bet is communicate, experiment and find what works for you.

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[RavenousRae]

but i can have one if my clits played with while having sex... are you the same??

I've never had it happen - but I guess it's possible.

 

[Eilan]

Spooning works wonderfully for me. It gives me the opportunity to find the angle that works best.

Your mileage, of course, may vary.

 

[pink swirl]

I can only come through clit stimulation, and the only way I can come through clit stimulation during intercourse is with a vibrator. Otherwise, it's too hard to get and keep the right rhythm in the right spot with all that fucking going on.

I've never had the G-spot orgasm or whatever it is that women have when they say they have vaginal orgasms. Are G-gasm and vaginal orgasms the same thing anyway? I have no idea.

 

[Jesteress]

I can only come through clit stimulation, and the only way I can come through clit stimulation during intercourse is with a vibrator. Otherwise, it's too hard to get and keep the right rhythm in the right spot with all that fucking going on.

I've never had the G-spot orgasm or whatever it is that women have when they say they have vaginal orgasms. Are G-gasm and vaginal orgasms the same thing anyway? I have no idea.

Not sure pinkswirl either (vaginal vs. Gspot)...I just know I like them ALL!

Keep them cumming oh lovers of mine

 

[RedSoreBottom]

I can only have orgasms through my clit. My g-spot is absent or hidden very well, there are times I think someone has found it, because it will feel good and I will get that strong urge to urinate (which I read was a sign that you found it) but alas no orgasms from it.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I don't get it either

I've had my g-spot stimulated and have even squirted from it, but to define it as an orgasm??? Well, it's just different, tho it does FEEL GOOD.

A hard core good orgasm for me, 95% of the time, has to be manual or vibe, sex just doesnt' do it for me.

Maybe I need to practice more

 

[nycphoto]

Have you ever thought to have your clit pierced. That way the piercing will portude and allow for unaided stimulation.

 

[Miss_Puss]

hmm i have been thinking about having my clit pierced actually

 

[pollyfilla]

Miss Puss, your Men are like shoes, cheap ones never last. - Me
Reminds me of brothel creepers. Mine are still going after 20 years, and they were cheap. I could have bought dozens of expensive ones if I hadn't blown the lolly on the ladies. But then I know where to invest my cash wisely.

 

[Miss_Puss]

Miss Puss, your Men are like shoes, cheap ones never last. - Me
Reminds me of brothel creepers. Mine are still going after 20 years, and they were cheap. I could have bought dozens of expensive ones if I hadn't blown the lolly on the ladies. But then I know where to invest my cash wisely.

ahh more men should know how to invest more money wisely...!

in diamonds for example..

 

[pollyfilla]

how about a diamond studded clit piercing ?

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I never had consistant vaginal orgasms til I met the current lover - and I'm 44. Doggie style - I cum every time now. Maybe we just fit together perfectly? I'm not sure - but I'm not complaining!

 

[Halo_n_horns]

now ive had a search and couldnt spot my exact question


i find it really easy to orgasm clitorally, and have orgasmed through penetration alone a couple of times during my sexually active 5 years...

strangely enough the times i have have been totally bizarre, not in love particularly with one of the guys, and he didnt have a huge cock, and other time, i was normal and it came as a total surprise with a long term partner.

can anyone give me any tips?

it seems to be coming then never really gets anywhere? i've tried every position i can think of, put a pillow under my ass, my boyfriend is quite big enough... it feels amazing but just doesnt ever happen without my clit being stimulated... i know this is quite common, but in all honesty, im jealous!!

how DO you girls do it?

Hun, there are so many factors that can be playing into this, including your BF's size being more than what you need for the right kind of stimulation. Also, do you drink? Do drugs? Have a stressfull job? Do you exercise regularly or not at all, or somewhere inbetween? Ever had a baby? Do you tell your BF what to do and/or how to move during sex or are you just letting him do his own thing? Do you have a really strong emotional connection with him or is there something casual about this? etc, etc, etc...

All of these things are possible contributors to how you have an orgasm, and are compounded by the fact that a woman's body reacts differently to different stimulation nearly every single day, and sometimes every hour of every day.

There's so much that I've learned can be discussed on this subject that it's almost friggin' baffling to think about it all. Your situation is also a relatively common one, believe it or not.

 

[Miss_Puss]

i understand what you are saying totally.

i dont know what the connection is really. i dont think its gonna last tbh.
i guess that could well be it.

 

[londonaberdeen]

I maybe don't know much about the female body but I know how to please my SO.

I also know the only way she has ever had a vaginal orgasm is from rear action like doggie or spooning.

Its great when we get the angle right, what with her screaming, gushing and urgent thrashing my problem is holding on!

I know the two most important things are mental state (ie are you wanting to make love to this partner, really need a fuck right now, or just bored and giving him the goodies) and the areas being stimulated. If his cock can internally stimulate the g-spot or his body can in some way be positioned to stimulate the clit then you stand a much better chance of penetration bringing you off.

 

[mikeofokc]

Old Shoe's Opinion

Now I understand why I keep getting stepped on, I'm a damn shoe. Wish you would have been around to tell me that when I was a racing shoe instead of now an old flip flop.

Ok, I’m a shoe(man), should I put in my 2 cents into a female conversation or should I....wait, I’m a man, men are stupid, so I have an excuse, sure I should speak up. Besides I'm an expert now because just last week my woman enjoyed a wonderful one-hour orgasm and made so much noise the people in the next room were calling security. I felt like such a stud and she gave me the greatest smile and hug after she unlocked the bathroom door and let me in.

Ok, seriously I’m no expert and no one is. We all are still learning and if not than you are missing out. There are answers to your question and really you have probably already known it. Well let me rephrase that, there are several different answers to the question but in some cases you wont find your right answer until some different point in your life. The answer involves technique, communication, understanding your own mental triggers and if men are involved than him wanting to learn how to please you. Its not like putting on a one size fits all pair of flip flops , we all are different. Its sometimes very subtle changes in technique or position or the erotic thoughts in your head that will make the difference. Of course if our own subtle challenges were not enough we also have to deal with our partner's issues. I don’t mean to make it seem complicated because it isn’t, in fact most of us already know the answer, we just don’t know we know it.

I recently saw the following thread on this site about G spot stimulation and female orgasms. Some good info is shared there. Plus make your partner read it. Nothing wrong with learning what others experienced and who knows it might be great fun just privately proving them wrong.
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

Likely you have a certain thought process that occurs during your clitoral orgasms. Understand that process and trigger mechanism in your mind. Allow that thought/trigger mechanism or something very similar to occur when you let the G spot or other areas be stimulated. Let your mind help you not hinder you.

While most of us first focus on technique in achieving great sexual enjoyment for our partners and our selves I have really have come to understand that great sexual enjoyment and fun really happens between our ears and not between our legs. Certainly physical stimulation and technique is necessary but the key trigger mechanism to those awesome orgasms between our ears. It is so true that great sex is 90% mental.

The thoughts we think, the situations we imagine, the fantasies we have are what arouses our senses. While we may masturbate with our fingers, hands or toys its not just the physical stimulation but the mental stimulation that achieves that orgasm. You can play with yourself for hours but if your mind isn’t in to it you wont orgasm. Yes technique and stimulating the right spot is required but your mind has to be in tune with your body and without distraction.

The same issue happens when with a partner. Your mind has to be where it wants to be and the partner has to be not distracting from your mind while also doing the subtle things necessary to physically stimulate you. Those subtle physical issues are worked out with communication and practice. The mental side requires having the trust and respect to open up with each other. Imagine how great sex can be if you could mentally experience some erotic story or fantasy that you enjoy with a loving, understanding and trusting partner. That’s another story but it can be done and it is beyond awesome.

Ok this old shoe is going back in the closet. Its no fair us men only generally just have one pair of shoes in the closet while you females have many pairs. Then again its no fair you can have more orgasms than us or that you have so many more areas to have them from. I mean clitoral, Gspot, Aspot and anal. Well maybe old flip flop doesnt mine walking down that last spot. Please close the closet door now for me while I console my soul.

 

[Guest]

now ive had a search and couldnt spot my exact question


i find it really easy to orgasm clitorally, and have orgasmed through penetration alone a couple of times during my sexually active 5 years...

strangely enough the times i have have been totally bizarre, not in love particularly with one of the guys, and he didnt have a huge cock, and other time, i was normal and it came as a total surprise with a long term partner.

can anyone give me any tips?

it seems to be coming then never really gets anywhere? i've tried every position i can think of, put a pillow under my ass, my boyfriend is quite big enough... it feels amazing but just doesnt ever happen without my clit being stimulated... i know this is quite common, but in all honesty, im jealous!!

how DO you girls do it?

The best position for me is when I'm on top of my man. I love to grind, going real deep, and his pubic hair rubs against my clit, so it causes me to get a clitoral orgasm as well as a vaginal at the same time. Also, when he's giving oral and I get really wet, he sticks his finger(s) inside, licks and sucks my clit at the same, and all around my lips- I tense up because I'm so excited, having both orgasm's, and become so sensitive afterwards. I will admit to taking a long time to cum. I think it's all about communicating with your partner, and being able to relax. Ohh, another thing, try not to think about it so much- our damn minds can do a number on us, for sure! And I definitely know how much it sucks to be so close to the edge, and not being able to cum. Talk about frustrating!

No worries. I think you're absolutely normal. Everyone is different. Just sharing my experience <smiles>

I do hope that someday you'll be able to get there because it's so fucking awesome

Good luck!

 

[pink swirl]

The best position for me is when I'm on top of my man. I love to grind, going real deep, and his pubic hair rubs against my clit, so it causes me to get a clitoral orgasm as well as a vaginal at the same time. Also, when he's giving oral and I get really wet, he sticks his finger(s) inside, licks and sucks my clit at the same, and all around my lips- I tense up because I'm so excited, having both orgasm's, and become so sensitive afterwards. I will admit to taking a long time to cum. I think it's all about communicating with your partner, and being able to relax. Ohh, another thing, try not to think about it so much- our damn minds can do a number on us, for sure! And I definitely know how much it sucks to be so close to the edge, and not being able to cum. Talk about frustrating!

No worries. I think you're absolutely normal. Everyone is different. Just sharing my experience <smiles>

I do hope that someday you'll be able to get there because it's so fucking awesome

Good luck!

Could you explain how a vaginal orgasm feels?

Like, with a clit orgasm, there's that wave that crests into that first big contraction, followed by the outward pulsing that gradually ebbs...

What happens with/to/in your vagina when it's a vaginal orgasm? How is it different from a clit orgasm?

I always thought a vaginal orgasm meant an orgasm without any clit stimulation. Can you come without any clit stimulation at all?

I'm soooo curious cause I've never, ever, ever, had anything but a clit orgasm.

 

[niteloser]

oh god. An orgasm from sex feels amazing. My current partner is very good at getting me off multiple times with sex. He puts my legs on his sholders and holds my thighs together and this works well. Especially when he bends forward and plays with my nipple piercing during sex. I am not complaining, except I have to wash my sheets alot. Every time we've had sex he's made me cum at least twice. Sometimes more but by then I'm screaming into a pillow and it's no fun for my neighbors. I think it's something about the way we connect mentally which allows us to connect so well physically.

But damn, I miss his sex now.