Painful anal sex!!

[MemorableMe]

HELP! I want to take my husbands dick up my ass sooo bad, but every time I try it is so painful that I almost cry and have to stop. I have tried lots of lube, anal eaze, butt plugs, relaxing, I don't know what else to do.

 

[mentionME]

Blank manual had some good tips

 

[silverwhisper]

memorable, have you used dildos or fingers to prepare yourself for your husband's cock? that might be the missing element.

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[shankinbro]

Do the Following with lots of Lube(no numbing lube, pain is a useful indicator) and patience. There should be no pain. If there's pain slow down.

Anal Sex and Anal Play are a lot about noticing certain sensations and training your mind to feel pleasure from them.

1) Start slow with a finger and do circles around your sphincter.
Feel the bumps as you glide over them, and more more importantly relax into the feeling

When you feel relaxed procede to 2.

2)Push on the side of your sphincter (not right in the center) until you're asshole bends a bit. Then push the finger in. Take note of the sensations. If this is something you want to enjoy then you have to appreciate it. Pull on the sides of your asshole in different directions. Get used to the stretching feeling. Pain here is not good. But the stretching feeling is a little different then pain. Dont overdo it and go slow.

When you feel relaxed more, pull your asshole one way and insert another finger. Again the sensations. Pause your fingers and bite down on them with your anus. Try and hold it for a few seconds and relax.
Pull on the sides of your asshole again. Enjoy the stretching and keep repeating it until your asshole feels more relaxed.

3) I recommend a medium size butt plug to help train your ass simply because the small ones are too tiny. Remove your fingers and take in the feeling of emptiness. Then grab the buttplug and, after a generous amount of lubing, slowly work it in.

Keep inserting until you start to feel a little bit of pain or that stretching feeling. Ease back and little bit and bite down on the plug as hard as you can(try not the let the plug slip out. You want to start your bite at a point close to your limit. Keep your hard bite on the plug and slid it out (dont let it exit you completely). Then push it back in. You want to tire out your asshole so it loses its bite, so you need to work the muscle till it gets tired. Keep repeating this until you can work the plug into your asshole. You can feel free to take pauses if you'd like, just dont remove the plug unless it really needs Lube. I've found my anal experience to be better if nothing needs to exit and reenter me. (sliding is ok, but I have issues with a full exit).

Again concentrate on the sensations. This is something you want to enjoy.
Essentially use buttplugs and dildos to work your way up to bigger things and pain should never be an issue. Make sure you can get used to the circumference before you get used to the fucking motions.

 

[susankimlover]

HELP! I want to take my husbands dick up my ass sooo bad, but every time I try it is so painful that I almost cry and have to stop. I have tried lots of lube, anal eaze, butt plugs, relaxing, I don't know what else to do.

Yep, me too. Don't like it. Too tight.

 

[shankinbro]

Yep, me too. Don't like it. Too tight.

Even if anal intercourse is too much, i recommend other types of anal additions into your play.

 

[Vixandra]

A good, world rocking g-spot orgasm should be your first order of business, especially if you're multi-orgasmic.

Lube up.

Start small and work up to his size. There are a multitude of graduated anal plugs on the market, find one that goes up to his size.

More lube.

SLOWLY, with more lube.



Are you able to orgasm from anal masturbation? Do you know what feels good and doesn't hurt back there? If not, you should explore this before making another go at anal sex. If you expect it to hurt, it probably will. But if you know you can orgasm with something in your ass and it feels wonderful, it makes the whole thing easier.

 

[namitha]

that is very good guide . Thanks

 

[squarejohn]

Are you sure you don't have a bad case of hemorrhoids?

 

[brickroadray]

HELP! I want to take my husbands dick up my ass sooo bad, but every time I try it is so painful that I almost cry and have to stop. I have tried lots of lube, anal eaze, butt plugs, relaxing, I don't know what else to do.

mmm, your husband's a lucky guy! My wife will NOT even consider it, and may I say your ass is beautiful!!

 

[Malach78]

There are some people who have naturally small sphincters so no matter how much product assistance you use it just may not be physically possible. Try getting a small/thin dildo and have him work it in you while he is taking you from the front. That may work...