Ques. for the bi. and les. girls

[sexy-girl]

As for enjoying raping another, no. I would never willingly harm another person. I was alluding to a mock sexual assault in my response to you while my original comment to sexy-girl was more playing on a characteristic for her amusement.

no way ... you mean we shouldn't take every single word you say 100% literally?

 

[greek goddess]

I would if he - and she's - good looking. But then again, I'm pretty bi...

I really like the idea of getting involved with a happily married couple who just want to experiment. An I really like the idea of wifey getting pleasure from both of us at the same time.

Just my own little prediliction - see my stories!

GG

 

[Frimost]

Aggression is a slippery word. In my daily, quotidian life I manifest no aggression and experience few aggressive feelings. In various environments or situations, however, I can exhibit a great deal of aggression. I don't believe this is actual hostility on my part. Most of the people in my family have the same tendency and as I wasn't raised with them I suspect it's just a quirk of our endocrine system.

As for enjoying raping another, no. I would never willingly harm another person. I was alluding to a mock sexual assault in my response to you while my original comment to sexy-girl was more playing on a characteristic for her amusement.

Your responses are so clinically crisp and precise yet something is lacking...Do you work in the medical field (like a doctor, nurse, or in pharmacy) or perhaps in an Academic occupation?

 

[Never]

No, I don't work in the medical field. I'm in IT.

What was lacking?

 

[Frimost]

No, I don't work in the medical field. I'm in IT.

What was lacking?

Ummm...Basically I did not feel in emotion in the response. The answers were kind of technical, cut and dry, sort of like the filing of a report or rendering of a diagnosis. Not that there is anything wrong with that, it just struck me as a little odd.

 

[John Doe]

Stuponfucious:
" I might volunteer to be the rapee."
I find this amusing as I was typing up a rape scene with you in it last Saturday. I've forgotten why I was raping you in that story, though.

Really? May I read it?

As for enjoying raping another, no. I would never willingly harm another person..

So does that mean you and sexy-girl won't be anally raping me, then?

 

[kbate]

Would you or would you not be interested in a 3some if you really really liked the girl but her bf isn't very appealing to you?

No. No way, Never, Will Not Happen, Worst Episode Ever.

Even if it was the only way I could be with a girl I really liked, I would pass on the threesome. Fulfilling the male sexual fantasy for a threesome might be acceptable for some, but for me it is impossible to comprehend.

 

[Etoile]

I can conceive of the idea, but it would depend entirely on what the guy was like. For example, I'd prefer a guy that I find attractive, which means androgynous or feminine in both appearance and attitude. I would also not be interested in him being sexually aggressive and forcing or even coercing me into something I didn't want to do.

I do want to emphasize, though, that a bisexual episode does NOT make a lesbian into a bisexual. Lesbianism is tied as much to who you fuck as it is to political, cultural, and social identity. In fact, witness author Susie Bright, who for years called herself "a lesbian who loves cock." That's perfectly valid to me - some people might describe her as a bisexual, but if she labels herself as a lesbian, that's how she views herself and that's what she is. (I think she might be married to a guy now though...?)

 

[Equinoxe]

I do want to emphasize, though, that a bisexual episode does NOT make a lesbian into a bisexual. Lesbianism is tied as much to who you fuck as it is to political, cultural, and social identity. In fact, witness author Susie Bright, who for years called herself "a lesbian who loves cock." That's perfectly valid to me - some people might describe her as a bisexual, but if she labels herself as a lesbian, that's how she views herself and that's what she is. (I think she might be married to a guy now though...?)

I don't know, I find that odd and a little bit bending the rules, but it's not my decision how others choose to identify themselves and I don't really care. Persons are free and more than welcome to define themselves. Indeed, I think it is the individuals responsibility to define his or herself.

 

[Etoile]

I don't know, I find that odd and a little bit bending the rules, but it's not my decision how others choose to identify themselves and I don't really care. Persons are free and more than welcome to define themselves. Indeed, I think it is the individuals responsibility to define his or herself.

You seem to be contradicting yourself in this post - first you say it's odd and bending the rules, and then you say it's up to the individual!

Here's my question for you, then: who wrote the rules?

 

[Equinoxe]

You seem to be contradicting yourself in this post - first you say it's odd and bending the rules, and then you say it's up to the individual!

Here's my question for you, then: who wrote the rules?

I'm not contradicting myself, it's a bit complicated and convoluted you see. I said that you're bending the rules with that definition. Later, I suggested that the rules should be disbanded. It's not contradiction, its side-stepping, there's a slight difference.

 

[Etoile]

Here's another question (for anybody to answer):

Does having a relationship with someone who is male-identified make me a bisexual instead of a lesbian? Does it matter what genitals my Daddy happens to have? Have you, in your mind, decided what physical sex characteristics my Daddy has - either a live penis or a vagina and a strap-on? (I have talked about giving blowjobs, so the strap-on bit should be an obvious conclusion.) What if my Daddy is intersexed or transgendered (pre- or post-transition)?

Perhaps the most important questions: Do you feel that, based on your mental image of my partners, you know what I "really" am? (lesbian or bi?) And do you think it should matter to me, or should I choose my own labels and identification?

added: I'm not looking for you to tell me what sex you think my Daddy is, or whether I'm lesbian or bi, etc. I'm just wondering if you've formed those mental images in your mind, so feel free to just answer yes or no. If you feel you must, though, please do - but I won't tell you the answers as I know them!

 

[Etoile]

I'm not contradicting myself, it's a bit complicated and convoluted you see. I said that you're bending the rules with that definition. Later, I suggested that the rules should be disbanded. It's not contradiction, its side-stepping, there's a slight difference.

Heh! Alright then.

 

[Equinoxe]

Originally posted by Etoile
Here's another question (for anybody to answer):

Does having a relationship with someone who is male-identified make me a bisexual instead of a lesbian? Does it matter what genitals my Daddy happens to have? Have you, in your mind, decided what physical sex characteristics my Daddy has - either a live penis or a vagina and a strap-on? (I have talked about giving blowjobs, so the strap-on bit should be an obvious conclusion.) What if my Daddy is intersexed or transgendered (pre- or post-transition)?

Perhaps the most important questions: Do you feel that, based on your mental image of my partners, you know what I "really" am? (lesbian or bi?) And do you think it should matter to me, or should I choose my own labels and identification?

I've always refused to form an opinion as to the gender of that person, but secretly suspected that e might be intersexed.

However, as I said I don't feel you should care what others think of the label you choose to identify yourself, I just find it slightly odd, given the words you have chosen to use.

mod edit: I goofed and clicked "edit" instead of "quote" - didn't realize what I was doing until I'd already posted - whoops! fortunately going back a couple of pages enabled me to restore the original message. sorry!

 

[Equinoxe]

Heh! Alright then.

Indeed.

 

[Etoile]

Originally posted by Equinoxe
I've always refused to form an opinion as to the gender of that person

Now that is a most excellent answer

but secretly suspected that e might be intersexed.

I added a bit on my question post that says I'm not looking for more than yes or no, but I do find it interesting to see what people have come up with.

However, as I said I don't feel you should care what other what label you choose to identify yourself, I just find it slightly odd, given the words you have chosen to use.

That's perfectly valid, although there are lesbian Daddies too. I'm certain I haven't mentioned recently that my Daddy is male-identified when we're together. Not to muddy the waters or anything, but I decline to indicate how e identifies when we're not together.

Oh, and there are a very select few people on this board to whom I've disclosed the "truth" about what I'm asking here. I trust them not to say anything.

 

[Equinoxe]

Now that is a most excellent answer

I absolutely mean it to, I have intentionally refused to categorise em in my mind.

I added a bit on my question post that says I'm not looking for more than yes or no, but I do find it interesting to see what people have come up with.

Well then, you shouldn't have quoted me so I can't go back and change it. You may do as you wish to remedy that, if you like.

That's perfectly valid, although there are lesbian Daddies too. I'm certain I haven't mentioned recently that my Daddy is male-identified when we're together. Not to muddy the waters or anything, but I decline to indicate how e identifies when we're not together.

I was just saying that in a way from my perspective it's a bit like identifying oneself as being Jewish and by that to mean he or she is a pagan of Irish descent. It's his or her business, not mine, I just find it odd that one who would choose to identify his or herself with a pre-existing concept and use it to mean something else. Furthermore it was intended in a broad sense, not as a specific comment on you or any one you know.

I'm reasonably consistent on this as well, just as an aside, I mean I sort of think the same thing about open marriages. If one believes in the concept of marriage, then I understand why one would want to get married. However, if a person is going to completely disregard the idea as it stands, I almost don't see the point, why not just remain without the societal and state intervention? Except maybe for tax breaks and social acceptance I suppose.

I do not judge though, it is not for me to decide how others live their lives, but I do have opinions on the matter and many others.

Oh, and there are a very select few people on this board to whom I've disclosed the "truth" about what I'm asking here. I trust them not to say anything.

Well, I trust that if they have your confidence then they shall not betray it.

 

[Never]

It's interesting, when Etoile talks about her Daddy she always acquires a thick cockney accent.

Etoile:
" Here's another [long set of questions] (for anybody to answer):
Does having a relationship with someone who is male-identified make me a bisexual instead of a lesbian?"
No.

"Does it matter what genitals my Daddy happens to have?"
Yes.

" Have you, in your mind, decided what physical sex characteristics my Daddy has - either a live penis or a vagina and a strap-on?"
Yes.

"What if my Daddy is intersexed or transgendered (pre- or post-transition)?"
If you don't tell me then how can that change my mental picture?

"Do you feel that, based on your mental image of my partners, you know what I "really" am? (lesbian or bi?)"
I've given you a label but labels are rarely perfect fits. Even the labels I give myself aren't perfect fits.

"And do you think it should matter to me, or should I choose my own labels and identification?"
Yes and yes.

 

[Etoile]

"What if my Daddy is intersexed or transgendered (pre- or post-transition)?"
If you don't tell me then how can that change my mental picture?

Heh! I just meant that question to relate to the penis or vagina bit.

going to bed now, looking forward to more responses later if there are any!
for Never
for Equinoxe

 

[Equinoxe]

Good night.

 

[Never]

Okay then it's another 'no'.

Goodnight Etoile.

 

[Guest]

I would just seduce the girlfriend and slip away from the guy.

What's the point in having a threesome if one of the people isn't interested in BOTH of the other people involved?

 

[RavenousRae]

I don't think I would be involved with a threesome unless I was comfortable with both people. I had a female friend who was seriously dating someone and they decided they wanted to have a threesome, since I was one of the only bi-women they knew - they asked me. That is a very difficult scenario to be apart of, I was attracted to my friend but I knew I could never go through with what they wanted of me. I've never been involved with a threesome first of all but then to complicate it with friendship and with someone I don't find particuarly appealing physically or mentally then that would ruin the experience. I assume that a threesome is similiar to a couple having sex - you both want to be in the same mind frame and have the same desires fulfilled, when you add an extra person then that complicates it and you have to make sure you aren't leaving one person out or that everyone is getting what they want. Sounds to difficult for me. I'll wait until I meet the right person or persons . . .

 

[niteloser]

I would. But my attention would be on her not him.

 

[Ucellis]

mm.. its just really hard to find the right person that both like and wont get jealous of.. my thing is i really want it with two boys.. and nobody ive dated has accepted that yet. I still find it amusing that people find it more accepting of two girls then boys.. which is also fine by me but I like switching things around as well..