Ques. for the bi. and les. girls

[John Doe]

Here's another question (for anybody to answer):

Does having a relationship with someone who is male-identified make me a bisexual instead of a lesbian?

Depends on why you're a lesbian.

Does it matter what genitals my Daddy happens to have?

More or less, but I'd say not so much as far as what you identify as. You have no aversion to phalluses, so maybe you'd get a kick out of a female Daddy.

Have you, in your mind, decided what physical sex characteristics my Daddy has - either a live penis or a vagina and a strap-on? (I have talked about giving blowjobs, so the strap-on bit should be an obvious conclusion.) What if my Daddy is intersexed or transgendered (pre- or post-transition)?

Decided? not exactly. I could guess. I think that as a lesbian and the fact that you've said your Daddy "identifies" as male, that your Daddy is probably a biological female.

Perhaps the most important questions: Do you feel that, based on your mental image of my partners, you know what I "really" am? (lesbian or bi?) And do you think it should matter to me, or should I choose my own labels and identification?

If it doesn't matter to you, then I wonder why you're even asking these questions. I base mainly what I think you "really" are though on what you've said.

added: I'm not looking for you to tell me what sex you think my Daddy is, or whether I'm lesbian or bi, etc. I'm just wondering if you've formed those mental images in your mind, so feel free to just answer yes or no. If you feel you must, though, please do - but I won't tell you the answers as I know them!

Nor would I expect you to. Your Daddy as I understand the situation has asked or told you not to divulge that information and I wouldn't ask you to violate that trust.

 

[Etoile]

Stuponfucious:
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[MintSoda]

I'm going to be another vote for the "no way" camp. Personally the whole three way thing isn't really my style to begin with, it seems chaotic and clumsy, chaos good, chaos with clumsy and confused not good.

Besides when I'm in the mood for female...I'm really ONLY in the mood for female, not her hanger on boyfriend.

 

[John Doe]

Stuponfucious:
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Cum again? Did I give good answers?

 

[Etoile]

Cum again? Did I give good answers?

Your answers just made me want to hug you, that's all. Watch it, next time I might squeeze so tight your eyes bug out!

 

[KharisLeaf82]

Damn you, Mint Soda

I'm going to be another vote for the "no way" camp. Personally the whole three way thing isn't really my style to begin with, it seems chaotic and clumsy, chaos good, chaos with clumsy and confused not good.

Besides when I'm in the mood for female...I'm really ONLY in the mood for female, not her hanger on boyfriend.

You read my mind. . .When I want That's ALL I want. . .no boyfriends, no hangers on, maybe a strap on, but that's IT. I may like and but NEVER both at the same time, dammit!

*Kharis*

 

[John Doe]

Your answers just made me want to hug you, that's all. Watch it, next time I might squeeze so tight your eyes bug out!

Thank you. Um, not to look a gift hug in the arms, but...why?

 

[Etoile]

Thank you. Um, not to look a gift hug in the arms, but...why?

I'm friendly! Why not?

 

[John Doe]

I'm friendly! Why not?

Well, I was just wondering if there was something specific about my asnweres you liked or if you just felt like hugging me.

 

[Frimost]

You read my mind. . .When I want That's ALL I want. . .no boyfriends, no hangers on, maybe a strap on, but that's IT. I may like and but NEVER both at the same time, dammit!

*Kharis*

I think I understand, it's all based on moods. Sometimes you feel like some nuts, sometimes you don't.

 

[kaptain karnage]

My thoughts if you're interested

Ok let me set the scene.

I'm a straight male in my early 20's with a female partner who is slightly older and bi. Those are the labels by which most people would define us although not of my own making.

I have no qualms in saying that one of my greatest fantasies would be to take part in a MFF threesome with my SO. However I am far from stupid and realise that the odds on that ever happening (or happening in a way that everyone is happy with) are minuscule.

I personally can't see why there are any straight women, I know that some find the idea of lesbian sex repulsive, and admittedly I am basing this on my male perspective of sex, but I can't see why a woman would chose guys over girls in general (obviously individual people is a different matter).

I often fantasise about being a woman and rarely do those fantasies involve me having sex with men. This reflects my fantasies as a man which again rarely involve other men and to my mind make a great deal of sense.

I am more than happy, and actively encourage, my partner to explore her bi side but understand that it is highly unlikely that I would ever become involved in that part of her sexual life. I am content to listen to her recount her experiences and relish the pictures she sometimes returns with.

While I worship women and especially lesbians I understand that they do not feel the same about me in general and therefore I know my fantasy will likely remain just that.

With regards to labels. I believe gender is a decision. You're born one gender but may chose to change (regardless of what you may be anatomically) or even opt out altogether.

I don't define my sexuality. Experience is the only definition of sexuality. I don't define myself as straight but never having had a sexual experience with another man I can't really claim to be bi or gay either. In my mind saying you're straight or your gay is a very limiting and closed label to apply to yourself.

That's just my opinion though and I would in no way attempt to force it upon anyone else, that's just the way I see it.

 

[Etoile]

I personally can't see why there are any straight women, I know that some find the idea of lesbian sex repulsive, and admittedly I am basing this on my male perspective of sex, but I can't see why a woman would chose guys over girls in general (obviously individual people is a different matter).

I can appreciate your entire post, but this part really struck me. I have had a conversation about this with a straight friend, and I actually asked her to explain to me why men were attractive to her. She gave reasons like the broadness of his chest, the strength of his muscles...but she didn't really say anything about his personality. (This was a generic guy, not an actually boyfriend.) So I don't know why some women choose guys over girls either, but they do seem to feel that it's the right thing for them.

 

[sweetnpetite]

Would you or would you not be interested in a 3some if you really really liked the girl but her bf isn't very appealing to you? Thanks for the responses. I look forward to getting any type of opinions on this! Sorry if it's been covered already though. Just kindly point me to the correct thread. Again, thank you so much!

I think it could be a possiblity, depending on what 'not very appealing' came down too. If they totally creeped me out then no, you know what I mean? But if they just didn't rev my engine but weren't a turn off then why not? You can always set rules such as "we both touch her but not each other" or "we both touch her, you can touch me, but no penetration" or "we'll tag team her and go back and forth" or whatever makes you comfortable. Later you could change the rules if you feel differently. People don't have to be good looking to be good in bed. But you obviously don't want to attempt something with someone who leaves you cold or all together turns you off.

 

[BitterIchor]

No, I wouldn't. Threesomes doesn't really interest me, and certainly not if there's a dude involved.

 

[Guest]

no way. I stay as far away from men as i can in terms of sex.