Real life reflected in your writing
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OddLove
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My stories are completely fictional, but my own experiences will inevitably influence what I write.
The most 'Me' thing about the stories is the awkwardness around intimacy. I literally can't do vanilla sex intimacy. Without some kind of 'play' whether it be a dynamic or kink, I find sex unappealing and awkward. And that's definitely bled into all my stories. There's also awkward shame around penis size in most my stories because that's someone I struggled with in my teens and twenties.
But 'myself' is in just about ever main character to some degree. I'm not sure it's possibly to not put ourselves into our work.
The most 'Me' thing about the stories is the awkwardness around intimacy. I literally can't do vanilla sex intimacy. Without some kind of 'play' whether it be a dynamic or kink, I find sex unappealing and awkward. And that's definitely bled into all my stories. There's also awkward shame around penis size in most my stories because that's someone I struggled with in my teens and twenties.
But 'myself' is in just about ever main character to some degree. I'm not sure it's possibly to not put ourselves into our work.
Stanfield2025
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I didn't always write erotica. I wrote sci-fi fanfic before this. Many years ago I lost a group of friends. Part of it was my fault, but it was an experience that affected me for a while after. Don't worry, this is relevant.
In one of the sci-fi stories I wrote, the main character lost her group of friends and as a result, joins a vigilante terrorist group. When I wrote this character, I consciously put in my experience. And while I never in the story have the narration state that this character secretly wants to replace her long-lost friends, at least one reader was able to put those pieces together and they commented about it.
Writing that story helped me get right with the irl version of that experience.
In one of the sci-fi stories I wrote, the main character lost her group of friends and as a result, joins a vigilante terrorist group. When I wrote this character, I consciously put in my experience. And while I never in the story have the narration state that this character secretly wants to replace her long-lost friends, at least one reader was able to put those pieces together and they commented about it.
Writing that story helped me get right with the irl version of that experience.
TruthwithaTwist
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Everything I write is based in truth. Real stories, real people, real locations - with things changed slightly to protect those involved. I do spice things up a bit hence the "with a twist" in my author name.
I also went through some medical issues a few years back (best wishes on recovery) and I found it VERY difficult to write during that time. My logical brain said, "You are stuck in bed, why not write?" but my physical condition said otherwise. I just couldn't drum up sexy tales while I was injured and not 100%.
In general, I do think my work is affected by whatever is happening in my current life. Often, I will have not have thought of a relationship or encounter in years, then something sparks the memory. I'll make a note of it and then use that memory for a story (bonus if I can tie it into a contest!)
I also went through some medical issues a few years back (best wishes on recovery) and I found it VERY difficult to write during that time. My logical brain said, "You are stuck in bed, why not write?" but my physical condition said otherwise. I just couldn't drum up sexy tales while I was injured and not 100%.
In general, I do think my work is affected by whatever is happening in my current life. Often, I will have not have thought of a relationship or encounter in years, then something sparks the memory. I'll make a note of it and then use that memory for a story (bonus if I can tie it into a contest!)
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