ToPleaseHim
JtohisPB/Brooke :)
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- Dec 9, 2008
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Also going on the record against the terms “true doms” and “true subs.” The spectrum of BDSM is so wide and varied and there is not one true way. Informed consent is the key. While there isn’t one true way, there are things that are inherently wrong (as recently evidenced in this thread).
I have been extremely fortunate in my BDSM relationships. My two prior long-term dominant partners were met here and my current (and hopefully forever partner) guy I met volunteering for the same program. All three are absolute gentleman. They are respectful, articulate, and so fucking intelligent. They have a calm, commanding demeanor. They are all also what I like to playfully call “Scary Boy Scouts” (I definitely have a type, lol).
They push boundaries at times, but would never play without a safeword. I’ve safeworded one time. And it wasn’t because the play got dangerous. It was more that I was so swept up and kind of lost myself and felt unsteady and needed a break. He and I established a green light, yellow light, red light system after that. Saying yellow would result in a break. Red stops all play. I’ve never had to do it again, but I could and he would respect it
I have been extremely fortunate in my BDSM relationships. My two prior long-term dominant partners were met here and my current (and hopefully forever partner) guy I met volunteering for the same program. All three are absolute gentleman. They are respectful, articulate, and so fucking intelligent. They have a calm, commanding demeanor. They are all also what I like to playfully call “Scary Boy Scouts” (I definitely have a type, lol).
They push boundaries at times, but would never play without a safeword. I’ve safeworded one time. And it wasn’t because the play got dangerous. It was more that I was so swept up and kind of lost myself and felt unsteady and needed a break. He and I established a green light, yellow light, red light system after that. Saying yellow would result in a break. Red stops all play. I’ve never had to do it again, but I could and he would respect it