Romance vs. Raunch

[cyikac1986]

Hmmmmm...seems this thread has died a slow death, lol. Maybe we need to discuss the raunch aspect a bit more....people seem to be afraid of the romance.

 

[bashfull]

Howdy Cy! {{grope}} So get raunchy, darlin!

 

[cyikac1986]

I think we need to explore what Raunch is first. The dictionary tells us:

raun·chy [ ráwnchee ] (comparative raun·chi·er, superlative raun·chi·est)
Adjective
Definition:

1. sexually explicit: sexually explicit or suggestive in an earthy or vulgar way ( informal )

2. messy: lacking cleanliness or neatness ( slang )

[Mid-20th century. Origin ?]

raun·chi·ly adverb
raun·chi·ness noun

A Thesaurus tell us

Synonyms: vulgar, crude, earthy, gross, bawdy, rude, coarse, rough, dirty

I think it depends on how you look at the word and it's applications. One person's concept of raunch is different from another's. I look at raunchy by it's synonyms earthy and bawdy...to me it means to behave just slightly out of the realm of decent public behavior, to push the limits of what is commonly accepted, to behave in a private situation that totally belies my public persona.

For example, this is part of a story I wrote for someone:

I am staring at the book on the floor as if it was about to jump up and bite me. You calmly walk over to me and ask me to pick it up from the floor. I rise from the sofa and make my way over to the window, ignoring you. You walk up behind me, close but not touching. I can feel your breath on my neck and smell your scent. I think this is what anger smells like. You sniff my hair and neck like a predator smelling over prey. You can smell my fear but I do not move.

You smile and slowly reach up, snaking your hand into my hair. You play with the tresses, letting them run through your fingers. It feels so good, your hand hot against my head. Suddenly you tighten your fist and force my head back. You run your lips across my neck, nipping a little. I can’t help but moan. You whisper into my ear, “Pick the book up” and bite down on my earlobe.

You force me back towards the sofa and bend me down towards the dropped tome. Some of the pages have been bent and you grunt your disapproval. I reach down to pick up the book, my skirt molding to my ass, riding up far enough in the back you can see the top of my stockings. You smile because that means no pantyhose to get in your way. I stand back up, holding the book out to you, waiting for you to say something, anything.

There is no sound from you. You look at the book in my hand then back at me. My breathing becomes ragged as I am unsure what you will do next. You take the book and toss it across the room at the same time throwing me onto the couch. Jerking my head around to face you, you sit next to me. I try to get up but your hold on me is too strong. I struggle but you are too strong.

To some this may be romantic to me raunch..again out of what I would consider characteristic behaviour for me.

Well...anyone out there want to offer an opinion on what raunch is to you?

 

[angel_girl]

I think we need to explore what Raunch is first. The dictionary tells us:

raun·chy [ ráwnchee ] (comparative raun·chi·er, superlative raun·chi·est)
Adjective
Definition:

1. sexually explicit: sexually explicit or suggestive in an earthy or vulgar way ( informal )

2. messy: lacking cleanliness or neatness ( slang )

[Mid-20th century. Origin ?]

raun·chi·ly adverb
raun·chi·ness noun

A Thesaurus tell us

Synonyms: vulgar, crude, earthy, gross, bawdy, rude, coarse, rough, dirty

I think it depends on how you look at the word and it's applications. One person's concept of rauch is different from another's. I look at rauchy by it's synonyms earthy and bawdy...to me it means to behave just slightly out of the realm of decent public behavior, to push the limits of what is commonly accepted, to behave in a private situation that totally belies my public persona.

For example, this is part of a story I wrote for someone:

I am staring at the book on the floor as if it was about to jump up and bite me. You calmly walk over to me and ask me to pick it up from the floor. I rise from the sofa and make my way over to the window, ignoring you. You walk up behind me, close but not touching. I can feel your breath on my neck and smell your scent. I think this is what anger smells like. You sniff my hair and neck like a predator smelling over prey. You can smell my fear but I do not move.

You smile and slowly reach up, snaking your hand into my hair. You play with the tresses, letting them run through your fingers. It feels so good, your hand hot against my head. Suddenly you tighten your fist and force my head back. You run your lips across my neck, nipping a little. I can’t help but moan. You whisper into my ear, “Pick the book up” and bite down on my earlobe.

You force me back towards the sofa and bend me down towards the dropped tome. Some of the pages have been bent and you grunt your disapproval. I reach down to pick up the book, my skirt molding to my ass, riding up far enough in the back you can see the top of my stockings. You smile because that means no pantyhose to get in your way. I stand back up, holding the book out to you, waiting for you to say something, anything.

There is no sound from you. You look at the book in my hand then back at me. My breathing becomes ragged as I am unsure what you will do next. You take the book and toss it across the room at the same time throwing me onto the couch. Jerking my head around to face you, you sit next to me. I try to get up but your hold on me is too strong. I struggle but you are too strong.

To some this may be romantic to me rauch..again out of what I would consider characteristic behaviour for me.

Well...anyone out there want to offer an opinion on what rauch is to you?

That's completey erotic to me...not raunchy at all. For me its all about the elegance of the writing. You could have arrived at the same place using far fewer words and a lot more slang (which implies 'nasty'). This (and writings like it) are word paintings. Raunch is like tagging or really bad graffiti.

Make any sense? (I haven't had coffee yet, so it's sort of hit or miss with me until then. )

 

[bashfull]

I think we need to explore what Raunch is first. The dictionary tells us:

raun·chy [ ráwnchee ] (comparative raun·chi·er, superlative raun·chi·est)
Adjective
Definition:

1. sexually explicit: sexually explicit or suggestive in an earthy or vulgar way ( informal )

2. messy: lacking cleanliness or neatness ( slang )

[Mid-20th century. Origin ?]

raun·chi·ly adverb
raun·chi·ness noun

A Thesaurus tell us

Synonyms: vulgar, crude, earthy, gross, bawdy, rude, coarse, rough, dirty

I think it depends on how you look at the word and it's applications. One person's concept of rauch is different from another's. I look at rauchy by it's synonyms earthy and bawdy...to me it means to behave just slightly out of the realm of decent public behavior, to push the limits of what is commonly accepted, to behave in a private situation that totally belies my public persona.

For example, this is part of a story I wrote for someone:

I am staring at the book on the floor as if it was about to jump up and bite me. You calmly walk over to me and ask me to pick it up from the floor. I rise from the sofa and make my way over to the window, ignoring you. You walk up behind me, close but not touching. I can feel your breath on my neck and smell your scent. I think this is what anger smells like. You sniff my hair and neck like a predator smelling over prey. You can smell my fear but I do not move.

You smile and slowly reach up, snaking your hand into my hair. You play with the tresses, letting them run through your fingers. It feels so good, your hand hot against my head. Suddenly you tighten your fist and force my head back. You run your lips across my neck, nipping a little. I can’t help but moan. You whisper into my ear, “Pick the book up” and bite down on my earlobe.

You force me back towards the sofa and bend me down towards the dropped tome. Some of the pages have been bent and you grunt your disapproval. I reach down to pick up the book, my skirt molding to my ass, riding up far enough in the back you can see the top of my stockings. You smile because that means no pantyhose to get in your way. I stand back up, holding the book out to you, waiting for you to say something, anything.

There is no sound from you. You look at the book in my hand then back at me. My breathing becomes ragged as I am unsure what you will do next. You take the book and toss it across the room at the same time throwing me onto the couch. Jerking my head around to face you, you sit next to me. I try to get up but your hold on me is too strong. I struggle but you are too strong.

To some this may be romantic to me rauch..again out of what I would consider characteristic behaviour for me.

Well...anyone out there want to offer an opinion on what rauch is to you?

Yanno, that's pretty good! Didn't know you had a submissive side to ya', darlin'...hmmmmm

And raunchy for me is along the lines of suggestive and bawdy. Not necessarily crude...

 

[cyikac1986]

Then let me continue this story...totally out of character for me but again my definition of raunch:

Your free hand comes around, grabbing a hold of the front of my blouse. You undo the buttons, somehow managing not to tear them from me. Your hand reaches in and grasps my lace covered breast. You roughly squeeze my breast, pausing to pinch and pull the nipple through my bra. I squeal and you hesitate as if evaluating the noise. You pull the blouse from me and sit back. I gasp and stare back at you with wide eyes.

I try to get up but you pull me back down against you. You reach around and deftly with one hand undo and remove my bra, tossing it aside. My breath is coming in ragged gasps, causing my breast to rise and fall. You watch me and I start to struggle again. You haul me over your lap, your jeans rough against my bare breasts. I can feel your arousal through your pants poking me.

You press my face down into the couch, muffling my yips of protest. With one hand you reach under my skirt and hike it over my ass with a little difficulty. I’m wearing lacy black panties which you had requested and black thigh high stockings which were a surprise. My movements have forced my panties into the crack of my ass and you caress my bare bottom. I suddenly still and I’m frightened.

You can feel me trembling at your touch and you smile. My hips are moving slightly across your lap, caressing your erection. You can feel the heat from my pussy through my panties. You reach to cup a check in your hand causing me to jump, startled at the softer touch. You grab a handful of my ass, moving it so my panties go further into my crack. My breathing has become labored and I cannot stifle the moan that escapes my lips.

So...does this fit anyone's definition of raunch as well?

 

[angel_girl]

Then let me continue this story...totally out of character for me but again me definition of raunch:

Your free hand comes around, grabbing a hold of the front of my blouse. You undo the buttons, somehow managing not to tear them from me. Your hand reaches in and grasps my lace covered breast. You roughly squeeze my breast, pausing to pinch and pull the nipple through my bra. I squeal and you hesitate as if evaluating the noise. You pull the blouse from me and sit back. I gasp and stare back at you with wide eyes.

I try to get up but you pull me back down against you. You reach around and deftly with one hand undo and remove my bra, tossing it aside. My breath is coming in ragged gasps, causing my breast to rise and fall. You watch me and I start to struggle again. You haul me over your lap, your jeans rough against my bare breasts. I can feel your arousal through your pants poking me.

You press my face down into the couch, muffling my yips of protest. With one hand you reach under my skirt and hike it over my ass with a little difficulty. I’m wearing lacy black panties which you had requested and black thigh high stockings which were a surprise. My movements have forced my panties into the crack of my ass and you caress my bare bottom. I suddenly still and I’m frightened.

You can feel me trembling at your touch and you smile. My hips are moving slightly across your lap, caressing your erection. You can feel the heat from my pussy through my panties. You reach to cup a check in your hand causing me to jump, startled at the softer touch. You grab a handful of my ass, moving it so my panties go further into my crack. My breathing has become labored and I cannot stifle the moan that escapes my lips.

So...does this fit anyone's definition of raunch as well?

Still not raunchy to me. Hot, yes. Maybe the difference between hard core and soft core porn. Hard Core/Raunch is all about the money shot. Soft Core is more about the whole experience.

 

[bashfull]

Yes, this is bawdy...and quite good, I might add. I want to know where it goes!

 

[cyikac1986]

Ah now, we can't let this thread die. So let's talk more about romance.

What are romantic gestures to you? There are the standard ones...bringing flowers, opening a door, holding a chair, holding hands... but I see romance in other gestures as well.

For me...leaving a note on the seat of my car, touching my hair and playing with it absently, listening to my inane rambles, a light kiss on the temple as he walks by,
an intense stare during lovemaking as if we are the only 2 people in the world...no grandiose gestures, just little things that say I matter.

 

[bashfull]

Bump!

 

[cyikac1986]

Bump!

Well?

 

[cyikac1986]

Ah.. how about more romantic gestures...

joining me in the shower and washing my hair
giving me the warm side of the bed on a cold winter's night
a single flower in a paper cup on the kitchen counter
scraping the frost off my windsheild in the morning
sending an email of just a smiley face to let me know he is thinking of me


Nothing grandiose...no diamonds, no furs, no limos can take the place of the small gestures that are more heartfelt

 

[bashfull]

Something as simple as starting her car and warming it up on a cold morning?
Helping her with her coat, my hands taking her hair and sweeping it back out of the collar before leaning in and kissing the back of her neck?

 

[cyikac1986]

Hmmmmm.......but it shouldn't be all one sided now should it....


Giving him a back rub as he sits at his desk doing the bills
Driving to his office and leaving a bag of his favorite treat on the seat of his car
Washing his hair for him (and any other parts..oops is that raunchy or romantic?)
Just stroking the side of his face while he sleeps
Running to the door as soon as he walks in to plant a big kiss on him
Just giving him the space to be who he is

 

[Honey123]

Haven't visited this place much lately... but I sure am glad this thread is still up and running!!!

Hey bash.

 

[bashfull]

Haven't visited this place much lately... but I sure am glad this thread is still up and running!!!

Hey bash.

*bows* Howdy, darlin'. Sure have missed you.

 

[kiten69]

Long overdue *BUMP*

Where is that bashful lil dwarf?

 

[GoldenGams]

This thread could not have been bumped at a better time.

I treasure both. I love when they intertwine. At its best, one leads to the other. When they're mixed in the right time, the results are magical!

 

[cyikac1986]

nice to see this thread brought back to life

 

[LustfulOne50]

Is it possible for a man to be both a gentleman and the "bad boy" that women want him to be? Can there coexist romance and ruanch?

Most of all romance is commuication: ie, verbal imagination and imagery. Just what do we need to get across to the other person to help them understand how we feel about and what they mean to us as a person. Some may use there as throw ways to meet a immedate need such as sex and there is nothing wrong with that as long as both have the same understanding going into the relationship, but to the raunchy part is to use to take advantage of nother person, to string them along so to say.

So,can there coexist romance and ruanch? the anwser is yes for it is in mind of those involved as to what it is....my two cent.

 

[smotherman]

Yes, I believe both can coexist. There's a time and place for both! I'm a romantic gentleman but can also be a bad boy!

 

[bashfull]

Wow, I'd completely forgotten about this thread. Boy, did we have some great discussions on here! Welcome ya'll.

 

[cyikac1986]

They were fun weren't they.

I challenge you...make a list of 5 romantic gestures and then a list of 5 things you think are raunchy...

 

[bashfull]

They were fun weren't they.

I challenge you...make a list of 5 romantic gestures and then a list of 5 things you think are raunchy...

but aren't the two intertwined, darlin? Let's see your list.

 

[kiten69]

Let's see your list.

Romantic
~poetry by candlelight
~moonlit walks on the beach
~bubble baths
~getting flowers unexpectedly
~holding hands with that someone special

Raunchy
~a short skirt in public (sans panties)
~going out to dinner and "playing" under the table (the above item is useful for this)
~sex in a dressing room (during the busy time of the day)
~afternoon phone sex (while one part of the equation is at work)
~sending naughty text messages (not sure where he is at and who he is with when he opens it)