Seeking redemption

[ms_ann_thrope]

the confession was the redemption but u r entitled to your opinion. If u have a partner, I hope for your sake he/she shares ur extremist views surrounding redemption

Do you think you deserve redemption?

 

[Zephyr_82]

Do you think you deserve redemption?

that's a matter of opinion, considering the circumstances. But even if I don't deserve it, I don't suppose i'll be cutting my dick off

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

that's a matter of opinion, considering the circumstances. But even if I don't deserve it, I don't suppose i'll be cutting my dick off

It's not a matter of opinion. Do YOU think you deserve redemption? Do you plan to continue to cheat on your wife? Are you sure she isn't cheating on you?

 

[Zephyr_82]

It's not a matter of opinion. Do YOU think you deserve redemption? Do you plan to continue to cheat on your wife? Are you sure she isn't cheating on you?

I never planned on cheating, I didn't have any affairs. This happened on a whim on a night out with the guys, and I ended up going back. And I don't know if she is, I can only hope she isn't, we've been apart for a while now

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I never planned on cheating, I didn't have any affairs. This happened on a whim on a night out with the guys, and I ended up going back. And I don't know if she is, I can only hope she isn't, we've been apart for a while now

I'm not judging you. You, however, need to realize that you did cheat, you did "have affairs." Your wife would consider repeated sexual activity with one or more masseuse as such, I'm quite sure. If she won't, then what's the big deal.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

I never planned on cheating, I didn't have any affairs. This happened on a whim on a night out with the guys, and I ended up going back. And I don't know if she is, I can only hope she isn't, we've been apart for a while now

So, it's not really a marriage at all, is it?

 

[Zephyr_82]

I'm not judging you. You, however, need to realize that you did cheat, you did "have affairs." Your wife would consider repeated sexual activity with one or more masseuse as such, I'm quite sure. If she won't, then what's the big deal.

I did cheat, never said I didn't. If it didn't bother me at all, I wouldn't be posting this. But to me, an affair has more of a mental connection than a plain handjob which is pure physical relief.

 

[Zephyr_82]

So, it's not really a marriage at all, is it?

you may be right, only time will tell. right now all I know is I love her and I regret what i've done

 

[Saint Peter]

Did you wear a condom?


Just lie to everybody if you chose not to.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Did you wear a condom?


Just lie to everybody if you chose not to.

I didn't have sex, just handjob, so no..

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

you may be right, only time will tell. right now all I know is I love her and I regret what i've done

My advice, fuck the job and get your ass home and for God's sake don't tell her you cheated. It's your penance to just live with that guilt.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I did cheat, never said I didn't. If it didn't bother me at all, I wouldn't be posting this. But to me, an affair has more of a mental connection than a plain handjob which is pure physical relief.

Well, if it provides you relief to have confided to all of us, then more power to you.

 

[Saint Peter]

I didn't have sex, just handjob, so no..

 

[ToPleaseHim]

My advice, fuck the job and get your ass home and for God's sake don't tell her you cheated. It's your penance to just live with that guilt.

This.

 

[Zephyr_82]

My advice, fuck the job and get your ass home and for God's sake don't tell her you cheated. It's your penance to just live with that guilt.

thank you. wish it were that simple

 

[Zephyr_82]

Your masseuses are married women from Lit? Or, do you think women here are oblivious to the fact that a married man would exhibit such behavior?

if this really is the case, why am I making such a big fuss..sounds like women have accepted this sort of behavior as normal

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Aware that it's happening and accepting it are two different things. Given the conversations that happen here daily, there are few people surprised by posts like these. That doesn't mean they think it's okay. It also doesn't mean their opinions even should matter to you. We are strangers to you, words on a screen. Your opinion, your wife's opinion, that's what should matter to you.

Do you need me to tell you why you're making a big fuss? That seems silly.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Aware that it's happening and accepting it are two different things.

Do you need me to tell you why you're making a big fuss? That seems silly.

agree with ur first point..and I was joking

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

thank you. wish it were that simple

Don't overthink it.

 

[Lancecastor]

Originally Posted by Zephyr_82 View Post
I have been a happily married man, into my 30s. I work in the financial industry am able provide a decent living for the family. My wife and I are currently living separately as her ambitions to pursue her own career has taken her to a different city. This is not the first time we have been apart, she was away for more than a year earlier for her post grad. We speak as often as the time zones and work conflicts allow which is about once a day for abt 10 -15 mins. Literotica has been my friend before marriage and ever more so now. however, I'm still a red blooded male and my needs are not necessarily met through masturbation always. A couple colleagues of mine has been warming up to me recently but I did not want to be unfair to my wife, I do still love her. Recently, I started going to massage parlors where i've had my needs met through happy endings which are sometimes offered by the masseuse. I went every few weeks, and each time felt like shit afterwards, and promised myself not to go again. However I did go again and the last time had a body to body massage done to me which I guess is as close u can get to sex without penetration. I didn't plan on this and i'm guessing the masseuse didn't fall in love with me suddenly, she probably did it as i'm a generous paying customer. While its easy to laugh off a quick handjob from a masseuse amongst men, I do feel really bad doing this behind my wife's back. I have promised myself again I wont go back but I have broken that promise before. While I wait for my wife to make her decision to move back with me (eventually I do hope she will although it doesn't seem like anytime soon), what are my choices? Distraction? works for a few days only. Cybersex with wife? Timezones don't work and I don't think its practical to ask her to take time off work to do this. And truthfully its a poor substitute when you've had the real thing from the lady, we tried it once and none of us got into it.

So back to literotica it is, please do voice any unbiased opinions no matter how harsh they are..always good to reflect. thx

I think you should fuck the girls at work and not tell your (estranged) spouse.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Don't overthink it.

question, separate point. does jerking off to literotica count as cheating?

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

I think you should fuck the girls at work and not tell your (estranged) spouse.

Should he not take them home first?

 

[Zephyr_82]

I think you should fuck the girls at work and not tell your (estranged) spouse.

which one would be a worse form of cheating. or are they both the same?

 

[parodyluvr75]

I did cheat, never said I didn't. If it didn't bother me at all, I wouldn't be posting this. But to me, an affair has more of a mental connection than a plain handjob which is pure physical relief.

Unless you're looking for another masseuse with strong hands from Lit.

When one rations cheating by degrees, they aren't looking for redemption, they are looking for permission.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Unless you're looking for another masseuse with strong hands from Lit.

When one rations cheating by degrees, they aren't looking for redemption, they are looking for permission.

Its permission if you plan on continuing and redemption if you've already done it