Seeking redemption

[ms_ann_thrope]

And you're the person in the thread whom he has thanked.

People appreciate honesty. It's precious and rare.

 

[Zephyr_82]

I read no hatred in her post. You're inferring that.

What do Bluebell's opinions on masturbation matter here? Talk to your wife.

Edited to add: you just mentioned hatred again. No one here is hating you. You are reading that into their posts. Hating yourself?

I keep misreading and digging bigger holes for myself so wont comment further. Everyone's opinion matters to me which is why I posted this in the first place.
re the masturbation, I answered that separately

thanks for taking this discussion seriously.

 

[Debbie]

my wife tolerates masturbation. she knows I do it now that she's not here with me. I asked because I wanted to get a sense of what other women feel about their partners masturbating.

Im a married woman. Married for the second time. For 16 years this time round - and the last

I have no problem if my husband masturbates. I like watching too. And joining in

But I dont want his wandering willy to be getting the secret handshake of a possible happy ending with anyone other then me - or in his own hands lol

I dont own hubbys penis and Im not going to dictate a hands off policy. Masturbation is normal and healthy. There is a difference though between someone masturbating for their own pleasure and getting someone to jerk them off that isn't their spouse that they are faithful to or want to be faithful too.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Wait a minute, I kind of hate him but not for the reason he thinks.

It's you not u.

It's your not ur.

I want to bend him over a table and spank him with a hardback unabridged dictionary and that scenario wouldn't have a 'happy ending.'

This really is my first post here. I thought this was an informal discussion forum and was not aware of the intolerance for such terms. While spanking does fall under one of my many fetishes, I will make a conscious effort to avoid such terms in the future.

Thank you

 

[iamjustme4ever]

Masturbation is normal and healthy. There is a difference though between someone masturbating for their own pleasure and getting someone to jerk them off that isn't their spouse that they are faithful to or want to be faithful too.

Amen to that.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

This really is my first post here. I thought this was an informal discussion forum and was not aware of the intolerance for such terms. While spanking does fall under one of my many fetishes, I will make a conscious effort to avoid such terms in the future.

Thank you

Yet you joined up in 2011. You've been lurking for 5 years?

eww...

 

[Zephyr_82]

Im a married woman. Married for the second time. For 16 years this time round - and the last

I have no problem if my husband masturbates. I like watching too. And joining in

But I dont want his wandering willy to be getting the secret handshake of a possible happy ending with anyone other then me - or in his own hands lol

I dont own hubbys penis and Im not going to dictate a hands off policy. Masturbation is normal and healthy. There is a difference though between someone masturbating for their own pleasure and getting someone to jerk them off that isn't their spouse that they are faithful to or want to be faithful too.

Thank you. I agree with your sentiments. While there is absolutely no excuse for what I have done, this most certainly would not have happened if my wife was here to pleasure me during some very frustrating moments.

 

[Debbie]

This really is my first post here. I thought this was an informal discussion forum and was not aware of the intolerance for such terms. While spanking does fall under one of my many fetishes, I will make a conscious effort to avoid such terms in the future.

Thank you

The gb can be an interesting forum. Complex. Opinionated. Fiery at times when the odd newbie wanders in and runs like hell when they get a little litstyle roasting.

Some beat a hasty retreat and find other forums to their liking.

Sometimes people stay and find their own niche and enjoy the sometimes scathing posts and opinionated asshats.

Each to their own I say and welcome to you.

You can choose to be miffed or take what advice/opinions you think is relevant to your situation and run with it or ignore and carry on.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Yet you joined up in 2011. You've been lurking for 5 years?

eww...

Precisely..not sure how that is disgusting but haven't really visited this forum since I joined.

 

[Zephyr_82]

The gb can be an interesting forum. Complex. Opinionated. Fiery at times when the odd newbie wanders in and runs like hell when they get a little litstyle roasting.

Some beat a hasty retreat and find other forums to their liking.

Sometimes people stay and find their own niche and enjoy the sometimes scathing posts and opinionated asshats.

Each to their own I say and welcome to you.

You can choose to be miffed or take what advice/opinions you think is relevant to your situation and run with it or ignore and carry on.

Thanks for welcoming me. I am quite thick skinned, I don't take offense so easily. I enjoyed the reactions and the opinions (the serious ones) really did matter.

 

[Messier82]

Wait a minute, I kind of hate him but not for the reason he thinks.

It's you not u.

It's your not ur.

I want to bend him over a table and spank him with a hardback unabridged dictionary and that scenario wouldn't have a 'happy ending.'

Let me know if you'd like a helping hand.

How come Lit seems to lack a Do Not Feed The Trolls policy?

Zephyr veers between text speak and correctly punctuated contractions.
As did the recently departed Smooth wotzizname...

Just an observation.

 

[bluebell]

I can feel the hatred, you made ur point.

assuming I never go back to massages, do u think masturbation is a forgivable / permissible activity?

No hatred here, just questions. I can understand how the vocabulary is abrupt but there is no hatred. I just want to know where you feel that line is for you. When do you cross over and when does your desire trump your fidelity? If it's frustration or flippancy or even passive-aggressive anger, I think you should name it. Name it to yourself so you know what is driving you besides lust. Lust is valid but I don't believe for one moment that it's the sole reason why you find yourself stuck in this cycle.

What Brooke said below about masturbation is true, if there are issues involving masturbation then I think you really need to discuss that with your wife.
An expectation not to masturbate (especially in a situation like yours where distance is an issue) confuses me. Do you feel it's NOT permissible?

You sound very confused yourself and even conflicted as a person, and that is a rough place to be. I hope you and your wife can have a visit and really hash these things out so you are able to feel some clarity.

I read no hatred in her post. You're inferring that.

What do Bluebell's opinions on masturbation matter here? Talk to your wife.

Edited to add: you just mentioned hatred again. No one here is hating you. You are reading that into their posts. Hating yourself?

Yes, thank you.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

Let me know if you'd like a helping hand.

How come Lit seems to lack a Do Not Feed The Trolls policy?

Zephyr veers between text speak and correctly punctuated contractions.
As did the recently departed Smooth wotzizname...

Just an observation.

You mean Scotty....

 

[Zephyr_82]

No hatred here, just questions. I can understand how the vocabulary is abrupt but there is no hatred. I just want to know where you feel that line is for you. When do you cross over and when does your desire trump your fidelity? If it's frustration or flippancy or even passive-aggressive anger, I think you should name it. Name it to yourself so you know what is driving you besides lust. Lust is valid but I don't believe for one moment that it's the sole reason why you find yourself stuck in this cycle.

What Brooke said below about masturbation is true, if there are issues involving masturbation then I think you really need to discuss that with your wife.
An expectation not to masturbate (especially in a situation like yours where distance is an issue) confuses me. Do you feel it's NOT permissible?

You sound very confused yourself and even conflicted as a person, and that is a rough place to be. I hope you and your wife can have a visit and really hash these things out so you are able to feel some clarity.



Yes, thank you.

The cross over line is when you crave female touch and love after months of having gone without it. It's a combination of frustration, loneliness, and to a lesser extent the anger of being abandoned. My choice was poor and as I mentioned in the beginning, I regretted it deeply each time.

I believe I have answered all your remaining questions in separate posts

 

[Debbie]

The cross over line is when you crave female touch and love after months of having gone without it. It's a combination of frustration, loneliness, and to a lesser extent the anger of being abandoned. My choice was poor and as I mentioned in the beginning, I regretted it deeply each time.

I believe I have answered all your remaining questions in separate posts

Have you had this discussion with her?

If you feel all of the above maybe your relationship has run it's course but no one is emailing the Dear John/Jane letters.

 

[Zephyr_82]

Have you had this discussion with her?

If you feel all of the above maybe your relationship has run it's course but no one is emailing the Dear John/Jane letters.

I've explained to her why she needs to move back and she said she will be making an effort to do so. There's no concrete timeline but she said it should be sometime next year.

 

[parodyluvr75]

This really is my first post here. I thought this was an informal discussion forum and was not aware of the intolerance for such terms. While spanking does fall under one of my many fetishes, I will make a conscious effort to avoid such terms in the future.

Thank you

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