Sex advice for me and her

[analgirl69]

There are valid positive and negative points in most everyone's opinion, but back to the OP's original point/question: "Why has sex become boring to his girlfriend?" When, for either the man or the woman, sex becomes boring, the problem is not in the bedroom, the problem is in the relationship. When the relationship is good, sex is good. To solve his problem, he should focus on rejuvenating the relationship. When his girlfriend feels loved and cared for in the relationship, everything else will fall in place. When one or both partners let their relationship grow stale, sex always suffers.

Whether a couple prefers kink or vanilla, sex is a way of giving and recieving love, and whether you are male or female, if sexual gratisifcation is the sole purpose of the relationship, you might as well hire a hooker. It would be more cost effective, and when you become bored, it is easier to change partners.

I agree and disagree. Sometimes I'm bored really means I'm bored. There was a point where after 5 years of vanilla missionary, I was freakin' bored! I had also gained a lot of weight (which I lost plus more) and could not find the energy to do something that made me fall asleep every day. So we fixed it. We were happier relationship wise then.. we had just gotten married! (Right now we're dealing with a 3 month old... do the math. But we have sex every day because it is interesting and I want it. )We were in bliss. The sex just sucked. After losing the weight and getting my energy back, I said one simple thing. "Um...do you want to fuck my ass instead this time?" And the rest is history. Oh, the doors that opened. I thought he was too vanilla to try anything. I was wrong.

 

[aluv]

a marriage license should be like a lease program and every 3 years you review the relationship and where its going.

 

[analgirl69]

a marriage license should be like a lease program and every 3 years you review the relationship and where its going.

Lol. Don't forget about the children though.. He could cheat on me or smack me around (actually maybe not, bad message, not that cheating is better) by this point, and I would probably stay, as long as my son didn't know it was happening. He needs a family. He's the most important thing. Luckily, although a little neglectful and selfish at times, he would never do either of those things and is in most ways a sweet heart.

 

[Thefamiliar]

Dont ever stay just for the children, it damages them...

On a lighter note analgirl has a valid point. Apparently the sex seems boring to both parties in this instance or the question what can we do would have never been posed. Mutual boredome doesnt always mean a troubled relationship, it can mean a low creative point for both parties.

Lol at renewing the marriage license every few years, I think it should be yearly. Once a year being forced to sit down and review your relationship could actually save many...i like it!

 

[aluv]

SEX IS EVERYTING

 

[analgirl69]

Lol.