Sex Scene Creativity

[DEFCOM5]

@Five_Inch_Heels, The good old difference between soft and hard core.

I would assume that you probably don't write strokers or scenes but true stories which appeals to a more refined readership.

I do not have the skill level to do that. May be one day but the funky chicken bails out some of the poor writing. I am working on it but I am still not there.

 

[CalBishForNow]

@CalBishForNow , skipping the sex is a pretty out of this world idea. I guess you refer to it as you build the story but then, is it Erotica?
I think you need to be well established and have 1000s of followers to attempt such a move unless you don't mind low reads, low scores and angry comments.
I have thought about cutting the sex scenes to a minimum but I felt it would lead to backlash or worse, becoming invisible.

Like I said, I've done it at least twice. Let me be a little more specific.

1. A mostly Group Sex series about a certain couple. They attend orgies that are hosted monthly and also have adventures one-on-one or with other friends. Part 3 and 4 of the story were both at the December orgy, Part 5 was in in the spring but not at an orgy, Part 6 was at the May or June orgy. The story mentions at least one orgy they went to in between Part 4 and 6 that doesn't appear "on the page," as it were.
2. A Loving Wives series where the wife has almost weekly dates with a certain guy who isn't her husband. Parts 2, 3, and 4 describe the first few encounters between them and try to establish a pattern. Part 5 is set at least 3 weeks after Part 4 and briefly mentions some things that happened in between, but focuses on when a schedule conflict gets in the way of the pattern and a new guy is introduced.

Each story has plenty of sex, it's just that there's also sex happening off-screen that I didn't bother to cover because I thought it would be redundant. I'm not an all-star writer, I guess maybe I'd be more popular if I had written stories focused on those events, but then again maybe I wouldn't. I definitely don't think it hurt things all that much.

 

[StillStunned]

I would assume that you probably don't write strokers or scenes but true stories which appeals to a more refined readership.

I do not have the skill level to do that. May be one day but the funky chicken bails out some of the poor writing. I am working on it but I am still not there.

I disagree that it takes less skill to write sex scenes, or that the readership is less refined. This whole discussion is about the difficulty of writing sex scenes that keep the reader interested. If it was that easy, we wouldn't be having this discussion.

Similarly, writing a good sex-driven story is at least as difficult as writing a good plot-driven or character-driven story, if only because the scope is much more limited. Anyone can write 10k words of tragedy, simply by throwing one unhappy event on top of another and forcing their characters through them all. But can they write four 2.5k strokers that are all engaging, original and sexy?

 

[Husky_Embrace]

@EmilyMiller already got most of my standard response, so I'll just add something else of my own.

Play with it.

To me sex is supposed to be fun. An activity you do together. Give and take. Why should writing about it be any different?

The POV, feelings and whatnot are all important, and we can write it in fun little ways. Sure she goes on her hands and knees for doggy style. Can you set it to a Limerick?

Maybe you write about an orgasm where the volume needs to be turned down, because even on the page the scream is so loud it could rip the page. Or does the scream stay inside her, rolling back and forth through her body, unable to get out as she shakes, the remainder finally coming out of her now wrecked body as a soft moan?

Every sex scene becomes a playground of creativity. What will you do next? How will you write it this time? You can still recycle from previous stories as puzzle pieces, to adapt where needed to the story.

Though do not forget, eventually sex is based on a repetitive motion. Repetition is not bad at all. You can repeat parts of it if you like. The important thing is that at one point something changes. Imagine writing three times basically the same way how a woman comes with different people. Though with one she smiles. Suddenly this identical act has a different outcome, and that makes it all different.

 

[DEFCOM5]

@Husky_Embrace, thank you for the feedback.

It is an excellent food for thoughts.

It also forced me to learn what a Limerick is.

 

[Belegon]

my actual sex scenes seem formulaic to me. truth be told, theres only so much action that can be described. changing settings and participants are what most porn is about. I don't see how we can get out of the trap here any easier than they can get out of it there... unless you want to write about an alien species with different genitalia.

 

[Cly_Anders]

Newbie Question here (and apologies if there is already thread(s) discussing this.

I got actually a thoughtful comment for one of my stories. It said "the sex scenes are almost interchangeable other than the place in which they occur."

This surprised me because it was a multi parts story and Part 1 was oral, part 2 oral + vaginal, Part 3 oral + vaginal + anal + DP. The locations were different.

So here is my question for the expert writers here: How do you avoid writing the same sex scene over and over?

Sorry if the question is silly.

Personally, I don't write about the act of sex. I write about the feelings of sex. The thoughts of sex. I focus on different things about the experience so it's always fresh. Maybe this time the character is tired, she's going to think and feel totally different than when she's eager and turned on. No one (without training) can experience every sensation of their body at the same time. Most of us let thoughts float through without thought. Every experience can be noticing or thinking or feeling different things. Just because cock goes in pussy (or whatever other holes you're writing about) doesn't mean it always feels exactly the same. There are times I'm wetter than others, so sometimes my husband has to go slow, and sometimes he can just ram in and go. I don't know your sex life, but it's where I get a lot of my own inspiration. Even if you don't have an active sex life, you can understand how different feelings and thoughts can influence how the sex feels at that time.

 

[Britva415]

I got actually a thoughtful comment for one of my stories. It said "the sex scenes are almost interchangeable other than the place in which they occur."

You know what? Actual real-life sex can be like that.

In writing, one thing we can do about that, besides "making the sex different," is to make the mood, the circumstances, the stakes different.

And the partners.

As far as making the sex different goes, imagine if it were still a good, compelling and plausible story if you were to fade to black instead of light the sex scene up. People wouldn't even know if it was the "same sex" as the other time.

My point is that "interchangeable" doesn't have to be a flaw at all. It can be, but is this critic right?

 

[Statius]

My opinion, which probably isn't valid, but since MOST readers are looking to get off, it's not about creating new and wild sex scenes; what makes it interesting is the characters involved and whatever relationship the author established between them, and does it fit with the story.

 

[Husky_Embrace]

My opinion, which probably isn't valid, but since MOST readers are looking to get off, it's not about creating new and wild sex scenes; what makes it interesting is the characters involved and whatever relationship the author established between them, and does it fit with the story.

I think it is valid. Changing why people have sex matters. Exact same scene while cheating has a different feel to it.

And there's plenty of reruns that to me shouldn't exist, but are pretty prevalent. Mostly stories where the whole thing is nothing more than the genre. "Mom fuck son," and then that is all that it is. A generic scene, over the top writing, basically copied from the one before. But dude, it's got a mom fucking her son.

Then you have a "generic" romance story and I'm involved. I can see why they are thinking something. Why they are doing the thing they are doing. If you write it well you can have two people in a relationship be one of the better stories here on Lit. It doesn't matter if it's repetitive, it is about how much you dress it up. If every woman in the world would be naked and ready to fuck, the one in jeans is suddenly very interesting.

 

[DEFCOM5]

If every woman in the world would be naked and ready to fuck, the one in jeans is suddenly very interesting.

Very well put!

 

[WaxPhilosophic]

So here is my question for the expert writers here: How do you avoid writing the same sex scene over and over?

Awkward sex. Really. I write a lot of sex scenes that are two gals who start as friends / mutual crushes and then finally take the plunge. When they do, there are lots of missteps and time spent getting in tune. But when they finally get it figured out, it's really beautiful.

For example this series: https://www.literotica.com/series/se/in-service-of-the-queen

They meet on a football pitch, running into each other (literally, with first aid and all.) They're separated by war. One of them takes solace in the bottle. But when they finally get it together in the end, it's so satisfying.

So give 'em personalities with quirks that throw things off track in the beginning. Then when it works out in the end, it's that much better.