Sexless Marriages

[Unique_8265]

https://esmed.org/testosterone-therapy-in-women-breaking-myths-and-gaps/

This is just one of many articles on the changing perspectives on T in women. Plus, there's a growing body of evidence of women who go through masculinizing hormone therapy to transition to men that assuages concerns about the relatively TINY amount given to menopausal women.

The recommended dose is one tenth of a dose given to males and is applied to the back of the knee (hair free, away from genitals and breasts)

 

[Merideth34]

Maybe this whole thread
From both perspectives where neither partner is actually listening and sharing is why so many marriages end with divorce

 

[BrianMagee1168]

All my wife has to do is asked me to do something and I do my best to get it done. I worry about meeting everybody’s needs in the family kids wife animals everybody…
I have remodeled our house I go to work every day. Nothing gets turned off for lack of payment. There’s always food in the refrigerator gas in the cars.
I go grocery shopping. I mow the lawn. I take out the trash. We are currently remodeling the bedroom, and I will work a 10 hour shift today and then go home and put in a couple hours in the bedroom Remodel.
I kiss my wife goodbye every morning and tell her how much I love her while she sleeps.
I have to get my clothes out of the laundry basket and iron them because they’re never hung up or put away. She’s a housewife and I understand completely that a housewife is a full-time job. But I’m sorry when you don’t get up out of bed until 10 AM. You spend half the day on Xbox playing video games..
I’m sorry, ladies, but sometimes y’all need to look in the mirror too…
I haven’t gotten anything more than holding hands for the last 12 fucking years

Your entire post was excellent. As to the above...

My wife and I are 62. After menopause, with the help of a sex therapist and the book "Come as you are" by Emily Nagoski. we found our way back to enjoying sex by first learning to NOT fixate on achieving an orgasm, but instead focus on the pleasure and joy of simply being naked, close, and caressing each other. Indeed, our therapist instructed us to do this nightly for two weeks and without ever touching genitals or breasts.

Regarding penetrative sex..

Before menopause, my wife could be sufficiently wet and ready to take me inside by the time we both got our cloths off, which allowed sex to be pretty spontaneous. But now, after menopause, if my wife wants PIV sex, she needs 2 tablespoons of high quality lube - 1/2 of it on her, 1/2 of it on me - for sex to be painless. ..Plus, she applies estrodial cream in the AM 2x/week. I go inside of her very slowly AND the moment I see her wince or she says "okay, it's getting a bit uncomfortable" I immediately pull out. Occasionally she orgasms before I need to pull out, and other times she doesn't. Either way, I never grumble about how "I didn't get to finish." If I don't finish inside of her, she'll often encourage me to finish on her breasts or feet (yes, I'm goofy for them). This new approach has eliminated much of the apprehension of sex that led to sex avoidance.

After her menopause brought sex to a near halt for us, we are back to having sex 2-3 times a week, albeit a very different kind of sex. Although my wife or I orgasm only about 25% of the time, we end up enjoying the intimacy 100% of the time.

I love the "Sharing my Wife Michelle" story. Very well done.

 

[LMWM321]

I love the "Sharing my Wife Michelle" story. Very well done.

Thank you!

 

[sandybrooke]

She told me "just jerkoff" Thanks honey. No pussy for many years.
There are many things I do not do for her that I used to. Sorry babe, gonna go jerk off

 

[CuriousJInLA]

She told me "just jerkoff" Thanks honey. No pussy for many years.
There are many things I do not do for her that I used to. Sorry babe, gonna go jerk off

That’s a bummer. And I don’t mean this in any way other than curiosity, but has she lost all interest in sex or just with you? Would she be okay with you being with another person?

 

[sandybrooke]

That’s a bummer. And I don’t mean this in any way other than curiosity, but has she lost all interest in sex or just with you? Would she be okay with you being with another person?

It was menopause. Killed a very active sex life. To answer your question she would not be ok with that. So I have creative masturbation.

 

[CuriousJInLA]

It was menopause. Killed a very active sex life. To answer your question she would not be ok with that. So I have creative masturbation.

Gotcha. I always wonder how long I could abstain if there was no chance with my wife

 

[LMWM321]

She told me "just jerkoff" Thanks honey. No pussy for many years.
There are many things I do not do for her that I used to. Sorry babe, gonna go jerk off

Ugh...

This is probably not terribly helpful to tell you this, but If my wife said, "Sorry, but I no longer enjoy sex, so I'm done with it..." and she refused my repeated pleas to seek help from a Doctor who specializes in sexual health, and to participate in marriage and/or sex therapy, etc... I would tell her, "Well, I still love you and will continue to keep you at the center of my life but I will NOT go the rest of my life without sex. So, let's discuss ways I can minimized your discomfort with my being with other women."

Honestly, I would think that once a person's physical desire for their partner dies, so too would their possessiveness. But, I guess it doesn't necessarily work that way.

As I've said before. For many humans, sex is as much a part of a happy and fulfilling life as laughter. Telling someone they must go without out it is beyond unreasonable.

 

[sandybrooke]

I brought her coffee yesterday in bed and started licking her inner thighs asking if I could eat her pussy. No go