AlexBailey
Kinky Tomgirl
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... I'm saying that labels and categories aren't very useful when you are talking about a continuum. - snip -
You can't define human behavior with a label or a box. If someone is "straight" (whatever that means) I doubt that they need a map to get where they are going.
I greatly disagree. Labels can be a very useful shorthand for describing one's interests and proclivities. While a particular "box" can be too small or too big to give a complete understanding, it seems rare that a complete inventory of that box is required.
For instance: the term "gay" is a big box, but it's still useful. If you want to be more granular with a description you could say "gay top" - "gay bottom" or "gay switch." Sure some audiences would require more definition but most who are familiar with the scene would find it informative without having to break into a long discription. It's also easy to get your point across to say someone is a "femme CD bottom" or a "bear top" or whatever combination they may be.
Personally I think the term "sissy" has been used too broadly, probably mostly by outsiders as an insult, against femme guys regardless of their orientation. I think it's among several words such as "queer," " fag, " or "dyke* that some groups have reclaimed as their own as a point of pride and to take away the power of the insult. Unfortunately some of the meaning can get lost in that process, but the words can still be useful. The word "queer" has both broad and more specific meanings, yet it's still useful.
I think most people who consider themselves part of the LGBTQ know what I mean when I say that I'm a "poly-queer-CD." No? Can you think of a more concise and useful description?