Skinny vs. Curvy

[Chiara_searches]

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[YourCaptor]

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Some kind of southern dish?

 

[satindesire]

Some kind of southern dish?

oooh lord. HAHAHAAAA!
No, dear. Nevermind.

 

[Kikori]

This is a debate I find it hard to jump into. I'm skinny as hell and both strong and durable well beyond my appearance, as I prove to people every day. So I know what it's like to be called "fragile" or something based solely off my body weight, and to be denied something I know I want because of it. Hell, if it's actually a risk, I'm still taking it because I feel it's worth trying.

But on the other hand, I've always had the mentality that me being rough equals hurting who I'm with. Both because I'd be as bony as they are (bone on bone when close does not feel good), and because of my track record for being rough. Jewelry broken, body parts sprained or swollen, muscles injured, all by complete accident when trying to hold back. So the idea of actually attempting to be rough and aggressive doesn't click in my head, and as much as I don't like the stereotype being used against me, a part of my head nags that it clicks even less with people as thin as I am.

 

[graceanne]

I honestly think that for every guy that likes a curvy woman there's a guy who likes 'em slim. Just like for every girl who likes a big guy there's another who likes 'em short. Why must the majority of guys like one type?

For that matter, some guys like all types, it's the woman behind the body type they like, not the body type.

 

[rosco rathbone]

For those of you not wanting to read the whole article, the gist of it is that men don't really want women who are as skinny as, say, Gwyneth Paltrow. It explains that men, in fact, want women with natural curves.

If you pay attention to what heterosexual men actually like, instead of getting your ideas of female beauty from magazines and fashions mainly created by gay men, this won't come as a big surprise.

 

[Cattypuss]

I'm curvy. All the men I've been with have liked curvy women.

Well they would, wouldn't they? Otherwise they wouldn't be with me.

But put 1,000 randomly-chosen straight and horny men in a theatre, and put two nearly-naked beautiful women on stage, one of them skinny and one of them curvy, and I'll bet that 75% of the men will be looking at the curvy one.

 

[subish2009]

I'm curvy. All the men I've been with have liked curvy women.

Well they would, wouldn't they? Otherwise they wouldn't be with me.

But put 1,000 randomly-chosen straight and horny men in a theatre, and put two nearly-naked beautiful women on stage, one of them skinny and one of them curvy, and I'll bet that 75% of the men will be looking at the curvy one.

I'll bet that 75% of the men will be looking at whomever is more comfortable in her own skin.

 

[Cattypuss]

Well I was sorta positing an "all other things being equal" kind of deal, so I was assuming that the two women were equally comfortable in their skins.

 

[CoupleFromOhio]

I love both skinny and curvy. Its "who" a woman is inside that turns me on.

 

[subish2009]

Well I was sorta positing an "all other things being equal" kind of deal, so I was assuming that the two women were equally comfortable in their skins.

Ah, of course. Well, yes, in that case, I'd bet you're right.

 

[Chiara_searches]

If you pay attention to what heterosexual men actually like, instead of getting your ideas of female beauty from magazines and fashions mainly created by gay men, this won't come as a big surprise.

That's a valid point and I think another way of articulating what I came to realize was my desire for this thread: to hear that people do seek out a different ideal than what is in the magazines; to firmly implant in my mind that people really do want the whole package and not just the sugar coated outside.

(And please note this thread is purposefully intended to be inclusive and not just "heterosexual" opinions.)

 

[Gil_T2]

So I'm gathering unscientific data from Lit. I read the following article today: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...s-skinny-figure-Men-turned-skeletal-chic.html

For those of you not wanting to read the whole article, the gist of it is that men don't really want women who are as skinny as, say, Gwyneth Paltrow. It explains that men, in fact, want women with natural curves.

(A) Query to those who seek women as partners: What is your opinion on the matter? Naturally curvy, or stick thin? Or do you really just enjoy the woman's mind enough that surface details aren't as important?

(B) Query to women who are sought out: And what is your take? Do you love your body as it is or do you beat yourself up about things?

I'll take the plunge and answer Query (B). I beat myself up, a bit. I disconnected from myself for a long time and basically stopped caring. I'm getting back into shape, running and doing some long walks (6 milers). At the same time, I actually like most of my curves. I accept that I'm not a "norm" and am concentrating on being healthy, not starving myself to fit into a norm. I also know that I enjoy sex more when I'm working out, so that's a great motivator as well.

I for one have never had a preference in body size or shape & dated tiny petite to BBW so it isn't a big deal to me what the person looks like at all although the extreemly thin are getting to be ones I'm at a loss to find enjoyable to see.

 

[reachedme]

I have been told that men are naturally attracted to women with big hips, a sign of child bearing and is part of our animal survival instincts
me I just like big butts

 

[satindesire]

I have been told that men are naturally attracted to women with big hips, a sign of child bearing and is part of our animal survival instincts
me I just like big butts

And you cannot lie...

 

[midwestyankee]

My feeling on the thin vs. curvy choice is to slice it down the middle: the most attractive body type is naked. I doubt there are many men here, even those who have expressed a strong preference for thin or for curvy or green or purple or muscle-bound, who would not agree that the most desirable woman in the world is the one who's naked and within arm's reach.

We're simple folk, we men.

 

[graceanne]

My feeling on the thin vs. curvy choice is to slice it down the middle: the most attractive body type is naked. I doubt there are many men here, even those who have expressed a strong preference for thin or for curvy or green or purple or muscle-bound, who would not agree that the most desirable woman in the world is the one who's naked and within arm's reach.

We're simple folk, we men.

I remember saying pretty much this to a friend. She was a virgin and curvy and worried about some guy finding her attractive naked. I told her that if she was naked with a guy he wouldn't be thinking 'wow, she could stand to lose some weight' because the brain he's thinking with isn't that corherant. The brain he's using will be thinking 'sex, boobs, sex, boobs, sex...'.

And as much as I can't stand her husband, I gotta say he's very pleased with her looks.