SM Survey - it's for science!!

[DeservingBitch]

OK - i'm so out of it. Don't have a wahl coil either.

 

[Etoile]

Don't own a hitachi, never tried one on me or anyone either.

Am I gonna have my lesbo/kinster card removed?

Hmmmm. Tell you what. Come over next Friday at 8pm and I'll tell you if you still qualify. *waggles eyebrows*

You don't know what you're missing if you haven't tried a Hitachi or Wahl, though. Unless you've used another brand of heavy-duty back massager, which we used to have. It eventually broke, so we replaced it with a Hitachi. But we have a LOT of vibrators in our house *cough* and none of them measure up to the Hitachi. You really must try one!

 

[DeservingBitch]

Hmmmm. Tell you what. Come over next Friday at 8pm and I'll tell you if you still qualify. *waggles eyebrows*

I smell something fishy, and no, it's not from your snatch!

You don't know what you're missing if you haven't tried a Hitachi or Wahl, though. Unless you've used another brand of heavy-duty back massager, which we used to have. It eventually broke, so we replaced it with a Hitachi. But we have a LOT of vibrators in our house *cough* and none of them measure up to the Hitachi. You really must try one!

I guess that's where I'll put my money once I have some to buy some toys. But I do have to say that I've been quite satisfied with the equipement I have, and none are heavy-duty kind of massager. But I suppose I just don't know what I'm missing.

 

[Netzach]

To be fair, some people hate hard vibrations on their pussy or dick. Or find it numbing, boring, other adjective of choice other than "ungh unhhhhh"

This is, of course, all the MORE reason I would argue for applying them, but take that with a big kosher size grain of salt.

 

[Etoile]

I smell something fishy, and no, it's not from your snatch!

*bats eyes innocently*

I guess that's where I'll put my money once I have some to buy some toys. But I do have to say that I've been quite satisfied with the equipement I have, and none are heavy-duty kind of massager. But I suppose I just don't know what I'm missing.

Netzach is right, not everybody likes that kind of thing. Then again, my wife only likes a very light touch by hand, and she still likes the Hitachi. If you're happy with what you've got, great! But I think it's only about $30 for a Hitachi, so give it a try someday too.

 

[HottieMama]

i find all vibrators pretty numbing if used anywhere near my clit. It's really very uncomfortable and more torture than anything else.

 

[marieR19]

Well THAT makes me want to try one, HottieMama! lol *serious never tried any dildo/vibrator before*

I actually decided to be "generous" about this site and email them about their biases and stuff, just to let them know what we think, and figured their response might give me some clue about their motive. This is what I wrote:

To Whom It May Concern:

I found a link to your questionnaire on a forum I frequent, and would like to point out a few things that I (and many of my friends) noticed about your survey. It seems that some of the questions seem a bit biased, which is not a good thing for a survey to be if you want true answers... For example, the fact that on the first page you ask about mental illness. Does that mean that you equate bdsm with mental illness? That can turn off many potential surveyors.

Also, when you ask for a gender, you give "male" and "female" as possible answers.... but what about transgender or genderqueer, which are both very common among the bdsm lifestyle? For sexuality, you cover bi, gay, and straight... what about asexual?

In all honesty, I did not fill out your survey, for the reasons stated above. Surveys are great, but only if they are unbiased and provide all necessary choices.

Sincerely,
Heather Sisk

This is what I got back:

Dear Heather,

Thank you for your feedback and I am sorry that you did not feel able to
complete the questionnaire for the reasons you have outlined. The questionnaire
is aimed at adults both with and without an interest in BDSM and is a clinical
psychology research project, hence the mental health of all our participants is
of interest to us.

A major aim of the project is to try and reduce discrimination among mental
health professionals; one of the findings from recent research is that a BDSM
interest is NOT linked to mental ill health and yet sadism and masochism are
still found within the "diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders"
published by the American Psychiatric Association and used by most clinical
psychologists. We are hoping to find some of the similarities and differences
between people with and without a BDSM interest to try and break down some of
the myths and historical views that still seem to be so prevalent. I hope that
makes sense.

As for the limiting categories regarding gender, sexuality and relationships,
your point is very valid and I had originally wanted to be much more inclusive
in the way questions are framed, so that people are able to express how things
are for them rather than try to fit themselves into a tiny number of categories
that inevitably won't fit all.

In the end practicality won as the statistical analysis of the data means that
we have to be able to split participants into a few 'simple' groups; if the
research was qualitative (a more in-depth study with just a few participants)
then it would have been possible to be much more inclusive and open. Hopefully
this questionnaire, as a large-scale project, will be able to inform directions
for more qualitative and 'true to life' research in the future. We will be
careful to note in the write-up that the questionnaire was not suitable for
everyone who wished to participate for the reasons you and your friends have
experienced.

Thanks again for taking the time to look at the questionnaire and pass on your
feedback,

Sheffield Clinical Psychology Research Team

Maybe I'm just a sucker, but I'm glad they at least responded.

Heather

 

[Marquis]

My reason for not completing the survey:

too fucking long.

Like stupid long, come on.

 

[graceanne]

http://i25.photobucket.com/albums/c55/snowyciara/paranoiaith128435510066668750.jpg

Or in my case it has my family.

I grew up with fear of 'big brother'. My mother won't get a safeway card, cause she KNOWS that big brother is watching what she buys.

 

[Etoile]

My reason for not completing the survey:

too fucking long.

Like stupid long, come on.

Me too. I wanted to get through it so I could see what they said at the end, but I only made it about 60% of the way before I got bored. Can't they just ask me what my Myers-Briggs type is (INTJ) and cut half the questions?

 

[Netzach]

Or in my case it has my family.

I grew up with fear of 'big brother'. My mother won't get a safeway card, cause she KNOWS that big brother is watching what she buys.

Crazy enough, I think she's right, what was paranoid at one point is more rightfully uneasy now.

The amount of data that you can get on me from PetSmart and Target is totally insane. And people bitch about Sarbannes-Oxley. No, I would NOT like to give you my zipcode, thank you.

 

[Etoile]

Crazy enough, I think she's right, what was paranoid at one point is more rightfully uneasy now.

The amount of data that you can get on me from PetSmart and Target is totally insane. And people bitch about Sarbannes-Oxley. No, I would NOT like to give you my zipcode, thank you.

When I worked retail I was told we had to collect the zip code for credit card purchases only. I dunno.

 

[Marquis]

Wait, you JUST NOW bought your first dildo? You are not the kinkster-of-all-trades I had been told you were! Oh well, no time like the present to start catching up.

Also, the Hitachi Magic Wand is the best vibrator out there. How was it a mistake to give one?

The Hitachi seemed to have a negative effect on my last relationship. Pre-Hitachi, she was cumming from sex regularly, slowly she got to the point where she could come from the Hitachi in a matter of seconds, and not from sex with me at all.

 

[FurryFury]

I took it.

Yes it is clearly slanted toward the mental illness / BDSM being connected mindset.

Oops! The perve police are at my door now.

I think they want my Hitachi.

 

[00Syd]

I took it hoping it would put me to sleep, but no such luck. Now I'm laying awake wondering whether or not I'm insane.

I thought I was past that!

 

[im_a_voyeur]

The Hitachi seemed to have a negative effect on my last relationship. Pre-Hitachi, she was cumming from sex regularly, slowly she got to the point where she could come from the Hitachi in a matter of seconds, and not from sex with me at all.