Spooning

[YellowShirt]

Okay, so here's my question...
Whenever my husband and I try to have sex in the spooning position, it just doesn't seem to work! I always have to "lean" really far forward, so the only part of me even left touching him is my rear. Then my husband doesn't like this, because it seems un-intimate. I love feeling his arms around me like that and would like nothing more to make love this way, but we can't get it to work!
Any suggestions?

 

[eudaemonia]

I understand exactly where you're both coming from.

I, too, have to lean quite far away from my partner to achieve a position where he can penetrate me. But it leaves me kind of cold since the intimacy of the position is lost. Unfortunately, it's just the way our bodies are built: our genetalia is more forward compared to other women, so a true spooning position is not as much of an option for us.

OTOH, having a clit so far forward -- basically, right in "front" -- makes it very easy to orgasm during penetration, at least for me. Some women don't have much success in that way. We're all different!

When I want both the intense intimacy and the intensely erotic, I go for the side-by-side position. Wrap your top leg over you partner and try having him move his top leg between yours, maybe lower (just at the ankle), maybe higher (at the knee or thigh). This is lovely for achieving full body and eye contact. He will likely have to hold your hips and you his shoulders or upper arm so you don't slip apart. It won't require much movement, just some gentle rolling back and forth. If you can maintain each other's gaze as you approach climax it's an incredibly powerful experience.

Still, I'll go for the less-intimate spooning if I *have* too.

 

[TBKahuna123]

OK let's dispel a myth here, spooning is not an easy position for penetration. There are so many factors that can make it impossible: size of a woman's hips and butt, size of a guy's stomach, and yes, penis size. If your man doesn't have an above average penis this is a tough position, just because of the angle. If you have a large ass or your man a bit of a paunch, you move the naughty bits even farther apart. Unless you lean forward to change the angle, this is really tough.

Now my wife and I have a really hard time with this position, personally, so we don't even try for penetration. We use this position more for the intimacy of it, touching, caressing, holding, etc., more for foreplay. Now it is possible to lean forward to change the angle, then arch your head back to achieve that intimate contact, though this gets uncomfortable after a while. It does work really well for anal penetration though.

I would also point out that if you watch late night Cinemax, you'll see this position all the time. Remember though, there's no actual penetration there, it's simply done for visual affect. Not being able to achieve penetration like this is NOT a failing on either partner's part. Some positions just don't work for everyone. That's why there are so many different positions.

 

[FurryFury]

I put my right leg over his hips and angle my body so he can get and stay in there.

After that I can sometimes close my legs and let him pump away.

The other night I squeezed him off so hard in that position it made him come but he was so constricted he couldn't squirt. That was fun. It had to ooze out later when I let go of him. He said it was both painful and pleasurable. Sounds just about perfect to me though I didn't plan that.

Fury

 

[Phil333]

Here's how my gf and I do it. Start out in the missionary position. Then have her wrap her legs around your back. Then both of you roll together to one side. It's the only way we've been able to do it.

 

[kinky shy girl]

As Kahuna mentioned I think penis size is a factor. Spooning works well for my partner and me. I find that penetration is easiest if I pull my legs up, so that my knees are almost touching my chest.

Then again everyone has a different body shape, so what works for one couple may not work for another.