Stupid things I did right before Valentine's Day

[firefighter02]

I could use some good natured advice here. I think I screwed up royaly this week and am interesting in what others think about this.

Things between my SO and I have been great the last few weeks, aside from a few minor "bumps" in the road.
Her life is very busy with work and other issues so I try very hard not to dump on her as I know that my lack of self confidence and petty worrying is the last thing she needs to deal with.

Because of a strange comment she made this week I spent three days awake wandering around the house before my mind just melted down and I hunted her down at work (something I hadn't done before) and threw my heart and troubles onto the floor and waited to see if she would pick them up.

She did and I slept last night ( a full nights sleep) for the first time in months.

In reality all I wanted was for her to say to me she loved me, which she says all the time, but for some reason I really really needed it yesterday. Im just unsure if my "explosion" was a good thing or something that I should have kept to myself and delt with.

So I guess my questions are, Does anyone else find themselves doing dumb things like this, did I screw up finally venting about things, and how big a boquet of flowers can I send without her getting mad about me sending them?

Thanks....

 

[peachykeen]

Send nice flowers, don't worry about 'big'. If you overdo it it will just be silly, especially if it puts any strain on your finances.

Keep it simple. A pretty bouquet with a nice card (not too wordy) will be more effective than an arm-breaking load of blooms and an overly-effusive love poem.

 

[midwestyankee]

Send nice flowers, don't worry about 'big'. If you overdo it it will just be silly, especially if it puts any strain on your finances.

Keep it simple. A pretty bouquet with a nice card (not too wordy) will be more effective than an arm-breaking load of blooms and an overly-effusive love poem.

I would buy a blank card and write something true to yourself. And yes, the manageable bunch of flowers makes a lot of sense to me.

Good luck.

 

[CelticFrog]

Why not just send a single flower in a bud vase with a card simply saying,
"Thank you for being my lover and my friend. You understand my troubles and put pieces of me together when I need reassurance. I love you."

Simple, yet classy. And not overstated.

Venting shouldn't be considered a bad thing unless it's done in a blaming sort of way. If you had an issue with something she said and had been trying to repress it, obviously the repression was not being a good thing.

I think that the two of you could, in the future, find a more mutually compromisory position on talking about issues. But in my opinion? This really wasn't THAT BAD of a fuckup. Maybe a little tiny bit over the top (then again I don't know what you said at work) but certainly not a Valentine's Day breaker.

Since she obviously loves you, I expect she understands and accepts your self esteem issues and petty worries as part of the man.

My three.
Ang

 

[peachykeen]

Why not just send a single flower in a bud vase with a card simply saying,
"Thank you for being my lover and my friend. You understand my troubles and put pieces of me together when I need reassurance. I love you."

hey, you're smart.

 

[CelticFrog]

hey, you're smart.

nah... I just know what *I* would like to get today. After a much worse fuckup on his part yesterday.

unfortunately, I know his brain stops before the 'sending her flowers' idea kicks in.

Ang

 

[sheath]

So I guess my questions are, Does anyone else find themselves doing dumb things like this, did I screw up finally venting about things, and how big a boquet of flowers can I send without her getting mad about me sending them?

Thanks....

Hey there.

I don't think calling her up and confessing your fears and worries was dumb. Personally, I would drop everything and focus completely on a man who called and said: Hey, babe, I need your time right now. She is probably glad you felt as though you could turn to her like that.



As for the other issue, I agree with the other posters. A very personal card, from the heart, and a small bunch of flowers...perhaps send those flowers arranged in a basket? Something that she can hold onto later, that is unique, and not like every other run-of-the-mill vase out there. That little gesture means a lot to us girls.

S.

 

[CelticFrog]

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Something that she can hold onto later, that is unique, and not like every other run-of-the-mill vase out there. S.

You know, hon... I'm not sure every girl would appreciate a flower presented inside a 'squirting' dildo filled with water.

What? It fits your description, don't it?


Ang

 

[sheath]

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You know, hon... I'm not sure every girl would appreciate a flower presented inside a 'squirting' dildo filled with water.

What? It fits your description, don't it?


Ang

*blinks in astonishment*

You actually went there? lol

Beware, everyone, Ang is in a MOOD.

S.

 

[midwestyankee]

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You know, hon... I'm not sure every girl would appreciate a flower presented inside a 'squirting' dildo filled with water.

What? It fits your description, don't it?


Ang

Hey, I thought I hadn't told anyone what I had bought my wife for tomorrow.

 

[CelticFrog]

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Hey, I thought I hadn't told anyone what I had bought my wife for tomorrow.

Well, if it helps any... I realized that I gave away sheath's birthday present. That she isn't getting until she gets here.

Don'cha just hate it when you get inspiration from something lying around the house and realized you've spoiled a surprise?


Too bad sheath already KNEW what she was getting, or that would have been a valid argument.

Ang

 

[Cathleen]

I think its great that you were able to express your feelings with her ~ I applaud your willingness. We all have needs, we all need to know we are loved

To be reassured of this is a gift. Good for you and her for meeting that need!!

I would also handwrite a note expressing your feeling of love and be glad you have taken one more step in the world of intimacy - its a very vunlerable place - good for you for making a great step up!!!

Happy Valentine's Day Everyone!!

 

[firefighter02]

I just wanted to say thanks for the responses all of you.

Ang...I did get hung up on not once, not twice...but four times when I called the FTD line and asked about water squirting dildo vases...OMG...the gal thought I was joking...

Peachy, Yankee and Cathleen...always good advice...and hearing that I didn't muck things up too bad is nice....Who was it that said she probably liked it when I called her up and said I need a bit of your time was right on the money..She told me that tonight.

S....What can I say...?? If Ang wouldn't have already thought of the water filed dildo vase I would have sent you one myself. Thanks as always.

Things are ok now..I called and sang a song into her voice mail....Oh god..now I just hope she doesn't play it with her whole office standing there or I won't ever be able to show my face in there again LOL...

Thanks again everyone...You guys are the best!

 

[Meat Whistler]

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You know, hon... I'm not sure every girl would appreciate a flower presented inside a 'squirting' dildo filled with water.

What? It fits your description, don't it?


Ang

I already own a squirting dildo. But, regardless, if a man ever presented me such a gift, I would marry him on the spot.

 

[Nightbob]

squirting dildo

I gave my wife a regular (with a butt plug but didn't squirt) dildo for her enjoyment. She used it for a short while and then threw it out. Iwish she could appreciate her body and sexuality the way you do. Have fun.

Bob

 

[SensualCealy]

Speaking on a professional level, it makes no sense to send flowers that cost a great deal of money. Send a few nice flowers, they only die anyway. BUT have in your pocket when you get home a small token that she can enjoy every day, a pair of ear rings, a nice necklace. Doesnt have to be something expensive, just sentimental.

All the best,
Cealy
p.s. Im a floral designer!

 

[asiasiren]

My SO bought me fresh flowers once. I put an end to that. Trained him on how a potted plant last so much longer and can be enjoyed for years. Problem ended up being that every time he got himself (or I felt like sending him) in the dog house, I received another potted plant. Looked like a jungle in the house for awhile. Had to end up putting a stop to that.

It then went to stuffed animals. Geesh, I have a room full of those. Now I get those musical ones. They're cute and funny but the day will come when those take over another room.

I have suggested jewelry and he does pick it up from time to time for a very special occassion but he feels I have plenty of that. He does make sure I have new lingerie on a regular basis. That I don't mind.

 

[Mskey]

well as you've probably figured out by now, you haven't made a huge screwup, infact you've scored bonus points by allowing her to see your vulnerable side. Kudos to you.

Like Cealy I used to be a floral designer and I can also second that flowers can be overdone and are far to expensive and flleting a gift to drop good cash on. If you must have a bloom try a potted Tuberose, or violet. Both have pretty blooms and will sit quite prettily on her office desk. Enclose a simple card with your blooming plant, something from the heart and then send it to her. Everytime she looks at the plant she'll be reminded of you and your love.

 

[Nightbob]

Valentines day

I realize that many women do not like flowers because they do not last very long, but there are some women who just melt when they receive them. My wife is one who looks forward to flowers. I don't get her any for Valentines day because our anniversary is just two weeks earlier. I started getting her a red rose for each year that we have been married. I soon found that do that could get to be very expensive. I then started giving her a yellow rose for each ten years and one red rose for each year in between. She might get a little disappointed on the decade year or the year after, but she is really looking forward to 99 years. Its not the number of flowers or how long they last. It is the sentimentality that they represent. We even get them specially arranged to go with us when we go away for our anniversary. Just do what makes both of you feel good.

Bob

 

[sweetnpetite]

Apparently I said we weren't celebrating this year. I was just being grouchy because I don't work and don't have any money.

I tried to suprise him by making cookies (they were good) and cleaning up, and setting up flowers and a picture of us together- but he didn't get me anything because of what I had said. Why do men have to be so literal?