Submissive or dominant.

[fl_openminded]

I am mostly a sub (90/10) than dom in both personal & sexual relationships

 

[Blonde_Shay]

Depends

Well for starters I'm a bi. So I prefer having a Male dom or a female sub.

But at times it depends on the partner & their sexual confidence..

Hope this helps

 

[Time2write]

Switch!

Just entering this new world of BDSM. However I'm 50% dom and 50% sub. Which doesn't really work. Or can it?
What helped you decide what role you picked?

I’m very fortunate (in my mid-sixties) to have a s.o. who is very willing to switch. We more or less take turns and she’s always open to my fantasies (going back to my youth) when it’s going to be her turn to control. What’s nice is, although she listens, she’ll always do things her way, avoiding the dreaded “topping from the bottom.” She absolutely loves when I’m in charge (as I do) so it’s incredible when we play. We keep it a special thing, taking out our bag of toys on occasion when one of us gets the urge. Works very well for us. Good luck to you.

 

[KBelle1104]

I would say I’m 90% sub and 10% domme (with men).

The most obvious indicator for me would be how much I enjoy being told what to do and how to do it. A firm hand and stern voice get my dripping.

I absolutely love serving my partner and taking care of their needs before my own. I also really enjoy some pain and humiliation. You really have to connect with your partner(s) sometimes before figuring things out!

 

[Kickboxer]

I would say I’m 90% sub and 10% domme (with men).

The most obvious indicator for me would be how much I enjoy being told what to do and how to do it. A firm hand and stern voice get my dripping.

I absolutely love serving my partner and taking care of their needs before my own. I also really enjoy some pain and humiliation. You really have to connect with your partner(s) sometimes before figuring things out!

Hmm

 

[Iris_66]

I would say I’m 90% sub and 10% domme (with men).

The most obvious indicator for me would be how much I enjoy being told what to do and how to do it. A firm hand and stern voice get my dripping.

I absolutely love serving my partner and taking care of their needs before my own. I also really enjoy some pain and humiliation. You really have to connect with your partner(s) sometimes before figuring things out!

How does it differ (D/s) when you are with women?

I agree that talking to each other, openly, though scary at first (fear of rejection etc) can be a pathway to exciting and fulfilling times

 

[Blackandstrong]

Communication is always the key. Respect her limits but know exactly what it is she is craving - for many it is being taken hard, rough sex followed by tender caring afterwards.

 

[Ginlover]

As said earlier being fluid with dynamics is not only a lot of fun but more realistic. A sub could top her Dom under instruction to. A Dom might enjoy being a masochist bottom.
I get nothing sexually from topping but I do get a hell of a buzz seeing a partner loving it so I’m happy to do it but wouldn’t describe myself as a Domme or switch. To get truly lost in sex I need to be a sexual sub but nothing about the rest of myself would suggest I was.

 

[KBelle1104]

How does it differ (D/s) when you are with women?

I agree that talking to each other, openly, though scary at first (fear of rejection etc) can be a pathway to exciting and fulfilling times

I just cannot be dominated by a female as I myself tend to be an alpha female. The only one who can dominate me is a true alpha male. I could definitely dominate a woman but generally there aren’t usually those dynamics that come into play when I’m with one.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

A lost Dominant

 

[AlwaysFara]

Submissive AF.

 

[Iris_66]

I just cannot be dominated by a female as I myself tend to be an alpha female. The only one who can dominate me is a true alpha male. I could definitely dominate a woman but generally there aren’t usually those dynamics that come into play when I’m with one.

And for you, is being dominated all about the mental control? About being told, against your natural inclinations (as an Alpha F), what you can and can't do?

Or is it about the physical? About being edged, or restrained, or some other physical form of domination?

 

[KBelle1104]

And for you, is being dominated all about the mental control? About being told, against your natural inclinations (as an Alpha F), what you can and can't do?

Or is it about the physical? About being edged, or restrained, or some other physical form of domination?

It’s for sure both...but possibly a little more mental.

 

[Iris_66]

It’s for sure both...but possibly a little more mental.

I definitely agree, for me the mental side; to take my SO to the edge, test her, pull back, bring her forward, make her do things she really wants to do, but wouldn't allow herself to do (and that means knowing her really well), and then seeing her climax at 110% - that is where the rush is for me

 

[littlebirdjoy]

submissive in most cases, slave to only one.

(completely taken, I have my forever home.)

 

[Cindy69love]

I am definitely sub.... all the way!

 

[fitone80]

I'm

I would say I am 99.9% Bi bottom sub and love the idea of being dominated by either male or female : )

 

[Sexpress0]

Submissive but fierce