The AH Coffee Shop and Reading Room 09

[MrPixel]

But there's always plenty of fault to go around!

Didn't matter. I was so beaten down it was a relief to get it over with. At least the asset split was equitable.

 

[_Lynn_]

No cake to share since I didn't get one. Maybe next birthday.

 

[sirhugs]

But there's always plenty of fault to go around!

such a sad cynical view. Some of us just don't see fault.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

such a sad cynical view. Some of us just don't see fault.

You have a comment to wipe away over on Ideas.

 

[Candy_Kane54]

Well, it's a cloudy morning with rain expected this afternoon. I'm going to try to get out today and go to the pharmacy to pick up some prescriptions.

There's a fresh pot of coffee brewing and the teapot is hot. Donuts and fruit salad are on the counter. The left-over birthday cake is all gone and the plot bunnies are back again ...

I'll be over in the corner working on my new story. I've got the opening scene done, which begins to tie up one of the open story lines in the "Picture Postcards from LA" series (Who is Mr. Nobody?).

 

[NotWise]

Cool and cloudy here after a few hours of light rain last night. We're supposed to have a good chance of rain this afternoon switching over to snow tonight with precip continuing into tomorrow. Sounds pretty wet for a desert.

Lit changed some deep technical detail in their login process. The little app that monitors activity can't log in, and it isn't producing any helpful feedback. Some research is required.

Yesterday, I stripped the Christmas tree naked and left it exposed. I'll take it down today and put it to bed.

 

[ColtonWrites]

I am sitting in a training session about microaggressions in discrimination.

So far today, I've been given a "gluten free" lunch that contained unlabeled pasta that nobody could determine the gluten status of, given a chair that didnt have a place to put a cane, and had to navigate an unheated access hallway to find the elevator.

10/10, no notes.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Not cynical, but from observations, those who cheat usually do so because of things missing in a relationship. Those who get divorced have both done things that aggravate the situations they're in. No fault came about because more often than not, it's both of their faults. Not seeing one's own faults is denial.

such a sad cynical view. Some of us just don't see fault.

 

[old_prof]

Not cynical, but from observations, those who cheat usually do so because of things missing in a relationship. Those who get divorced have both done things that aggravate the situations they're in. No fault came about because more often than not, it's both of their faults. Not seeing one's own faults is denial.

I will say in my failed marriage (no cheating by either of us, I think), I fully accept joint blame for the failure. I was even more of an arrogant asshole way back then.

The Dave Mason song "We Just Disagree" came out a little before my breakup. It felt about right and I will forever associate it with my divorce.

So let's leave it alone, 'cause we can't see eye to eye
There ain't no good guy, there ain't no bad guy
There's only you and me and we just disagree

 

[TheLobster]

I am sitting in a training session about microaggressions in discrimination.

These sessions are always a scam. I’ve attended so many sexual harassment trainings, and yet I haven’t the faintest clue how would I go about actually harassing anyone.

 

[MrPixel]

These sessions are always a scam.

Yep. I learned about this management "improvement" nonsense staged by "consultants" 50 years ago (gawd... has it been that long?). Gave me a bad taste for "consultants". You know it's bullshit the moment you're handed the binder with the agenda. For all-day sessions I usually noped-out at the lunch break. I was only confronted about it once, and that during a two-day "sales conference" working for a company I detested because it was all about "the sale" and never the product.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Hey, cutie, is that a giant lobster in your pocket, or are you just horny to see me? Then there's the tried and true Trump crotch grope, or rape them while drugged Cosby Method, the you'll never work in the industry again Hollywood Casting Couch Memorandum. The give-me-a-blow-job-and-I'll-hire-you incentive. The inappropriate kiss after taking detection, a sly first step. The "It's not cheating if he doesn't find out," ploy. And many many more, give it a try, I'm sure you can get yourself fired in a hurry. So, now you know.

These sessions are always a scam. I’ve attended so many sexual harassment trainings, and yet I haven’t the faintest clue how would I go about actually harassing anyone.

 

[MrPixel]

(no cheating by either of us, I think)

Wish I could say the same. I was married for 7 years, only after the separation did it come out that she was married for 2. Skilled gaslighter plus my gross naivety.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I'm not throwing around accusations here, @MrPixel, @TheLobster, @old_prof, or @sirhugs. Just that shit happens, and there are reasons someone can be more or less to blame, but the blame is on both of them. If Jo ever cheats on me, I hope she's woman enough to keep it to herself. She needs to choke on the guilt as far as I'm concerned. I don't want to be put in the position of accepting it, forgiving her, or leaving her. It'd be her sin, not mine, but I do want to know: if she does feel the need to cheat, she'll tell me what I need to improve on so she won't.

 

[MrPixel]

I'm going to disagree, Millie. Maybe I can take some blame for being a boring person and not seeing the forest for the trees. She, however, was sucked into a drugs and sex scene with her then-new job, an hour's drive away from where we lived. So there was plenty of opportunity to "go out with friends" I was never allowed to meet. All on her.

 

[ColtonWrites]

*shrug*
My wife and I had a chat about how we are each other's rock, how I love her more than anyone else and vice versa. So when/if she goes on a date or has a "friend" over, it doesn't bother me. I'm still her husband, at the end of the night. Tomorrow the friend goes home. I will still be here.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Did you, 1) show interest in her job, 2) send her flowers at work, 3) show up at lunch for a noon quicky? She was just as far away from you as you were from her. It takes effort to stay together, and there certainly had to be signs she wasn't happy with you. Again, it's all done, no way to change it now, but there's always the future.

I'm going to disagree, Millie. Maybe I can take some blame for being a boring person and not seeing the forest for the trees. She, however, was sucked into a drugs and sex scene with her then-new job, an hour's drive away from where we lived. So there was plenty of opportunity to "go out with friends" I was never allowed to meet. All on her.

 

[MrPixel]

I’m a man, but I can change. If I have to. I guess.

 

[Belegon]

There was still insurance involved at the beginning of our seperation. However, when the term of my Family/Medical Leave ran out, our employer ( we were both school bus drivers) terminated me. Her response was to accuse me of having done so out of spite. Number one, I carried her on MY health insurance and PAID out of my savings (since I had no income from which to deduct premiums) for five months after she kicked me out of the house. Number two, I didn't DO anything. It was DONE TO ME. I was FIRED. Understandably so, since I could no longer perform my job. Ironically, that was one of the very few actual exchanges of communication between us in the past 13 months. (the hospital assisted me in getting on Medicaid after that. I presume my ex simply informed our former employer that she was now using her benefits, instead of using mine.)

Milllie, as to both parties having responsibility, I agree completely. But I would really like being informed of what I did. That is precisely why I refer to a lack of closure. She won't talk to me even to tell me what she blames me for having done. At this point I would be very grateful to hear it. In my own experience, you rarely have to convince a former partner to share the areas in which you failed. That information is usually shared at a level beyond what you would wish to hear. Not so in this case.

 

[Candy_Kane54]

Just popped in to make sure there was fresh coffee started and the teapot was full. See you in the morning.

 

[Candy_Kane54]

It's raining and gray this morning, but I'm alive so I can't complain (well, I can complain but I won't). There's going to be a wave of cold coming and we'll get some flakes overnight but it's been too warm for anything to accumulate.

There's fresh coffee brewing and the teapot is hot. There are donuts and a bowl of granola and fresh berries on the counter. With the food pyramid being flipped upside down, I may have to start putting out bacon instead of donuts.

I'll be over in the corner working on my new story. Feel free to stop by and chat. My muse is still at me about another story I've been thinking about, but I want to get Ray's story roughed out before I divert my attention ...

 

[NotWise]

It's like winter here or something. We had a thunderstorm last night that delivered small hail with rain and light snow after that. Now it's just cold and cloudy.

 

[old_prof]

Last night was our first night without overnight snow in four days. And it might make 40 today. One of our first warmer than expected days in like six weeks.

After fighting with it for multiple days, I finally have my Valentine's Day story off to a beta reader for some feedback. I've made two major rewrites and i;m on my seventh different ending for the story. I've never revised a story like this before. I don't think it's my best story (that's going in Pink Orchid) but I don't think it's my worst either.

My knee is roughly where I was before surgery, although different things bother it now than did then. And it's still improving day by day!

 

[ChloeTzang]

Yep. I learned about this management "improvement" nonsense staged by "consultants" 50 years ago (gawd... has it been that long?). Gave me a bad taste for "consultants". You know it's bullshit the moment you're handed the binder with the agenda. For all-day sessions I usually noped-out at the lunch break. I was only confronted about it once, and that during a two-day "sales conference" working for a company I detested because it was all about "the sale" and never the product.

LOL. I just bailed on the corporate bullshit back in November. Himself said why not work part-time and write more for publication so I said sure and quit the same day. LOL. Started looking and landed a part time hourly contract position before I finished my 2 weeks notice and it was supposed to be 2-3 days a week. Turned out they were short of floaters and before I knew it I was doing 5 days a week (a sad inability to say no when they pleaded) and then I landed a SECOND part time job that I'd applied for at the same time - that paid even more per hour but is only 2 days a week - so now I am working more hours and making more than I was full time and my writing hours have been reduced LOL. Unless I cut back on the hours for the first job.

Himself is laughing at me and saying "this was NOT the intention, Chloe." I am laughing at myself but for now I am enjoying the first job too much and the second one, I start training for it on Monday - the first job gave me the time off to do the 2nd job training and they are both happy with it! Yikes! But the good thing is I can toss all the corporate bullshit and tell them to screw themselves. And with TWO jobs I don't give a flying....(supply own expletive LOL). They both had the std bullshit courses but they were online and I have done them so many tims I just treated them as a speed reading test. LOL. I love multi-choice. Mst of the time I just answer them without actually reading the course material. LOL. You KNOW what they want to hear so you just puke it up. LOL. If I said what I really thought I'd get about negative 100 on them LOL.

 

[ChloeTzang]

And now for a coffee..... I am celebrating sucessfully setting myself up in another payroll system despite the challengs of being there about four times - "There are too amny instances of Chloe for us to identify you...please supply a DNA sample....". ADP is wonderful LOL