The appeal of being cuckolded?

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

Um do wittol's have wittol dicks so they let their wife get a big one and don't complain? LOL sorry couldn't resist it.

 

[SimonDoom]

but if you had a Stag & Vixen category it might be some time before the INCEl's found them. lot of value in that.

Maybe. I'm not necessarily calling for creating new categories. I don't know if it would work.

 

[KeithD]

I'm not sufficiently familiar with the lifestyle to know what people actually call themselves, but online there are many men who at least like to fantasize about themselves as cuckolds and like thinking of themselves this way.

My general view is that there's no particular value in insisting on the "proper" terms to describe people's kinks and fetishes. I think it's better to take the cue from how the people who participate in those kinks and fetishes actually refer to themselves. Otherwise, you stand a good chance of missing a nuance in the kink or fetish.

Who's "insisting"? That sort of falsely pushing assumptions is what leads to a lot of the argumentation on this discussion board.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Maybe. I'm not necessarily calling for creating new categories. I don't know if it would work.

Me neither, but I think the term is a better fit for how most folks practice the kink! And speaking of that, are there women who like to watch their husbands fuck other women? My brother's mother told me one time, several years ago, she'd always wanted to see dad fuck another woman. She claimed she told him she wanted to. But Dad says that she didn't, and he wouldn't have let her watch if he had cheated. He said, "If she saw that, I'd have died with a knife buried in my back on top of a poor helpless woman.

 

[SimonDoom]

As a purely self-serving pitch I'll toss in a link to my recently published story in the Humor & Satire category on this subject, Cuckolds & Incels: A Chain Story. It's just over 750 words so it requires minimal time investment. https://literotica.com/s/cuckolds-and-incels-a-chain-story

 

[lovecraft68]

Does anyone actually use this word to describe himself? I haven't seen that. Technically, it's correct, but it's a terrible-sounding word, and I have yet to see anyone in this lifestyle self-describe himself this way. I think this is a case where the traditional cuckold/wittol vocabulary arguably is not helpful because it does not describe the subject matter the way the participants see it.

I think its one of those words that's badly dated.
Its also a case of how over time a fetish drives the meaning of a word. In reality taboo can mean a lot of things, but over the years when it comes to erotica its meaning is now all but synonymous with incest.

Cuckold has sub factions, but the word itself has pretty much become the standard word that encompasses, willing, unwilling etc...and in this case mostly by the negative readers who use the term as an insult.

There's also the term Stag, but I believe that's a case of the husband joins in, which to me just makes it a threesome without any of the cuck scenarios...

Ever think of these conversations when you're not here and think...wow, this isn't something to bring up at the family dinner

 

[SimonDoom]

Ever think of these conversations when you're not here and think...wow, this isn't something to bring up at the family dinner

Although if it was I'd love to be a fly on the wall at THAT family's dinner.

 

[lovecraft68]

Although if it was I'd love to be a fly on the wall at THAT family's dinner.

That's a story in and of itself

 

[NoTalentHack]

As a purely self-serving pitch I'll toss in a link to my recently published story in the Humor & Satire category on this subject, Cuckolds & Incels: A Chain Story. It's just over 750 words so it requires minimal time investment. https://literotica.com/s/cuckolds-and-incels-a-chain-story

*Chef’s kiss*

 

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

A married couple walks into a bar and the husband asks for whatever is on tap and cheap...

...the bartender reaches for the cheap stuff and pours them Busch. They drink a little bit and seem satisfied as the wife asks her husband,

"What beer is this? Who makes it?"

The husband, unsure due to his vague order asks the bartender "Hey, who makes this beer? My wife is curious."

The bartender replies, "Anheuser-Busch."

The husband looks at the bartender with a stern confusion and shouts,

"She waxes, but that's not any of your business! But seriously, who makes this beer?"

 

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

Guy walks into a bar with a gun and snarls “who had sex with my wife!!!”

A guy in the back replies, “You don’t have enough bullets.”

 

[Lifestyle66]

There's also the term Stag, but I believe that's a case of the husband joins in, which to me just makes it a threesome without any of the cuck scenarios..

I know one couple IRL who describe themselves as a stag/vixen relationship, but he doesn't consider them playing those roles if he's in the room. At those times, they're just swingers in a threesome. He prefers she find guys on her own and tell him later to call her a vixen.

The issue I've seen with this discussion is the number of people referring to "I found this on an Internet site" to justify their definitions. Unless it's a recognized dictionary, those sites might just be other clueless trolls building their own sites on a term they read here or elsewhere.

Those who shout the loudest or the most seem to make the rules ... right?

 

[sweetdreamssss]

Intentional and unintentional cuckolding is a staple of Indian sex stories....

One of the reasons why they love it is because Indian society values the chastity of a wife. So the very thought of a woman having sex with someone other than her husband ...

 

[nice90sguy]

Intentional and unintentional cuckolding is a staple of Indian sex stories....

One of the reasons why they love it is because Indian society values the chastity of a wife. So the very thought of a woman having sex with someone other than her husband ...

..turns them on, because then they could see their wife as a whore? Is that what you mean?

 

[Andrew1968]

This is just my opinion, I mean it may just be my fantasy, but there are some interesting dynamics playing out in these sorts of relationships.

A hot-wife is a wife in a marriage, but, in my view, she is more than that. She’s an individual, she enjoys an autonomy which other women in so called regular marriages may not enjoy, and she has a greater degree of freedom. She has somehow transcended the traditions and rules around marriage. She has, as a result, started to “shine” and to “glow.”

I think it’s true that men compete amongst themselves for female partners, particularly when they are younger, and the female they are competing for is desirable. It seems to be the case. I think this is true: the competition between the men for a female ends or will at least die down once she marries someone. I think that’s true. The happier the marriage and the arrival of children show her as well and truly “off the market.”

Hot-wives are still available, they’re still “on the market” in some sense and to some degree, even though they’re married and may have children. The competition amongst the males for her will hence continue as she wants it to continue. In some cases, the husband wants it to continue as well, in some cases the husband doesn’t want it to continue but turns a blind eye to it or does nothing to put a stop to it.

The reason hot-wife/cuckolding is such a turn on, or such a turn off, in my view: the wife is happily available and loves being on the market. She signals her availability and then she can consider the applicants and the competitors. The husband still has to compete with other men for his wife. The competition more or less never ended for him. In this sort of scenario, the wife has so much power and control. She can award the prize to whom she favors. The husband can end up out in the cold again and again and again.

It can be exhausting and humiliating for the husband and can be amazing and empowering for the wife. There are some men out there who like being in this never-ending competition, and who more or less secretly relish being the loser in the competition and watching the winner get the girl. A husband may not even compete and still be regarded as the loser in the contest. I think it’s quite deliciously masochistic. It is I think highly addictive if you have the predisposition for it.

 

[NoJo]

Some of these posts are really long (why?) so I skimmed but I haven't seen anybody mention the obvious: SPH (small penis humiliation) is a thing, and cuckolding fantasies go with it.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Some of these posts are really long (why?) so I skimmed but I haven't seen anybody mention the obvious: SPH (small penis humiliation) is a thing, and cuckolding fantasies go with it.

In cuckold writing, especially if it is IR, they call you a racist.

 

[JuanaSalsa]

Compersion is the feeling of happiness when you see those you love being happy.

It is a feeling I feel when watching my partners fuck each other. It was fascinating to feel for the first time. It's not like I even get especially aroused. I just like seeing people I care about happy. Some men have this same attitude. They just like seeing the person they love enjoying themselves.

I do find arousing the idea of "giving" my partner to someone else for sex, or being "given". This seems to be a significant demonstration of confidence in the relationship, where you are so secure, you even find other lovers for your partner. That level of confidence and security is super sexy to me. Also nice is, like giving or receiving any gift, the thought and time put into finding a suitable lover. So sweet =]

 

[NoTalentHack]

In case anyone is interested, I took the thoughts I had above and turned into a story, also tying in how similar the cuck/bull archetypes are to pro wrestling face/heel archetypes. https://literotica.com/s/kayfabe

 

[NoJo]

In cuckold writing, especially if it is IR, they call you a racist.

True, I've never read any stories about black guys whose wives get fucked by SWC.

 

[lc69hunter]

Some of these posts are really long (why?) so I skimmed but I haven't seen anybody mention the obvious: SPH (small penis humiliation) is a thing, and cuckolding fantasies go with it.

That is a fetish thing, not a cuckolding thing. The fetish crap may include cuckolding, but it is a different lifestyle totally. I know, because I was part of that lifestyle for years when I was younger, and only had one time when the husband and wife were into SPH.

 

[lc69hunter]

In case anyone is interested, I took the thoughts I had above and turned into a story, also tying in how similar the cuck/bull archetypes are to pro wrestling face/heel archetypes. https://literotica.com/s/kayfabe

Just read it, and loved it. It is just theater, with all parties playing a role.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Compersion is the feeling of happiness when you see those you love being happy.

It is a feeling I feel when watching my partners fuck each other. It was fascinating to feel for the first time. It's not like I even get especially aroused. I just like seeing people I care about happy. Some men have this same attitude. They just like seeing the person they love enjoying themselves.

I do find arousing the idea of "giving" my partner to someone else for sex, or being "given". This seems to be a significant demonstration of confidence in the relationship, where you are so secure, you even find other lovers for your partner. That level of confidence and security is super sexy to me. Also nice is, like giving or receiving any gift, the thought and time put into finding a suitable lover. So sweet =]

I don't look at it as "giving" my spouse to someone else. That implies a sense of ownership. And I hate that ownership of spouse aspect of marriage.

I look at it as giving my spouse my trust and caring about them enjoying themselves, almost like an unrestricted spa treatment. My stories are all based on that non-owner relationship.

 

[MillieDynamite]

True, I've never read any stories about black guys whose wives get fucked by SWC.

They exist.

 

[JuanaSalsa]

I don't look at it as "giving" my spouse to someone else. That implies a sense of ownership. And I hate that ownership of spouse aspect of marriage.

I look at it as giving my spouse my trust and caring about them enjoying themselves, almost like an unrestricted spa treatment. My stories are all based on that non-owner relationship.

It's kinky and fun for me to have a power exchange dynamic at times, and I'm a switch so I like it both ways, lol.

I totally get being turned off by it though.