The beauty of submissive men

[eroticspank]

I'd like to thank you for this thread. As a switch I find it quite hard to come to terms with my changing desires at times, although to be honest it's the dynamic that changes me, but this thread is both beautiful and educational

Erochic started this thread and she seems to be away for a while. But I am sure she would appreciate your nice comments. Many of us have truly enjoyed this thread and the great discussions we have had here. So please feel free to share more of your story and thoughts when you feel comfortable doing so.

I am a Switch too, so even though I speak on my submissive on here, I do have a dominant side that I enjoy experiencing from time to time.

ES

 

[larsen27]

stupid women

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stupid women

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

 

[amylin456]

Hi, I'm Amy Lin, Asian CD - cross dresser, bi mostly on very fem side when dressed. Saw a few videos on this subject and became very interested. I am very much into pleasing - oral and anal.. as I'm new- any suggestions or ideas form those
more experienced on advice... ?
Thank you

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

welcome Monica, backspin, and Amy Lin.

ES, i'll touch base with Erochic and see if a return is anywhere in her near future.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

i'm fairly certain this will have widespread appeal

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=66686679&postcount=1833

 

[jackstud]

Hi, I'm Amy Lin, Asian CD - cross dresser, bi mostly on very fem side when dressed. Saw a few videos on this subject and became very interested. I am very much into pleasing - oral and anal.. as I'm new- any suggestions or ideas form those
more experienced on advice... ?
Thank you

Keep on keeping on Darlin

 

[amylin456]

welcome Monica, backspin, and Amy Lin.

ES, i'll touch base with Erochic and see if a return is anywhere in her near future.

Thank you very much for the welcome....
A

 

[Jenna2641]

I'm moving more to embrace my dominant side, and the more I read the more I realise there is a huge disconnect between the image of Femdom and what the majority of dominant women want.

Femdom porn leaves me completely cold, and it wasn't until I stumbled upon blogs and tumblers celebrating the beauty of submissive men and read others thoughts on the matter, that I realised why.

In my view Femdom porn completely dehumanises the dynamic and reduces the Domme to a latex clad boot wearing 2 dimensional cut out figure(not that there is anything wrong with latex and boots if you enjoy them, but it should not be a requirement ) ... And completely leaves the woman and her pleasure out of the picture.

So here I want to share, and ask others to share, links and discussions and pictures that celebrate the dominant woman and submissive man in a beautiful way.

No sneering ice queens and worthless worms please!

Definitely a better emotional image of the dom/sub relationship. More sensual. It would the kind I could see myself giving into. Even including some spanking!

 

[switchersm]

........,

 

[SpunThings]

Hi,I am Thomas and I live in the ruhr...

I'm not into being the dominant one, but I do love teasing so I enjoyed reading that. Your story was kind of sweet, and I'm glad you've found a happy solution to the problem. This to me is what is exciting about a power exchange, when the submissive person willingly and enthusiastically gives up their power. I feel like that's more powerful than any coercion or manipulation.

 

[Jenna2641]

I'm not into being the dominant one, but I do love teasing so I enjoyed reading that. Your story was kind of sweet, and I'm glad you've found a happy solution to the problem. This to me is what is exciting about a power exchange, when the submissive person willingly and enthusiastically gives up their power. I feel like that's more powerful than any coercion or manipulation.

I certainly agree!

 

[switchersm]

I'm not into being the dominant one, but I do love teasing so I enjoyed reading that. Your story was kind of sweet, and I'm glad you've found a happy solution to the problem. This to me is what is exciting about a power exchange, when the submissive person willingly and enthusiastically gives up their power. I feel like that's more powerful than any coercion or manipulation.

Thank you very much

 

[amylin456]

I'm not into being the dominant one, but I do love teasing so I enjoyed reading that. Your story was kind of sweet, and I'm glad you've found a happy solution to the problem. This to me is what is exciting about a power exchange, when the submissive person willingly and enthusiastically gives up their power. I feel like that's more powerful than any coercion or manipulation.

Is teasing considered encouragement ?

 

[SpunThings]

Is teasing considered encouragement ?

I'm confused by your question. I like to tease him on occasion, so I can relate to that aspect.

Although I like to be teased too.

Encouragement for what?

 

[amylin456]

I'm confused by your question. I like to tease him on occasion, so I can relate to that aspect.

Although I like to be teased too.

Encouragement for what?

was just wondering that if the teasing-- done in a positive way) can be used as encouragement

 

[jackstud]

This is beautiful

The type of teasing that melts me

 

[amylin456]

i'm fairly certain this will have widespread appeal

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=66686679&postcount=1833

very much so..

 

[eroticspank]

Hi,I am Thomas and I live in the ruhr area...

She asks me to please her with a massage and other things...... She loves the control very well and I love my wonderful wife with all these consequences. I would like to get some responses. Thomas

Thanks for sharing your loving situation with us. This is what I was talking about earlier when I was trying to describe chastity and some of the reasons guys get pleasure from it. The key to me is sacrifice and your wife knowing that you are truly doing all of that for her. That is what would make it rewarding to me. In your case it sounds like your wife can't have an orgasm anymore so you wearing the chastity device, limiting your own orgasms, and putting them under her control is putting yourself in the same boat and very sweet.

ES

 

[eroticspank]

was just wondering that if the teasing-- done in a positive way) can be used as encouragement

In my experience, teasing is usually done for a specific reason. However, each person's definition of teasing may be different.

Teasing like the Domme putting her feet in my crotch under the table at dinner could be part of foreplay and may be fun for her to watch me struggle to eat.

The same is true if she had a remote vibrating cock ring around my dick and she had the controls in her purse at dinner.

I could also call this above just "play" vs teasing. However the end result is a more intense session when we finally do get into the play room.

After a fairly hard spanking, lightly caressing my ass helps my mind get away from the pain and causes some arousal. Or she could have me stand up and play with my dick for a while getting me very hard. That is teasing and it gets me very hard. But it also gets my mind off the spanking and I can take more before it gets painful again. So in this instance, you could consider her playing with my dick as encouragement. "Take 20 more spanks and I will let you cum!"

But the encouragement it not always about the dick and playing with it. It can be in the form of words, hugging, holding, or all of those things.

Finally, the Domme touching various parts of my genitals and erogenous zones in my body is part of the control she has over the sub. Some Dommes like to continually tease, touch, or play with their subs to keep them on the edge of arousal throughout the scene. There is already to arousal of submitting to and pleasing the Domme, her pleasure is our pleasure. But this is an additional part that the Domme has control over (the sub's physical arousal--"I just made that dick hard without touching it") and is a big turn on for some Dommes. If she decides to eventually bring the sub to release, the result is VERY intense because of all the build up, and teasing.

ES

 

[Monica_112]

Finally, the Domme touching various parts of my genitals and erogenous zones in my body is part of the control she has over the sub. Some Dommes like to continually tease, touch, or play with their subs to keep them on the edge of arousal throughout the scene. There is already to arousal of submitting to and pleasing the Domme, her pleasure is our pleasure. But this is an additional part that the Domme has control over (the sub's physical arousal--"I just made that dick hard without touching it") and is a big turn on for some Dommes. If she decides to eventually bring the sub to release, the result is VERY intense because of all the build up, and teasing.

ES

I adore the continual tease and refusal...testing the limits of my submissive and his endurance, how much he is willing to please me by following my wishes over his needs. I have found that a submissive man can get to a delightful heightened state if you edge them continuously over a protracted period of time although he also begged to be caged which for some reason we never got to despite meaning to (lost opportunities)

More so than forced orgasms, the only person I ever tried that on did not react very well. But then all dominant can sometimes read it wrong and the sub needs to be strong enough to safe word through their desire to please.

Thinking out loud because your words spoke to me

 

[eroticspank]

I adore the continual tease and refusal...testing the limits of my submissive and his endurance, how much he is willing to please me by following my wishes over his needs. I have found that a submissive man can get to a delightful heightened state if you edge them continuously over a protracted period of time....

Thinking out loud because your words spoke to me

Thank you for your comment and your words above speak to me also. The continual tease and edging creates a fog of desire where I see the sub dealing with the conflicting physical desires of pleasing the Domme and releasing in orgasm just as you mentioned. That heightened state is the result of the what the Domme does as she works with the sub. But just your average person that does not understand the D/s dynamic, it is not a lot of attention or time spent on the sub teasing or edging. I don't want to give the impression it is all about the "sub" and working on his dick, etc. It is an occasional touch, a strategic lick, a well placed hand, a seductive look, a few words whispered in the ear. These are just as effective as slow stroking etc.

ES

 

[amylin456]

In my experience, teasing is usually done for a specific reason. However, each person's definition of teasing may be different.

Teasing like the Domme putting her feet in my crotch under the table at dinner could be part of foreplay and may be fun for her to watch me struggle to eat.

The same is true if she had a remote vibrating cock ring around my dick and she had the controls in her purse at dinner.

I could also call this above just "play" vs teasing. However the end result is a more intense session when we finally do get into the play room.

After a fairly hard spanking, lightly caressing my ass helps my mind get away from the pain and causes some arousal. Or she could have me stand up and play with my dick for a while getting me very hard. That is teasing and it gets me very hard. But it also gets my mind off the spanking and I can take more before it gets painful again. So in this instance, you could consider her playing with my dick as encouragement. "Take 20 more spanks and I will let you cum!"

But the encouragement it not always about the dick and playing with it. It can be in the form of words, hugging, holding, or all of those things.

Finally, the Domme touching various parts of my genitals and erogenous zones in my body is part of the control she has over the sub. Some Dommes like to continually tease, touch, or play with their subs to keep them on the edge of arousal throughout the scene. There is already to arousal of submitting to and pleasing the Domme, her pleasure is our pleasure. But this is an additional part that the Domme has control over (the sub's physical arousal--"I just made that dick hard without touching it") and is a big turn on for some Dommes. If she decides to eventually bring the sub to release, the result is VERY intense because of all the build up, and teasing.

ES

I can imagine..it all sounds so very interesting and erotic with all the metrics and possible feelings, with arousal and control..

 

[cf23430]

My submissive side is an ongoing thing

I love pleasing her (no one in particular.....perhaps my lover at the time)....her control over me.....as well her taking me.....perhaps owning me as she take me with a strap on......

Sigh.....

 

[Asa]

I have often pondered finding a submissive male in rl. Someone there at my every whim and desire... more sensual than painful... sensual can sometimes be far more punishing than pain ever could.