The Female Gaze

[Endless_Night]

Marilyn Monroe dresses: 1 (Tatum)”

*blinks*

Channing Tatum wore a dress in a movie about male strippers? That's . . . unexpected.

If Channing Tatum, or any of the big name stars, went full frontal and it was actually them (no prosthetic) would that make the movie more appealing or less?

No.

I simply do not get the fascination with the appendage. Unless I'm getting ready to engage sexually, that is about the least alluring part of the male body. Arms, chest, thighs, a hot smile are far more enticing.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

My Gratitude​

Like every Sacred Human, I stumble out of Love occasionally.

For those days when I don’t see you, or can’t see you, I ask for your forgiveness. And your patience.

For I will not be perfect in loving you. I will sometimes forget to see your brilliance. I will forget to remember my own.



But right now, while I stand in my own glorious Feminine Power, I can see the exquisite Masculine Power that resides in you. And I honour it. I welcome it.

I receive it.

For that is what the Sacred Feminine does. It receives. And welcomes. And loves.

I love you and I thank you.

Beautiful words in all three messages. Thank you. And you have nothing to apologize for in having the feelings you have had.

As for your Feminine Power, you certainly have a lot of it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I simply do not get the fascination with the appendage.

It’s like having your best friend hanging off the front of your body.
Wouldn’t you want to meet our best friend?

 

[Endless_Night]

It’s like having your best friend hanging off the front of your body.
Wouldn’t you want to meet our best friend?

Ummm ........

There really is no way to answer that.

 

[MarilynMonroeFan]

Beautiful words in all three messages. Thank you. And you have nothing to apologize for in having the feelings you have had.

As for your Feminine Power, you certainly have a lot of it.

Oh that is lovely what you say

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Oh that is lovely what you say

Not as poetic or evocative as what you say.

 

[LostHorizon]

Certainly throughout time women were subjugated and oppressed, but there is nothing stopping women from fully objectifying men today, and they still aren’t (for the most part) doing it.

There is nothing good about being objectified. Perhaps, because women deal with it all the time in all areas of society it’s something they don’t want to do to others? They don’t want to feed that beast which in the long run hurts them.

Also, men (most men?) have no problem being objectified. It turns us on. But we also have control over it. We set the rules of our own objectification. Women for the most part don’t. When a woman objectifies a man it opens the door to her being further objectified. And again there is nothing good about that. We see this here all the time. That’s a door women are very selective about opening and save that for a man they want to be with and trust.

Just my observation.

 

[Mtnmike]

In this capitalist society I think the disparity in pay between male & female adult performers & sex workers is an indication what we desire, as well as demand. Men & women are just different, and theres nothing wrong with that. But, for some reason, we're uncomfortable acknowledging it.

Men I've talked to on the subject admit that they will still have sex with a beautiful woman if she's mean, dumb, or they just don't like her. And, more maliciously, some will go so far as to convince a woman that they can't stand that they do like her as a means to get in her bed (then conveniently gjost her). Conversely, most women I'm acquainted with can be intensely physically attracted to a man but he opens his mouth and proves he's an idiot/mysogenist/rude and we dry up like Mojave desert. He might be pretty, but he can keep his turgid lap taffy to himself.

I do not need to desire male nudity, in the way men desire us, to feel equal & autonomous sexually, or feel comfortable with my own sexuality. Broadly speaking, we're wired differently, and there's nothing wrong with that. And yet, in our enlightened age men still get surprised when they learn what it was that completed the alchemist formula of physical-attraction/humor/kindness/safety that made us decide to take our clothes off with you. (I'm looking at you & your elk antlers @Lmizzler )

Very Well said

 

[jeffreyx344]

In this capitalist society I think the disparity in pay between male & female adult performers & sex workers is an indication what we desire, as well as demand. Men & women are just different, and theres nothing wrong with that. But, for some reason, we're uncomfortable acknowledging it.

Men I've talked to on the subject admit that they will still have sex with a beautiful woman if she's mean, dumb, or they just don't like her. And, more maliciously, some will go so far as to convince a woman that they can't stand that they do like her as a means to get in her bed (then conveniently gjost her). Conversely, most women I'm acquainted with can be intensely physically attracted to a man but he opens his mouth and proves he's an idiot/mysogenist/rude and we dry up like Mojave desert. He might be pretty, but he can keep his turgid lap taffy to himself.

I do not need to desire male nudity, in the way men desire us, to feel equal & autonomous sexually, or feel comfortable with my own sexuality. Broadly speaking, we're wired differently, and there's nothing wrong with that. And yet, in our enlightened age men still get surprised when they learn what it was that completed the alchemist formula of physical-attraction/humor/kindness/safety that made us decide to take our clothes off with you. (I'm looking at you & your elk antlers @Lmizzler )

Well said… agree with both and also think the female body is just beautiful and more fun to look at! Male body’s and genitalia just isn’t pleasant to look at!

 

[Terrylipstick]

Well said… agree with both and also think the female body is just beautiful and more fun to look at! Male body’s and genitalia just isn’t pleasant to look at!

The female form is gorgeous, absolutely fantastic to look at

 

[MindYaBitness]

Well said… agree with both and also think the female body is just beautiful and more fun to look at! Male body’s and genitalia just isn’t pleasant to look at!

I'd agree, most of the time. I'm not particularly aroused by images of naked men, whether it's professional porn, or the odd balls that want me to click a link in my DMs, I don't want to see it. However, if I find you attractive AND you've figured out that aforementioned alchemy formula, I definitely want to see it. Suddenly, his dick is the most attractive thing on the planet.

 

[jeffreyx344]

I'd agree, most of the time. I'm not particularly aroused by images of naked men, whether it's professional porn, or the odd balls that want me to click a link in my DMs, I don't want to see it. However, if I find you attractive AND you've figured out that aforementioned alchemy formula, I definitely want to see it. Suddenly, his dick is the most attractive thing on the planet.

Yeah… but that’s the alchemy of personal relationships that make “it” attractive…. hard to monetize that. Men and women are different physically, mentally and emotionally and it’s wonderful!

 

[Apisto42]

I'd agree, most of the time. I'm not particularly aroused by images of naked men, whether it's professional porn, or the odd balls that want me to click a link in my DMs, I don't want to see it. However, if I find you attractive AND you've figured out that aforementioned alchemy formula, I definitely want to see it. Suddenly, his dick is the most attractive thing on the planet.

Note to self: buy Lego gift certificate tomorrow.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Note to self: buy Lego gift certificate tomorrow.

You will need to also be well versed in antler humor and coconut blankets

 

[hotwords229_A]

Male body’s and genitalia just isn’t pleasant to look at!

I find my dick very attractive.
I look at it all the time.

 

[MindYaBitness]

I find my dick very attractive.
I look at it all the time.

I'm grateful my reproductive situation is hidden from view. Boobs are pretty, everything else... not so much.

 

[Endless_Night]

Also, men (most men?) have no problem being objectified. It turns us on. But we also have control over it. We set the rules of our own objectification. Women for the most part don’t. When a woman objectifies a man it opens the door to her being further objectified. And again there is nothing good about that. We see this here all the time. That’s a door women are very selective about opening and save that for a man they want to be with and trust.

This is brilliantly explained.

 

[redsnowbunny]

So here’s a thought:

Are women objectified because “society says so” or because there is a market for the female body?

In other words, if women lusted after men’s bodies as much as men lust after women, would there be more male objectification in the world?

Misogyny is cool and all, but if there was money to be made wouldn’t there be more male objectification?

I don’t believe we’ve been conditioned to only accept the female form, I think it’s just natural. Certainly throughout time women were subjugated and oppressed, but there is nothing stopping women from fully objectifying men today, and they still aren’t (for the most part) doing it.

I never saw a Magic Mike movie and, with any luck, I never will. But I found it hilarious when I found out there was more female nudity in a movie about male strippers than male nudity. Is that misogyny in film, or is that just what the audience wants. The audience is entirely female or gay male, the only straight guys there were dragged there by their girlfriends in hopes of getting some action from their horniness.

If Magic Mike was the male version of Showgirls and floppy dicks were swinging around left and right, would the movies have made more money or less? Why?

So is society saying no dicks, or is it the audience not wanting to see them?

uhm..
Well. Women tend to be judged A LOOOT more ( by everyone: men think you're a slut, other women call you a slut behind your back) for openly expressing your sexual needs and/or desires, so they tend to express way less their appreciation for male nudity and porn, and socially not admitting half of it.
At a young age, for example I learnt that boys expressing their interest in the female form, nudity or porn was normal and accepted by their peers; while girls lusting over the male form were openly criticized and probably called names. This seems to be a little less true for younger generations, but I don't know to what extent.

As for the "commercial" side of things:
the online content seems to be adapting to women's taste, even if at a slow-ish rate than expected - ethical porn , or porn made for women comes to mind- and porn seems to be the quickest of the worlds of content to adapt to this shift, and to bolder female audience requests and consumption ..
Isn't it ironic that the world that profited more -and still does- from the objectification of women's bodies is the quickest to pick up the female audience opportunity and cater to their tastes?
Even if it's mostly men, I think, running the games there, there's probably less hypocricy.

In the "mainstream" media and content creation, instead, power and money are still held -for the most part- by men and only by a few women (who need to conform, I guess.)
Most of these man would probably feel "uneasiness" in objectifying other men as they do women... they would find it degrading ad despicable and personally humiliating. Maybe even emasculating.
Morality soars when gender equality bites you in the ass.
So , no dicks for the ladies.

As more and more women are going to rise in positions of power we might see a little change, but I sincerely still hold doubts about this.

p.s. sorry for the eventual mistakes, I am a bit tired and english is not my first language.

 

[Lord_Libido]

My Gratitude​

Like every Sacred Human, I stumble out of Love occasionally.

For those days when I don’t see you, or can’t see you, I ask for your forgiveness. And your patience.

For I will not be perfect in loving you. I will sometimes forget to see your brilliance. I will forget to remember my own.



But right now, while I stand in my own glorious Feminine Power, I can see the exquisite Masculine Power that resides in you. And I honour it. I welcome it.

I receive it.

For that is what the Sacred Feminine does. It receives. And welcomes. And loves.

I love you and I thank you.

You're correct.
The Sacred Feminine is very powerful. It has the power to inspire love, goodness, charity and hope. It has the power to give life value. It has the power to shape humanity itself.
Many women have abused and squandered this power, just as men have. For that many men want to take that power away just as women want to take away mens power.
Taking power away isn't the answer. We must teach ourselves, and each other, how to use it properly.
I can hope I'm doing my part the best I can.

 

[MarilynMonroeFan]

You're correct.
The Sacred Feminine is very powerful. It has the power to inspire love, goodness, charity and hope. It has the power to give life value. It has the power to shape humanity itself.
Many women have abused and squandered this power, just as men have. For that many men want to take that power away just as women want to take away mens power.
Taking power away isn't the answer. We must teach ourselves, and each other, how to use it properly.
I can hope I'm doing my part the best I can.

Thank You for this wonderful saying, and You are right, we all should learn to use the power and try to give the best and be equal!

 

[hotwords229_A]

Someone explain this picture to me.

I’m assuming it’s an advertisement for underwear, but is it sexy or just confusing?
Why is the guy on crutches, with his leg in a cast, in his underwear like he’s getting ready for the big game?
Is this picture supposed to inspire men to wear tightly whities or to get women horny to get their guys to wear underwear like this?

Is it for the female gaze or the regular gays? (<—see what I did there?)

 

[Apisto42]

Why is the guy on crutches the focus of the group? Coach looks pissed off.

And, if your body looks like that, you can probably wear tighty whiteys and still pull.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Why is the guy on crutches the focus of the group? Coach looks pissed off.

It could make sense that he was the star player and he got hurt so now they’re going to lose, but why the hell is he in his underwear? What was he doing?!

 

[lilmissdarling]

Someone explain this picture to me.

I dont know about the female gaze point.

But I see this as the coach asking, "You're still good to play on Saturday, right?"

Advertising wise - Probably more targeted to the men. "See these athletes use this brand. If its good for them, it'll be good for the working folk".

 

[hotwords229_A]

I dont know about the female gaze point.

But I see this as the coach asking, "You're still good to play on Saturday, right?"

Advertising wise - Probably more targeted to the men. "See these athletes use this brand. If it’s good for them, it'll be good for the working folk".

That still doesn’t explain where his clothes are. Unless it’s going to take him until Saturday to get his gear on.