The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[MakeMePlease]

Answers, even painful ones, don't leave you hanging in the wind wondering what might be coming, and allow you to take the next step on your life's journey.

Where's the 'like' button on here, lol...

 

[cfuhrer]

Where's the 'like' button on here, lol...

Plus one

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Blurt: I wish I could figure out why I dislike my job; I used to love it. Just knowing why could make it so much better. I would either fix what's wrong or know that what was wrong couldn't be fixed. Instead I'm in limbo trying to analyze the good days versus the bad days and trying to figure out what separates one from the other.

 

[Keroin]

Why are people so sensitive about everything?

Last night, one of the women on the committee I've started volunteering on pulled me aside and told me that if I saw her on the street and she didn't acknowledge me not to feel offended. She has a vision problem and she literally doesn't see people many times.

I said, "Pfft, no worries. That wouldn't bother me."

She explained that it does bother many people. That she has had people call her up and tell her how upset they are that they waved and she "didn't even wave back".

Come on. Grow up and get over it. So someone doesn't wave back? So what?

And it's not just that. I often feel like I'm walking through a world of glass, dressed in armour and swinging a baseball bat.

Definitely one thing I miss about hanging out with stunt people...the thick skin.

 

[northwoods_sub]

As much as I have enjoys having babies I am happy that we are done having any more and I can go back to being His as a primary job instead of it being 3rd or 4th on the list.

 

[IrisAlthea]

And it's not just that. I often feel like I'm walking through a world of glass, dressed in armour and swinging a baseball bat.

This is how I feel a lot of the time.

 

[DVS]

It was a glitch. Try getting a wash cloth and some soapy water and rubbing the area of Lit that skips.

While you might be sure about a glitch in Lit software, I'm sure you know that there are some on Lit that have the tendency to skip naturally and I don't think any amount of washing will do much to change that...well other than to get them all wet and sudsy. And that sounds kind of kinky, when you think about it.

 

[cfuhrer]

Riddle me this employment office lady:
If the job closed on the seventh, why oh why did I get an email from *your* employment board YESTERDAY??!!

Aparently even government computer systems can't keep it together.

 

[DVS]

Why are people so sensitive about everything?

Last night, one of the women on the committee I've started volunteering on pulled me aside and told me that if I saw her on the street and she didn't acknowledge me not to feel offended. She has a vision problem and she literally doesn't see people many times.

I said, "Pfft, no worries. That wouldn't bother me."

She explained that it does bother many people. That she has had people call her up and tell her how upset they are that they waved and she "didn't even wave back".

Come on. Grow up and get over it. So someone doesn't wave back? So what?

And it's not just that. I often feel like I'm walking through a world of glass, dressed in armour and swinging a baseball bat.

Definitely one thing I miss about hanging out with stunt people...the thick skin.

In my experience, some people will actually trump up or even fabricate an offense, just so they can be in the limelight of being dissed. I don't know for sure if that's their purpose, but I can't think of anything else. Well, I guess that in some cases, they actually feel they were shunned in some way.

Life is just too short to get upset about some things. And for someone to actually fabricate an incident that didn't even happen, just so they can somehow benefit from any limelight they get when they rant about it to others? Now those people are just sick in the head.

But, I've met people who love to fight and will actually confront someone for no apparent reason, just to start one. I'm a lover, not a fighter. Shit, there are times when I might hit a woman, but even I make sure she's all tied up and can't hit me back. I'm not stupid.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I just put my hands inside a living bleeding creature, and cut out it's female reproductive tract.

WOO!

Still, at this point, I still don't think being a "Surgeon" is "for me". It just does not enthrall me.

 

[Keroin]

I just put my hands inside a living bleeding creature, and cut out it's female reproductive tract.

WOO!

Still, at this point, I still don't think being a "Surgeon" is "for me". It just does not enthrall me.

COOL!

I was fascinated by surgery. In a different life, I can imagine myself there.

One of my favourite memories from the animal hospital was a dog that came in with a puncture wound in his chest. He had been running after a stick, something happened and he ended up stumbling and taking the stick right in the chest. Ouch. Anyway, the dog was under and Dr R was working on him, and suddenly he says, "K, come here and look at this."

I went to look, and here's the dog's chest peeled open, and there's the big hole, and through it I can see...his lungs...moving. In, out, in, out. It was amazing to see that part of the body in action. I was actually shocked by how intriguing it was.

 

[cfuhrer]

I just put my hands inside a living bleeding creature, and cut out it's female reproductive tract.

WOO!

Still, at this point, I still don't think being a "Surgeon" is "for me". It just does not enthrall me.

My SIL went to vet tech school. To graduate all she had to do was her surgical "rotation"; couldn't handle it. She could handle traumas just fine but the intentional cutting open was a deal breaker.

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Blurt:
I don't know if it was honestly grey or just a really, really blond but, it is no longer on my head.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

COOL!

I was fascinated by surgery. In a different life, I can imagine myself there.

One of my favourite memories from the animal hospital was a dog that came in with a puncture wound in his chest. He had been running after a stick, something happened and he ended up stumbling and taking the stick right in the chest. Ouch. Anyway, the dog was under and Dr R was working on him, and suddenly he says, "K, come here and look at this."

I went to look, and here's the dog's chest peeled open, and there's the big hole, and through it I can see...his lungs...moving. In, out, in, out. It was amazing to see that part of the body in action. I was actually shocked by how intriguing it was.

I think it's TOTALLY awesome, and cool surgeries are awesome...but routine surgeries like spays/neuters, basic colic surgeries....I think I would lose my mind if I was doing those ALL THE TIME.


cf, that was the hardest part, really. So I just DID IT. but once it was done, it was so much easier. It helped, though, that my classmates who are in my group were super encouraging and supportive I was blessed to have their help.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Answers, even painful ones, don't leave you hanging in the wind wondering what might be coming, and allow you to take the next step on your life's journey.

Both Daddies still love me and all is right in my little world again....but you already knew that was going to be the outcome...didn't you.





Oh and my ass being sore to the point that i cant sit helps everything feel all the more wonderful

 

[Cattypuss]

In my experience, some people will actually trump up or even fabricate an offense, just so they can be in the limelight of being dissed. I don't know for sure if that's their purpose, but I can't think of anything else.

Just to give a slightly different perspective, and harking back really to Keroin's post about the lady with the visual impairment...

if someone I thought was a friend blanked me in the street when I waved to them.....

...I would not be offended. BUT - I would wonder what I had unintentionally done to upset that person, would feel bad that I HAD apparently done something to upset that person, and I might well then contact that person to ask what the matter is, in the hopes that I could put it right, because I don't like to feel that in real life I have caused upset for anyone.

So with K's woman, I would have very much appreciated the warning she gave K, as it would mean that if ever she blanked me in the street I would not worry about what I had done to hurt her.

The sensitivity can actually come in the "sensitive" person from a consideration of others' feelings.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Both Daddies still love me and all is right in my little world again....but you already knew that was going to be the outcome...didn't you.

But of course! Karnak knows all, sees all!

Oh and my ass being sore to the point that i cant sit helps everything feel all the more wonderful

Pics, or it didn't happen!

 

[Keroin]

Just to give a slightly different perspective, and harking back really to Keroin's post about the lady with the visual impairment...

if someone I thought was a friend blanked me in the street when I waved to them.....

...I would not be offended. BUT - I would wonder what I had unintentionally done to upset that person, would feel bad that I HAD apparently done something to upset that person, and I might well then contact that person to ask what the matter is, in the hopes that I could put it right, because I don't like to feel that in real life I have caused upset for anyone.

So with K's woman, I would have very much appreciated the warning she gave K, as it would mean that if ever she blanked me in the street I would not worry about what I had done to hurt her.

The sensitivity can actually come in the "sensitive" person from a consideration of others' feelings.

This makes sense, CP. I guess the sensitivity I was referring to was more along the lines of people who are hurt and offended by every little thing.

Something else happened in that meeting that I felt was ridiculously PC. I am all for being respectful of others but not at the expense of draining all the colour out of the world.

 

[mynameisben]

Riddle me this employment office lady:
If the job closed on the seventh, why oh why did I get an email from *your* employment board YESTERDAY??!!

Aparently even government computer systems can't keep it together.

In times of economic depression, the government is all about giving you false hope.

 

[cfuhrer]

Both Daddies still love me and all is right in my little world again....but you already knew that was going to be the outcome...didn't you.

Yay!

Oh and my ass being sore to the point that i cant sit helps everything feel all the more wonderful

Double yay!

 

[Cattypuss]

In one single evening I have had to point out massive, glaring, important errors (different ones) in documents put together and sent me by the following people: (1) my mum's solicitor; (2) my brother and (3) the cemetery that did my mum's memorial service and interment.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I didn't think this really warranted its own thread, but I made the strangest observation today.

The relationship between my horse and I (the relationship she NEEDS), is freakishly like a D/s relationship with the rider as the Dom. She absolutely needs a complete and mutual exchange of trust (this right here is why a lot of riders and her don't get along). She just wants to make you happy, and if she's not doing that, she gets very distressed. She needs the rider to guide her with confidence and faith that she can do whatever she's being asked to do. She needs to be ridden hard, but snuggled hard afterwards. She needs praise and reassurance. Certainly she is not like all subs...but you can't tell me that all doesn't ring a bell for certain brands of sub.

And if you're a "big bad wanna-be Dom" type of rider, you will fail. Time and time and again. You will drive my girly into an emotional breakdown that will lead to someone getting hurt. It just might be you, but it most likely will be her fragile self esteem I've spent the last 2+ years building (thanks douchebag.) If you ride her without sure certainty and clear guidance, she will also break down without your direction. You need to work within her physical and emotional limitations, challenge her but never defeat her, and never, ever, betray her trust. Or she will be so sad. And you should see my mare's sad face. It'll break your heart.

Anyway...I just thought it was a really interesting parallel. I hadn't really thought about it before. Probably because my relationship with my first horse was more of a "lackadaisical teenager" relationship "CLEAN YOUR ROOM!" *flick tail* "DON'T YOU BACK TALK MISTER!!" *dismissive snort* "RAAAAGGHHH *throws up hands and walks away"

 

[BiBunny]

I didn't think this really warranted its own thread, but I made the strangest observation today.

The relationship between my horse and I (the relationship she NEEDS), is freakishly like a D/s relationship with the rider as the Dom. She absolutely needs a complete and mutual exchange of trust (this right here is why a lot of riders and her don't get along). She just wants to make you happy, and if she's not doing that, she gets very distressed. She needs the rider to guide her with confidence and faith that she can do whatever she's being asked to do. She needs to be ridden hard, but snuggled hard afterwards. She needs praise and reassurance. Certainly she is not like all subs...but you can't tell me that all doesn't ring a bell for certain brands of sub.

And if you're a "big bad wanna-be Dom" type of rider, you will fail. Time and time and again. You will drive my girly into an emotional breakdown that will lead to someone getting hurt. It just might be you, but it most likely will be her fragile self esteem I've spent the last 2+ years building (thanks douchebag.) If you ride her without sure certainty and clear guidance, she will also break down without your direction. You need to work within her physical and emotional limitations, challenge her but never defeat her, and never, ever, betray her trust. Or she will be so sad. And you should see my mare's sad face. It'll break your heart.

Anyway...I just thought it was a really interesting parallel. I hadn't really thought about it before. Probably because my relationship with my first horse was more of a "lackadaisical teenager" relationship "CLEAN YOUR ROOM!" *flick tail* "DON'T YOU BACK TALK MISTER!!" *dismissive snort* "RAAAAGGHHH *throws up hands and walks away"

I have a mare like this. She was SO screwed up by one of her earlier trainers, and she's still got some serious problems because of it to this day.

We sent her a different trainer later and said, "Don't do 'x' because she will flip her shit. Do NOT do it." Of course, he did it the first time he rode her because he's a big, bad man, and he was going to show her who's boss, and those stupid women couldn't possibly know what they were talking about. Of course, she threw his ass (which she should've). Then, the chickenshit bastard sent her back to me because she was "uncontrollable."

No. She's not uncontrollable. You're just a flaming dumbass.

Anyway, I do better with her than anybody. Well, my daddy and I do. My experience with trainers has been horrible, except for one, so I find I do better ironing out problems than they do. Too bad I don't really have time anymore to do it.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I have a mare like this. She was SO screwed up by one of her earlier trainers, and she's still got some serious problems because of it to this day.

We sent her a different trainer later and said, "Don't do 'x' because she will flip her shit. Do NOT do it." Of course, he did it the first time he rode her because he's a big, bad man, and he was going to show her who's boss, and those stupid women couldn't possibly know what they were talking about. Of course, she threw his ass (which she should've). Then, the chickenshit bastard sent her back to me because she was "uncontrollable."

No. She's not uncontrollable. You're just a flaming dumbass.

Anyway, I do better with her than anybody. Well, my daddy and I do. My experience with trainers has been horrible, except for one, so I find I do better ironing out problems than they do. Too bad I don't really have time anymore to do it.

Luckily she's not that bad. It's just that she never had a real "appreciating home" before I had her. She left the racetrack in Canada, came to the US as an internet scam horse, that family scammed her off, then she ended up one of many horses on an equestrian team. They did great work with her and she was well cared for, but she wasn't really "Someone's Horse", either, you know? So she's just got such a low self-esteem. If you don't give her a lot of encouragement, or if you ride her incorrectly, she gets balled up in her brain (which reflects in her behavior) and she gets tighter and tighter and tighter and then finally AHH I CAN'T TAKE IT ANY MORE *spaz out*.

And you'll get timid riders who COULD ride her well, but they get scared and hold her and hold her and hold her and she's like "I'm bad i'm bad i'm bad i'm bad i'm bad WHY WHAT AM I DOING WRONG!!!!" and then they get more scared, and do it more and it's just a vicious cycle.

I'm going to have to be SO careful giving her a new home next year. Otherwise she's going to be a wreck

 

[cfuhrer]

She left the racetrack

I'm sure you know this and I'm not imparting anything new but this is common in horses off the track. Especially horses that were with owners/trainers/barns that saw them as earnings vehicles first and individual creatures second.

 

[Kajira Callista]

But of course! Karnak knows all, sees all!

Pics, or it didn't happen!

Sorry..the phone that was gonna take some nice pics ended up under the bed or something. Maybe next time.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

I'm sure you know this and I'm not imparting anything new but this is common in horses off the track. Especially horses that were with owners/trainers/barns that saw them as earnings vehicles first and individual creatures second.

Oh definitely. Although, having met some race horse owners/trainers/vets, you'd be surprised how much the good ones DO care. A horse that isn't cared for isn't going to race well. The trainers don't have much to do with each horse as an individual, but they still get some individual love and attention from grooms and riders. And, in the trainers defense, they have a lot on the line, and a lot of heads to pay attention to. The good trainers are still familiar and intimate with each horse at SOME time.

But yah, she definitely wouldn't have gotten the one-on-one time she needs. Just not the best gig for her, although she did race relatively solid. Not a big winner, but solid. She was good enough the raced her through her 5th year (poor gal).

With the owners, don't forget that there are a LOT of people that own only one racehorse, although they will do little with it besides show up, give it some treats, etc... Like a really big expensive pet athlete. And then there are horses where a lot of people will own the one horse. so obviously that situation just isn't conducive to individual attention. Then there are owners that just don't give a shit and DO just see the horse as an investment. Luckily, those owners pretty much don't exist at ALL from the horse's perspective.

My point is just that, you're right in regards to the horses not getting individual love/spoiling/etc..., but it's not necessarily the all-about-the-money situation you seem to think it is. People who think like that probably won't succeed on the race tracks. When I was learning at a big equine clinic in Sydney that does a lot of race work, every person I met was, in my mind, a "good horse owner/trainer/rider". If you think of the horses as "employees", so to speak, they're all good bosses. They just have to keep that bottom line in mind so the whole ship doesn't sink.

I'm just glad they were wise enough not to breed her. She's SOOOO not a breeder. Narrow everywhere, and her demeanor would likely make her an ineffective horsie-mom.