The LIT Swingers Club

[marriedpervs]

So ... here's a couple of questions I've been pondering lately:

After you've dipped your tootsies into the swinger lifestyle a few times, does it start getting easier to spot other swingers?

And, more importantly, for OTHER SWINGERS to spot you?

I thought I was getting pretty good at spotting other swingers but a couple of weeks ago I was way off.

My husband and I were recently invited over to a neighbor's house for dinner. On a Tuesday night. Totally, casual right? Our kids go to the same school, we bump into them here and there, we've always been cordial and friendly over the years but we've never engaged socially before. They're about our age. They're both attractive and they both obviously take care of themselves. So my husband and I decided sure what the heck? They've always seemed nice and it's never a bad idea to have some friends in your neighborhood, right?

So we get there and I immediately feel underdressed. David (my husband) is just wearing jeans and a nice collared shirt. I'm wearing a casual dress, no jewelry except for my wedding ring and a pair of (cute of course!) mules. Our hosts are not exactly decked out but they're definitely dressed nicer than us. He's in nice slacks, sharp shirt and shoes and she's wearing a gorgeous white, billowy dress with a plunging neckline, fuck-me shoes, lots of dangly bracelets and an ankle bracelet with a little gold charm on it.

My first thought was they're trying to make a good impression on us because they know we're in the resort biz and one of them might be looking for a job.

When I ask about where their kids are I find out they are spending the night with their grandparents. They invite us out onto their deck. We make idle chit-chat. He serves us drinks and when she crosses her long (very shapely) legs in front of my husband, and apologizes for tapping his shin with the toe of her shoe, she starts bouncing her leg off her knee I notice the charm bracelet has the words 'hot wife' stamped on it.

"Are we being seduced?" I thought to myself. No, no way. I remember her asking me once what church we go to.

Anyway, the dinner is wonderful. A baked salmon broccoli casserole with a lovely side salad. The conversation is fun and skips between how we each met, places we've been, funny travel adventures (which are two conversation starters that I can't contribute to very much because I haven't done a lot of traveling) and then after a scrumptious key lime pie dessert, an expensive bottle of scotch comes out, we retire to their plush and cozy living room and the conversation quickly turns to the subject of bucket lists.

And guess who and what is on their bucket list?

Surprise, surprise they like to "spice up" their marriage "from time to time" and they point blank said to us "we have a feeling you do too" - isn't that crazy?!!

Anyways, if anyone has any insights into spotting other, or being spotted as a swinger please share ....

Hi Liz! Great to see you back here and so hot to read this story. My only insights are similar to yours. She may wear an anklet. They may linger with welcome and farewell kisses. I think as swingers we also don't realise that we exude a higher level of sexuality in our demeanour than regular folks. It's hard, but hey, they say hard men are good to find, right?

 

[marriedpervs]

Telling your bff that her husband pumped a huge load inside of you earlier doesn't always have to ruin the friendship.

In fact, with some friendships, it can actually bring you both closer together!

Very true. Love this post, Liz. Made me quiver.....

 

[Bigspurt]

Wow, this thread sure died without me around the past month or so to stoke the flames

I was hoping to read about all the fun other people have been having while I've been off dealing with some health issues in the family. I guess I'll just have to leave it up to my imagination now .....

Oh well, someone who shall remain nameless sent me this video - maybe I'll watch it again before I start to get ready to go to work tonight

The lady in this video is having a real treat!

 

[peterlickspussy]

Well gosh Liz, did you or did you not partake?

 

[Cobra6813]

So ... here's a couple of questions I've been pondering lately:

After you've dipped your tootsies into the swinger lifestyle a few times, does it start getting easier to spot other swingers?

And, more importantly, for OTHER SWINGERS to spot you?

I thought I was getting pretty good at spotting other swingers but a couple of weeks ago I was way off.

My husband and I were recently invited over to a neighbor's house for dinner. On a Tuesday night. Totally, casual right? Our kids go to the same school, we bump into them here and there, we've always been cordial and friendly over the years but we've never engaged socially before. They're about our age. They're both attractive and they both obviously take care of themselves. So my husband and I decided sure what the heck? They've always seemed nice and it's never a bad idea to have some friends in your neighborhood, right?

So we get there and I immediately feel underdressed. David (my husband) is just wearing jeans and a nice collared shirt. I'm wearing a casual dress, no jewelry except for my wedding ring and a pair of (cute of course!) mules. Our hosts are not exactly decked out but they're definitely dressed nicer than us. He's in nice slacks, sharp shirt and shoes and she's wearing a gorgeous white, billowy dress with a plunging neckline, fuck-me shoes, lots of dangly bracelets and an ankle bracelet with a little gold charm on it.

My first thought was they're trying to make a good impression on us because they know we're in the resort biz and one of them might be looking for a job.

When I ask about where their kids are I find out they are spending the night with their grandparents. They invite us out onto their deck. We make idle chit-chat. He serves us drinks and when she crosses her long (very shapely) legs in front of my husband, and apologizes for tapping his shin with the toe of her shoe, she starts bouncing her leg off her knee I notice the charm bracelet has the words 'hot wife' stamped on it.

"Are we being seduced?" I thought to myself. No, no way. I remember her asking me once what church we go to.

Anyway, the dinner is wonderful. A baked salmon broccoli casserole with a lovely side salad. The conversation is fun and skips between how we each met, places we've been, funny travel adventures (which are two conversation starters that I can't contribute to very much because I haven't done a lot of traveling) and then after a scrumptious key lime pie dessert, an expensive bottle of scotch comes out, we retire to their plush and cozy living room and the conversation quickly turns to the subject of bucket lists.

And guess who and what is on their bucket list?

Surprise, surprise they like to "spice up" their marriage "from time to time" and they point blank said to us "we have a feeling you do too" - isn't that crazy?!!

Anyways, if anyone has any insights into spotting other, or being spotted as a swinger please share ....

Liz,

I think swingers can pick out swingers more readily than the vanillas. We were swingers for 10 years and not long after we got into the lifestyle, we were able to pick out other swingers with a high degree of accuracy. I think swingers in general act different around others….more flirty, open and dress to appeal to the opposite sex.

 

[Leigh81]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

 

[lifeisgood3976]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

That's a big step. Be careful and good luck.

 

[Leigh81]

That's a big step. Be careful and good luck.

We've included others lots over the past 10 years, never at a club. (hotwife, threesomes, swap)

 

[peekingone]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

Wow, best of luck. Hope it is better than what you both expect.

 

[marriedpervs]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

Take your time. Watch and get a feel is wise. If you do have sex in front of others at a swingers party be prepared to be touched and ready to say yes or no to those wanting to join in.......have fun!

 

[ouchfeelsgood]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

Let us know how it worked out

 

[Backagain123]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

Hi there. Have some rules that you are both agreed on and decide how much or little you want to "play".there should be no pressure to get involved from anyone. It's supposed to be fun.remember your in control and that a kind "no" to any offers from people you don't have a connection with should be sufficient ,never yake one for the team to please your partner.hope you have a great time

 

[LoveLiving]

After 10 years of talking about it we're finally going to a swinger club this weekend.
I know the basic rules but what advice would you give to someone who has yet to go?? Are most clubs generally the same?? Any tips??
I've always said we're going to just watch & get a feel but if we're comfortable we might have sex with each other in front of others.

How was your swingers club outing?
I would love to hear details. I hope everything was wonderful.

 

[Leigh81]

How was your swingers club outing?
I would love to hear details. I hope everything was wonderful.

It was a positive experience for both of us. First though, we didn't participate in any sex at all as we just wanted to get a feel for the place. They have theme's both daily & nightly with Saturday night being micro mini skirt night. So I wore a skirt I'd never wear anyplace else lol. Only couples & single women are allowed on Saturday nights. My husband bought the all excess couples pass which is good for a year. We had a tour of the place with an informative woman. She told me that I'd be very popular here especially on nights when single men are present.

We had a drink & mingled some before going into the "play area". People were of all shapes & sizes aging from mid 20's to mid 60's. Everyone was respectful & never got a single creepy vibe. Watched some sexual activity then went home & let loose.
Now that this experience has settled in, we're looking forward to going back & probably get more involved.

 

[LoveLiving]

Sounds great. I agree you would be very popular.

 

[peekingone]

It was a positive experience for both of us. First though, we didn't participate in any sex at all as we just wanted to get a feel for the place. They have theme's both daily & nightly with Saturday night being micro mini skirt night. So I wore a skirt I'd never wear anyplace else lol. Only couples & single women are allowed on Saturday nights. My husband bought the all excess couples pass which is good for a year. We had a tour of the place with an informative woman. She told me that I'd be very popular here especially on nights when single men are present.

We had a drink & mingled some before going into the "play area". People were of all shapes & sizes aging from mid 20's to mid 60's. Everyone was respectful & never got a single creepy vibe. Watched some sexual activity then went home & let loose.
Now that this experience has settled in, we're looking forward to going back & probably get more involved.

Well done.. Was it what you expected or better than expected or worse?

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

One of our best experiences this past Sunday with 2 couples and guy half of a couple for a few hours at our local club for Sunday Funday.

 

[LizVegas79]

Well at least some of you have been having fun while I was away. Yaaay! I'm so happy for all of you!

Since this thread seems to be a little more popular without me than my Ask Dr Liz thread, I won't bring "everyone" down here with the reason why I've been out of touch the last couple of months. If anyone gives a damn, I'll post the reason over on my Ask Dr Liz thread instead.

Keep having fun and don't forget to tell us all about it!

 

[LizVegas79]

"You tried your best, Lizzie. But maybe let me try to help your
husband move past his mother dying."

(I'm willing to try anything at this point!)

 

[LizVegas79]

"Well, hello there. You look familiar. Have we ... you know before?"

 

[LizVegas79]

"Oh really? You know my husband? That's nice. Do I know your wife?"

 

[LizVegas79]

Sometimes, when not enough husbands bring their wives to certain types of parties,
the wives who do come to the party are expected to make themselves ... how shall
I say this? ... a little more available for the guys flying solo that night.

But for the record, I have never once complained about being in such a situation.

In fact, I've often made a point of thanking those absentee wives the next time I see them for having a headache that night.

I just always want everyone to be happy. Even if that means I end up walking a little funny the next day

 

[Backagain123]

"Well, hello there. You look familiar. Have we ... you know before?"

Those hold ups.love them.something about when I wear them myself makes me feels so sexy

 

[LizVegas79]

I had a fun new experience the other night ... I told my husband that I've been very frustrated with our diminished sex life lately and as I slide my hand down his boxers while we were laying in bed watching football highlights (ugh) I told him I had a confession to make.

I proceeded to go into great detail about being with two guests on Saturday night, and to my great surprise it got him quite excited!

When I slide down his bod to replace my hand with my mouth on his ever growing excitement he began admonishing me for being a slut and I did everything I could to pour gasoline on that fire.

The "confession" was a lie but the fact that he was into hearing about me being with two other guys and how they bent me and used me for their pleasure, well, that was quite a nice discovery!

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

I had a fun new experience the other night ... I told my husband that I've been very frustrated with our diminished sex life lately and as I slide my hand down his boxers while we were laying in bed watching football highlights (ugh) I told him I had a confession to make.

I proceeded to go into great detail about being with two guests on Saturday night, and to my great surprise it got him quite excited!

When I slide down his bod to replace my hand with my mouth on his ever growing excitement he began admonishing me for being a slut and I did everything I could to pour gasoline on that fire.

The "confession" was a lie but the fact that he was into hearing about me being with two other guys and how they bent me and used me for their pleasure, well, that was quite a nice discovery!

Here's to hoping that maybe that confession is the spark to making it really happen