The New Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[midwestyankee]

Survey says? Myth!

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[Collar_N_Cuffs]

All better?

 

[the captians wench]

Slumber party tonight!

so excited!

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

How does one embrace acceptance when self discovery reveals things that truly make you cringe? How can I see it in others and find compassion for it and find my internal process just create an angry violent nausea? What about when true self acceptance feels like defeat?

Gritting my teeth and hoping it's just a phase or a hiccup that needs waiting out seems to just be encouraging headaches. I don't like this at all.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

How does one embrace acceptance when self discovery reveals things that truly make you cringe? How can I see it in others and find compassion for it and find my internal process just create an angry violent nausea? What about when true self acceptance feels like defeat?

Gritting my teeth and hoping it's just a phase or a hiccup that needs waiting out seems to just be encouraging headaches. I don't like this at all.

When self discovery is involved, if it truly upsets you, often you can look at it from another perspective, or change it. Once you can do that, you can be more accepting of others, also. True self acceptance should not feel like defeat, because you CAN change most things about yourself, though not all.
Perhaps you can find some middle ground that brings you some peace

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

When self discovery is involved, if it truly upsets you, often you can look at it from another perspective, or change it. Once you can do that, you can be more accepting of others, also. True self acceptance should not feel like defeat, because you CAN change most things about yourself, though not all.
Perhaps you can find some middle ground that brings you some peace

Thank you for your thoughts. It's more about revealing some self truth in the way that it seems to breathe so organically when I stop fighting it and I'm just not feeling the beauty of that skin. At all. The fight to change it has me just frustrated and kinda worn out. Waiting for it to pass was my best solution, but now that is even getting harder.

It's hard to find an "I am" statement that feels Ugly. To have that truth feel like a stain on my skin and fervently scrub and scrape at it and realize that it's pointless because I'm just trying to strip off my own skin.

The more truth it feels like the less I like it. I'm out of ideas to move through it.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Thank you for your thoughts. It's more about revealing some self truth in the way that it seems to breathe so organically when I stop fighting it and I'm just not feeling the beauty of that skin. At all. The fight to change it has me just frustrated and kinda worn out. Waiting for it to pass was my best solution, but now that is even getting harder.

It's hard to find an "I am" statement that feels Ugly. To have that truth feel like a stain on my skin and fervently scrub and scrape at it and realize that it's pointless because I'm just trying to strip off my own skin.

The more truth it feels like the less I like it. I'm out of ideas to move through it.

I'm so sorry... acceptance and a perspective shift seem your best options. I hope you can do something to get out of the space you are in!!

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I'm so sorry... acceptance and a perspective shift seem your best options. I hope you can do something to get out of the space you are in!!

Thanks.

 

[IrisAlthea]

Thank you for your thoughts. It's more about revealing some self truth in the way that it seems to breathe so organically when I stop fighting it and I'm just not feeling the beauty of that skin. At all. The fight to change it has me just frustrated and kinda worn out. Waiting for it to pass was my best solution, but now that is even getting harder.

It's hard to find an "I am" statement that feels Ugly. To have that truth feel like a stain on my skin and fervently scrub and scrape at it and realize that it's pointless because I'm just trying to strip off my own skin.

The more truth it feels like the less I like it. I'm out of ideas to move through it.

There has to be shadow to offset the lighter parts.
Could that help?

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

There has to be shadow to offset the lighter parts.
Could that help?

It's a wonderful thought and reminder. Thank you.

 

[midwestyankee]

I wonder if the way a Litster manages her/his PM inbox is a good indication of their housekeeping skills and preferences.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

You're probably right, as always...

 

[graceanne]

Gracie doesn't like it when we feed the trolls. I wonder if she'd be as agitated if we fed on them instead.

Ew. Just ew. Don't you know that you are what you eat? Ew.

 

[midwestyankee]

Ew. Just ew. Don't you know that you are what you eat? Ew.

So...you're a pile of cookies?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I might be bacon

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Why can't I find just one, just ONE lousy bath pillow that will stay inflated more than 5 minutes?? And if I could find a great one to do that, I would kiss it!

 

[midwestyankee]

I really shouldn't try to clip my nails without my glasses on.

 

[graceanne]

So...you're a pile of cookies?

Chocolate chip cookies, to be more specific.

 

[midwestyankee]

Chocolate chip cookies, to be more specific.

Yummm

 

[graceanne]

Yummm

K thinks so.

 

[desertslave]

Thank you for your thoughts. It's more about revealing some self truth in the way that it seems to breathe so organically when I stop fighting it and I'm just not feeling the beauty of that skin. At all. The fight to change it has me just frustrated and kinda worn out. Waiting for it to pass was my best solution, but now that is even getting harder.

It's hard to find an "I am" statement that feels Ugly. To have that truth feel like a stain on my skin and fervently scrub and scrape at it and realize that it's pointless because I'm just trying to strip off my own skin.

The more truth it feels like the less I like it. I'm out of ideas to move through it.

I think we have the very human tendency to view ourselves through an overly harsh microscope, relative to those who see us and know us from our 'outer skins.' Often what we perceive as a Great Huge Mass turns out to be nothing but your average wart. You said that you have had compassion for others in the same skin. Be equally kind to yourself.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I think we have the very human tendency to view ourselves through an overly harsh microscope, relative to those who see us and know us from our 'outer skins.' Often what we perceive as a Great Huge Mass turns out to be nothing but your average wart. You said that you have had compassion for others in the same skin. Be equally kind to yourself.

So true. I am trying to embrace it. Thank you for the equality reminder.

 

[LallyH]

I destroyed another handbag today. I do make a habit of this. Maybe it's the amount of stuff I manage to fit into any bag I own - the 'you're not wearing your seatbelt' sign always lights up for my bag when I put it on the passenger seat next to me so maybe that's a clue....

Anyhow, the current version fell apart when I was shopping with hubby this morning so I had to get a new one.

Him: Oh hell, I remember this - the unending search for a bag which has to be black and has to have a shoulder strap and has to have a zipped pocket on the front for your car keys so you don't have to undo the whole thing to get them out and has to be big enough for your iPad Why don't you just get a really expensive bag this time that will last you longer?

Me: I've tried that but I still managed to destroy it. And I can't bring myself to spend a stupid amount of money on a bag.

Him: Well I'll buy it for you then. Look at these shoes I'm wearing. I spent two hundred quid on these and you didn't think that was stupid.

Me: Yes, but they've lasted you a long time.

Him: They'd last me a damn sight longer if I wasn't walking round three hundred shops with you every five minutes trying to find another bloody handbag....

I got the vague impression that he wasn't having fun....

Luckily the next shop we went in though had the perfect specimen - all leather but 70% off in the sale

 

[gypsy*seer]

I destroyed another handbag today. I do make a habit of this. Maybe it's the amount of stuff I manage to fit into any bag I own - the 'you're not wearing your seatbelt' sign always lights up for my bag when I put it on the passenger seat next to me so maybe that's a clue....

Anyhow, the current version fell apart when I was shopping with hubby this morning so I had to get a new one.

Him: Oh hell, I remember this - the unending search for a bag which has to be black and has to have a shoulder strap and has to have a zipped pocket on the front for your car keys so you don't have to undo the whole thing to get them out and has to be big enough for your iPad Why don't you just get a really expensive bag this time that will last you longer?

Me: I've tried that but I still managed to destroy it. And I can't bring myself to spend a stupid amount of money on a bag.

Him: Well I'll buy it for you then. Look at these shoes I'm wearing. I spent two hundred quid on these and you didn't think that was stupid.

Me: Yes, but they've lasted you a long time.

Him: They'd last me a damn sight longer if I wasn't walking round three hundred shops with you every five minutes trying to find another bloody handbag....

I got the vague impression that he wasn't having fun....

Luckily the next shop we went in though had the perfect specimen - all leather but 70% off in the sale

This made me laugh!

I remember going shopping with my grandmother. We would go to about 4-5 different shops, looking for the perfect black handbag for the perfect price. At the end of the day, we'd go back to the shop that had...

the perfect black handbag at the perfect price.

Usually the first shop that we went to...


Thanks for the memory, Lally!

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

The darts!