The two types of men

[Lust Engine]

Whatever happened to simple straight forward communication?

Tell them what you want. Hear what they want from you. And if there's a mutual respect & understanding at that point, proceed.

It's not JUST about the type of guys or the types of gals here, it has to do with straight forward compatability. What might work for you might not work for another... simple as that.

Let's start looking at people as unique individuals with their own nuances as opposed to trying to lump everyone together into nice neat little packages.

 

[Owlz]

Whatever happened to simple straight forward communication?

Tell them what you want. Hear what they want from you. And if there's a mutual respect & understanding at that point, proceed.

It's not JUST about the type of guys or the types of gals here, it has to do with straight forward compatability. What might work for you might not work for another... simple as that.

Let's start looking at people as unique individuals with their own nuances as opposed to trying to lump everyone together into nice neat little packages.

Well-said, LE, but I fear those are bygone days. I *wish* there was a compatibility chip embedded in each of us so that, upon looking at someone attractive, one might instantly be able to tell if he or she stood a snowball's chance in Cancun of being with the object of his or her desire.

 

[Lust Engine]

Well-said, LE, but I fear those are bygone days. I *wish* there was a compatibility chip embedded in each of us so that, upon looking at someone attractive, one might instantly be able to tell if he or she stood a snowball's chance in Cancun of being with the object of his or her desire.

Admittedly that would be way too easy. There is something to be said for "discovering" a person. That imaginary compatability chip almost rings a little too much of pre-arranged marriages of centuries ago.

Given my choice, I'd still take my chances and cast blind faith into finding someone based upon their merits. Keep it going until we finally discover something we can't stand or keep moving along over their own little individual quirks and hope to God, they can tolerate my own idiosyncracies.

But again, these are all individual characteristics and not some grouped together "they're this sort of people" categories.

 

[Owlz]

Admittedly that would be way too easy. There is something to be said for "discovering" a person. That imaginary compatability chip almost rings a little too much of pre-arranged marriages of centuries ago.

Given my choice, I'd still take my chances and cast blind faith into finding someone based upon their merits. Keep it going until we finally discover something we can't stand or keep moving along over their own little individual quirks and hope to God, they can tolerate my own idiosyncracies.

But again, these are all individual characteristics and not some grouped together "they're this sort of people" categories.

Absolutely. As I read the topic line of this thread, I wondered 'Where's the 'Two Types of Women' thread? Of course, that thread would never show up on Lit., as women are *infinitely* more-complex, and in their complexity, *fascinating*!

 

[Lust Engine]

Absolutely. As I read the topic line of this thread, I wondered 'Where's th 'Two Types of Women' thread? Of course, that thread would never show up on Lit., as women are *infinitely* more-complex, and in their complexity, *fascinating*!

I think we're ALL complex in our own ways. In so many ways, categorizing people whether they be men or women cheapens our individual worth. Each one of us is unique & I personally wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[zhukov1943]

Hear, hear!

 

[CreativeSubmissions]

Honestly males and females...are different,it would be boring if we were all the same...no female is a like and no females are alike. I feel that people judge others,also they are to picky what they want in their mates. They should accept them for as they are.

 

[Owlz]

I think we're ALL complex in our own ways. In so many ways, categorizing people whether they be men or women cheapens our individual worth. Each one of us is unique & I personally wouldn't have it any other way.

Well, as per this thread, I'm a Type 2, but other than that, I'm nobody special.

 

[Lust Engine]

I believe in the zen of Popeye...

"I yam what I yam and dat's all that dat I yam!"

 

[ryanrox111]

OK,

With my limited experience, I have concluded there are 2 definitive types of men:

1. The type that will try to f**ck anything/anyone willing. You know, the type that waste no time going in for a kiss, a touch or grope and anything else you will permit.

and

2. The 'nice' guy. WOW!! Yes, there are nice men out there: the type that open the door for you, pay for the movies, dinner or any other event you are going to. I have found these type of men are soooooooo much *painfully* slower at any type of initiation of sexual behavior. . . . . .why is this?

I am so frustrated right now, I am at my wits end!!

Thoughts?

i don't know but i am like guy one and guy two right now with my gf so not all guys are one or the other.

 

[pleasteasme]

Re: Re: The two types of men

Yes, and I do sincerely appologize for giving men in general such a horribly narrow category. . . . .I wrote this thread when I was really fed up with men *ok, not 'men' per say, but one 'man'* I do appologize for offending any and everyone that I may have by posting such a narrow minded thread. . . . my bad

Good luck with your gf though!!

i don't know but i am like guy one and guy two right now with my gf so not all guys are one or the other.

 

[pw27]

My hubs is a "nice guy" but can be a bad guy when needed. I love that men can be so complex. I like figuring them out,I'm still finding out things about hubs and he is still finding me out too. I'm PROUD of my nice guy and he's not a loser.

 

[much2much]

In reality, all men would prefer to just plunge into a fuck.

Herin lies the dilema. Mostly through upbringing and conditioning, the type 2 guys think they are being respectful by not being too aggressive. The type 1 guys have discovered that by being agressive, they get more trim.

Basically, the type 1 guys are good for a fuck, the type 2 guys are better for relationship material if you can help them to get a bit better adjusted. They usually have a few issues but respond well to an agressive woman who makes them feel a bit more confident.

 

[pleasteasme]

pw27~

You are a lucky gal to have the combination man!!!

BTW, I never meant to imply that the 'nice guys' are losers, I certainly do not meant that!!!

I would prefer a combo guy like your hubby sounds like! One that is 'nice' and maybe just a tad bit 'naughty' to balance it out!!!

My hubs is a "nice guy" but can be a bad guy when needed. I love that men can be so complex. I like figuring them out,I'm still finding out things about hubs and he is still finding me out too. I'm PROUD of my nice guy and he's not a loser.

 

[SmilinAngel]

I'm with a guy#2, so from my personal experience, I agree - you need to make the first move, heres what happened in my case. See, my guy, being a nice guy, got dissed so much by other girls that he just didn't think that I could possibly like him. Like, he thought that since all the other girls ditched him, I would too. He was used a lot for his math skills in college - like, girls would pretend to like him, go on a few dates with him so he would buy them dinner and help them with math, then, after getting what they wanted, they would just never talk/see him again. So, by the time my guy got to me, he was so confused and hurt and suspicious, that he didn't know what to do. So, one night, when we were hanging out at his place, he leaned over to give me a kiss. Instead of just letting it be one of those pecks on the lips, I made it a deep, passionate kiss. In no time, he got the hint and we were making out on his bed. The best part? I was a virgin, and had intended on stay that way, so we had a hot and heavy makeout session, but since he was a nice guy, he didn't even ATTEMPT to push it further than I wanted to go. Now, we're happily in love and engaged. I took a chance on a nice guy, and ended up with the man of my dreams. I'm not saying you're looking for that, but I am saying that he may really like you but be just as scared (or if not more) than you. Good luck and let me know if I can be of any more assistance, I'd be glad to help!!

 

[pleasteasme]

Oh dear~

Don't let some people see your post!

The guys get a little exasperated when we are too general!!

I do agree with your post however! I am just working on me being the agressive one. . . .which will be a new role for me!!

In reality, all men would prefer to just plunge into a fuck.

Herin lies the dilema. Mostly through upbringing and conditioning, the type 2 guys think they are being respectful by not being too aggressive. The type 1 guys have discovered that by being agressive, they get more trim.

Basically, the type 1 guys are good for a fuck, the type 2 guys are better for relationship material if you can help them to get a bit better adjusted. They usually have a few issues but respond well to an agressive woman who makes them feel a bit more confident.

 

[curious2c]

I guess that I'm neither a type one or a type two.

I like to fuck...but I love the build up to it, lots and lots of foreplay, taking my time with the beauty in front of me, enjoying every nook and cranny, each individual taste...kisses, caresses, licks, touch, fingering...*sigh*




Oops...Um...I have to say that I am a breed apart in many ways, but so are most men and women too. Each person has their own needs, desires and likes and dislikes. The real thing is finding that one person whom most closely fits into your needs and desires completely. Lots of times 'nice' guys are overlooked for the qualities that the ladies most want in a man just on that assumption that a 'nice' guy will be boring in bed. Some nice guys have very very active imaginations in the sexual ways.

 

[Lust Engine]

Oh dear~

Don't let some people see your post!

The guys get a little exasperated when we are too general!!

It's not that we get exasperated but to be corralled into one role or another is something that I don't think any of us are. People are way too complex to categorize. Be what you want to be one moment but don't be shocked if you're something else the next- we're silly complex like that!

 

[short_circutz]

I'm with a guy#2, so from my personal experience, I agree - you need to make the first move, heres what happened in my case. See, my guy, being a nice guy, got dissed so much by other girls that he just didn't think that I could possibly like him. Like, he thought that since all the other girls ditched him, I would too. He was used a lot for his math skills in college - like, girls would pretend to like him, go on a few dates with him so he would buy them dinner and help them with math, then, after getting what they wanted, they would just never talk/see him again. So, by the time my guy got to me, he was so confused and hurt and suspicious, that he didn't know what to do. So, one night, when we were hanging out at his place, he leaned over to give me a kiss. Instead of just letting it be one of those pecks on the lips, I made it a deep, passionate kiss. In no time, he got the hint and we were making out on his bed. The best part? I was a virgin, and had intended on stay that way, so we had a hot and heavy makeout session, but since he was a nice guy, he didn't even ATTEMPT to push it further than I wanted to go. Now, we're happily in love and engaged. I took a chance on a nice guy, and ended up with the man of my dreams. I'm not saying you're looking for that, but I am saying that he may really like you but be just as scared (or if not more) than you. Good luck and let me know if I can be of any more assistance, I'd be glad to help!!

Geez....I didn't know we were engaged!

But on a serious point, that describes me (as a stereotype#2) perfectly, except I was just shunned throughout school. I wasn't used for my intellect.

Elementary and High School were social nightmares for me. As a result, I have next to nothing for self confidence or self esteem because I always fear getting rejected or "put down" like I was through school.

I've missed out on quite a few relationships that could have been wonderful because I didn't pick up on the "hints".

I've been alone now for over a year. I suck at picking up because of the low self confgidence and self esteem.

I do have to say though, that if she shows me that she definately wants more, and we do end up "playing" that I do normally knock their socks off.

I'm almost at the end of my string myself. I don't care for "one nighters", I'm looking for something long term....a relationship where I won't fear I'll be rejected. One that I could feel secure in.

Help!

 

[short_circutz]

In reality, all men would prefer to just plunge into a fuck.

Thats a load of bull!

 

[Lust Engine]

Thats a load of bull!

Agreed... but again that's why I hate these generalizations of people.

 

[sxylegs]

Thanks so much for your advice. . . .

Oh so much easier said than done; I am a chicken!

Eventually, it will come to this. . .eventually I will be BRAVE!!!

Thanks again!

I dated a number 2 at a point where he was in college and was on his 3rd or 4th degree and he kept at arms length so as not to get distracted.....when you start having sex it keeps you from being so into whatever else you need to be concentrating on....So dont think it is you....

Good luck

 

[SmilinAngel]

Hang in there SC, if my guy could find me, I'm sure there is a girl waiting out there for you too. Don't give up. Put yourself out there, go to parties, a coffee shop, a bookstore, or a bar ... even if these places aren't "your thing," you don't have to be there for what they have to offerr, you can just be there to meet people. I can assure you that there are other people there just for to meet others too. I only met my guy because he was my tutor. He didn't get out, so no one really knew him. He was so self-concious that he just didn't want to meet people, now he is slowly opening up and becoming more outgoing. He is so cute, everyone thinks so, but he still can't see it. He's not the same guy he was 8 years ago, and you're not the same guy you were in elementary and high school. Get out there and good luck!

Geez....I didn't know we were engaged!

But on a serious point, that describes me (as a stereotype#2) perfectly, except I was just shunned throughout school. I wasn't used for my intellect.

Elementary and High School were social nightmares for me. As a result, I have next to nothing for self confidence or self esteem because I always fear getting rejected or "put down" like I was through school.

I've missed out on quite a few relationships that could have been wonderful because I didn't pick up on the "hints".

I've been alone now for over a year. I suck at picking up because of the low self confgidence and self esteem.

I do have to say though, that if she shows me that she definately wants more, and we do end up "playing" that I do normally knock their socks off.

I'm almost at the end of my string myself. I don't care for "one nighters", I'm looking for something long term....a relationship where I won't fear I'll be rejected. One that I could feel secure in.

Help!