Thinkings, feelings and...doings ~ 2013

[prettyserpentine]

Feminist: a person who feels people should be treated like people. A troublemaker.

Yeah exactly. I'm not entirely sure I meant to come off as a troublemaker. Just kind of fed up with women on here who think they're more feminine and girly than others.

Anyway, sorry, Vail, if it offended you.

 

[Britwitch]

Yeah exactly. I'm not entirely sure I meant to come off as a troublemaker. Just kind of fed up with women on here who think they're more feminine and girly than others.

Anyway, sorry, Vail, if it offended you.

You're not alone in those thoughts. At all.

shakes head and hugs

 

[thestruggle]

Nonononono! I was being supportive, if in a snarky way.

Supportive snark is my favorite kind.

 

[Britwitch]

Supportive snark is my favorite kind.

The best kind.

grins

 

[thestruggle]

The best kind.

grins

It really is! And I owe you a PM, that'll be happening shortly. Last night was a night of lazy.

 

[Britwitch]

It really is! And I owe you a PM, that'll be happening shortly. Last night was a night of lazy.

Not to worry. Was pushing on with NaNo as much as I could.

grins

Whenever I get it, it'll be awesome!

 

[The_gladiator]

You'll also find that the whole 'this girl' thing often isn't about "Hey, I'm a girl" but rather a submissive thing. Its a method of removing importance of oneself and defining yourself as having importance primarily within the context of a particular relationship. Think of it as a commoner speaking in the presence of a noble. "This humble servant apologizes, m'lord"

(I have no idea if this is the case in what you are talking about, but...)

And this I believe is how the person in question intended the statement, thank you Veil for understanding and daring to not be judgy.

 

[prettyserpentine]

You'll also find that the whole 'this girl' thing often isn't about "Hey, I'm a girl" but rather a submissive thing. Its a method of removing importance of oneself and defining yourself as having importance primarily within the context of a particular relationship. Think of it as a commoner speaking in the presence of a noble. "This humble servant apologizes, m'lord"

(I have no idea if this is the case in what you are talking about, but...)

Yeah I get it, I just don't get why some women feel they need to be like that all the time. I suppose it takes all sorts to make the world go round. I prefer my women with a bit of a backbone, I guess. Feels a little less 'I'm-content-to-keep-women-in-the-18th-century' mentality. I mean, I can be submissive. Sometimes. Not every damn day.

 

[thestruggle]

Yeah I get it, I just don't get why some women feel they need to be like that all the time. I suppose it takes all sorts to make the world go round. I prefer my women with a bit of a backbone, I guess. Feels a little less 'I'm-content-to-keep-women-in-the-18th-century' mentality. I mean, I can be submissive. Sometimes. Not every damn day.

Well, some people do feel that way. It's all very personal. I think it's nice that every one has their own way to express it, even if I don't necessarily identify with it or understand it. Some people are into puppy play, or like to be pets. I don't really get it - cat ears are cute and all but constantly? But hey, whatever. Just as long as expressions don't somehow imply they're "better" or "worse" than another. There's no better - just different. It takes all kinds to make the kink go round!

Er, world.

 

[prettyserpentine]

Yeah, you guys are right. I just get a little frustrated by subs putting themselves down in respect to other women, or going on about how weak they are in comparison. It bugs me a lot. It's taken me a long time to find myself, both personally and sexually, and I suppose now I'm a lot fiercer about it than I used to be. The thought of a woman putting her own self down infuriates me. None of us are better or worse than the other.

I hope that doesn't sound too judgy.

Sorry, judgemental.

 

[thestruggle]

Yeah, you guys are right. I just get a little frustrated by subs putting themselves down in respect to other women, or going on about how weak they are in comparison. It bugs me a lot. It's taken me a long time to find myself, both personally and sexually, and I suppose now I'm a lot fiercer about it than I used to be. The thought of a woman putting her own self down infuriates me. None of us are better or worse than the other.

I hope that doesn't sound too judgy.

Sorry, judgemental.

Yeah, I'm never okay with that. You can think of yourself as unique because we are all different, with special strengths and weaknesses. But unless competition is the name of the game that everyone has signed up for willingly, I don't buy comparisons. It's just more of that backbiting that hurts women in the short and long run; it makes my heart hurt. There's a difference between saying "I'm wonderful" and "I'm MORE wonderful because I have more to give to men/partners/whatever."

Unless the issue is someone with no representation, then I don't care if they say they're more wonderful than me. They can go right ahead, I'm cool with it.

 

[Britwitch]

LT ~ I love how eloquent, intelligent, fair and open minded so many people are around here.

My own thoughts run a similar course.

We're all awesome in our own ways and we should embrace that fact alone. You should celebrate both the similarities and differences you have with the people you meet along the way; learn what you can from them and pass on the things you yourself have learned. You won't always see eye to eye but...that's kind of the point. If we were all mindless drones, all with the same interests and passions, the world would be such a boring place.

What I hate are those people that feel the need to justify themselves at the expense of others. It happens far too often though sadly.

You should be happy with yourself, which is often easier said than done I know, but in the end you're the only one who has to walk your path, you're the only companion you'll have for the whole journey. You might as well like yourself for you rather than for who you think you are in comparison to someone else.

 

[prettyserpentine]

Yeah, Brit, that was a very beautiful truth.

 

[thestruggle]

So true, lovely! And it's a constant process, all of that self-love. It can be hard but it's so, so worth it - and also to know it's just fine to have the days where you feel like you don't measure up, but that those days mean zero in the lifelong magnificence that is you!

 

[prettyserpentine]

You know, I've got to say, it's so refreshing to be able to hear opinions like this from women, and not hearing you put yourselves down or feel diminutive because of your gender.

We are all pretty damn magnificent. It's nice to be able to look at each other, figuratively speaking, and feel that confidence.

 

[Niceandbrutal]

I was reminded of one particular scene in "Life of Brian".

Brian: You are ALL different!

Crowd: YES! WE'RE ALL DIFFERENT!

(subdued male's voice): I'm not.

 

[thestruggle]

Screw this. I'm judging you all.
Until bribed with cookies.

I'm judging you the most, because you didn't ask for hot cross buns. Which turned out FABULOUSLY.

You know, I've got to say, it's so refreshing to be able to hear opinions like this from women, and not hearing you put yourselves down or feel diminutive because of your gender.

We are all pretty damn magnificent. It's nice to be able to look at each other, figuratively speaking, and feel that confidence.

Haha. It's also a lot easier to apply the theory here than it is when you feel like your hair is gross or some asshole contributed negatively to your day. But it's a good boost!

 

[TechnoGeek]

<3

Yeah I get it, I just don't get why some women feel they need to be like that all the time. I suppose it takes all sorts to make the world go round. I prefer my women with a bit of a backbone, I guess. Feels a little less 'I'm-content-to-keep-women-in-the-18th-century' mentality. I mean, I can be submissive. Sometimes. Not every damn day.

Don't I know it... That's the truth!

 

[thestruggle]

I WAS NOT INFORMED OF THE PRESENCE OF HOT CROSS BUNS!

But, to be honest, I'm not 100% sure what they are.

They're kind of like cinnamon-raisin bread in roll form. They smell like Christmas! And they have glaze on the top, along with this white sort of icing that forms a cross. Just a traditional Easter thing that I can't seem to shake and don't really want to, they're too good to stop making.

 

[Britwitch]

I'm judging you the most, because you didn't ask for hot cross buns. Which turned out FABULOUSLY.



Haha. It's also a lot easier to apply the theory here than it is when you feel like your hair is gross or some asshole contributed negatively to your day. But it's a good boost!

Mine got a little overdone.

pouts then grins

So will make more tomorrow!

And I think this is a great place to practice having a positive mental attitude towards other people, especially other women. Why waste time online being grumpy or bitchy?

I know I'm perpetually positive and the eternal optimist (which has annoyed others in the past) but I just don't see the point of dwelling on the downers.
It's such a waste of time.

I have my off days, I get jealous of the talent or wit or whatever of others...but I try not to stew on it.

grins

I think my day job has a lot to do with the bounce!

 

[thestruggle]

Mine got a little overdone.

pouts then grins

So will make more tomorrow!

And I think this is a great place to practice having a positive mental attitude towards other people, especially other women. Why waste time online being grumpy or bitchy?

I know I'm perpetually positive and the eternal optimist (which has annoyed others in the past) but I just don't see the point of dwelling on the downers.
It's such a waste of time.

I have my off days, I get jealous of the talent or wit or whatever of others...but I try not to stew on it.

grins

I think my day job has a lot to do with the bounce!

Aw, boo! I'd eat them anyway, the only kind that I don't relish immediately are the cardboard-y storebought ones. I was worried about mine, when the milk was infusing I lost track of things (something to do with turquoise ) and it boiled a bit. All's well, though! Sending good bun vibes!

And you're just a joy to be around, in general.

I think I love you

Buns will do that. Ugh, I couldn't even stick with it. I am just not a pun person.

 

[thestruggle]

Shh...shh...you bake, I'll pun

I actually think Brit's more the baker than I am. I'm trying more and more things, but I really only started in the last couple of years. I'll be sure to send you my experiments, though!

 

[Britwitch]

Brit doesn't like me much anymore.
I know not why.

Oh, pish posh!

tackle hugs the Vail

 

[thestruggle]

Oh, pish posh!

tackle hugs the Vail

I'm always glad to know that I'm not alone in saying pish posh. No one around here says it but me.

 

[Britwitch]

I'm always glad to know that I'm not alone in saying pish posh. No one around here says it but me.

You. Me. And the teapot from 'Beauty and the Beast'.

giggles