This one is for the guys with short rods

[LaChica]

This one is for the ladies out there who can give advice to guys with short rods or who think they have short rods.

I have seen a lot of people ask this question on how to make full use of your length during sex or oral, even though if you're short down there.

So, lets see what ideas can you give?

(Guys, you'll appreciate this LOL )

 

[NippleMuncher]

It isn't about the size, it's about what the two of you as partners do with it. He could be hung like a horse and it wouldn't matter if he doesn't know how to use it or how to please you. He could have a micro-dick and be the best lover you've ever had IF he knows what he's doing.

So, first and foremost is communication with your partner to understand what both sides need from the experience. Second is to teach your partner the things you like and how you like them done. If his lack of size prevents something you like, then it's up to both of you to figure out a new position or new thing that will work out, bringing you back to the communication.

 

[LaChica]

So do you have any experience with guys like that that you can share?

 

[satindesire]

Since some women can only reach orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, a smaller penis is absolutely no issue for us.

So, really, no tips necessary. Focus on the clit. Everything else is secondary.

 

[infinity706]

That's probably too simplistic, though. Sure, the clit might be the magic orgasm button, but it's not like it's a great idea to do nothing but attack it. There's also a small minority of women that can't handle direct clit stimulation.

I totally agree that a small penis isn't really an issue, though. It's just an unreliable, inconvenient dildo, from the perspective of physically pleasuring a woman. Even curved ones aren't very good since they're rarely the right length/thickness for any particular person and can't be angled perfectly for each position, since they have to stay attached to a guy. It's not like most women use a dildo to masturbate, anyway, and it's not usually the main event with a female partner, either. Being fucked does still feel nice, though, and is good for intimacy, closeness, and pleasing guys.

A small cock (under 3) inches is also very nice for blowjobs. They tend to be nice and thin and you can fit the whole thing in your mouth. Sure, deepthroat looks impressive, but it's not really the best move unless you can handle letting the guy skull fuck you. It's also easier to use your tongue when it's not flattened against the bottom of your mouth and it's certainly a lot easier to suck when you don't have to deal with having your airway cut off.

A thin cock is also easier to do anal with.

 

[satindesire]

That's probably too simplistic, though. Sure, the clit might be the magic orgasm button, but it's not like it's a great idea to do nothing but attack it. There's also a small minority of women that can't handle direct clit stimulation.

I totally agree that a small penis isn't really an issue, though. It's just an unreliable, inconvenient dildo, from the perspective of physically pleasuring a woman. Even curved ones aren't very good since they're rarely the right length/thickness for any particular person and can't be angled perfectly for each position, since they have to stay attached to a guy. It's not like most women use a dildo to masturbate, anyway, and it's not usually the main event with a female partner, either. Being fucked does still feel nice, though, and is good for intimacy, closeness, and pleasing guys.

A small cock (under 3) inches is also very nice for blowjobs. They tend to be nice and thin and you can fit the whole thing in your mouth. Sure, deepthroat looks impressive, but it's not really the best move unless you can handle letting the guy skull fuck you. It's also easier to use your tongue when it's not flattened against the bottom of your mouth and it's certainly a lot easier to suck when you don't have to deal with having your airway cut off.

A thin cock is also easier to do anal with.

*massive, long-suffering sigh*

That is why I said SOME women. SOME. As in not all.

 

[NippleMuncher]

So do you have any experience with guys like that that you can share?

Considering that I'm a straight guy with no bi tendencies, no, no direct experience, however, I've been around the block a few times and on this planet long enough to know that it is the quality of both you and your partner above all else that makes the difference.

Don't believe me? Do a search for cock size on this site and you'll see that the majority of women, at least the representative group here at Lit, will tell you the same thing, it's not how big it is, it's how it's used. I personally take it further and put the responsibility on BOTH partners to know how to use it, since both men and women can be quite clueless as to how to use what God gave them as well as what they themselves need to be sexually satisfied.

If you've got a partner with a small dick, then you need to work with him to figure out what foreplay, positions, etc., you both need to be satisfied. No amount of other peoples "experience" is going to help you with that. I wish you the best in your endeavors.

*massive, long-suffering sigh*

That is why I said SOME women. SOME. As in not all.

You had me at "massive, long-suffering sigh". Infinity can be quite intolerable most of the time.

 

[LaChica]

Haha Thanks for the advice people

They are just not for me but for the general knowledge for other couples out there who face the similar problem

This will definitely open up some opinions for them

 

[TBKahuna123]

Use what you got and use it with attitude. That's the key attitude. A small penis is only a problem if you make it a problem.

There are more important things than penis size when it comes to being a good lover, but overcoming your "shortcomings" is simple. Fuck her like you don't know you got a small dick and it isn't gonna matter. Sex, like just about everything else when interacting with women, is 90% confidence.

 

[infinity706]

*massive, long-suffering sigh*

That is why I said SOME women. SOME. As in not all.

Yeah, I know what you said. I was just expanding on it.

You had me at "massive, long-suffering sigh". Infinity can be quite intolerable most of the time.

Someone's certainly a ray of sunshine, today.

 

[LaChica]

Use what you got and use it with attitude. That's the key attitude. A small penis is only a problem if you make it a problem.

There are more important things than penis size when it comes to being a good lover, but overcoming your "shortcomings" is simple. Fuck her like you don't know you got a small dick and it isn't gonna matter. Sex, like just about everything else when interacting with women, is 90% confidence.

This is so true!
Confidence is so sexy

 

[Feotakahari]

I'd like to second the statement that a small penis is good for anal. The fun nerve endings are all 3 or fewer inches in.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'd like to second the statement that a small penis is good for anal. The fun nerve endings are all 3 or fewer inches in.

The same thing is true for the vagina, basically.

 

[LaChica]

Second that!

 

[firenzi]

This is so true!
Confidence is so sexy

I totally agree!

And, there are positions that maximize penetration and/or grinding on her clit, and positions where it's easy to rub her clit. There are things women can do too, like squeezing/kegel exercises while fucking- especially while he withdraws really slowly, thrusts back in quickly, and holds his cock inside you. Women can have a toy in whatever hole he isn't fucking, or use a toy especially vibrator for double vaginal penetration. You can do a lot more with a cock that's a bit on the small side than with one that's too big.

 

[Elaya]

As said above, it's only an issue if you make it an issue. Don't let it be a so called white elephant in the room, and be okay with other things needing to be done when required. Letting it be okay to let her get off in other ways. I once had a partner that would ask if he could do anything if he finished and I didn't. Often times there was, so simply having that invite, that I wasn't going to bruise his ego, that he was mature enough to let me ask for whatever I needed, was pretty much all I needed. And while button mashing the clit is not necessarily a good idea, in generally rubbing, and to some extend "pulling/pushing/pressing up" (okay.. humping?) against the overall mons/clit area, building pressure and stimulation can be lovely.

 

[LaChica]

As said above, it's only an issue if you make it an issue. Don't let it be a so called white elephant in the room, and be okay with other things needing to be done when required. Letting it be okay to let her get off in other ways. I once had a partner that would ask if he could do anything if he finished and I didn't. Often times there was, so simply having that invite, that I wasn't going to bruise his ego, that he was mature enough to let me ask for whatever I needed, was pretty much all I needed. And while button mashing the clit is not necessarily a good idea, in generally rubbing, and to some extend "pulling/pushing/pressing up" (okay.. humping?) against the overall mons/clit area, building pressure and stimulation can be lovely.

Humping seems lovely

 

[SlickTony]

Both my husbands have been well-furnished enough to have made me a bit of a size queen. However, if it should ever fall out that I found myself committing to a man with a small rod, I could come to terms with it. It certainly would be easier to service orally. I get the impression that a lot of underendowed guys are such fantastic kissers that it doesn't matter unless you let it.

 

[NikkiBastion]

I'll be the politically incorrect, honest one...

A guy can be as smooth as silk, say all the right things, touch all the right places, but if he's got the short end of the stick, it matters...and can make you feel like you're having sex with a prepubescent kid...which is fine if you're into that sort of thing...but not me.

I want him to sport a man sized cock. I'm cool with those averages but whoever tried to be sparing and PC saying that a micro dick owner could be a good lover should get out more. No way.

Size does matter...but it's also how it's used. Too little, there's no pleasure, it's awkward, it's not stimulating anything, there's no sensation of being filled up and it feels weird more than nice....too big and it's too painful, awkward, then it feels like you'll end up needing stitches. Same for the ones with the curved penis where he's got to bend it in you sideways - that's also painful without having to contort ourselves to accommodate it.

It's not the same issue as tits on a female. That's aesthetic, you're not using them for direct stimulation. The penis' role is direct stimulation and when it comes to intercourse, yes, a guy really can be too small that it makes intercourse pointless for pleasure purposes (he can still impregnate, but I'm assuming we're talking pleasure)...and if you have to rely on a dozen other things to get stimulation and pleasure, then it's never quite the same, and she knows something's lacking (even if she's lying to herself, and many would).

The same would be a female who is so loose and with lax muscle control there is nothing to grip around the penis, it's like fucking an empty space which doesn't work for direct stimulation either, or a woman who is so tight he can't get it in without discomfort.

There are always exceptions and guys with some deformity or some such thing, women too, but in general, guys are usually well enough endowed that there isn't anything to fret over - it's usually all in their own heads and they think they're small when they're probably not.

 

[LaChica]

That is honestly a very good post Nikki

 

[infinity706]

I'll be the politically incorrect, honest one...

A guy can be as smooth as silk, say all the right things, touch all the right places, but if he's got the short end of the stick, it matters...and can make you feel like you're having sex with a prepubescent kid...which is fine if you're into that sort of thing...but not me.

I want him to sport a man sized cock. I'm cool with those averages but whoever tried to be sparing and PC saying that a micro dick owner could be a good lover should get out more. No way.

Size does matter...but it's also how it's used. Too little, there's no pleasure, it's awkward, it's not stimulating anything, there's no sensation of being filled up and it feels weird more than nice....too big and it's too painful, awkward, then it feels like you'll end up needing stitches. Same for the ones with the curved penis where he's got to bend it in you sideways - that's also painful without having to contort ourselves to accommodate it.

It's not the same issue as tits on a female. That's aesthetic, you're not using them for direct stimulation. The penis' role is direct stimulation and when it comes to intercourse, yes, a guy really can be too small that it makes intercourse pointless for pleasure purposes (he can still impregnate, but I'm assuming we're talking pleasure)...and if you have to rely on a dozen other things to get stimulation and pleasure, then it's never quite the same, and she knows something's lacking (even if she's lying to herself, and many would).

The same would be a female who is so loose and with lax muscle control there is nothing to grip around the penis, it's like fucking an empty space which doesn't work for direct stimulation either, or a woman who is so tight he can't get it in without discomfort.

There are always exceptions and guys with some deformity or some such thing, women too, but in general, guys are usually well enough endowed that there isn't anything to fret over - it's usually all in their own heads and they think they're small when they're probably not.

Well, assuming penis in vagina sex was required or particularly amazing, you might have a pretty good point (although curve tends to be positive as long as it isn't extreme). I have a fairly large cock, but that hasn't been one of the things I've really been complimented on. I've left quite a few people out of breath after massive orgasms without even taking my pants off. Having a big dick or even one at all is optional. If it were, there wouldn't be any reason for 2 women to have sex.

 

[NikkiBastion]

Optional? Well, I assumed that was part of the point of the OP - and lovemaking that includes penetration via penis. Otherwise, it's just making out.

I don't see the cock as optional but a requirement (unless it's making out) and even two chicks getting it on invariably whip out the monster dildo for penetration because, lesbian or not, they know a big thick naughty dildo feels tons better than some chick's skinny fingers

And congrats on your big breath taking dick. Direct a girl to the gallery to have a look!

 

[infinity706]

There isn't a gallery. I used to have a full frontal nude picture in my signature, though. It just made a lot of the guys uncomfortable.

As for lesbians whipping out the monster dildo, sure it happens in a few cases, but go down to LGBT and try and tell the lesbians how they have sex.

 

[NikkiBastion]

Hahah! No doubt!

 

[firenzi]

...and if you have to rely on a dozen other things to get stimulation and pleasure, then it's never quite the same, and she knows something's lacking (even if she's lying to herself, and many would).

Maybe, but I think that would be for each individual woman to decide. Every relationship lacks something, because no one is perfect. If Mr Right lacked a bit in size, there are many other ways of deriving pleasure, and attitude on the part of the woman counts for a lot. Not that women should stick it out with someone who really leaves them feeling unfulfilled- just that both parties' approach sex is important.