Watching wife with stranger

[Plathfan]

Think about all those words you're using to describe "love".

How can you really LOVE your wife if you use all those negative words to describe your underlying feelings about that relationship?

Negative only in the mind of someone with an agenda. You’re not above nature. Hormones shape emotions and behavior the same way, except in psychopaths. I have no problem with sharing or swapping as a fantasy; in fact, I’ve written quite a bit on the subject. But as you keep bringing that missionary mindset into real life, I’ll keep reminding you of the less pleasant truth.

So which is it - do you accept that you could be off base, or are you so convinced that you know all truths that any suggestion you make that you could be wrong is just, err, 'BS'?

I could be off base about the underlying gay motives in sharing, but I’m not wrong about the biological aspects of love.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Negative only in the mind of someone with an agenda. You’re not above nature. Hormones shape emotions and behavior the same way, except in psychopaths. I have no problem with sharing or swapping as a fantasy; in fact, I’ve written quite a bit on the subject. But as you keep bringing that missionary mindset into real life, I’ll keep reminding you of the less pleasant truth.


I could be off base about the underlying gay motives in sharing, but I’m not wrong about the biological aspects of love.

I'm very aware of how hormones affect behavior. Are YOU as aware?

Have you read my story "Raging hormones"? Or how about "The Cougar's New Toy"?

Both are about the effects of hormones in the relationship. And when hormones change, does that end LOVE?

 

[OffNSFW]

I think, in a general and non-specific way, that people have a tendency to assume that contemporary social customs are the natural order of things, and that because something is natural, that means it must be good. I am not responding to anyone or anything specific and anyone who says otherwise is wrong.

 

[Plathfan]

Try to have a serious discussion with anarchists, and they gaslight the shit out of you... Don’t they realize the lunacy is over? No more marrying your dog or your toaster. Can't they see the landslide?

 

[Lifestyle66]

Try to have a serious discussion with anarchists, and they gaslight the shit out of you... Don’t they realize the lunacy is over? No more marrying your dog or your toaster. Can't they see the landslide?

Read Raging Hormones, and tell us why it's wrong.

It IS a serious attempt to put your hormone love to a test.

 

[StillStunned]

Try to have a serious discussion with anarchists, and they gaslight the shit out of you...

Disagreement isn't gaslighting. Nor is everyone who disagrees with you an anarchist. And admitting you're wrong isn't a huge disgrace. You're not in a high school debate contest for points.

 

[Plathfan]

Read Raging Hormones, and tell us why it's wrong.

It IS a serious attempt to put your hormone love to a test.

Right on it.

 

[MillieDynamite]

The conversation has degenerated!

 

[lc69hunter]

Oh no, we've been down this road before. I don’t know what BS you’re telling yourself, but you’re not giving presents to anyone but yourself—getting off on seeing your wife another man.

Nature made things simple. When you truly love someone, you become possessive, jealous, and overprotective; you don’t share. That’s what oxytocin does. It’s the same hormone that floods your body when you hold your child for the first time.

I may be just a simple ape, but as I see it, sharing means you either don’t really love, or you’re incapable of it.

Wow! Just wow. Humans have never been a monogamous species, and forced tie in of marriage and monogamy in the last 400 or so years has been religion by and societal forces