Watching wife with stranger

[SimonDoom]

As a fairly regular attendee at swinger establishments (every couple of months or so) I can confirm that there are situations when fantasy + reality = drama. It happens about once every three or four times me and the wife go. I've seen men stomping out, face like thunder, tearful partner in tow, and we've started to identify a particular wary expression the staff wear when they question a couple and find they are first-timers.

Of course, whilst we might expect that it's the man having the issue, it isn't always - on our last visit one pair of regulars degenerated into a shouting match because he had left her alone in the bar (and not enjoying such attention as she was getting) for upwards of an hour whilst he played with at least three women (by our count). Here, though, it wasn't so much the playing away bit that got her (she's hardly averse, and we see them at the club almost every time we go), but rather the neglect.

From what I gather it's absolutely essential that the husband and wife must be on the same page, and not merely pretending that they're on the same page about it, or it's not going to work. I know from personal experience that it can be very difficult to be in a relationship when the man and woman do not share the same attitudes about sex.

 

[HordHolm]

From what I gather it's absolutely essential that the husband and wife must be on the same page, and not merely pretending that they're on the same page about it, or it's not going to work. I know from personal experience that it can be very difficult to be in a relationship when the man and woman do not share the same attitudes about sex.

Yes, but... you can sincerely believe you're on the same page, and go in with the best of intentions, but then reality bites and no matter how much earnest and open discussion has been had before entering into the situation, everything can go south in an instant.

 

[onehitwanda]

"Posting in the wrong forum", the newest euphemism for anal.

When you're alone and life is making you lonely you can always go... Brown town.

 

[StillStunned]

When you're alone and life is making you lonely you can always go... Brown town.

We need a Brownton Abbey porn parody.

 

[SimonDoom]

We need a Brownton Abbey porn parody.

Don't bring me brown

Brown brown brown brown brown Ooo ooo ooh.

I tell you once more, before you close the front door,

Don't bring me brown.

(Apologies to ELO)

 

[lc69hunter]

Is it wrong for a husband to want to watch his wife with another man.

There is no right or wrong in these things, except to the extent it hurts one of the parties

 

[Treeview]

There is no right or wrong in these things, except to the extent it hurts one of the parties

I;ve been the guy with the wife a few times. Hubby has had some sort of ED, usually diabetes. The couples have worked through their issues before I;ve ever met them. This makes for a nice time. SHe and I play and hubby watches.

 

[MrPixel]

"Posting in the wrong forum", the newest euphemism for anal.

You made me choke on my coffee!

 

[HordHolm]

You made me choke on my coffee!

A new euphemism for Interracial?

 

[Codoc24]

I like reading and writing about it but I could never watch my wife with another guy in real life. I guess I too insecure?

 

[Trionyx]

Why do we never hear about a wife watching her husband play with another woman?

 

[TheRedChamber]

Why do we never hear about a wife watching her husband play with another woman?

Cuckquean stories exist. I've just had one go through beta-reading but I'm sitting on it while I work out what happens in part two and onwards.

 

[gundyash99]

No, it's not wrong if it makes both of you happy and you're both comfortable with it. The key is to have open and honest communication with your partner to avoid misunderstandings.

 

[Plathfan]

As long as a fantasy stays just a fantasy, there’s nothing inherently wrong with it. However, I see self-denial differently.

From my perspective, and I admit I could be completely off base, this fantasy seems to stem from a clear gay or bisexual element. The partner, whether male or female, appears to be a distraction, masking the true focus of the fantasy.

 

[MH2024hot]

If it gives you both pleasure. But I think a lot of men couldn't handle the reality of watching their wife moan as another man kisses her neck, caresses her breasts and slams his cum soaked dick in her. Watching our wife in ecstasy as she rides a larger cock and moans that she's never felt this way...that's a lot to take in. To see another man deliver better than me. Because I'm pretty sure the intensity of that infidelity mixed with her husband supporting and loving her while she gives in to her own deep lust with a hot looking guy might be too much for a lot of husbands to take in. Another man is going to give her what we couldn't. And she won't hold back. If she does hold back and not truly enjoy another man pleasuring her because she's worried her husband will feel insecure or jealous, then it's not true wife sharing.

 

[lc69hunter]

Is it wrong for a husband to want to watch his wife with another man.

right or wrong is irrelevant. It is very common, and the biggest fantasy among married men. However, going there is fraught with potentially hurtful outcomes, as for some the reality is far different than the fantasy. That does not mean that it can't be a beautiful and hot lifestyle if done right.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Why do we never hear about a wife watching her husband play with another woman?

I have that in some of my stories of a swinger couple. They BOTH enjoy seeing their spouse with others and having fun. In those stories, they take pleasure in giving their spouse an orgasm from a different lover.

I wrote in one story of the wife watching her husband fucking another woman, and as the women shook in orgasm, the wife thought to herself, "That's right, enjoy him for the moment. But only I get to take him home!"

 

[Lifestyle66]

As long as a fantasy stays just a fantasy, there’s nothing inherently wrong with it. However, I see self-denial differently.

From my perspective, and I admit I could be completely off base, this fantasy seems to stem from a clear gay or bisexual element. The partner, whether male or female, appears to be a distraction, masking the true focus of the fantasy.

There may be gay or bi desires in SOME men who share their wives.

But there are also those men who are straight and would do so merely as if giving their wife a present she desires.

Does a husband or boyfriend take pleasure seeing the gleam in her eyes when she unwraps a gift-wrapped box on her birthday, and she finds the perfect gift she always wanted and could never get for herself? Maybe it's a diamond engagement ring, or tickets to a sold-out concert or play she wanted to see. It might be taking her on a surprise vacation to a place she always wanted to go, and the husband knows he'll hate it but does it for her without a word of complaint. Does he really enjoy her pleasure in an altruistic way, only for the sake of HER pleasure in receiving his gift?

Or does he give her presents, greedily expecting payback from her?


There are those husbands or boyfriends who give the "love of their life" that gift which she might want to experience, ... the gift of opening another guy's pants and having an hour of fun.

 

[HordHolm]

There may be gay or bi desires in SOME men who share their wives.

But there are also those men who are straight and would do so merely as if giving their wife a present she desires.

Does a husband or boyfriend take pleasure seeing the gleam in her eyes when she unwraps a gift-wrapped box on her birthday, and she finds the perfect gift she always wanted and could never get for herself? Maybe it's a diamond engagement ring, or tickets to a sold-out concert or play she wanted to see. It might be taking her on a surprise vacation to a place she always wanted to go, and the husband knows he'll hate it but does it for her without a word of complaint. Does he really enjoy her pleasure in an altruistic way, only for the sake of HER pleasure in receiving his gift?

Or does he give her presents, greedily expecting payback from her?


There are those husbands or boyfriends who give the "love of their life" that gift which she might want to experience, ... the gift of opening another guy's pants and having an hour of fun.

All of the above. And one you missed: sometimes the husband is tired/not in the mood/likes the idea of a bit of peace and quiet. The other man enables the husband to do his own thing without feeling any guilt or neglect towards the wife.

 

[Plathfan]

There may be gay or bi desires in SOME men who share their wives.

But there are also those men who are straight and would do so merely as if giving their wife a present she desires.

Does a husband or boyfriend take pleasure seeing the gleam in her eyes when she unwraps a gift-wrapped box on her birthday, and she finds the perfect gift she always wanted and could never get for herself? Maybe it's a diamond engagement ring, or tickets to a sold-out concert or play she wanted to see. It might be taking her on a surprise vacation to a place she always wanted to go, and the husband knows he'll hate it but does it for her without a word of complaint. Does he really enjoy her pleasure in an altruistic way, only for the sake of HER pleasure in receiving his gift?

Or does he give her presents, greedily expecting payback from her?


There are those husbands or boyfriends who give the "love of their life" that gift which she might want to experience, ... the gift of opening another guy's pants and having an hour of fun.

Oh no, we've been down this road before. I don’t know what BS you’re telling yourself, but you’re not giving presents to anyone but yourself—getting off on seeing your wife another man.

Nature made things simple. When you truly love someone, you become possessive, jealous, and overprotective; you don’t share. That’s what oxytocin does. It’s the same hormone that floods your body when you hold your child for the first time.

I may be just a simple ape, but as I see it, sharing means you either don’t really love, or you’re incapable of it.

 

[StillStunned]

Nature made things simple. When you truly love someone, you become possessive, jealous, and overprotective; you don’t share. That’s what oxytocin does. It’s the same hormone that floods your body when you hold your child for the first time.

I may be just a simple ape, but as I see it, sharing means you either don’t really love, or you’re incapable of loving.

Love is different for everyone. It's not just how Hollywood or romance novels portray it, and it's not just how you experience it. Everyone feels it and expresses it in different ways.

 

[Lifestyle66]

Oh no, we've been down this road before. I don’t know what BS you’re telling yourself, but you’re not giving presents to anyone but yourself—getting off on seeing your wife another man.

Nature made things simple. When you truly love someone, you become possessive, jealous, and overprotective; you don’t share. That’s what oxytocin does. It’s the same hormone that floods your body when you hold your child for the first time.

I may be just a simple ape, but as I see it, sharing means you either don’t really love, or you’re incapable of it.

You mean "possessive", such as owning something and not willing to share, like maybe owning your sex slave?

Jealous, as in "feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages". Like maybe envy of the other guy's cock size? Or is that envy as in "a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck:

And overprotective, as in "to protect someone, especially a child, excessively."

Not every married man POSSESSES his wife like a THING or SLAVE, treating her like a CHILD, and resentfully longing for other men's qualities.

Some men are comfortable treating their wives like an equal person, and comfortable in who they are and what they have to offer her.

 

[Plathfan]

You mean "possessive", such as owning something and not willing to share, like maybe owning your sex slave?

Jealous, as in "feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages". Like maybe envy of the other guy's cock size? Or is that envy as in "a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck:

And overprotective, as in "to protect someone, especially a child, excessively."

Not every married man POSSESSES his wife like a THING or SLAVE, treating her like a CHILD, and resentfully longing for other men's qualities.

Some men are comfortable treating their wives like an equal person, and comfortable in who they are and what they have to offer her.

You’re incapable of it.

 

[Lifestyle66]

You’re incapable of it.

Think about all those words you're using to describe "love".

How can you really LOVE your wife if you use all those negative words to describe your underlying feelings about that relationship?

 

[HordHolm]

Hang on a minute...

From my perspective, and I admit I could be completely off base, this fantasy seems to stem from a clear gay or bisexual element. The partner, whether male or female, appears to be a distraction, masking the true focus of the fantasy.

You admit you could be completely off base, yet when someone suggests motivations that clash with your own:

Oh no, we've been down this road before. I don’t know what BS you’re telling yourself, but you’re not giving presents to anyone but yourself—getting off on seeing your wife another man.

Nature made things simple. When you truly love someone, you become possessive, jealous, and overprotective; you don’t share. That’s what oxytocin does. It’s the same hormone that floods your body when you hold your child for the first time.

I may be just a simple ape, but as I see it, sharing means you either don’t really love, or you’re incapable of it.

So which is it - do you accept that you could be off base, or are you so convinced that you know all truths that any suggestion you make that you could be wrong is just, err, 'BS'?