We need a fourth word for love.

liking, affection, friendship - no aspect of physicality
I think affection is actually exactly the word you're looking for. It can be physical. I've affectionated with humans in a very physical sense. I affection through hugs (rarely) or snuggles (cat).
 
This definitely has possibilities. How do you pronounce it?
Oof that's a difficult one for me to explain. The phonetic dictionary says ˈvrɛiən.
You start with the "v" from the English word "van". Then the "R" from "regent." The "ij" is a single letter that doesn't exist in English as far as I know. It is closest to the "y" of "my" or "fly." Only you have your mouth open for a more rounded sound. The final part is "en," which is closely related to "and" without the d. You can also do it as an " 'n ." Like in "fish 'n chips." Again, if you pronounce the 'n more rounded you're there.

Vryan or vry'n, but different ;)

Most Dutch will understand and spot the heavy accent immediately.

If we as a community could introduce the word in English you'll have my gratitude. It's a beautiful word in erotism, where so many have dark possibilities these days.
 
Oof that's a difficult one for me to explain. The phonetic dictionary says ˈvrɛiən.
You start with the "v" from the English word "van". Then the "R" from "regent." The "ij" is a single letter that doesn't exist in English as far as I know. It is closest to the "y" of "my" or "fly." Only you have your mouth open for a more rounded sound. The final part is "en," which is closely related to "and" without the d. You can also do it as an " 'n ." Like in "fish 'n chips." Again, if you pronounce the 'n more rounded you're there.

Vryan or vry'n, but different ;)

Most Dutch will understand and spot the heavy accent immediately.

If we as a community could introduce the word in English you'll have my gratitude. It's a beautiful word in erotism, where so many have dark possibilities these days.
The writers of Ted Lasso managed to create an episode about the word 'gesellig'. Perhaps the series currently being filmed will manage a sequel to explain 'vrijen'?
 
Actually, there is a word that can be used for the phenomena that I tried to describe in my OP. It is "love." The problem with it is that it has too many meanings. Lots of uses of "love" don't imply physicality. The advantage of the Greek words is that, at least in modern usage, they don't have nuance. They're very specific.
 
If ChatGPT is correct, then it lacks the component of erotic physicality. But ChatGPT could be lying. I'll trust the people here to correct if need be.

  • Meaning: Natural, familial love
  • Description: This is the kind of love that comes naturally, especially between family members. It’s steady, comfortable, and often taken for granted because it grows over time rather than from passion or choice.
 
I think affection is actually exactly the word you're looking for. It can be physical. I've affectionated with humans in a very physical sense. I affection through hugs (rarely) or snuggles (cat).
Yeah, but it doesn't require the physical component. The erotic physical component is what I want to say, but I'm not sure how to apply that to the quadriplegic in my OP.
 
Oof that's a difficult one for me to explain. The phonetic dictionary says ˈvrɛiən.
You start with the "v" from the English word "van". Then the "R" from "regent." The "ij" is a single letter that doesn't exist in English as far as I know. It is closest to the "y" of "my" or "fly." Only you have your mouth open for a more rounded sound. The final part is "en," which is closely related to "and" without the d. You can also do it as an " 'n ." Like in "fish 'n chips." Again, if you pronounce the 'n more rounded you're there.

Vryan or vry'n, but different ;)

Most Dutch will understand and spot the heavy accent immediately.

If we as a community could introduce the word in English you'll have my gratitude. It's a beautiful word in erotism, where so many have dark possibilities these days.
And what part of speech is it? Your example had "ing" in it, and I used to know what part of speech that was. Like how do you say "I xxxxxx."
 
Are we sure we aren't misappropriating Greek language into an English context? The word eros means simply sexual desire. "Lust" is described perfectly by the Greek epithumia. Don't forget ludis - the playful banter or flirting and pragma - the strong long term committed love between mates or family.
 
I find English 'love' quite adequate for most purposes, but I want a more compact way of making the distinction 'I love you, but I don't mean I'm in love with you.'
 
The problem with the word 'love' is that no one - not even the Bards, can quite pin it down. For me, love is a contractual thing, with a vague mix of sunset romance and an occasional flicker of lust to pepper the idea that reproduction, and its attendant life-ending curse for the parents, is a viable option. Sex for repro is SO yesterday. We've got 9 billion - isn't that too many already? Stop shitting on trans folk - we're doing our best to cut down on babies.
 
Whatever lack you find in the readily available words is kind of the point of this whole endeavor in the first place, right? One word can't perfectly encapsulate the ineffable. So we write a couple hundred of them or a couple hundred thousand of them, only it's not quite right, so we try it again a little differently, and on and on throughout the entirety of human history.

It would be a little disappointing if just one word would serve.
 
Whatever lack you find in the readily available words is kind of the point of this whole endeavor in the first place, right? One word can't perfectly encapsulate the ineffable. So we write a couple hundred of them or a couple hundred thousand of them, only it's not quite right, so we try it again a little differently, and on and on throughout the entirety of human history.

It would be a little disappointing if just one word would serve.
To be honest, ineffable leaves me cold.
Try stuff like yearning and thrust

...and put a U in endeavour darling, there's a love - Ooop
 
Interesting. Thanks. Decades ago I would have happily tried to identify the answer to my question. But my brain got tired pretty fast. Do you have a candidate?
Perhaps "agapic eros" would be a good definition. But I really like the term "(pair-)bonding", which captures the idea of mutuality very well.
 
I like adoration too. But it doesn't necessarily, or even usually imply physicality.

In my stories it does. Maybe other's won't care for it, but I like to sometimes write, "I adored her breasts with my lips and tongue..."
 
In my stories it does. Maybe other's won't care for it, but I like to sometimes write, "I adored her breasts with my lips and tongue..."
Pretty sure you just triggered the hyper-literal language crowd with that. I think it's got enough poetic license to work.

However, it has also triggered me, because I just modified it a little to come up with:
"I adorned her breasts with my lips and tongue."

Something about "adorned" really tickles my brain. I'll have to use that somewhere. Thanks for triggering me 😁
 
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