We need a fourth word for love.

[dirk2024]

Pretty sure you just triggered the hyper-literal language crowd with that.

Then my work here is done. See you tomorrow.

However, it has also triggered me, because I just modified it a little to come up with:
"I adorned her breasts with my lips and tongue."

Something about "adorned" really tickles my brain. I'll have to use that somewhere. Thanks for triggering me

 

[anthrodisiac]

Thought that was going in a different direction there.

I have a cumslut tiger salamander on deck, so we might be seeing a lot of adornment by the end of the night

 

[Britva415]

I don't consider desire (eros) as necessarily having a positive attitude "toward" an other. It's wanting them for your own pleasure

Oh, I totally consider mutual pleasure or even giving-pleasure to be encompassed within eros. 100%.

 

[AG31]

Perhaps "agapic eros" would be a good definition. But I really like the term "(pair-)bonding", which captures the idea of mutuality very well.

I kept thinking about "mutuality" since I saw your post yesterday. I wish I'd been aware of it when I wrote the OP.

Old version: "all the way from the impulse to hug one's partner on the part of a quadriplegic, to the throes of sexual ecstasy enjoyed by two people who are committed to each other."

New version: "the mutuality and physicality involved in the impulse to hug one's partner on the part of a quadriplegic to the throes of sexual ecstasy enjoyed by two people who are committed to each other."

 

[AG31]

Oh, I totally consider mutual pleasure or even giving-pleasure to be encompassed within eros. 100%.

But it doesn't have to be, right? It can be just self centered desire?

 

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

Oh, I totally consider mutual pleasure or even giving-pleasure to be encompassed within eros. 100%.

I don’t know if everybody else looks at all this the way I do but…

I just wanted to say that was a really beautiful way to construct your words…

It’s a really intelligent thought, distilled into a really easy to digest sentence, without being arrogant at all. (Hard to pull off so nonchalantly)

I essentially needed four poor ones right now to try to get to my point, is my point.

 

[Annabelle1990]

The classical 3 definitions for love are agape, self giving love, eros, desire, and philea, friendship.

I think we need a word for love that is both physical and positively oriented to an other. I don't consider desire (eros) as necessarily having a positive attitude "toward" an other. It's wanting them for your own pleasure.

For this fourth kind of love I'm think all the way from the impulse to hug one's partner on the part of a quadriplegic, to the throes of sexual ecstasy enjoyed by two people who are committed to each other. None of the 3 classical terms seem to cover that.

Thoughts?

I think you can have you can have more than one for the same person at the same time, and that covers everything.

 

[anthrodisiac]

But it doesn't have to be, right? It can be just self centered desire?

So basically you want a word that is super specific to always including another person or persons, feeling a level of connectedness in a way that prompts a desire for physical contact, shared mutually between person or persons?

Sounds like it's time to make up a new word: Interdesire. Interconnectedness + desire. The desire associated with a feeling of interconnectedness with someone.

In thirty seconds I have solved language and granted the universe a new word. You're welcome, universe.

"Is it any good?"

Let's not go crazy...

 

[AG31]

So basically you want a word that is super specific to always including another person or persons, feeling a level of connectedness in a way that prompts a desire for physical contact, shared mutually between person or persons?

Sounds like it's time to make up a new word: Interdesire. Interconnectedness + desire. The desire associated with a feeling of interconnectedness with someone.

In thirty seconds I have solved language and granted the universe a new word. You're welcome, universe.

"Is it any good?"

Let's not go crazy...

I sincerely appreciate your effort to help in this quest. Your suggestions have merit for clarity obsessed people like me.

 

[anthrodisiac]

I sincerely appreciate your effort to help in this quest. Your suggestions have merit for clarity obsessed people like me.

I'm also clarity-obsessed and like defiling playing with language.