Desiree_Radcliffe
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I am in agreement. I was just thinking about how I would myself act. I wasn't trying to argue. Communication is good.
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dawn_of_night
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So well said, absolutely. Can all be that bit kinder
dawn_of_night
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Yea. Ghosting, in that situation seems ... Not fair, but sometimes like the only safe outcome if one party is persistent and the other has one foot out the door.... So to speak.
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Desiree_Radcliffe
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G'night, there, dawn.
~Elizabeth~
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I'm tired of people.
UnquietDreams
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Speaking on behalf of people, we are sorry, but we understand.
Desiree_Radcliffe
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I hope you feel better. Maybe take a break and listen to aggressive music. It helps me. You could listen to this:
Haven't seen the video yet but I guess now I am about to!
TXRafe
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this song sounds like it belongs in a movie or tv show with a seduction/sex scene involving a dark industrial dance floor and a dark warehouse loft bedroom with windows and neon lights.
Desiree_Radcliffe
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I mean, it's Depeche Mode. They are forerunners of industrial.
SalaciousMonkey22
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Happy Birthday
Desiree_Radcliffe
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To you? To Lit? To...?
SalaciousMonkey22
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They’ll know
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It is no shocker to anyone but I think clear and direct communication is best. It can be uncomfortable but I think it is best for all involved.
Breadcrumbing is crappy no matter why the person is doing it. It is important to know that they are aware they are doing it though. I have defintily had times where I felt someone was stringing me along but they claimed to not be aware of how their behavior could be interpreted. By saying something I let them know what it was feeling like to me and made sure we were on the same page moving forward.
Ghosting is also awful. I really don't understand it. If you are just getting to know someone a huge pm about why you're not interested isn't necessary but if you have a thing with someone then letting them know when things change for you is the most adult way to behave. Now this is different from
needing to distance from someone that won't leave you alone or accept no for an answer. I don't think this is ghosting. But if a person was good enough to be a friend or to play with the then they deserve to be treated with basic decency.
When I've been ghosted I'm left wondering if I'm imagining the distance and then what I did wrong. I'd so much rather know it was done and why. It sucks but is better than the stories I tell myself.
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Breadcrumbing is crappy no matter why the person is doing it. It is important to know that they are aware they are doing it though. I have defintily had times where I felt someone was stringing me along but they claimed to not be aware of how their behavior could be interpreted. By saying something I let them know what it was feeling like to me and made sure we were on the same page moving forward.
Ghosting is also awful. I really don't understand it. If you are just getting to know someone a huge pm about why you're not interested isn't necessary but if you have a thing with someone then letting them know when things change for you is the most adult way to behave. Now this is different from
needing to distance from someone that won't leave you alone or accept no for an answer. I don't think this is ghosting. But if a person was good enough to be a friend or to play with the then they deserve to be treated with basic decency.
When I've been ghosted I'm left wondering if I'm imagining the distance and then what I did wrong. I'd so much rather know it was done and why. It sucks but is better than the stories I tell myself.
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Desiree_Radcliffe
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This, this, this, this! All very well thought out points. I really appreciate that you took the time to write and think about this, because it hits so many marks. I think, after you've been in a thing with someone for a while, ghosting isn't appropriate unless you have already told them you are no longer interested and they don't take the hint.
For me, I'd rather know someone wasn't interested as soon as possible, because I know I have the tendency to get attached easily if someone does strike my interest (which is so, so rare). I mean, please, just plainly tell me you are not interested so I can get over it and move on with my life!
TXRafe
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I agree with all of this...ultimately it's a relationship and all relationships deserve to be valued. now do i think the majority of people can or will live up to this? no i don't unfortunately. but like you said, if a person is important enough to get you off, they are important enough to deserve an honest conversation or at the very least closure.
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I'm so grateful that I have a working shower. I feel bad for folks who do not. My friend is on a camping trip right now, and their RV's shower head is broken. What a huge bummer!
TXRafe
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the sensory blanket of a hot shower with adequate water pressure mmm
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Bite my tongue... just be nice. There can be no positive result in speaking my truth tonight, I wouldn't even feel better saying it. Coparenting can be really hard especially when you are the distant one. Kids are safe and happy and that's the only thing that matters. Forget tonight, I'm going to bed 
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Thanks
I'll be fine, just sleep it off and start fresh in the morning
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Today is going to sting for a LONG TIME!! Today (we) my race family and I will lose one of the best women in the world. Sorry... Hard to write when your crying. 
This lady "The Boss lady" as we called her. Did things for people and for the motorcycle racing world that few have. She and her team TOBC RACING has Won the Daytona 200 four times with 2 different riders. They won 2015 and back 2 back 2017-2018 and again in 2022..
The motorcycle racing world will never be the same without her.. TOBC will live on in our hearts and minds but broken in our hearts..
We will ALWAYS Love and miss you. Michelle A
The Boss Lady❤
This lady "The Boss lady" as we called her. Did things for people and for the motorcycle racing world that few have. She and her team TOBC RACING has Won the Daytona 200 four times with 2 different riders. They won 2015 and back 2 back 2017-2018 and again in 2022..
The motorcycle racing world will never be the same without her.. TOBC will live on in our hearts and minds but broken in our hearts..
We will ALWAYS Love and miss you. Michelle A
The Boss Lady
❤
