What are your worst traits? Your best?

[DeepGreenEyes]

You're on You 9.3.1 and you've learned a thing or several about yourself during your earth-time. Maybe you've grown or maybe not, but there are some tendencies that stay in your emotional-Netflix-queue for years, for good or ill. They're baked in or you just haven't called that exterminator yet.

What do you think are your worst traits?

And then, to end on a better note, what do you consider your best qualities?

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I can be unreasonable, unrealistic and irrational. I fall prey to the negative and am prone to brooding. I can be self-centered and jealous. I retreat. I take a long time to answer PMs and I don't change my oil as often as I should. I hold grudges. I stoically endure upsets and then explode in sometimes-baffling and destructive ways. I have returned the same boots to L.L. Bean three times over the years because they have a no-questions-asked forever-returns policy.

I am creative, imaginative and funny. I can be staunchly supportive and steadfastly encouraging. I love being part of a team I believe in. I am idealistic. I am sensitive and feel deeply. I am a giving and creative lover. I give compliments and mean them. I work on improving myself. I talk to cashiers and make them smile. I always put the twist ties back on the bread - tightly. I always respect toilet seat etiquette, no matter the environment.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

My worst traits

I'm very sensitive and tend to take things negatively. I find that existing is something I often don't like. There are a lot of things I don't like. I'm selfish. Really selfish. My self confidence is low and I'm the first to point out all my flaws. I'm moody and like to be alone.

My best traits

I'm extremely loyal to those I let in. I work well with my hands. I always try to be considerate of others.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Blue]

Edit No. 5 trillion.

Worst traits:
I'm pretty much incapable of making friends. I know people but I spend no time with them, don't take any initiative to interact with them and they don't hold any special significance. Not through some obnoxious personality trait of mine but just because I can't seem to form the required emotional bonds.
I have no sense of sentimentality.
I'm perpetually and thoroughly lazy.
I'm entirely lacking in any self confidence.
I have yet to find one thing I'm not excessively paranoid about. It sounds cliche but even if I'm in my own house I feel like there's a hidden camera somewhere.
I'm not narcissistic but not exactly considerate either.
I have no particular skills or fortes and generally perform to a substandard degree at everything.
I'm very unimaginative and poor at explaining things.
I'm bored with existing and can't help but see every event from a cynical perspective.
I'm very aloof, and that translates to my actions too. I'm just a generally very boring person.
I've been told throughout my life that I speak in an odd manner.
And I have an extremely dark sense of humour. So dark that it puts people off and apparently isn't considered humour.
I have absolutely no willpower to do anything nor any ambitions.

Good(?) traits:
I can type >60 words a minute with the keyboard covered from my eyes if I really try.

 

[seela]

I'm too much of a realist and as such can drag others down as well. I'm good at starting things, but my follow through is rather lacking. I'm lazy and unambitious. I'm quite cold and distant towards most people. I rather retreat and complain afterwards than stand up for myself, but I have no problem doing that for others. I bitch and whine a lot. My mean streak is really, really mean. I'm not always very good at giving second chances. (How long a list am I allowed to write?)

I'm an excellent team player and I like helping people. I have infinite patience if it's really needed and there are other people at stake. I'm curious about new things and love to learn. I'm cynical, but deep down I have this belief that it's all gonna be ok. I'm quite relaxed in general and don't get upset easily. I'm low maintenance and uncomplicated as a friend and partner.

 

[Blue]

I'm too much of a realist-

Strange how that in this world this is a negative trait.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Strange how that in this world this is a negative trait.

Yeah, and I noticed that MeekMe said that being "really sensitive" was a big weakness. I listed it as a plus. Although a surplus of chocolate could suffocate a person, I guess.

And I did ask, "What do YOU think are your worst traits?"


Also, Elle, thank you. [heart]

 

[LallyH]

I'm finding this a really tough question to answer. Every time I think of one aspect of my personality, I can see it as both 'best' and 'worst'

For example, in real life, I'm very shy and awkward in social situations where I don't know anyone. I've always envied those people who can socialise easily and engage other people in conversation. I can hack it for the most part if it's a business event, but otherwise I'm useless.

But the flip side is that I'm not the loudmouth who monopolises the conversation, and it makes me a very good listener. I'm more interested in what other people have to say - it's the best way of getting to know them

 

[CutieMouse]

I think too much.
I don't like people most of the time.
I tend to compartmentalize things.

....

I think too much.
I don't like people most of the time.
I tend to compartmentalize things.

 

[BiBunny]

Worst: I'm narcissistic (painfully so), selfish, impatient, forgetful, lazy, stubborn, insane, egotistical, and spiteful. I never forget an injury done to me. I may not mention it, and I may not let it effect my life, but I never forget and almost certainly won't forgive, either.

I'm sarcastic and kind of an asshole.

I'm sadistic and have much larger a Machiavellian streak than I let on most of the time.

I'm a bad cook and an even worse housekeeper. My apartment and my truck are usually embarrassingly disgusting. My attention span is short, and I get bored easily. I can't prioritize things. My memory is 100% pure crap. I'm good at coming up with ideas, but I rarely see them through...because I get bored. I often complain just for the sake of having something to do. I'm restless. I procrastinate like it's my job.

On the rare occasions that I let my temper loose, I don't just get angry. I rage (see also, spiteful, insane, and never forgets a wrong).

I'm a misanthrope, and I often just can't be bothered. I can't commit to anything for any length of time, but I can always be counted to make horrible decisions.



Best: I'm creative, empathetic (usually), intelligent, generous, and uncommonly lovely for a fat girl. See? Narcissism!

I'm polite to a fault most of the time and can't understand why other people are not because it requires literally zero effort to say please or thank you. I do my best to be sympathetic and understanding. I am incredibly loyal to those who have been good to me, and I never forget a kindness done to me, either.

When I can be bothered, I can be charming...charismatic, even. It's fairly effortless, too. Just...yeah, most of the time I don't care enough to waste it on idiots. (This should be added to my list of bad traits, too.)

I'm funny, or at least I am if you have a sense of humor similar to mine. I write well enough to get paid for it. I think I'm decently interesting and can speak at least semi-intelligently on a good number of subjects. Oh, and I've finally learned how to do inane small talk.

I'm independent. I like the person I have become, and I can stand on my own two feet now. I'm strong and don't take a whole lot of shit from anybody.

I know that no matter what happens to me, no matter how bad it gets (and God knows, it has gotten really bad at times), no matter what the situation is...I survive. It's what I do. My self-preservation instinct is enormous.

There has always been something inside of me that's restless (as I mentioned earlier) and propels me on. It's not always pretty or fast and is often bull-in-a-china-shop-esque, but it's relentless.

I'll always do what I've always done: Keep my head down and keep moving forward because I cannot stop.



Another bad trait: I AM ENTIRELY TOO LONG-WINDED.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Oh my god.

One of my best traits is that I come up with splendid threads (especially coming off a heartbreak. Heh.). This stuff is wonderful. It offers such insight into you people.

At first I was dismayed that people seemed to be having such a hard time recognizing their own best traits. But that seems to have evened out a little. I think most people are far more critical of themselves than are others.

 

[seela]

I think my being such a realist really is a bad trait. My first assessment with everything is instinctively is it realistic.

When other people are brainstorming or just dreaming aloud about something, I have to work really hard at not saying something's not plausible or realistic. The whacky ideas people have sometimes lead to something really good, so if I knock them down immediately with my trademark lack of whimsy and uncalled for reality check, that's no good.

This trait doesn't mean I'm unimaginative when it comes to problem solving, for example. Or that I'm not fun. I'm probably not funny to most people, but I definitely have a sense of humor and people generally like to be around me.

Naturally there are times when it's a good thing to be such a realist, but often the negative aspect weighs out the positive for me. I wish I could be more whimsical.



Oh, I'll add another good trait:

I'm a pretty good hunter and gatherer (ok, a fisher and gatherer, I've never held a gun) and I know how to survive in the forest, like build a shelter, make fire, find water etc. So when there's a zombie apocalypse (which I roll my eyes at, because it's not realistic, naturally) and things go down the drain, I'm your man. Or woman.

 

[desertslave]

Worst:
I trust too easily, and become disappointed often as a result
I sometimes have high expectations of others before they've earned the esteem.
I'm impatient once I have a goal in mind.
I'm un-confident in my own abilities.
I'm very shy around strangers and try to hide in large, unfamiliar groups.

Best:
I'm a faithful friend.
I'm creative with my hands and my ideas.
I find humor in unlikely things and laugh often (and love to share).
I enjoy sharing what I've learned and helping others gain skills. (But I HATE formal teaching.)

 

[LWulf]

My best traits are my creativity and stubbornness to not give in when I think I'm right.

My worst traits are my creativity and stubbornness to not give in when I think I'm right.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Worst traits: I'm stubborn and a bit messy. I interrupt people. I worry. I hold grudges.

Best traits: I'm a fiercely loyal friend. I love hard. I'm enthusiastic and passionate and jump into things feet first. I'm an idealist. I'm a good storyteller and oral reader.

This probably belongs on both lists: I'm crazy spontaneous and impulsive.

 

[seela]

I asked J this question too, and on top of giving me his list, he also told me what he thought my best and worst traits were. It was a very eye opening conversation. There was some overlap with what I've written here, but also differences. He's much more forgiving towards things I find insufferable about me than I am.

So thanks for starting this thread, DGE. It's been interesting.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[LallyH]

Second attempt:

Good traits / Bad traits
Independent / Not a team player. At. All.
Self sufficient and undemanding / Stubborn and won’t accept help
Dislikes confrontation / Avoids dealing with issues
Takes responsibility in situations / Interferes where it’s unwelcome
Reliable / Boring
Likes helping people / ‘Never knowingly without an opinion’ according to hubby…
Hardworking / Impatient with everyone else
Tries to live a healthy lifestyle / Vain
Musical / Overinflated opinion of the superiority of own musical taste
Good memory for people’s birthdays, anniversaries and other important facts / Never forgets a slight
Quiet and reserved / Shy, awkward, doesn’t make friends easily and agonises for days about the possibility of having been embarrassing
Logical and analytical / Spots a lie at a thousand paces and won’t let it pass without comment
Sense of humour / Sense of humour

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Good Traits:

Empathetic.
Competitive.
Family oriented.
Creative.
I tend to see people as they ARE, not as they pretend to be.
Health conscious.


Bad Traits:

Easily angered
Inability to trust others or to make friends easily.
Possessive (which is far better than jealous but still bad enough)
Compulsive.
Hyper (to the detriment of my sleep schedule, sometimes)
I NEED a schedule the way others require air and will lose my shit if the schedule is screwed with.
No real self esteem.

*blinks*

(I believe some of that is from the BP type II but does not make it any better...or worse)

 

[IrisAlthea]

I think my being such a realist really is a bad trait. My first assessment with everything is instinctively is it realistic.

When other people are brainstorming or just dreaming aloud about something, I have to work really hard at not saying something's not plausible or realistic. The whacky ideas people have sometimes lead to something really good, so if I knock them down immediately with my trademark lack of whimsy and uncalled for reality check, that's no good.

This trait doesn't mean I'm unimaginative when it comes to problem solving, for example. Or that I'm not fun. I'm probably not funny to most people, but I definitely have a sense of humor and people generally like to be around me.

Naturally there are times when it's a good thing to be such a realist, but often the negative aspect weighs out the positive for me. I wish I could be more whimsical.



Oh, I'll add another good trait:

I'm a pretty good hunter and gatherer (ok, a fisher and gatherer, I've never held a gun) and I know how to survive in the forest, like build a shelter, make fire, find water etc. So when there's a zombie apocalypse (which I roll my eyes at, because it's not realistic, naturally) and things go down the drain, I'm your man. Or woman.

I'll co-sign the realistic thing - the dry voice saying something like "Right, unless it rains."

It's not really that I'm being negative, because I don't usually think obstacles are a reason to abandon the goal but a reason to find better ways to the goal.

It's an interesting topic.
I'll have to think a bit before I answer in full.

 

[pensivepoet]

Not comfortable with this, but I'll give it a shot
Bad~
Stubborn, bad listener, easily offended though I pretend the opposite, impatient, anxious, akward in groups of more than two, ultra sensitive, whiney, fussy, irresponsible, rebellious.
Good~
I truly care for the downtrodden and afflicted. I love animals and nature, I try to be kind and polite, not judgemental, forgiving, I hate no one, not greedy, don't care about money or material goods, very open-too open and without a filter, unpretentious to the point of self deprecating, good sense of humour, adaptable.
Damn! I sound like a real asshole.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[pensivepoet]

You are a better person than me. You sound like a beautiful person. I have also found you to be a wonderful listener and intuitive in listening.

Thanks Elle
You were way too hard on yourself. I'd argue with much of it.
And no, I'm a horrible listener. My mind wanders quickly, but I try to hear the important stuff.