~What do you do to sneak online?~

[FantasySlut]

Hello Fellow Playgrounder's.....

No, this isn't yet another game thread.........surprised ya, huh?

This goes out to people who are attached in real time, whether it's through marriage, or those that are committed to someone else, BUT for some reason or another, has fallen for someone, or has feelings for someone else through the internet..............And the only way to contact this *other* person is through LIT, email or PM's............

What I am curious about, if you don't mind sharing, is what lengths do some of you go through to be able to speak to this other person WHEN your s/o is around............When he/she takes a shower, do you quickly jump online to leave a message.....or.......when he/she goes to the store........when he/she falls asleep.....etc............

When you are away from this *other* person, and the urge is strong to hear from them, or to speak to them..........What do you do to *sneak* online to leave messages or to check messages.......

And how do you handle being away from this *other* person when your s/o is around, and you can't get online?


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[Diamond_Girl]

Interesting thread!

I don't sneak - much. Hubby knows about Dusky, even his plans of moving down here (however, he doesn't know that we're going to try to spend lots of time together). However... There ARE those times when I don't want to advertise my activities. I'll wait until hubby takes our daughter to day care and then on to work. I'll pretend I'm upstairs calling a girlfriend and call him instead. At night, when I just have to check my email one more time so I can read Dusky's "good night" email, I'll say that I have to get my book or check on something I'd forgotten about. For that extra time on the computer, I'll have one of my stories up and pretend to be working on that. With mine and Dusky's schedules, sneaking really isn't necessary most of the time.

 

[FantasySlut]

Interesting thread!

Hello Diamond_Girl......Thanks for posting, and thank you

Ive been curious for awhile now how people handle being away from someone else they care about, and what they do to talk to them....or to check....

I don't sneak to meet anyone, just to play and have fun on LIT.......those times when he's taking a shower, or outside, etc.....then I'll jump on to take a peek....

It'll be intersting to see what others may do.

 

[alfa_lupogrigio]

happened to me

this thread hits home all too real...i was one of those people i was having two relationships one in r/l and one on the cpu, at times it consumed me trying to hide them from each other.making excuses she is only a friend, my g/f at the time never accepted that but i still went with it.im not sure why i did maybe it was the unknown factor,the excitment factor....she was everything i ever wanted in a woman......my perfect woman on paper of course we never actually met oh yes we had cyber sex and phone sex actually took it off line, she would call me at work 10 times a day...anyway we never ended up together she married another and now has a family.....i guess it's poetic justice i am now and will forever be paying for hiding things from someone so now i dont hide anything from anyone....this online life can be very consuming if your not careful...its so easy to fall for the perfect woman or man and it very rarely is what you think of it.

 

[Blue_shoes1980]

Yes, interesting indeed. When I just have to call one of my other men, I'll wait until my husband is in the shower, or, if I'm lucky, working a different schedule than me. Then we'll either trade frantic words of lust, or I'll tell him he can come over, if there's enough time. (One time my hubby came home while I was <literally> tied up, and you should have seen me scrambling to get free! My lover, who was in the bathroom at the time, called him on his celphone and spoke in a garbled tone, causing him to go back outside to try to get a clearer signal. Then he untied me, and scampered out the back door! I still had cum all over my ass when I pulled on my robe.)

Most of the time, it's stolen words, either on the computer or the phone. I do the same as Diamond_Girl: have other things up on the computer. My one lover often emails me goodnight wishes, and I go to bed with a bigger smile than usual!

Aren't we bad?

 

[Guest]

I hate to say this and it may make peeps jealous but I don't have to sneak.

I am in a loving, committed long term relationship and he knows all about Lit. Yes there was a time when I fell for someone bigtime and I kept it from him. It all went pear shaped and I was badly hurt and only then did I come clean. Over the 18 months since we have grown as a couple, learning more and more about each other and becoming very trusting and very open about our needs and desires.

Yes I am very very very close to another who I met through Lit but as we are both in long term loving relationships we will never be together in r/life so my partner is not threatened by him. We text occassionally and when we can we get on line and then we will use Skype if we can. My partner just keeps out of the way

I am very very lucky!!!

 

[keiffers]

I hate to say this and it may make peeps jealous but I don't have to sneak.

I am in a loving, committed long term relationship and he knows all about Lit. Yes there was a time when I fell for someone bigtime and I kept it from him. It all went pear shaped and I was badly hurt and only then did I come clean. Over the 18 months since we have grown as a couple, learning more and more about each other and becoming very trusting and very open about our needs and desires.

Yes I am very very very close to another who I met through Lit but as we are both in long term loving relationships we will never be together in r/life so my partner is not threatened by him. We text occassionally and when we can we get on line and then we will use Skype if we can. My partner just keeps out of the way

I am very very lucky!!!

lucky you have an understanding partner - I was involved with someone online that we both had serious feelings for each other and she had to keep it from him....I don't have anyone to sneak around, but it's almost like I was sneaking around him at the same time LOL

 

[Stryderthorongil]

Sneak? Who sneaks?

 

[WantonWitch]

Sneak? Who sneaks?

Not me...

 

[Guest]

lucky you have an understanding partner - I was involved with someone online that we both had serious feelings for each other and she had to keep it from him....I don't have anyone to sneak around, but it's almost like I was sneaking around him at the same time LOL

I hear what you are saying.

I admit to not being too concerned about what I do on-line but in real life I try very hard to stick to a principle of not messing around with people who are married if their partner's are not aware of what is going on. I know I am in a relatively rare situation but I am conscious that for most this is not the case and I don't want to be the other woman. That said there are three people who I really want to mess around with in real life and that is the reason why I now say principle not rule as I know I am going to breach it.

 

[keiffers]

I hear what you are saying.

I admit to not being too concerned about what I do on-line but in real life I try very hard to stick to a principle of not messing around with people who are married if their partner's are not aware of what is going on. I know I am in a relatively rare situation but I am conscious that for most this is not the case and I don't want to be the other woman. That said there are three people who I really want to mess around with in real life and that is the reason why I now say principle not rule as I know I am going to breach it.

if only most people would practice that principle of not messing with people who are married. There might not be as many divorces if that happened

I've never met the one I have been involved with and would never even consider attempting to break up her marriage and she knows this. She has lines that are set in place that she won't cross nor will I, but unfortunately some people in society will do so....

 

[Diamond_Girl]

I hate to say this and it may make peeps jealous but I don't have to sneak...

I am very very lucky!!!

I'm just as lucky. I love not having to sneak around, and like your partner, hubby will stay out of the way. I've met two guys in r/l who I met first online, but those have gone no farther than once-a-month lunches. Hubby knows about them as well. I figure, why sneak? I have nothing to hide.

 

[Diamond_Girl]

I hear what you are saying.

I admit to not being too concerned about what I do on-line but in real life I try very hard to stick to a principle of not messing around with people who are married if their partner's are not aware of what is going on. I know I am in a relatively rare situation but I am conscious that for most this is not the case and I don't want to be the other woman. That said there are three people who I really want to mess around with in real life and that is the reason why I now say principle not rule as I know I am going to breach it.

I usually don't care about being "the other woman" online, but there are times when it's a HUGE pain in the ass! In my last online relationship, it'd gotten to the point where I felt really cheapened by it and the sneaking around he was having to do. I hate having those limitations.

Probably my most notable moment was when I received hate mail from a pissed off wife to my business p.o. box. I laughed my ass off at her pitiful attempt to be anonymous. Then when her husband made sure I had other ways of getting up with him, I sent him pictures I'd taken of the mail so he'd know what she'd been up to. She still worries that he's talking to me, even though she told him not to. He tells me that when we're chatting or talking on the phone.

 

[FantasySlut]

this thread hits home all too real...i was one of those people i was having two relationships one in r/l and one on the cpu, at times it consumed me trying to hide them from each other.making excuses she is only a friend, my g/f at the time never accepted that but i still went with it.im not sure why i did maybe it was the unknown factor,the excitment factor....she was everything i ever wanted in a woman......my perfect woman on paper of course we never actually met oh yes we had cyber sex and phone sex actually took it off line, she would call me at work 10 times a day...anyway we never ended up together she married another and now has a family.....i guess it's poetic justice i am now and will forever be paying for hiding things from someone so now i dont hide anything from anyone....this online life can be very consuming if your not careful...its so easy to fall for the perfect woman or man and it very rarely is what you think of it.

Hello alfa....

Remember the saying....."the grass is always greener on the other side".....And how true that is.................And you pinned it exactly........."*perfect* person on PAPER".................We only know what the other person allows us to know......It really takes being with that person in real time to know them entirely.............Well, in my opinion anyway........

Thanks for sharing with us.....

 

[FantasySlut]

Yes, interesting indeed. When I just have to call one of my other men, I'll wait until my husband is in the shower, or, if I'm lucky, working a different schedule than me. Then we'll either trade frantic words of lust, or I'll tell him he can come over, if there's enough time. (One time my hubby came home while I was <literally> tied up, and you should have seen me scrambling to get free! My lover, who was in the bathroom at the time, called him on his celphone and spoke in a garbled tone, causing him to go back outside to try to get a clearer signal. Then he untied me, and scampered out the back door! I still had cum all over my ass when I pulled on my robe.)

Most of the time, it's stolen words, either on the computer or the phone. I do the same as Diamond_Girl: have other things up on the computer. My one lover often emails me goodnight wishes, and I go to bed with a bigger smile than usual!

Aren't we bad?

Goodness, yes you are!!! LOl......Tied up and hubby comes home.....What a predictament that could have been!! Too close for comfort that's for sure LOl......Ohhhhh the things we for *LUST*

Thanks for sharing

 

[FantasySlut]

I hate to say this and it may make peeps jealous but I don't have to sneak.

I am in a loving, committed long term relationship and he knows all about Lit. Yes there was a time when I fell for someone bigtime and I kept it from him. It all went pear shaped and I was badly hurt and only then did I come clean. Over the 18 months since we have grown as a couple, learning more and more about each other and becoming very trusting and very open about our needs and desires.

Yes I am very very very close to another who I met through Lit but as we are both in long term loving relationships we will never be together in r/life so my partner is not threatened by him. We text occassionally and when we can we get on line and then we will use Skype if we can. My partner just keeps out of the way

I am very very lucky!!!

Yes you are very fortunate.....some of us aren't.......hence why we sneak! lol Thank goodness for tabbed browsing now LOL......have something up, and then quickly X it out.....

But seriously, enjoy and cherish what you have.....For we all know how quickly it can be gone.......

Thank you for sharing as well bluefoxylady

 

[Jackotheshadows]

Moi...

For me, it's "working", since I use the computer for work. Fortunately (or unfortunately, however you feel), I've gotten away from serious online relationships since I've remarried. My wife tends to get her feelings hurt when I masturbate, thinking that I am choosing that over her. Not remotely true, but there you have it. So, "working" online gets me to the places/people/things that I find arousing. *shrugs*

 

[FantasySlut]

lucky you have an understanding partner - I was involved with someone online that we both had serious feelings for each other and she had to keep it from him....I don't have anyone to sneak around, but it's almost like I was sneaking around him at the same time LOL

Hello keiffers...and thank you too for sharing....

Interesting to see the different ways and the reasons as to why some may *sneak*..........And yes, you were kinds sneaking around him too lol.......

 

[FantasySlut]

Sneak? Who sneaks?

LOL Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, errrrrr, not me!!

 

[FantasySlut]

Not me...

Ummmmmmm Wanton....those sure are some mighty big teeth you have there?

 

[FantasySlut]

I'm just as lucky. I love not having to sneak around, and like your partner, hubby will stay out of the way. I've met two guys in r/l who I met first online, but those have gone no farther than once-a-month lunches. Hubby knows about them as well. I figure, why sneak? I have nothing to hide.

I am curious as to why a partner would be okay with the other seeing someone else on the side........unless both parties were in the *swinging* lifestyle.......I couldn't imagine my hubby letting me see other men on the side lOL

 

[FantasySlut]

For me, it's "working", since I use the computer for work. Fortunately (or unfortunately, however you feel), I've gotten away from serious online relationships since I've remarried. My wife tends to get her feelings hurt when I masturbate, thinking that I am choosing that over her. Not remotely true, but there you have it. So, "working" online gets me to the places/people/things that I find arousing. *shrugs*

Hello Jack, and again, thank you for sharing...

*nods* and understands about the *partner not liking the masturbation* alone part..............Her being upset, is it because you don't show attention to her, or maybe you don't initiate sex with you? Could be any number of reasons as to why she becomes hurt by it..................Hell, you know how fickle us women can be.......And yes, I include myself in there LOL....

 

[Jackotheshadows]

Can you say complex?

Hello Jack, and again, thank you for sharing...

*nods* and understands about the *partner not liking the masturbation* alone part..............Her being upset, is it because you don't show attention to her, or maybe you don't initiate sex with you? Could be any number of reasons as to why she becomes hurt by it..................Hell, you know how fickle us women can be.......And yes, I include myself in there LOL....

I know why she gets hurt; she thinks I'd rather do that then be with her, and some miscommunication about who wants sex when. The pain-in-the-ass part is that I have ADD. Ergo, my sex drive tends to be through the roof, and my imagination is, well, vivid doesn't begin to get there. So, sneaking online to slake the "just pure horny" sex is a release valve, but hopefully not at the expense of "screwing like we're on our honeymoon" sex. Don't have the answer to that one.

 

[FantasySlut]

I know why she gets hurt; she thinks I'd rather do that then be with her, and some miscommunication about who wants sex when. The pain-in-the-ass part is that I have ADD. Ergo, my sex drive tends to be through the roof, and my imagination is, well, vivid doesn't begin to get there. So, sneaking online to slake the "just pure horny" sex is a release valve, but hopefully not at the expense of "screwing like we're on our honeymoon" sex. Don't have the answer to that one.

Hello again....
Hmmm complex, indeed......Do you tell her that you do, or does she find out.....and then, what do you masturbate to......pics, storier, etc? Maybe that's her reason too for being hurt.....What you may use to help you....... *shrugs* .......If you were to *fuck* everytime the urge hit ya, would she complain then too, because you want it too much?

See, we're never happy!!!!!!!

 

[Jackotheshadows]

Woo goodness!

Hello again....
Hmmm complex, indeed......Do you tell her that you do, or does she find out.....and then, what do you masturbate to......pics, storier, etc? Maybe that's her reason too for being hurt.....What you may use to help you....... *shrugs* .......If you were to *fuck* everytime the urge hit ya, would she complain then too, because you want it too much?

See, we're never happy!!!!!!!

Yikes, I certainly don't tell her when. She assumes when I take a long shower without her that it's "special" time. Okay, so sometimes it is! Inspirational material tends to be audio stories (thank the gods for Lit!), and video clips (I'll leave the types of clips out of this, else I burst a bloodvessel from blushing). And I'd love to transfer some of that lust to her, but since she's a vet and on call quite a bit, well, there you have it. I could use a supercomputer from NASA, and not figure it out....