What is it about "Loving Wives"?

[DirtyJJ]

This question is for guys who are into the "Loving Wives" thing... who get turned on by the idea of their wife with other men. I am curious to know:

1) What turns you on about it?
2) Is it strictly a fantasy or would you like to see it acted out for real? Do you want to be there or just hear about it?
3) Has your wife actually done this and if so, how was it?

I am interested in the male point of view on this... but if there are any "Loving" females that I have input I would like that too.
Thanks!
DirtyJJ

 

[ldlarry52]

DirtyJJ

I have this fantasy and have been the second guy in a threesome and enjoy videos and stories about this. Yes, I do fantasize about my wife doing this and I would like to see her fuck another guy.

As to why, its complicated and I don't fully know why. Just as I don't know why I like to lick her ass hole when having oral sex.

I think it has to do with wanting to have my wife be as sexy as the porno sluts I watch. If I can watch her with another guy she would become more sexy. I have several nude pictures of her and I have many nude pictures of sexy ladies. I have inserted my wifes picture into the picture shows I have put together and as I am enjoying these shows my wife's pictures pop up periodically and she becomes just like these sexy desirable woman.

She has never had a threesome or had an affair and she expressess no interest in either. So it is just fantasy and will stay fantasy. But, I can honestly say if she confessed that she fucked a guy today or wanted to I would not get angry or be hurt as long as it was just sex. As long as she only gives me her love her fucking someone else would just add excitement.

Well I hope that answers your question some. You may want to read some of my stories I have posted. You may gain some more perspective in this fantasy. Click on the link below.

If you have any other questions IM me. LDLarry52

 

[Bobmi357]

My wife is a loving wife.... to me and me alone.

Like so many other things, its a case of different strokes for different folks. This is one of those times I have no intention of sharing her.

 

[ReadyOne]

I was married (when a young punk) to a girl who was a very loving, giving, accepting, friendly, easy going, caring, playful, horny woman. Also a third child, for what it's worth...

She naturally just got close to people, and if the situation was right, she would have no qualms about sharing sex with them. She always picked good partners (as far as I know), wanted to make them happy, and they did the same for her.

Yes, she bonded with them, so their relationship was more than just recreational sex. But she believed that you can love many people and that you need to keep your priorities in order. She always let me know what she was doing before she did it (except when we first got together), she always remained loyal and kept her promise to chose me over all the others.

I knew most of her lovers, and most knew that I knew, etc. She was honest with everyone, and somehow avoid (as far as I know) trouble with anyone wanting to have more than a "close friend with occasional benefits" type relationship. Her lovers almost never overlapped, and there was often months without anyone beside me.

Once I was invited to join in a MFM. At the time, I was uncomfortable with it turning MM and we never did it. Another time we seemed to have a MF/MF set up with her lover and hiss spouse but somehow that just never came to pass.

I suppose that if I'd had lover(s) on the side, I would have been more willing and we might have started meeting with others on a regular basis. But somehow, the very few times I wanted to get intimate with another girl, I couldn't make it happen.

Today, I'd gladly, gratefully, and happily get involved with another person, be it with my SO beside me or not. However, I've promised her to be exclusive and she will probably always want it that way.

It's depressing to have to stop the seduction process, especially when I'm the target. And having to turn down a couple of out and out propositions was a very unwelcome experience.

So, as usual, if I only knew then what I know now; or more exactly, if I'd only done it when I could!

 

[DirtyJJ]

Hi guys...
Thanks for the insight... it's all very interesting. My husband is into this and it took me a while to understand it and realize that the idea of me with another man did not make him jealous. We have not acted on this for real, but it's interesting to think about...

Also, another question - does it go both ways? If you get turned on my her with another man, then do you feel that you should be able to be with another woman?

Keep it coming guys...

 

[ldlarry52]

DirtyJJ,
First, that is a hot drawing in your profile. If your as wild as that drawing looks your husband is one lucky stiff.

As for it going both ways it depends on the relationship. He may be turned on by you fucking around, but you may not want to share him. Remember the turn on is the loving wife not the loving husband.

Now, if you are OK with him and other women then it can work both ways. I think in most cases the man would want to have another woman, but it doesn't always have to work that way.

For sure the loving wife thing should not be promoted just so he can have the liberty of fucking around.

LDlarry52

 

[DirtyJJ]

Thanks for the comment about the AV... I will have to tell the artist.


He does not seem interested in having it both ways... or at least has never expressed it. And I am not OK with it - it's not my fantasy for him to be with someone else! I don't think that's his motive. I think it is more like the reasons you described above.

Thanks!

 

[fritz67]

Lovong Wives

I think that the wife sharing thing is sort of a control issue. You husband probably really enjoys gving you extreme pleasure. By allowing you to have this extra pleasure, you are sort of emotionally indebted to him. That's my thoughts any way. My wife is not into this, but I wish she was for the reasons that I mentioned. Relax and just ask him.

 

[alricflaim]

With me

It's not an issue of having her indebted to me or anything. It's just that I'm relaxed about sex. I told my wife that if she ever wants another person, me there or not, she should feel free. I'm not going to be upset, and hell, I'll enjoy the story if she tells me. THe only thing I asked is that She let me know if she does fool around.

She has told me she's not interested, and she'd be mad if I were to get some on the side as it were, but that doesn't bother me. I told her this so that she knew she had the freedom to do as she pleased. I trust her. I love her. I KNOW she feels the same about me, so why shouldn't I let her have the freedom to have a little fun?

 

[ReadyOne]

I once had a conversation trying to express to my SO that she was free to do anything she wanted to as I felt secure and trusted her judgement.

She got real pissed.

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As for seeing her with another, I get off on seeing people get off. Helping them get off is nice too.

As for (a generic) her seeing me with another, I hope she'd realize that I was trying my best to make both of them happy and probably concentrating more on the one I'm actively involved with at that particular instant.

What she makes of it depends on her, and I can only tell you what my partners have told me. IFF they are willing to share, they don't want to feel left out.

 

[DevilishTexan]

I'm not married but I like it. Even wrote a story about it if the moderators would ever post the damn thiing!!!!

 

[DirtyJJ]

I must admit I am a bit surprised that so many of your wives or SOs are not interested in the idea. I mean, I may or may not ever act this out, but I definitely think it sounds exciting!

Thanks for your responses....

 

[ExtacyCouple]

We have had a few threesomes with other men and I have to say I love them. I love to watch her, I love to participate, hell I just like talking about it. I love to watch the interaction she has with other men, seeing her being pleased, watching her pleasing someone.....it is all very erotic.

 

[Bobmi357]

I once had a conversation trying to express to my SO that she was free to do anything she wanted to as I felt secure and trusted her judgement.

She got real pissed.

Well think about it RO, she probably saw your statement as either a prelude to a confession or as a subtle way of your asking for her permission to stray outside of the marital bed.

Somethings are best left unsaid unless she brings the topic up.

 

[Melesse]

I feel that way about my gf, I would love to see her with someone else, but she's not interested, or at least she says she isn't.

Whether I would be interested in playing outside as well? Yes, very much so, but she will not allow it, so I won't. I can be happy with her, or I can have outside sex and be unhappy without her

And I don't know why I enjoy it. It started when she cheated on me with someone she knew I was jealous of. She confessed when someone found out, and I found that even though I was mad, I was so fucking horny thinking about her with someone else. I was mad b/c she lied to me, and snuck off. I was horny b/c I love the idea of her with some other guy. We've talked about it in Fantasy, and in reality, and she shows varying interest. She's sometimes into it in fantasy, sometimes not, but she's never into it in RL. I think part of it is because I'm a huge voyeur, and she turns me on more then anyone I've ever met. Sooooo, watching turns me on, and watching the hottest girl I know turns me on even more. And as long as I know I'm the one she loves, then I can feel secure in that.

I've occasionally wondered if there is an element of shame in it...some other man coming to fuck your wife b/c you're not man enough, but I don't think so. I just think Jealousy is such a powerful emotion, and horniness, and both together....oooOOOoo.

And then there's the element of Dirtiness...Don't know how to explain this really, but if it's dirty, it probably turns me on. Licking guys come of my gf? Hot. Eating her out after someone eolse has fucked her? Hot. Taking the pictures? Hot. I guess dirty in a very narrow perspective

Anyways, for a long time the fantasy of her hooking up with the other guy got me off extremely well. It's got me hard right now thinking about it.

Melesse

 

[ReadyOne]

Well think about it RO, she probably saw your statement as either a prelude to a confession or as a subtle way of your asking for her permission to stray outside of the marital bed.

Somethings are best left unsaid unless she brings the topic up.

If you care, I told the story a while back https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=197730

And yes, I'm a lot smarter now, having been taught by experience.

 

[ldlarry52]

Melesse, I think you have helped me clarify my fantasy of my wife with another man. I do like to watch, and watching her would be exciting and hot. Also, the dirty aspect to it makes since to me.
LDLarry52

 

[Amfig]

Never been a fantasy of mine, but the wife's ex was enamored of the idea. His explanation of it to her was that it was a way of bragging to other guys "Yeah she's hot and all mine. So you can sample it once and be jealous that I can bang it all the time."

Never made a damn bit of sense to me. Passed on as heard.

 

[quickfoot]

I would like to share my wife, we have been together a long time and are very much in love.

It isn't about control, it is about her pleasure and enjoying something society sees in general as taboo.

Two mouths, four hands, can go a lot more places and do a lot more things at one time than just one person.

It isn't about wanting to have sex with another girl, in fact I'd rather see her with a girl than myself be with another one.

We've talked about it it and I she wouldn't be comfortable with me with another girl and I'm ok with that. I would have feeilngs afterwards too but with communication we can talk about them.

It also gives you the opportunity to appreciate her and watch her enjoying pleasure.

THis is a hard subject to bring up because a lot of people don't openly think about it and people naturally assume that if it is ok for the female to have sex with another male then her man must not love her as much as she loves him, or wants to also have outside sex, etc. It take careful conversation and much more than one conversation

 

[Melesse]

I love the taboo idea. I'm a huge proponent of it. Anything that society sees as taboo is something I want to do

Melesse

 

[Subdude]

this has always been a fantasy of mine. my wife & i have talked about it during very hot sex but she doesn't seem to want to take it further. breaking it down to explain it is tough. it's been interesting to read others responses. watching sex is exciting itself. watching your own wife & having each other know the other knows is even better. there is also the complicated issue of some humiliation-his is biggr then mine & she loves it, what if she gets pregnant... and the control thing. i'm a submissive lover & i'm actually turned on by telling her to have lovers while i would not. i want her to tell me to lick her and maybe even her lover clean. oh well, how to explain?

 

[ullr]

It combines...

soooo much!

There's the forbidden fact that we are all attracted to others, sexually; there's the fact that we don't ordinarily share or act on it! There's the fact that one trusts and loves another, including their sexual desires! - and the willlingness to explore beyond vanilla one-on-one sex!

There's the thrill of anxiety of the new - hopefully experienced as excitement!
There's the hope to please and be pleasing despite the fear of jealousy!

Finally, it combines vouyeurism withexhibitionism of the one you most love and lust for.

In other words, there's a hell of a lot to be experienced this way, and how does fantaasy compete with that kind of ultimately powerful reality?

--Orson

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Re: It combines...

soooo much!

There's the forbidden fact that we are all attracted to others, sexually; there's the fact that we don't ordinarily share or act on it! There's the fact that one trusts and loves another, including their sexual desires! - and the willlingness to explore beyond vanilla one-on-one sex!

There's the thrill of anxiety of the new - hopefully experienced as excitement!
There's the hope to please and be pleasing despite the fear of jealousy!

Finally, it combines vouyeurism withexhibitionism of the one you most love and lust for.

In other words, there's a hell of a lot to be experienced this way, and how does fantaasy compete with that kind of ultimately powerful reality?

--Orson

Exactly!