what is the best way

[sinnamongyrl]

to get over a heartbreak?i mean one where they reach in,,grab it,,,throw it to the ground,,step on it,,,rip it to shreds,,play footbal with it,,,throw it into a blender,,pour it back out,,,and do the same thing over again?any words of advice?besides "DONT FALL IN LOVE AGAIN?"....any way to get over it?

 

[keiffers]

all I can say is to try and force yourself to move on - I personally find that surrounding myself with friends helps and doing whatever you can do to keep your mind off of the subject - definately a hard thing to do, but hey we all gotta go through it atleast once in our life

 

[caff]

Go out with your friends
its the being alone and thinking that really gets you, so just keep your friends close by. Go out and do things you enjoy.. walking, music, sports anything
Itll pass after a while bu untill then just dont let yourself get all caught up thinking and thinking and pinning over it too much.

 

[Clint Taurus]

Think about all the nice things you can do without the bastard.
Go buy some new clothes, a change of style helps.
a new hairstyle.
dont think about them, take some time out for yourself,
and do whatever makes you happy.
Its amazing how attractive people will find you.
Its up to you, how far and how quick you take things from there.

 

[virgin_not]

Don't think about it and try to keep yourself busy...like keiffer said its really hard but life must goes on..don't sweat it out..just think something more beautiful out there.***** is good afterall. ((Hugs))

 

[montrealgirl]

MG's certified prescription to combat heartbreak...

Find some totally ubersexy man that you would under all other circumstances labal as "unattainable". Someone that will make all your friends say, "oohh" and "ahhhh".

Then fuck him four ways to Sunday.

Repeat.

Often.

The heartbreak will still be there, but at least you'll be getting laid and living out a fantasy. Take photos - you'll be able to show the other ladies when you are 85, in a home, talking about the good ol' days. An added bonus? You'll feel really sexy and hot and not like the silly fool you feel like now.

At least, that's how I'm dealing

It also helps if you can start to function on minimal amounts of sleep - nothing worse than Mr. Gone arriving in your dreams.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

thanks guys,,,I wish i could hang out with my friends...BUT they would wanna talk about it,,and i just start crying like a baby when i do,,,I feel so lame...THIS IS WHY i rarely fall in love,,,,,damn it,,,,,and what sucks so much is I never saw it coming,,,,,

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Find some totally ubersexy man that you would under all other circumstances labal as "unattainable". Someone that will make all your friends say, "oohh" and "ahhhh".

Then fuck him four ways to Sunday.

Repeat.

Often.

The heartbreak will still be there, but at least you'll be getting laid and living out a fantasy. Take photos - you'll be able to show the other ladies when you are 85, in a home, talking about the good ol' days. An added bonus? You'll feel really sexy and hot and not like the silly fool you feel like now.

At least, that's how I'm dealing

It also helps if you can start to function on minimal amounts of sleep - nothing worse than Mr. Gone arriving in your dreams.

mmmm......you guys are full of great ideas,,,,,,this one sounds fun,,,,

 

[virgin_not]

thanks guys,,,I wish i could hang out with my friends...BUT they would wanna talk about it,,and i just start crying like a baby when i do,,,I feel so lame...THIS IS WHY i rarely fall in love,,,,,damn it,,,,,and what sucks so much is I never saw it coming,,,,,

Maybeit will help..its ok to cry sweetie..just let it all out what you feel..then after that..do something that you really like ..like going to beauty parlor..have a some nice body spa or whatever to ease your pain or to unwind ya. Shopping is good too

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Maybeit will help..its ok to cry sweetie..just let it all out what you feel..then after that..do something that you really like ..like going to beauty parlor..have a some nice body spa or whatever to ease your pain or to unwind ya. Shopping is good too

maybe you are right,,,my friends have all been though this before,,,BUT you know it is,,feel like you are the only one that has ever felt soo much pain?,,,,cant even get angry with him,,,what the fuck is that about?,,,,,,shopping,,,,mmmmm,,,,,,,maybe I should hit Sephora

 

[montrealgirl]

mmmm......you guys are full of great ideas,,,,,,this one sounds fun,,,,

Yes, the fun option isn't always the healthiest one, but that's okay in the short term

It also helps if you remind yourself (as often as required) about the things you didn't like about Mr. Gone. End each phrase with a good, "the fucker"

Example: "His favourite colour was green...the fucker!"

That should speed things up a bit.

Another tested method (to used in conjunction with the other mentioned remedies) - Download the song, "We Used to be Friends" by the Dandy Warhols. Listen to this song whenever you feel tears starting. Turn the volume up and sing along. It also helps if you dance around like an idiot. Try to envision the day when the lyrics will be true. Here is a snippet:

A long time ago, we used to be friends
But I, haven't thought of you lately at all.
If ever again, a greeting I send,
Short and sweet to the soul I intend.​

Will probably take awhile, but the day should arrive hopefully when you least expect it...

 

[virgin_not]

maybe you are right,,,my friends have all been though this before,,,BUT you know it is,,feel like you are the only one that has ever felt soo much pain?,,,,cant even get angry with him,,,what the fuck is that about?,,,,,,shopping,,,,mmmmm,,,,,,,maybe I should hit Sephora

Dunno really what happenened? So I can't really say much. If you think you'll feel more better to talk it out with your friends..go for it then dear. If you don't feel like seeing them now and you need to talk..you can pm me anytime

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Yes, the fun option isn't always the healthiest one, but that's okay in the short term

It also helps if you remind yourself (as often as required) about the things you didn't like about Mr. Gone. End each phrase with a good, "the fucker"

Example: "His favourite colour was green...the fucker!"

That should speed things up a bit.

Another tested method (to used in conjunction with the other mentioned remedies) - Download the song, "We Used to be Friends" by the Dandy Warhols. Listen to this song whenever you feel tears starting. Turn the volume up and sing along. It also helps if you dance around like an idiot. Try to envision the day when the lyrics will be true. Here is a snippet:

A long time ago, we used to be friends
But I, haven't thought of you lately at all.
If ever again, a greeting I send,
Short and sweet to the soul I intend.​

Will probably take awhile, but the day should arrive hopefully when you least expect it...

the fun option just may be what i need,,,,
oh,,and I tried thinking about things i dont like about him...and i cant think of anything,,DAMN IT,,,,,see...told ya i was lame....lol
wondering what i should do about that "FUN" part though...mmmmmmmm

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Dunno really what happenened? So I can't really say much. If you think you'll feel more better to talk it out with your friends..go for it then dear. If you don't feel like seeing them now and you need to talk..you can pm me anytime

thanks,,I prolly will,,i just meant all of my friends have had heartache before,,,i was the one that thought love did not exist,,,held out for a LONG time on love,,,sex,,,yeahhhhh..love?NO WAY,,,until BAM,,,i got hit upside my head...soo look for a pm at some point,,THANKS!!!!!!!

 

[keiffers]

but ya know one other thing that I think works best is basically keep reminding yourself or even telling yourself that it was 'his loss' - it is tried and true to work, cause if you never saw it coming and he decided to just up and end things for whatever reason, it truly was HIS LOSS ...I've told myself that many of times and once my mind decides to listen, I feel SOOOOOOOO much better about stuff.

 

[virgin_not]

Ok..definitely there must be one thing *bad thing* that he has..so think about it or maybe you just too blind right now cause you still have feeling for him and I can relay on that..though hon..it his loss not yours definitely and heck..*its just a man* eh..oops Im sure or maybe men will react on that last statement of mine..lol

 

[keiffers]

Ok..definitely there must be one thing *bad thing* that he has..so think about it or maybe you just too blind right now cause you still have feeling for him and I can relay on that..though hon..it his loss not yours definitely and heck..*its just a man* eh..oops Im sure or maybe men will react on that last statement of mine..lol

HEY! LOL not all men are like that, just most of them heheh the girl I recently met seems to be genuinely surprised that i have the views I do about relationships - most of my female friends are surprised that i'm still single at 34

 

[virgin_not]

HEY! LOL not all men are like that, just most of them heheh the girl I recently met seems to be genuinely surprised that i have the views I do about relationships - most of my female friends are surprised that i'm still single at 34

I knew it..you be the first one to react Keiffers..lol..well I just said *man* not *men* so meaning not all of you..lol

 

[Girly Girl 74]

I sought therapy and went on anti-depressants. I was having fantasies about parking my car on a train track...and waiting. Ugh.

 

[DLL]

When you have to get over it, a lot of times it feels impossible. You go to google, you search for broken heart quotes, hoping that will make it better. Most of them only increase your emotional suffering. You might even put heartbreak quotes in bold so they'll stand out. ....
Realize that part of what hurts is not reality. It's the pain of losing the picture you've kept creating in your own mind of how wonderful things would be if he/she'd just get over that other woman/man, be ready for commitment, get a job, quit the bottle, or whatever.

CHOOSE to create different pictures.

All of us find certain types of people, certain behaviors, and certain looks repulsive. Each of us has our own, personal list. Put yours down on paper. Then, every time you miss him/her, and every time you go to the bathroom... picture the one you miss so terribly and whom you've already figured out isn't coming back with a row of festering zits all around their __________ (insert their feature you love best here). Picture them with a greasy, sleazy personality, hawking lugies at your mother's church. Picture it in full color, include sound, odors, details. You own your brain. It believes whatever pictures you create regularly. Create pictures that help you get over rather than pictures that prevent getting over.

And, by all means... stop listening to tearjerking, obsessive songs. You know the ones... "I can't live without you, breathe without you, dance without you. I can't get over you, stop loving you, etc." That's bullshit! That's the way the songwriter felt the day he wrote that song. For all you know, he got over it the next day, and here you are, clinging to the words like they're going to help! Maybe you feel like your love wasn't real if you don't hurt really, really bad for a long, long time. Or, just possibly, all those obsessive songs have convinced you that unrequited love is romantic. BULLSHIT!

Cuddling up with someone is romantic. Hurting for months or years after someone is long gone is just foolish. Listen to Mariah Carey's A Hero, Destiny's Child I'm a Survivor, Gloria Gaynor's I will survive, Enrique Iglesias' I Will Survive, Alabama's You Can't Keep a Good Man Down, Ronnie Milsap's Like a Button off of my Shirt, Desirree's You Gotta Be every day, all day long. Make those "getting over" pictures in your head every time you think of him/her, and then just see if you don't feel less obsessed two weeks from now.

Good Luck....

 

[sinnamongyrl]

but ya know one other thing that I think works best is basically keep reminding yourself or even telling yourself that it was 'his loss' - it is tried and true to work, cause if you never saw it coming and he decided to just up and end things for whatever reason, it truly was HIS LOSS ...I've told myself that many of times and once my mind decides to listen, I feel SOOOOOOOO much better about stuff.

yeahhh,,,,,i just wish HE knew that,,,,I am one hell of a woman and i wanted to make him happy(dont always feel he truly is),,,,,,,but thanks,,,,smiling a liitle now,

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Ok..definitely there must be one thing *bad thing* that he has..so think about it or maybe you just too blind right now cause you still have feeling for him and I can relay on that..though hon..it his loss not yours definitely and heck..*its just a man* eh..oops Im sure or maybe men will react on that last statement of mine..lol

mmm,,one bad thing?....guess I am just tooooo accepting of other people or I am just BLIND rigth now,,,,and just a man?yeah,,,but was ONE HELL OF a man,,,i wish he sucked a lot,,,or was stupid or lazy,..anything,,,sighhhhhhhh

 

[sinnamongyrl]

When you have to get over it, a lot of times it feels impossible. You go to google, you search for broken heart quotes, hoping that will make it better. Most of them only increase your emotional suffering. You might even put heartbreak quotes in bold so they'll stand out. ....
Realize that part of what hurts is not reality. It's the pain of losing the picture you've kept creating in your own mind of how wonderful things would be if he/she'd just get over that other woman/man, be ready for commitment, get a job, quit the bottle, or whatever.

CHOOSE to create different pictures.

All of us find certain types of people, certain behaviors, and certain looks repulsive. Each of us has our own, personal list. Put yours down on paper. Then, every time you miss him/her, and every time you go to the bathroom... picture the one you miss so terribly and whom you've already figured out isn't coming back with a row of festering zits all around their __________ (insert their feature you love best here). Picture them with a greasy, sleazy personality, hawking lugies at your mother's church. Picture it in full color, include sound, odors, details. You own your brain. It believes whatever pictures you create regularly. Create pictures that help you get over rather than pictures that prevent getting over.

And, by all means... stop listening to tearjerking, obsessive songs. You know the ones... "I can't live without you, breathe without you, dance without you. I can't get over you, stop loving you, etc." That's bullshit! That's the way the songwriter felt the day he wrote that song. For all you know, he got over it the next day, and here you are, clinging to the words like they're going to help! Maybe you feel like your love wasn't real if you don't hurt really, really bad for a long, long time. Or, just possibly, all those obsessive songs have convinced you that unrequited love is romantic. BULLSHIT!

Cuddling up with someone is romantic. Hurting for months or years after someone is long gone is just foolish. Listen to Mariah Carey's A Hero, Destiny's Child I'm a Survivor, Gloria Gaynor's I will survive, Enrique Iglesias' I Will Survive, Alabama's You Can't Keep a Good Man Down, Ronnie Milsap's Like a Button off of my Shirt, Desirree's You Gotta Be every day, all day long. Make those "getting over" pictures in your head every time you think of him/her, and then just see if you don't feel less obsessed two weeks from now.

Good Luck....

thanks,,,BUT have u ever noticed,,,,,how many love songs they play when u dont wanna hear them?

 

[DLL]

thanks,,,BUT have u ever noticed,,,,,how many love songs they play when u dont wanna hear them?

God I know....I am a total music freak

 

[keiffers]

thanks,,,BUT have u ever noticed,,,,,how many love songs they play when u dont wanna hear them?

now that you mention it, it is amazing how many get played, but I think it's no different than normal, only difference is that your mind notices it more than when you are happy with being involved with someone or otherwise preoccupied