what is the best way

[sinnamongyrl]

now that you mention it, it is amazing how many get played, but I think it's no different than normal, only difference is that your mind notices it more than when you are happy with being involved with someone or otherwise preoccupied

on the way home today,,THATS ALL THAT WAS ON the radio!!!!!!!!,,,,,,,,,felt like it was a conspiracy,,,lol

 

[montrealgirl]

One more thing...

Absolutely, under no circumstances find solace in food. You will regret that later.

Instead, focus your energy in positive ways like exercising! Yeah! Refrain from eating the tub(s) of ice cream.

You will want to look as sexy and hot as possible when you start taking pictures with your next lover


(I took this advice...I was already on an exercise regime, but was so tempted to drown my sorrows in chocolate...but didn't...on a side note, I had my annual physical on Monday, and I'm down 37 pounds from this time last year. Trust me, it does WONDERS for your self-esteem and mind to have a fit, healthy body).

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Absolutely, under no circumstances find solace in food. You will regret that later.

Instead, focus your energy in positive ways like exercising! Yeah! Refrain from eating the tub(s) of ice cream.

You will want to look as sexy and hot as possible when you start taking pictures with your next lover


(I took this advice...I was already on an exercise regime, but was so tempted to drown my sorrows in chocolate...but didn't...on a side note, I had my annual physical on Monday, and I'm down 37 pounds from this time last year. Trust me, it does WONDERS for your self-esteem and mind to have a fit, healthy body).

yeahh,,,was soo tempted to pig out,,,i did have ONE cookie,,,but that was it,,,,

 

[montrealgirl]

Well, my "remedy" should be here any minute for my next dose of medicine.

Good luck, and feel free to PM me...I'm a smart ass, but I understand.

MG

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Well, my "remedy" should be here any minute for my next dose of medicine.

Good luck, and feel free to PM me...I'm a smart ass, but I understand.

MG

hheheheh,,good for YOU baby,,,,,,,hey,,,,,is it "good medicine?"...wondering if i should try and get my rx filled or be a good girl ?

 

[montrealgirl]

hheheheh,,good for YOU baby,,,,,,,hey,,,,,is it "good medicine?"...wondering if i should try and get my rx filled or be a good girl ?

The best medicine

Hope you find a remedy that works...

MG

 

[sinnamongyrl]

The best medicine

Hope you find a remedy that works...

MG

good god woman!!!!!!!! he is sexy!!!!!!!!!!hhahahmmmgood for you !!!!!!

 

[sinnamongyrl]

woke up this mornming,,,,still hurts,,,UGHH ,,what a way to start out the day

 

[sinnamongyrl]

feeling STUPID now that i wrote this,,,,dont feel like bashing him,,because he is a great wonderul man,,,,i think it just got TOO HOT AND HEAVY,,,still hurting,,,,but that is because i want him so badly,,he did treat me kindly,,my fault i am hurting,,,,,I should stope being so grown up about this huh?lol,,,dont think i bashed him in this thread,,,he does NOT deserve it,,,,just wish,,sighhhh.....maybe one day,,,we will get together

 

[warwood]

Revenge!

I did this twice. First time, it wasn't my idea but i was flattered to be the one asked, she was a co-worker. The second time, I kind of did the convincing, and told the story of the first time. She was a neighborhood friend. Pay back is a b****. I didn't know either guy.
The first time, we went at it for about an hour before she picked up the phone and called him. It even sent a chill through my spine as I heard her utter those words, "guess what I'm getting done to me right now", and having the phone placed next to my mouth as I ate her. OK, I added some theatrical license to it all and moaned and loudly slobbered all over her flushed pussy!
The second girl, she was on all fours, head sideways on the pillow with the phone in the crook of her neck. She had a conversation for about five mintues before what we were doing got to be too much and she started moaning. He caught on and hung up. Looking back on it, maybe thats a little to extreme, but revenge is such a sweet fruit!

 

[it_matters]

yeahh,,,was soo tempted to pig out,,,i did have ONE cookie,,,but that was it,,,,

sinnamon, if one cookie is your pig-out, i think you're prob'ly safe.

 

[it_matters]

ouch

feeling STUPID now that i wrote this,,,,dont feel like bashing him,,because he is a great wonderul man,,,,i think it just got TOO HOT AND HEAVY,,,still hurting,,,,but that is because i want him so badly,,he did treat me kindly,,my fault i am hurting,,,,,I should stope being so grown up about this huh?lol,,,dont think i bashed him in this thread,,,he does NOT deserve it,,,,just wish,,sighhhh.....maybe one day,,,we will get together

Just read through your thread, sinnamon: didn't sound like you bashed him. Sounds like you loved him, like you got cracked open, and now you're just left there, wide open.

Personal opinion? Never take the low road -- it might even be true, you could find every way a partner fucked you over, but if it is all the other's fault, you never find the little piece that was yours... so you don't have to repeat it next time? I really feel it inside ME when I blast someone, too... I mean, the person isn't anywhere close -- he or she is hundreds of miles away, and I am slicing them to ribbons, and who gets hurt?

All I know is when I am done slicing, the one in ribbons is me, I have just closed down, closed up, taught myself it isn't worth it anymore because all those partners are bad...

So my latest approach: be as kind to yourself as I can. Imagine that you -- your heart I mean -- is a little girl, that is scared or sad or lost, really lost something precious to her. You dcan close your eyes and imagine her pretty easily, all you have to do is ask your heart to speak with all of those tears in there.

Then imagine that you -- the wise part of you, imagine You when you are 60 years old, let's say -- imagine what you would do for that poor, sad child. You can be both the little girl and the grown woman.

"You know what I am going to do for you...?" You can just tell her. The Wise Woman knows life is really tough -- how many partners has she loved and lost in her life? What would you tell a 7-year-old girl who needed comforting?

If you have the cash, be kind to your body: get a therapeutic massage twice a month for two months -- think of it as an investment. You can have it be a male masseur, and drink in some caring, softening masculine energy. He probably won't server for MG's remedy, for fear of being sued... but it helps the body soften.

Not a bad time to find some hobby and join a group, either: those people know nothing about your recent love, so won't know to ask you, unless you find some good friends who you want to tell -- some time. Nothing like being with other people, though... You can find all sorts of groups that cost nothing, too: book club, or outdoor or indoor sports, or music, or bingo or who knows what else.

That's two ideas and a lot of words. They don't fill the hole, of course. But you know everybody on this thread -- everybody in the world, really -- has had that hole opened in them. So you're certainly not alone, even if it feels like it!

 

[it_matters]

(I took this advice...I was already on an exercise regime, but was so tempted to drown my sorrows in chocolate...but didn't...on a side note, I had my annual physical on Monday, and I'm down 37 pounds from this time last year. Trust me, it does WONDERS for your self-esteem and mind to have a fit, healthy body).

Not to mention regular doses of your prescribed medicine!

 

[montrealgirl]

Not to mention regular doses of your prescribed medicine!

What can I say, I like medicine...Just think of the shape I'll be in come Spring if I keep my current Rx filled.

 

[OceanGoddess]

I highly recommend you stick with your current Rx, MG . . .it appears to be a very, very excellent medication with few side effects, and most of them are positive anyway.

OG wonders "if I find medicine like that, would I lose weight too?!!"

 

[de-valmont]

I think DLL's got it bang on, find some way to snap the hell out of that image. I used to go on "Tom Waits" evenings, where I'd go to a bar, full of transigents and I could guarantee I knew absolutely noone, prop up the bar and get suitably, but restrainably drunk, and find someone who I could lie too. I would spend the evening drinking with them and telling them of invented, often surreal, and preferably amusing woes; that your ex had run off with a German dwarf called Rudy, in a battered van during the last big storm and had left you nothing but a uncompleted card.
And at the night's end, we'd part, never to speak again, and with that parting I'd leave that insane image crumpled on the floor with all the other lies I'd told that night. I'd not recommend it but it worked for me when I needed to shake that feeling.

 

[pink]

Unfortunately the only thing that works for me is time, the healing part inbetween sucks.

 

[sinnamongyrl]

Just read through your thread, sinnamon: didn't sound like you bashed him. Sounds like you loved him, like you got cracked open, and now you're just left there, wide open.

Personal opinion? Never take the low road -- it might even be true, you could find every way a partner fucked you over, but if it is all the other's fault, you never find the little piece that was yours... so you don't have to repeat it next time? I really feel it inside ME when I blast someone, too... I mean, the person isn't anywhere close -- he or she is hundreds of miles away, and I am slicing them to ribbons, and who gets hurt?

All I know is when I am done slicing, the one in ribbons is me, I have just closed down, closed up, taught myself it isn't worth it anymore because all those partners are bad...

So my latest approach: be as kind to yourself as I can. Imagine that you -- your heart I mean -- is a little girl, that is scared or sad or lost, really lost something precious to her. You dcan close your eyes and imagine her pretty easily, all you have to do is ask your heart to speak with all of those tears in there.

Then imagine that you -- the wise part of you, imagine You when you are 60 years old, let's say -- imagine what you would do for that poor, sad child. You can be both the little girl and the grown woman.

"You know what I am going to do for you...?" You can just tell her. The Wise Woman knows life is really tough -- how many partners has she loved and lost in her life? What would you tell a 7-year-old girl who needed comforting?

If you have the cash, be kind to your body: get a therapeutic massage twice a month for two months -- think of it as an investment. You can have it be a male masseur, and drink in some caring, softening masculine energy. He probably won't server for MG's remedy, for fear of being sued... but it helps the body soften.

Not a bad time to find some hobby and join a group, either: those people know nothing about your recent love, so won't know to ask you, unless you find some good friends who you want to tell -- some time. Nothing like being with other people, though... You can find all sorts of groups that cost nothing, too: book club, or outdoor or indoor sports, or music, or bingo or who knows what else.

That's two ideas and a lot of words. They don't fill the hole, of course. But you know everybody on this thread -- everybody in the world, really -- has had that hole opened in them. So you're certainly not alone, even if it feels like it!

I have to say,,,THAT what you just wrote has to be one of THE most beautiful things I have ever read.WOW,,,ok,,,update on this,YES YES,,i do feel like i have been cracked open,,BUT that is what can happen when you open yourself to someone HUH?And noo,,noo,still not wanting to bash him.I just cant..and dont want to.We are stilll friends and still keeping in contact with each other,I think what happened was it just got OVERWHELMING,,,,and too much,,,it ran very hot,AND i think it just took a lot of time,energy,,that it drained him.There are other circumstances too that were brought into play,.
No,,dont have the cash for a massuse,,etc BUT sure would LOVE it,,maybe SANTA?lol,,,,,,hobbies,,i have some good ones for this,,i paint,sculpt,draw,make jewelry,,,,soooo,,,i have that taken care of
I do so much wish,,,that we could get back to the love,,BUt i also know how very valualble a friend can be,,,,,he is a great man and i still have nothing but warm feelings for him,he is a great friend to me.It is my fault for letting my heart hurt,,,,BUT THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO much for what you said,,,,,,

 

[sinnamongyrl]

I think DLL's got it bang on, find some way to snap the hell out of that image. I used to go on "Tom Waits" evenings, where I'd go to a bar, full of transigents and I could guarantee I knew absolutely noone, prop up the bar and get suitably, but restrainably drunk, and find someone who I could lie too. I would spend the evening drinking with them and telling them of invented, often surreal, and preferably amusing woes; that your ex had run off with a German dwarf called Rudy, in a battered van during the last big storm and had left you nothing but a uncompleted card.
And at the night's end, we'd part, never to speak again, and with that parting I'd leave that insane image crumpled on the floor with all the other lies I'd told that night. I'd not recommend it but it worked for me when I needed to shake that feeling.

I FUCKING love TOM WAITS<,,,,god his voice is liquid sex,,,,,,,

 

[de-valmont]

He certainly has

 

[sinnamongyrl]

I like the song"DONT GO INTO THAT BARN",,,,,great lil song,,,,,

 

[it_matters]

I have to say,,,THAT what you just wrote has to be one of THE most beautiful things I have ever read.WOW,,,ok,,,update on this,YES YES,,i do feel like i have been cracked open,,BUT that is what can happen when you open yourself to someone HUH?And noo,,noo,still not wanting to bash him.I just cant..and dont want to.We are stilll friends and still keeping in contact with each other,I think what happened was it just got OVERWHELMING,,,,and too much,,,it ran very hot,AND i think it just took a lot of time,energy,,that it drained him.There are other circumstances too that were brought into play,.
No,,dont have the cash for a massuse,,etc BUT sure would LOVE it,,maybe SANTA?lol,,,,,,hobbies,,i have some good ones for this,,i paint,sculpt,draw,make jewelry,,,,soooo,,,i have that taken care of
I do so much wish,,,that we could get back to the love,,BUt i also know how very valualble a friend can be,,,,,he is a great man and i still have nothing but warm feelings for him,he is a great friend to me.It is my fault for letting my heart hurt,,,,BUT THANK YOU SOOOOOOOO much for what you said,,,,,,

Glad to hear your heart sound hurt but solid. That's all these hearts are for, you know? Just being there and being open... The next big one is coming along, I am sure, and maybe it doesn't run so hot that the whole house melts, or maybe it does but both you and the guy find out how to melt together...!

 

[sinnamongyrl]

bumping this up,,because,,well,,,,,just bumping it up

 

[sinnamongyrl]

ughh..nevermind,,,,,

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

I think DLL's got it bang on, find some way to snap the hell out of that image. I used to go on "Tom Waits" evenings, where I'd go to a bar, full of transigents and I could guarantee I knew absolutely noone, prop up the bar and get suitably, but restrainably drunk, and find someone who I could lie too. I would spend the evening drinking with them and telling them of invented, often surreal, and preferably amusing woes; that your ex had run off with a German dwarf called Rudy, in a battered van during the last big storm and had left you nothing but a uncompleted card.
And at the night's end, we'd part, never to speak again, and with that parting I'd leave that insane image crumpled on the floor with all the other lies I'd told that night. I'd not recommend it but it worked for me when I needed to shake that feeling.

good advice