What is wrong with my breasts?

[Lady Cassandra]

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.


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Andi

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/second.jpg

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/first.jpg
The freckled "prop" is my arm.

 

[redred69me]

your breasts look lovely

 

[RocknRoll]

I once heard that playing with your breasts makes them bigger... but so many sizes? first I've heard of it!

Are you on the pill or some other form of medication know to put weight on? One of my mates that was on the pill when from an A cup to a C cup in about a week! (she was lucky, another girl I knew it went to her belly and she got very very depressed)

I personally do not feel that you are grotesque or freakish nor do I feel you need a cosmetic procedure.

The important thing is that you are comfortable with your body, not if anyone else likes it or not.

Rock

 

[redred69me]

i agree. you are not a freak. they are definately more than a handful

 

[againlookin]

i

pm'd ya

 

[Smoke Spliff]

kinda veiny...in my honest opinion

 

[amoureux]

so long as you're happy. you might ask him what he dislikes about them. just my thoughts

 

[Abner Devereaux]

They look pretty damn fine to me !

 

[starman2003]

Hi Sweetheart,

first of all (((super huge hugs)))). the question is NOT are we happy or is HE happy with your breasts. the question is, are YOU?

if you really want my opinion, i think you have awesome tits. you are very lucky to have beauties like those.

please dont let him make you feel down. i know its hard, but keep your chin up

 

[Lady Cassandra]

I want to thank you all for your very speedy and uplifting comments. For the record, I've only *known* the man I married.

amoureux: I did and all I got was "They're huge." Gee, yah think?

Smoke Spliff: My treasure, I truly appreciate your honest comments. I'm all natural so I guess the veins come with the territory. But I do use a cocoa butter cream on my breasts to diminish stretch marks.

RocknRoll: I have no idea why they have gotten as big as they have. I am oddly enough a ovarian cancer survivor. I don't take drugs other than estrogen but I've been taking that since I went into menopause at 18. It would be rather late in the game to cause this kind of an increase in size.

And for all of you, I deeply appreciate your comments and PMs. You may be amazed at how far a bit of positive affirmation will go.

Love to you all,
Andi

 

[may-]

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

Omg.. You are in no way grotesque or freakish.. I love the way your breasts look. Big and soft. They look like a ton of fun to play with, but that's just me, I'm way more partial to big boobies..

I've had surgeries also, but like you know.. the body changes and just gets more beautiful with the characteristics that make you, YOU. I wouldn't go for cosmetic change if I were you. Lovely. Get a great lacey bra and show it off in a low cut top! Heh.

If that made any sense.

 

[RocknRoll]

RocknRoll: I have no idea why they have gotten as big as they have. I am oddly enough a ovarian cancer survivor. I don't take drugs other than estrogen but I've been taking that since I went into menopause at 18. It would be rather late in the game to cause this kind of an increase in size.

Hmm well that would rule out my theories... but just a thought really...

Anyway dont let anyone say that your breasts are anything but beautiful... as some of us have said, if your happy with them, then there is no problem

And I agree with May, a lacy bra would go very nicely

 

[TJDrifter]

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[Alionic]

Nice rack sweetheart, if your man dont like you then there are many including me that would love to play with those puppies for years

 

[aerodeck]

Nothing wrong with them. Would love to hold them for you

 

[FatherFigure67]

Lady C,

you should remember that each person has likes and dislikes. I have found that I can enjoy pleasure with women of many 'dimensions'. It really is the inner person that makes the physical enjoyable. To your specific question, while your breasts are large - something no one could deny - if you are happy with them, you can get pleasure from them and they do not become an issue with others that you care about great. I suspect that you have had some negative times with hubby that may not have anything to do with them. I hope you can find some happiness.

FF

 

[amoureux]

good luck with it all. You're a beautiful woman, and a very courageous one to have survived it all.

 

[elizabeth22673]

Lady C,

you should remember that each person has likes and dislikes. I have found that I can enjoy pleasure with women of many 'dimensions'. It really is the inner person that makes the physical enjoyable. To your specific question, while your breasts are large - something no one could deny - if you are happy with them, you can get pleasure from them and they do not become an issue with others that you care about great. I suspect that you have had some negative times with hubby that may not have anything to do with them. I hope you can find some happiness.

FF

OMG! I could not have said it any better. I seriously am physically attracted to someone's personality MUCH more than their outward appearance. As long as they shower lol. Seriously.....love yourself

Does it count that I like your breasts? *blushing

 

[DJx]

I can't say I find them attractive. That's what age does to us all unless you go through surgery and take the risks.

 

[garajd]

Sweetheart . . . not a thing wrong with those breasts . . . I can think of plenty of things to do with them . . .

I know you were just looking for support . . . but can't help thinking how much fun they would be to caress . . . kiss . . . play with . . .

 

[ElusivButterfly]

Sorry to be so brash, but, it is HIS issue. Not yours. You are beautiful and don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise! I am on the otherside of this issue. I have lil ones and I didn't like me for years cause of it. I took the abuse (yes him saying derogotory things IS abuse...formally called emotional abuse). You need to like you...you are a "you" even if he or any man /woman is in the picture or not. Learn to like you...who, what you are....no matter what you may look like (skinny, fat, a tad different than the "norm", or what "they" think is norm). Learn to like you no matter what and you will find, either this him, or another him who will, not only like you, but love you for being you, no matter what that "you" looks like.

This may seem like alot of hogwash, but I assure you it worked for me...and I went through quite a few "me's" before I found the real "me". I had all the dashing men...all the assholes and jerks....But I started off learning to accept me for me and the rest followed. I just now (after awhile), found the man who is just they way I want him to be, which is to accept me (and I accept him) with all the "flaws" that humans have. He sees more than just what is outward. He accepts me for who I am, as much as (if not more so) for what I look like.

Nothing wrong with you. You are you. Learn to like, and hopefully, love who you are. To hell with him if he thinks you are less of a person now. You need to learn that you are beautiful....inside and out.

Just my thoughts on what you posted

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.


???
Andi

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/second.jpg

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/first.jpg
The freckled "prop" is my arm.

 

[thewantonscribe]

I can see nothing wrong with them either. Actually they remind me of mine. . .I am a J cup. I hope he has said nothing hurtful to you about them. I think they are beautiful and would love to play with them myself.

For myself, if I had my way about mine and could afford it, I would get a reduction along with a tummy tuck. All the years of childbearing and not looking after myself has caught up but then my youngest is just three.

Be happy with yourself and love yourself - screw everyone else as my father always tells me ~ of course I didn't hear him until I was an adult lol.

 

[im_homer]

You have an ass right?

And a mouth, and feet, and hands, and legs.....

The point is, maybe you need to go different directions with your sex life. Maybe the big boobs, mom on her back, is getting old. There are so many fun things to do with a woman that don't involve breasts. But I think you have to take the inititiative and be inviting to explore new things.

Men are afraid their wives will think they are perverts if they suggest kinky things. We need some support and confidence to go there.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

The real question is;

Do you like your breasts?


Tell anyone who tells you something is wrong with them to fuck off.

 

[FallingToFly]

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.

Sweetheart, I only have one thing to offer.

The only reason to have your breasts altered in anyway is if they offend you, personally, or there is a medical reason. If having such ample breasts is causing you back probalems, or other medical issues, by ALL means, ahve your doctor prescribe a breast reduction. I had a friend several years ago have hers reduced from a 44DD to a more manageable B cup (she was 15 at the time that this was done, and all of 4'8") because of the back problems that having such breasts caused. I have another friend whose measurements I will not reveal (as she is very embarrasseed about them) who is scheduled to go in for reduction ASAP (it's been pushed back several times due to other health issues). Again, her breasts are causing massive back problems.

If your man is acting as you say, I would (personally) simply inform him that this is his choice, adn that you're open to counselling, but if he's determined to turn away from you as a mate because you are no longer his "ideal" then you will simply find your own pleasures (and I don't mean sexual, please don't assume I'm telling you to go out and cheat) with or without him.

The fact that he would treat you this way, in ANY aspect of your life, after 20+ years, is very sad. Don't let him measure your worth for you- if he's that shallow, he may not even deserve your concern or worries.

I wish you the best of luck in finding your answers.

Falling.