What is wrong with my breasts?

[Ms_Veronica]

My first thought was "Wow, those are some massive fun bags!"

Next thought was "Imagine the indentations on her shoulders from the bra straps required to lift those puppies."

Next thought was "I wonder if her husband is commenting on her breasts as a subtle way of commenting about the rest of her weight gain."

To explain the last comment, the body goes through significant changes from your 20s to your 40s. From the look of your neck and arms, it looks like you've added some padding to parts besides your chest. Perhaps your husband is overwhelmed by the larger version of you? It's easier to see the toll time takes in others than in yourself, and he may not see he's no longer the Adonis he was when you got married, but he can see that you have a lot more cushion for the pushin'.

You won't be happy, and he won't be happy, until you two have a frank conversation. Is there anything about his appearance that you're not as thrilled with? Does he know how much his comments hurt you? He may think after twenty years of marriage that he doesn't need to employ the same level of tact that he did when you guys were dating. And last, maybe you two could energize your relationship through some physical activity. Non-sexual stuff first - go for walks, join your local gym, ride bikes around your neighborhood. Exercise makes people feel better about themselves, and as an added bonus, you could maybe shed a few pounds and reinvigorate your sex life while you're at it.

 

[DJx]

The real question is;

Do you like your breasts?


Tell anyone who tells you something is wrong with them to fuck off.

Why would she do that? She wants honesty.

 

[Adakgirl]

Your breasts are just fine , I see nothing that would turn a man off about them.Fuck him and get yourself a fuckbuddy that will appreciate your tits for how they are and they are just fine!

 

[imaginewithme]

It's a shame that he's acting not interested in them. Even tho it's been 20 years, you do what makes YOU comfortable and happy. I think they are beautiful and am sure you are too!


((((Hugs))))

 

[LadyAria]

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.

Nothing is "wrong" with them. Don't project someone else's lack of interest on a single element. His lack of interest has something to do with something greater then a single body part.

Before going under the knife, lose weight. I say this not to be harsh or unkind. I just wouldn't want you to suffer pain and possible complications with a quick surgery fix when a healthy diet and exercise would suffice.

 

[madmex1]

i think they look awesome myself, i personally don't believe in to big,

 

[RudeNastyAssBitch]

Woo Hoo!

Great Cans

You Should Parade Them All Around Town, And Here On Lit, And Out There In Cyberlands Apart From Lit.!

LadyAriana Also Has A Most Effective Point....Before You Slice And Dice Those Babies, Try And Lose Some Weight...I Bet It'll Come Off Yer Boobs...And Other Pleasing Places Too

But By No Means Should You Think You Are Unattractive Because Of Yer Tits...No Matter What Yer Man Says!

 

[Azuldrgon]

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.


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Andi

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/second.jpg

http://www.oddlycurious.com/photos/first.jpg
The freckled "prop" is my arm.

Ms. Cassandra, your hubby is a fool. Your breasts are gorgeous.

If you wanted to have them reduced, you could. But I don't think you need it at all. Icould imagine some things I would love to do with them. But that is for dreams and fantasies, not here.

But to sum up, your breasts are gorgeous.

 

[jman246]

Maybe he's having problems in the getting up area and is embarrassed. that could be the excuse. I personally like big breasts and I think yours are fine. If he isn't taking advantage of them make sure you are. Sometimes if you want it done right you just have to do it yourself I guess lol. Seriously though you look great.(well boobs at least)

 

[Guy68]

well i think its pretty much unanimous now. you are beautiful.

 

[CherryBlossoms]

Is he going through a mid=life crisis? My boyfriend went through his early, and it's caused problems very similar to yours.

DON'T do what I did. I did everything he asked. if it was lose weight, I did. If it was gain weight, I did. If it was altering my dress, it did.

I ended up being totally different from how I remembered myself, unhappy, depressed, and feeling totally ugly. I look at pictures of how I used to be and remembered a much more vibrant, beautiful girl. I don't even look the same except for my eyes and mouth, seriously.

This is his thing. If anyone could turn away a lover of so many years, then something's wrong with him. His heart may not be in it, and it has nothing to do with your breasts. But sometimes guys will pick out what they know is your weak spot and exploit it. Then it takes focus away from the real problem.

Talk to him. Hopefully he will be more honest than mine was and actually talk to you. Things like this CAN get fixed if they are actually addressed, and sometimes it has nothing to do with physical attributes, and sometimes sadly it's beyond repair. Here is wishing you the best.

And also, your boobs are quite a bit too large for me myself, I wouldn't know what to do! But they're not ugly or hideous to the point where I would be reviled and refuse to do anything with you. I just don't even like how big my breasts are (They're not quite a D, but not quite a DD yet. I had a miscarriage so my body seems awfully misproportioned. Some places I am still trim, some places I am not. Not that it's going to stop me from posting here when I get my new digicam ^_^)

But good luck and lots of hugs your way!!!

 

[greeneyes666]

This is an appeal to men and women. Do my breasts - offend you?

I'm not looking for banal feedback - not that I would expect any from this forum - and I'm very familiar with "beauty is within, not without." But if the man I'm committed to for life does no longer finds me appealing then something must be wrong with me.

My man doesn't have much to do with me any more. He says he is put off by my breasts. (I'm 42, have *grown* from a D cup to a FFF cup since I got married and I've been married for oer 20 years). Can anyone please explain this to me? Am I grotesque? Freakish? I have had many surgeries but none for cosmetic or asthetic reasons. Do I need one - a cosmetic procedure? Would that make me normal? Attractive?

I'm not good with pics of me (but I kick ass with plants, animals and landscapes) so please forgive the crappy photos here.

Please - some honest feedback would be more than welcome. My feelings won't be hurt and I promise not to pout.


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Andi

How could they offend me? They haven't called me names, or tried to hit me (though that does bring an interesting idea). I had the same thing happen - husband was no longer interested in me. I believed there was something wrong with me, the way I looked, the way I acted, everything. But then I emailed my pics to a couple of people I'd met here on Lit (I'm too wussy to post my pics), and the response I got has revitalized me. Realizing that HE has the problem, not ME, has helped immensely.

 

[horus1953]

Nothing is wrong with your breasts. The important thing is if you're happy, if so, then in my opinion anyone else can go hang.

 

[Emerald Eyed]

Why would she do that? She wants honesty.

Ummm, duh....because someone doesn't like her breasts

 

[madmex1]

How could they offend me? They haven't called me names, or tried to hit me (though that does bring an interesting idea). I had the same thing happen - husband was no longer interested in me. I believed there was something wrong with me, the way I looked, the way I acted, everything. But then I emailed my pics to a couple of people I'd met here on Lit (I'm too wussy to post my pics), and the response I got has revitalized me. Realizing that HE has the problem, not ME, has helped immensely.

well anytime you all need some reassurance please let me know, i'll be glad to give you my opinion anytime

 

[stupidwhiteguy2]

It's not you,it's HIM. He should love you as a whole not a cup size. Big or small,large or tiny..beauty on the inside counts.

 

[madmex1]

It's not you,it's HIM. He should love you as a whole not a cup size. Big or small,large or tiny..beauty on the inside counts.

on that note, my wife wants to have a reduction because she is also very large, i told her she's beautiful to me just the way she is, but if that's what she wants to do i'll support her as much as possible, yes it's weird how you can love somebody and be so unfullfilled by them, makes you feel like you are going crazy sometimes.

 

[stupidwhiteguy2]

on that note, my wife wants to have a reduction because she is also very large, i told her she's beautiful to me just the way she is, but if that's what she wants to do i'll support her as much as possible, yes it's weird how you can love somebody and be so unfullfilled by them, makes you feel like you are going crazy sometimes.

amen. been there..it's hard because you ork so hard to let them know you do appreciate them and how much they're beautiful to you.

 

[madmex1]

amen. been there..it's hard because you ork so hard to let them know you do appreciate them and how much they're beautiful to you.

why is it that you are there for years, like you said trying your best. but i bet if you cheat and you get caught then you are the worse thing in the universe!

 

[madmex1]

sorry, lady cassandra i for got i wasn't on the married and unfullfilled thread there for a minute. any hoo, i think you are beautiful and anytime you need some reassurance of how lovely you and your breast are just pm me.

 

[stupidwhiteguy2]

why is it that you are there for years, like you said trying your best. but i bet if you cheat and you get caught then you are the worse thing in the universe!

My ex wife cheated on me,and i stayed because of our 2 kids and i still loved her and 'thought' she was as good as i could get. i was wrong..the girl i'm with now is amazing and i trust her. love is just a weird thing i guess.

 

[madmex1]

My ex wife cheated on me,and i stayed because of our 2 kids and i still loved her and 'thought' she was as good as i could get. i was wrong..the girl i'm with now is amazing and i trust her. love is just a weird thing i guess.

well i am glad you found somebody to fulfill you, it gives the rest of us hope.

 

[stupidwhiteguy2]

in due time. hardships before friendships. friendships before love,love before happiness.

 

[sybilrose]

I am not against breast reduction or enhancment for that matter but it should be because you want it.
You should never do it for someone else. They are your breasts. So if he doesnt find them to his liking he should move on and look into why he has such a shallow mind and a cold heart.
The man has issues.
My hope is that you can overcome the hurt he has caused you.

 

[Lady Cassandra]

I'm reeling...

My God, I never expected such a tremendous outpouring of empathy and positive affirmation. Wow. Excuse me while I fall into my chair and struggle to find a balance. Whoa.

I asked for honesty and I got it and I thank everyone for their feedback. For the record, I'm quite tall (6'1") and definitely not overweight. However, I do "bundle." I slump or hunch in a chair which is typically too short for me anyway. Bad for the back but I understand that is my reaction to a subconsious desire to be more - normal.

Several of you have commented to me either in posts or via email about my man possibly having some sort of feelings of inadequacy. I mulled over that concept and talked to him at length last night - he's in another country right now. Bingo.

He's 11 years older than me and now he is feeling that he is "too old" for someone like me. Huh? What? Sorry to be so vocal but to me love and attraction does not have a "self life." To me he's still hot and totally desirable in all ways - mind, body and soul. As far as sex is concerned, I've ALWAYS been open to experimenting with various positions, toys, etc. and he knows it. I've even well, created some really good scenarios. My breasts were the first thing thta came to his mind as culprits. He honestly feels that I need to consider a reduction for my own physical wellbeing. That's fine, yes, I do have shoulder troughs by the end of the day if I'm wearing a standard bra (sports bras are more comfortable).

But, ladies and gentlemen, I have had 13 major surgeries in the last 10 years (only because my life was in jeopardy), I have survived cancer, and I'm not about to elect for another invasive procedure. Damn, I do ramble when I'm stirred up. Feel free to slap me at any time.... Two hours later, he's ready to come home and I'm more than ready for him to come home.

Dear friends, all you beautiful people, I want to thank you for all your insights and comments and, yes, even the criticisms. I appreciate the honesty from each and every one of you for it gave me exactly what I was looking for. A different outlook and path.

You are all fabulous and I O U.


Andi